Lessons learned in fatherhood and jiu jitsu and where they sometimes overlap.
This weekly conversation between Blake Kasemeier and Uday Malhotra unpacks the learning, struggles and triumphs of two dads who also happen to be high-level jiu jitsu practitioners. Topics covered range from raising toddlers with emotional intelligence to balancing jiu jitsu with real-world responsibilities to our weekly snack haul from Trader Joes.
Episode 32 of Grappling with Fatherhood is all about the myths we pretend to believe—like black belts always know what they’re doing, or dads have unlimited patience (spoiler: neither is true). Blake and Uday pull apart the gap between the polished version of Jiu Jitsu and parenting that people imagine, and the actual day-to-day reality: getting smashed on the mats, bribing your kids with snacks, and realizing “dad strength” has less to do with muscle and more to do with carrying six bags of groceries in one trip. Expect plenty of laughs, some uncomfortable truths, and the reminder that the messy version is the one worth embracing.
20 May 2025
Ep 31: Teaching Self-Defense and Dealing with Bullies
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In this episode of Grappling with Fatherhood, we dive deep into the real meaning of self-defense — not just as a physical skill, but as a mindset we can pass on to our kids.
We explore:
How to teach our children the why behind self-defense — building confidence without aggression
Strategies for navigating bullying — when to step in, when to listen, and how to empower kids to handle conflict
What it means to model that restraint as a father and practitioner
Personal stories from the mats and the playground that reflect the daily balancing act of being strong and safe
Whether you're raising little white belts or just trying to raise kids who know their worth, this episode offers perspective, tools, and a few hard-earned lessons to carry with you — on and off the mats.
11 Mar 2025
Ep 30: Leading by Example: Parenting & Jiu-Jitsu
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Actions speak louder than words—both on the mats and at home. In this episode of Grappling with Fatherhood, Uday Malhotra and Blake Kasemeier explore the power of setting an example in parenting and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. From demonstrating discipline and resilience to modeling respect and patience, they discuss how leading by example shapes future generations. Through personal stories and practical insights, they break down what it means to inspire growth in your kids, your training partners, and yourself. Tune in and lead the way.
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