Good Men trying is a podcast about modern men trying to grow, lead, heal, and figure life out in real time. Through honest conversations, personal stories, and unfiltered perspectives, we explore masculinity, relationships, purpose, discipline, and what it really means to become a good man today.
The Process of Becoming: Do You Ever Actually Arrive?
Identity, marriage, fatherhood, and aging parents — why no one ever
arrives at a finished version of themselves.
There's no version of you that you finally arrive at. No house, no job,
no ring, no title that lets you stop. Brett, Marland, and Cody run the
idea of becoming through the whole ecosystem — self, husband, father,
son, professional, friend — and ask what happens to the men who decide
they're done growing.
CHAPTERS
0:00 Intro & World Cup Follow-Up
4:00 The Odyssey: Becoming Someone New to Get Home
6:45 The Question: Can You Ever Actually Arrive?
9:20 The Car in the Driveway: What Defines You
18:50 Damaged Goods, or Damaged but Still Good?
24:45 Becoming as a Self
31:45 Becoming as a Husband
37:00 Becoming as a Father
40:50 Becoming as a Son
52:20 Becoming as a Professional
57:10 Becoming as a Friend
1:02:15 Monuments, Decades, and Forgiving Yourself
1:09:10 Takeaways
Marland backs into his wife's brand-new car and figures out something
about identity in the process. Brett's mom texts him out of nowhere:
"Why aren't we better friends?" Marland's father is 88, newly diagnosed,
and content to go — and Marland works in the industry running the trials
that might have bought him time.
We ain't here for the postures or the masks we wear. Fathers, partners,
friends — learning how to be.
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17 Jul 2026
How to Be More Confident: Deposits, Withdrawals & the Trust Bank (Pt. 2)
What is confidence, really?
Most people think confidence means believing in yourself no matter what. We disagree.
In this episode of Good Men Trying, we explore why real confidence isn’t blind optimism or bravado. It’s earned trust in your ability to face reality, adapt, and keep moving forward.
We discuss the four pillars that build lasting confidence:
• Competency
• Integrity
• Resilience
• Self-awareness
Along the way, we talk about parenting, marriage, friendship, leadership, sports, Simone Biles, Odysseus, and why the strongest people are often the ones willing to admit they don’t have it all figured out.
If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt, questioned your abilities, or wondered how to become the kind of person others can rely on, this conversation is for you.
At Good Men Trying, we’re helping men show up better in the relationships that matter most.
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27 Jun 2026
The Trust Account: What Confidence Actually Is (Part 1)
What does confidence actually look like for a man in real life — in his marriage, his friendships, his purpose? Not the surface-level stuff. The kind that holds when someone approaches your wife, when your career shakes you, when your inner child starts pulling the strings.
In this episode, Marlon, Brett, and Cody sit down (fresh off a basketball run) to unpack one of the most misunderstood words in a man's vocabulary. We challenge the idea that confidence is something you either have or you don't — and offer a definition that actually holds up: confidence is earned trust in your ability to face reality.
What we get into:
Why confidence is a trust account — and how fast one withdrawal can wipe out years of deposits
The difference between innate confidence and manufactured confidence (and why both show up in the same man)
Confidence as a husband, a friend, a father, and a creative
A deeply personal piece of writing shared live — about a childhood wound, a daughter's answer, and the question every driven man asks himself
The four components of confidence (previewed heading into Part 2)
Part 2 drops next. We break down the components and the tools.
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1 Jun 2026
Who Taught You How to Love?
Who taught you how to love?
Most men have never really been asked.
In Episode 4, Brett and Marland trace the surprising teachers of their generation: Boyz II Men, Disney, Titanic, Jerry Maguire, AOL chatrooms, purity rings, and the dial up era’s first contact with porn.
Then they ask a harder question:
Which lessons helped us love better, and which ones quietly broke us? Because your spouse should not be the only person who really knows you. Men need more than a partner. We need brothers, friends, and people who see the couch version of us, not just the work version.
This conversation lands on what it means for men to show up better in the relationships that matter most: communicating without listening to argue, handling rejection without retaliation, repairing what we break, and becoming a place of emotional safety.
Plus J. Cole as scripture, why women gave up on the fairy tale first, the five second pause that can save an argument, and the test every long term partner already knows about: the moment two dresses end up on the bed.
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Hosts: Brett Moore and Marland May
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28 May 2026
Silent Score Keeping: The Silent Relationship Killer Nobody Talks About
The conversation delves into the concept of silent scorekeeping and its impact on relationships, exploring examples from personal experiences with friends, family, and work. It also touches on the theme of gift-giving and the dynamics of giving and receiving in relationships. The conversation delves into the dynamics of resentment, unspoken expectations, and the importance of communication in relationships. It explores the concept of exchange orientation and the impact of unmet expectations on feelings of resentment. The discussion also touches on the significance of physical intimacy in relationships and the need for open communication to navigate challenges and maintain connection.
Takeaways
Silent scorekeeping can lead to frustration and imbalance in relationships.
Resentment often stems from unspoken expectations and can lead to frustration and disconnection.
Physical intimacy is important in relationships and can serve as a means of connection and validation of feelings.
Open and honest communication is essential in navigating relationship challenges and maintaining connection.
Chapters
00:00 The Impact of Silent Scorekeeping
21:38 Exchange Orientation and Resentment
29:00 Unmet Expectations and Communication
39:18 Navigating Relationship Challenges
49:34 Friendship Dynamics and Connection
24 May 2026
Intimacy Is Being Known Without Performing
The conversation delves into the definition of intimacy, the shock of discovering secrets about admired individuals, the relationship between the five love languages and intimacy, and the importance of facing the unknown and being vulnerable in the context of intimacy. The conversation delves into the layers of intimacy, exploring the challenges and rewards of vulnerability and transparency. It also highlights the importance of fostering intimacy with children and the power of future intimacy. The discussion emphasizes the intentional action and discovery involved in building and maintaining intimate connections.
Takeaways
Intimacy is about being known without having to perform
Intimacy requires facing the unknown and being vulnerable Vulnerability and intimacy require intentional action and the absence of judgment.
Intimacy involves discovery and the ability to learn something new together.
Chapters
00:00 Defining Intimacy
15:41 The Five Love Languages and Intimacy
27:19 The Layers of Intimacy
32:48 Intimacy with Children
40:46 The Power of Intimacy
46:40 Challenges of Intimacy
22 May 2026
The Friendship Problem Men Don’t Talk About Part 1
In the inaugural episode of Good Men Trying, hosts Brett Moore and Marland May explore why so many male friendships slowly fade in adulthood not through conflict, but through drift, distance, and the loss of the structures that once kept people connected.
What started as a Sunday basketball run at Lifetime Fitness in North Dallas eventually became something deeper: a real community built through consistency, shared space, and vulnerability over time. From there, the conversation expands into the broader loneliness affecting modern men and the challenge of staying connected as life changes.
Through personal stories, Brett and Marland reflect on friendship, emotional maintenance, masculinity, and the quiet reality that many adult friendships are built by proximity but rarely maintained intentionally. The episode explores how meaningful connection requires effort, honesty, and someone willing to go first.
At its core, the episode asks a simple but uncomfortable question:
What relationships in our lives are we assuming will survive without care?
Read more on the growing conversation around male loneliness and social connection from Pew Research Center (https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2025/01/16/men-women-and-social-connections/?utm_source=chatgpt.com):
We’d also love to hear from you. Visit www.goodmentrying.com (http://www.goodmentrying.com) to complete our own friendship survey and other reflection topics.
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