From my Counselling years to your listening ears. Hello and welcome.

About From my Counselling years to your listening ears. Hello and welcome.

WE ARE ALL FINE – Flawed. Insecure. Nervous. Emotional – and if you are looking to know how to accept yourself knowing you are actually normal in this uncertain world, and want validation for how difficult life can be, then join me - Heidi Lester a counsellor and psychotherapist specialising in working with young people and young adults. Together, with my experience and knowledge and with your potential and hope you will learn to accept yourself and manage your emotions more comfortably whilst being more in control of your mental wellbeing. My message to you is simple. You are important, and you matter. Let me show you how to feel that. From my counselling years to your listening ears, join me every Monday, for supportive suggestions on how to manage your world, your way. I believe in you – and I know with my professional help – we are going to make an amazing team.

Publisher

Heidi Lester

Category

health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

5 Mar 2025

Latest episode

4 May 2026

Latest episodes

60 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   4 May 2026

   Why Guilt Controls Your Life (And How to Loosen Its Grip)

   Episode Summary: Have you ever noticed that your most "selfish" moments are actually just the moments you decided to have a pulse of your own? In this episode, Heidi Lester dives into the "Invisible Anchor"—that heavy, suffocating guilt that appears the moment you try to set a boundary or say no. We explore why your brain treats self-care like a moral crime and how to move from feeling like a "bad person" to a person with healthy limits. Key Takeaways: • Guilt is Not Evidence: We often treat guilt as a "smoking gun" that we’ve done something wrong. In reality, it’s usually just a learned response to doing something unfamiliar. • The "Easy" Myth: Many of us were raised to believe that being "good" means being "easy" or accommodating. When we break this pattern, our nervous system reacts as if we are in danger. • The Physicality of Guilt: Guilt isn't just a thought; it's a sensation (tension, restlessness, the urge to "fix"). Recognising this helps you sit with the discomfort rather than reacting to it. • The Power Shift: You do not need to feel comfortable to make a healthy decision. You can feel guilt and still hold your boundary. Practical Tools: • Reframing the Feeling: Instead of seeing guilt as a signal that you are "bad," view it as the sound of an old, outdated habit grinding its gears as you change. • The "Slow" Approach: Start choosing what feels right for you in tiny, low-stakes ways to teach your system that you can be honest and still be okay. Resources & Connect: • Follow on Social Media: Get daily tips and behind-the-scenes insights at Therapy, Applied. • Direct Email: Have a question or a topic suggestion? Reach out to Heidi at heididweareallfine@gmail.com. Coming Up Next Week: When Family Feels Draining (And You Don’t Know Why) We’ll be looking at why certain family dynamics leave us empty and how to stay connected without losing your soul in the process. Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, personal diagnosis, or medical advice. These opinions are personal and do not guarantee accuracy. Listening to this podcast does not create a counselling relationship; please always consult a qualified mental health professional with any concerns.

2. 

   27 Apr 2026

   The Social Battery Audit: How to Stop Absorbing Everyone Else’s Energy

   Have you ever walked into a room feeling fine and walked out an hour later carrying a heaviness that isn’t yours? If you identify as a 'people-pleaser,' an 'empath,' or if you just feel 'skinless' in social situations, your battery isn’t just draining—it’s being hijacked. Today, we’re moving from internal stress to relational stress. I’m getting honest about my own life as a therapist—why I often disappear on Friday nights, why being called 'aloof' is sometimes the price of peace, and how I’ve learned to sort through the energy I take in so I don't carry my office into my weekend. In this episode, we explore: • Emotional Contagion: The science of why you 'catch' other people's stress like a cold. • Observe vs. Absorb: The mental 'glass wall' technique to stay present without staying 'skinless.' • The Counselor’s Saturday: Heidi shares why she nourishes herself with silence and space, and why 'missing out' is a survival skill. • The 'Aloof' Reframe: Why protecting your peace isn't being miserable; it's being sustainable. • The Post-Social Reset: Physical ways to 'discharge' someone else's energy (shaking, cold water, and changing your clothes). Key Quote: "If you don’t take the time to sit in the quiet, you can’t do the work of 'sorting.' You need that space to figure out what belongs to you and what belongs to the room you just left." — Heidi Lester Coming Next Week: The Friendship Audit Episode Title: Your History is Not a Contract: Why Outgrowing a Friend is a Survival Skill Next Week's Summary: We talk about toxic partners, but we rarely talk about the heavy grief of outgrowing a friend. Next week, we’re diving into why friendship 'culls' hurt so much, how to know when the 'tally' of a relationship is in the red, and how to let go without the crushing guilt. Connect with Heidi • Email: Share your "Sponge" stories at heidiweareallfine@gmail.com. • Daily Tools: Follow Therapy, Applied on social media for daily practical skills. • Support the Show: If this episode helped you breathe easier, please Share, Review, and Save. Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or medical advice. Listening does not create a counselling relationship; please consult a qualified professional with any concerns.

3. 

   20 Apr 2026

   The Micro-Stress Effect: Why You’re Exhausted (Even When You’ve "Done Nothing")

   Episode Summary: We often wait fora "Big Bang" event to justify our stress—a crisis, a deadline, a life change. But what if the thing actually wearing out your nervous system is the thousand tiny, invisible pressures you’ve stopped noticing? In this episode, psychotherapist Heidi Lester dives into the world of Micro-Stress: the unanswered emails, the background noise, the constant "rushing" energy, and the "open tabs" in our minds. If you’ve ever felt on edge or drained without a "good reason," this episode is for you. Heidi breaks down why your nervous system responds to accumulated stress and shares her signature 1% Shifts—small, realistic adjustments to signal safety to your body and close the stress loop. In this episode, we explore: • The Accumulation Trap: Why hundreds of tiny "micro-demands" are heavier than one big crisis.• Nervous System Bracing: How to spot the physical "clench" you’re carrying through your day. • The 1% Shifts: Five practical, low-energy tools to interrupt the build-up of stress. • Completing the Cycle: Why finishing one tiny task is more regulating than a spa day. Heidi’s 1% Shifts for Today: 1. The Body Audit: Notice where you are braced and gently soften (shoulders, jaw, breath). 2. Micro-Slowing: Choose one mundane task to do 10% slower to signal "we aren't being chased." 3. The Input Fast: Creating five-minute pockets of "less"—no phone, no noise, no data. 4. Closing the Loop: Finishing one small, "open" task to give the brain a sense of completion. 5. Supportive Language: Shifting from self-pressure to "No wonder I feel this way." Key Quote: "Your nervous system doesn’t need a completeoverhaul; it needs consistent, tiny signals of safety." — HeidiLester Coming Next Week: The Social Battery Audit: How to Stop Absorbing Everyone Else’s Energy Do you walk into a room feeling fine and walk out feeling like you’ve inherited someone else’s bad mood? If you’re a "people-pleaser," an "empath," or just someone who feels "skinless" in social situations, your social battery isn't just draining—it’s being hijacked. Next week, we’re moving from internal stress to relational stress. Heidi breaks down why we "absorb" instead of "observe" and shares the exact mental scripts you need to protect your peace without shutting people out. Connect with the Show • Join the Community: If this episode gave you a moment of peace, please Share, Review, and Save the show. • Get Daily Tools: Follow Heidi on social media at Therapy, Applied for practical, real-world therapy skills. • Say Hi: Reach out to Heidi directly at heidiweareallfine@gmail.com.

Reach and audience

Public platform figures. Ratings count people who left a rating, not total listeners.

Spotify

5.0 / 5

3 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 31 / 100

A composite of feed quality, social presence, YouTube performance and engagement. Read the methodology.

Quality

48

Social presence

0

YouTube

0

Engagement

32

Contact From my Counselling years to your listening ears. Hello and welcome.

Guest appearances

Does not typically book guests

Based on episode analysis; this does not confirm that the show is currently accepting guests.