Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along!
The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (And How to Make Sure They’re Not Yours)
What will you regret when your time is up?
In this confronting and thought-provoking episode, I explore the five most common regrets people share as they approach the end of their lives—insights captured by palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware after years of supporting individuals in their final days.
These reflections aren’t hypothetical or abstract. They are raw truths gathered from real people who were able to reflect on their lives with total clarity. And what they revealed is both sobering and inspiring: most of us are not living in alignment with what truly matters.
If you've ever felt like you're drifting through life, holding back from expressing your authentic self, or putting off joy and connection for “someday,” this conversation offers a powerful opportunity to reflect and recalibrate. It’s a reminder that we each have a choice—every single day—to live fully, love boldly, and honor the deepest parts of ourselves.
Let this be the moment that wakes you up to what’s possible, before it's too late.
Links from the episode:
Bronnie's original blog article "Regrets of the Dying" - https://bronnieware.com/blog/regrets-of-the-dying/
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21 Oct 2025TRANSCRIPT
Feeling Stressed or Anxious? This One Question Can Instantly Stop Your Stress and Overwhelm
How stressed out do you feel right now? Have you dealt with stress earlier today or this week?
We all experience stress, it's part of life. But not everybody relates to stress in the same way. You have your own go-to methods for dealing with your stress, and some are more effective than others.
Years ago it became a personal mission of mine to get on top of my stress and anxiety, and learn how to deal with it in more healthy ways. Drinking, smoking and pornography were not leading me down the path I wanted, and so I sought out other means of relating to the circumstances in my life.
In today's episode I'm sharing with you a massive breakthrough I had that led to me looking at stress in a whole new way. The "7 minutes" breakthrough as I like to call it, has helped me get back into my center when life's stressors have knocked me out of alignment. I'm sharing this with you today with the goal of inspiring you to take a harder look at your triggers and the things that stress you out in life, and to seek out true healing so you can experience the joy you truly desire.
Resources from this episode:
Compassionate Inquiry: Diffuse Your Emotional Triggers with Dr. Gabor Mate
Chronic Stress Puts Your Health At Risk
Sympathetic vs. Parasympathetic State: How Stress Affects Your Health
Other Having It A.L.L. episodes about stress with action items and takeaways:
How To Coach Yourself Through The Chronic Stresses Of Everyday Life
A Powerful Method For Changing Your Relationship Towards Stress - How To Learn To Love Stress Through Exercise
The STOP Method For De-Stressing and Reclaiming Balance In 30 Seconds
Learn How To Master Your Stress (Instead Of Running From It) So That You Can Be Calm In The Face Of Fire
A 15 Minute Meditation For Easing Stress, Fear and Anxiety (from Katie Krimitsos of the Women's Meditation Network Podcast)
The Balance Experts Have Spoken! 10 Expert Tips On Living A Life Of Balance (Plus 15 More You're Really Going To Want To Use In Your Life)
3 Underlying Reasons Why You Don't Have Balance (And What To Do About Them)
DO YOU DESIRE MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE IN YOUR LIFE?
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19 Sept 2025TRANSCRIPT
Fasting Isn’t About Food...It’s About Emotional Mastery
What if the reason you keep breaking your commitments isn’t about willpower, but emotions?
This episode dives into how emotions like stress, frustration, and apathy quietly hijack your habits, your follow-through, and your sense of integrity. I’m sharing how a simple weekly fasting practice helped me see where I was letting feelings lead, and how often that meant letting myself down.
This isn’t about food. It’s about practicing emotional discipline. It’s about learning to show up even when you don’t feel like it.
You’ll walk away with personal insights, real-life examples, and a clear challenge: make one small commitment AND KEEP IT, no matter what your emotions say.
If you’re tired of breaking promises to yourself, let’s change that.
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
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Inside a recent episode
The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (And How to Make Sure They’re Not Yours)
Published 13 Nov 2025 · Transcript excerpt
[…] They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so -called comfort of familiarity overflowed into their emotions as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others and to themselves that they were content. When deep within, they long to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. How many right now are feeling that they wish they could be happier? Experience more happiness in their life. I know a number of people right there are just shaking their heads literally or figuratively. And allowing ourselves to be happy because I think it isn't allowing. Right? […]
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