Master the intricate halachic rules of proper speech with a comprehensive study of the Chofetz Chaim's foundational work. Rabbi Ari Klapper provides a detailed analysis of when speech about others is forbidden vs. permitted, covering workplace gossip, family dynamics, and community situations. Transform your relationships and spiritual growth through mindful speech. One of the most thorough English-language resources on Jewish speech ethics.
If both families are stretching the truth about money, who exactly is being wronged?
Rabbi Klapper takes up money in shidduchim: if the girl's father pledges an amount everyone believes he can't afford, may you warn the other side? First, it's genuinely hard to know - people who seem to have nothing sometimes manage to come through. But beyond that, the Chofetz Chaim observes that both sides often shade the truth about what they'll bring to the match. Since each one is doing the same, they effectively knock each other out, and there's no reason to expose one side's exaggeration when the other is likely doing it too. As in every case of doubt about whether to speak, the best eitzah is to ask your rav first.
Listen in for the practical bottom line - more tomorrow.
Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!
15 Oct 2026
Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 269
If you want to know whether the boy can really learn, why can't you just ask?
Rabbi Klapper explains that when someone asks whether a potential chosson is a talmid chacham who knows how to learn, you should not answer. If the girl's side truly wants to know, the tools are in their own hands: the father can sit and learn with the boy himself, or send him to a trusted rav or talmid chacham to be tested. What 'talmid chacham' even means differs entirely depending on who's asking - every family's level is different. So it's their responsibility to check in a permitted way. And if they choose not to, that shows it isn't so important to them and they accept him as he is - which means you still may not reveal this information.
A subtle, practical halacha - listen in and come back tomorrow.
Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!
12 Oct 2026
Daily Chafetz Chaim – Day 268
When does staying silent about a shidduch become 'standing by your brother's blood'?
Rabbi Klapper covers two categories that must be shared in a shidduch. First, a serious hidden condition - a genetic or chronic disease, or someone internally weak and sickly - should be revealed, following all the rules of to'eles: know with complete clarity it's real, don't exaggerate, and keep the proper kavanah. Second, if one side leans toward apikorsus - not believing parts of the Torah, or being mevazeh talmidei chachamim - and you know it as fact, you must tell the other side. This falls under lo saamod al dam rei'echa, not standing by while your brother is endangered. Both must be fully verified with all the rules of to'eles, but both must be said.
Serious halachos handled with care - tune in and return tomorrow.
Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!
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