God Attachment Healing

About God Attachment Healing

The God Attachment Healing podcast focuses on Christians who want to understand why they relate to God in the way they do and explores how their early attachment experiences shape how they relate to themselves, the church, and most importantly to God. Dr. Sam Landa is an LPC and psychology instructor and utilizes his knowledge on attachment, emotional regulation, shame, resilience, and positive religious coping to help Christians heal from the pain, confusion, doubt, and frustration experienced with various attachment figures. If this sounds like you, I'd love for you to tune in.

Publisher

Dr. Sam Landa

Category

health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

3 Jun 2019

Latest episode

29 Jul 2026

Latest episodes

1 of 150 episodes have a transcript.

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   29 Jul 2026

   The Dangers of Christian Perfectionism

   If your faith sometimes feels like a constant test you keep failing, you’re not alone and you’re not broken. Today we get painfully honest about Christian perfectionism and religious performance, that quiet pressure to pray more, serve more, confess better, and stay “good enough” so God won’t pull away. I unpack how that mindset can sneak in even when we genuinely love Jesus, and how it can turn spiritual growth into a frantic attempt to earn approval. We explore what the research on attachment to God suggests: anxious attachment tends to increase distress, while secure attachment supports well-being. Along the way, I connect the dots between childhood patterns of rupture and repair and the way we read God’s heart now. When perfectionism runs the show, we can start interpreting setbacks as punishment, feeling rejected after failure, and carrying the exhausting belief that we are never enough. That cycle often shows up as anxiety, shame, and burnout, especially for people who are overextended in visible church activity while quietly neglecting prayer, rest, and the “greater things” at home. Then we pivot to a different way forward: moving from performance to presence. I share practical practices like honest conversational prayer, learning to rest through Sabbath, simplifying commitments, and using spiritually sensitive mindfulness to reduce shame and build resilience. You’ll leave with questions to help you spot where you feel you must earn God’s love, and small experiments to help you stay emotionally present with Him even when you do less. If this helps, subscribe, share it with a friend who feels worn out, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What part of perfectionism do you recognize most in your own faith? FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM: @godattachmenthealing (https://www.instagram.com/godattachmenthealing/) FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK: God Attachment Healing (https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23) MY HOPE FOR YOU I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. ABOUT ME 👇 I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

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   22 Jul 2026

   God, Shame and Self-Compassion

   Shame is loud, persuasive, and weirdly “religious” sounding, but it does not make us holy. It makes us hide. Today I’m drawing a clear line between guilt, conviction, and shame, because confusing them can turn the Christian life into a daily courtroom where you feel like you have to prove you deserve God’s love. We start with simple definitions that actually change how you pray: guilt points to what you did, conviction invites you back into alignment and relationship through repentance, and shame attacks who you are. From there, we talk about how a shame-based identity forms through family dynamics, church teaching, spiritual experiences, and attachment patterns, and how that identity quietly distorts your image of God. When shame is running the show, Scripture can feel like a weapon, confession can feel dangerous, and worship can feel like performing while you’re secretly unworthy. We also connect this to attachment styles and religious coping. Anxious attachment can drive hypervigilance and overdoing to feel close to God, while avoidant attachment can pull you into distance and self-protection, especially after spiritual abuse or controlling environments. Either way, the end result is often anxiety, depression, and spiritual exhaustion. Then we move toward healing: rest as part of God’s design, and self-compassion as a Christian practice of honesty, kindness, and care that does not excuse sin, but refuses to add self-hatred to suffering. If you want a healthier relationship with God marked by truth and mercy, listen through to the end, subscribe, share it with someone who needs a gentler view of God, and leave a review so more people can find the show.

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   15 Jul 2026

   Jesus as Our Secure Base and Safe Haven

   Send Me Questions on Attachment (https://www.buzzsprout.com/350183/fan_mail/new) If you have ever wondered why you can look “fine” on the outside but feel restless, alone, or on edge inside, attachment might be the missing link. We talk about what secure attachment really is and why it has two essential parts: a secure base that helps you step into the world with confidence and a safe haven you can run to when life hurts. When those are present, we tend to carry a steady sense of worth and a realistic trust in others. When they are missing, we often compensate in ways that look strong but feel exhausting. We walk through how anxious attachment can turn into people pleasing, over giving, and trying to earn love, and how avoidant attachment can turn into extreme self reliance and emotional shutdown because depending on people has not felt safe. We also connect these patterns to mental health outcomes like anxiety and depression, not as labels to shame you, but as signals that your nervous system is still looking for safety and support. Faith adds a hopeful dimension. We explore God attachment and the compensation model, where a relationship with Jesus can begin to repair what you did not receive earlier in life. We talk about experiencing God as a secure base and safe haven through prayer, scripture, and strong Christian community, plus how serving others can reduce rumination and help with emotional regulation. If you want a clearer picture of your patterns and a pathway toward security, press play, then subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find this help. Support the show (https://cash.app/$landaboys) FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM: @godattachmenthealing (https://www.instagram.com/godattachmenthealing/) FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK: God Attachment Healing (https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23) MY HOPE FOR YOU I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. ABOUT ME 👇 I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Inside a recent episode

Big T Vs Small T Trauma And How To Build Resilience

Published 24 Jun 2026 · Transcript excerpt

[…] So what is it and what is it not, right? So the core diagnostic manual is defining trauma as exposure to actual or threatened death, serious injury, or sexual violence. This can happen directly or indirectly by witnessing it with your own eyes growing up, okay? Okay. So that's the big T trauma that we'd be referring to. Sexual assault, severe accidents, combat, natural disasters, life-threatening medical events, and some forms of chronic abuse and neglect. So there's also something known as post-traumatic events, meaning situations that could be traumatic but do not affect everyone in the same way. […]

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Apple Podcasts (US)

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