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Healing Her

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by Donna Durham, LMFT & Christi Vander Voort

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Life comes at us fast and keeping our balance can take real work. What would it look like to be emotionally and spiritually strong? Welcome to the Healing Her podcast. Listen in as best friends Christi and Donna share stories of God's healing work in their lives. Donna Durham is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in Nashville, TN. and Christi Vander Voort is a seasoned communicator. They want to offer valuable tools and stories to listeners to help navigate the ups and downs of everyday life.

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October 15, 2024

Season 2 - Episode 7: Lament - Crying Out to God in Grief

We are ending this season of The Healing Her Podcast by learning about Lament. God is our Comforter, Healer, Strong Tower, and Provider. We know that in grief we sometimes turn away from God and feel that God is not present in our pain. But God is not uncomfortable with our grief or grieving. We want to share a Biblical way to cry out to God in our grief because we believe HE is the answer to it! We want to encourage our listeners to keep praying through pain. What is Lament A lament is a prayer expressing sorrow, pain, or confusion. It’s not looking at the bright side but through the Psalms of lament and the Book of Lamentations, we learn to give voice to our pain. Lament gives us permission to wrestle with sorrow before God. In the book we’re following Dark Clouds Deep Mercy by Mark Vroegop, he writes on page 27: "Because the book of Psalms is filled with lament, it is the songbook for God’s covenant community. They reflect the joys, struggles, sorrows, and triumphs of life. It’s noteworthy that at least a third of the 150 psalms are laments. What this tells us is sorrow and grief are not a surprise to God." As believers, we can look to scripture to see how Jesus - "a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief”- the Son of God himself, showed us how to grieve. FOUR KEY ELEMENTS OF LAMENT: Turn Complain Ask Trust Every step of lament is a part of the pathway toward hope. Lament invites us to turn our gaze from the pain of loss to the Redeemer of every hurt. The cross shows us that God has already proven himself to be for us and not against us. Jesus bought the right to make everything right. Lament prayers celebrate this truth through tears. Psalm 77 invites us to keep asking: "I cried out to God for help; I cried out to God to hear me. When I was in distress, I sought the Lord; at night I stretched out untiring hands, and I would not be comforted." God isn’t turned off by our sorrow. He wants us to turn to Him and tell him about our struggles, ask questions, and share our fears. It takes faith to pray in pain, even with its messy struggle and tough questions, is an act of faith where we open our hearts to God. Biblical lament offers an alternative to a prison of despair and bitterness or living in an emotional cave. Lament is the language of a people who believe in God’s sovereignty but live in a world with tragedy. Start complaining- He can take it and He already knows it! Psalm 10:1 the psalmist asks: "Why, O Lord, do you stand far off? Why do you hide yourself in times of trouble?" Boldly ask for God’s help. The movement from complaining to asking takes place when grief becomes shadowed by who God is - my fortress, my protector, my redeemer, my strong tower, my rock, my refuge, my help. When Jesus was on the cross, he used David’s questions from Psalm 22:1: “My God, my God, why have you abandoned me? Why are you so far away when I groan for help?” But notice, after David’s strong and heartfelt complaints he turns to God’s character. The key word is “yet”. “Yet you are holy, enthroned on the praises of Israel. Our ancestors trusted in you, and you rescued them.” David is in deep pain and feels abandoned, yet he anchors his soul to who God is and what He has done. His complaints become bridges leading him to God’s character. But what do we ask? What we ask is as diverse as the painful circumstances we find ourselves in. Express Trust and/or Praise to God Suffering refines what we trust in and how we talk about it. Pain can bring clarity. Loss affirms trust. Pain can become a platform for worship. We can turn from hardship to the character of God. But we are going to have to choose to take this final step. Not once and for all. It’s not like you need one lament prayer and you never need to lament again. Grief is not that tame. We must enter into lament over and over again so that it can keep leading us to trust

October 8, 2024

Season 2 - Episode 6: How to Show Up for a Friend who is Grieving

The Do’s and Don'ts - What to Say and What NOT to Say to Someone in Grief The Don’ts 1. DO NOT SILVER LINING THE LOSS!! Do not say “God needed another angel” “They are in a better place”… “You will have more children” “At least you have….” You can find another job… DO NOT utter a sentence that starts with AT LEAST... 2. Do Not Ghost your friend - Keep checking in- It is common for a grieving person to have a flat affect and may not be fun to be around… it is normal. 3. Do not say, I know how you feel- You do NOT know how they feel. You may have experienced a loss, but you did not have the exact situation or exact relationship scenario. And it is not helpful when people say, "I know how you feel." 4. Do not judge their grief- We have been discussing the many ways people grieve. In grief, we very likely are not the best versions of ourselves. If someone wants to be alone, don't judge. If they eat a lot, don't judge. If they throw themselves into work, don't judge. 5. Do not tell them how to grieve- Do not tell them, you should cry more, or you should get out more, or you don't look sad, or you look too sad, or you should go away for a while, or you should stay home more, etc. No two people grieve in the same way. 6. Don't disregard your own grief- You may not be the closest person to the loss but you may still experience grief. It is important to care for yourself. Just because you were not close to the person or you aren't close to the person anymore doesn't mean you don't have grief. The Do’s 1. Show up- Go to the funeral, make a donation, send the flowers, write the note, make a social media post. 2. Use the name of the person who died. “How have you been since Steve passed away? Tell me about Mary. A common experience when we lose someone is people stop talking about them. 3. Check in a week later, a month later, a year later- Touching base and stopping by regularly helps. Make a plan and invite them out instead of “let me know if you want to get together”… Can you go out for lunch on Saturday? If they say no, ask them again later. <ul> <li> Offer to clean the house or hire someone to clean for them.</li> </ul> <ul> <li> Offer to do the laundry. Offer to take the kids. Set up the meal train.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>Offer to help with landscaping.</li> </ul> 4. Remember the anniversary. Send the text, make a call, mail a card. (A friend of mine received a card signed by the leadership of the church at the first anniversary of his mother's passing)

October 1, 2024

Season 2 - Episode 5: Growing Up With a Mentally Ill Mother - Donna’s Story

In this episode, Donna shares her experience growing up with a mother who has a mental illness. Since most people will be in a relationship with someone who has a mental illness, we wanted to provide information, empathy, and tools for dealing with this delicate topic. From the National Association of Mental Illness website- https://www.nami.org/ A mental illness is a condition that affects a person’s thinking, feelings, behavior, or mood. These conditions deeply impact day-to-day living and may also affect the ability to relate to others. Mental health conditions are far more common than you think, mainly because people don’t like to, or are scared to, talk about them. <ul> <li><a href="https://www.samhsa.gov/data/sites/default/files/reports/rpt35325/NSDUHFFRPDFWHTMLFiles2020/2020NSDUHFFR1PDFW102121.pdf" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">1 in 5</a> U.S. adults experience mental illness each year - that’s 20%!</li> <li><a href="https://www.samhsa.gov/data/sites/default/files/reports/rpt35325/NSDUHFFRPDFWHTMLFiles2020/2020NSDUHFFR1PDFW102121.pdf" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">1 in 20</a> U.S. adults experience serious mental illness each year</li> <li><a href="https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/2724377?guestAccessKey=f689aa19-31f1-481d-878a-6bf83844536a" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">1 in 6</a> U.S. youth aged 6-17 experience a mental health disorder each year</li> <li><a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15939837" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">50%</a> of all lifetime mental illness begins by age 14, and 75% by age 24</li> </ul> How to help yourself when you are in a relationship with someone with mental illness. Give yourself permission to tell the truth about the behavior you are seeing in your loved one. It is common for a person with mental illness to lack personal insight regarding their behavior. Give yourself permission to keep yourself safe. Set boundaries that you need in the relationship. (How often you see each other, boundaries around when calls are too early or too late) How to help a person with mental illness. You can only help someone who wants help. You can share your experience with the person you are concerned about and see if they are willing to see a professional. If someone knows they have a diagnosis and is willing to share it with you, ask them, "How can I support you?" Be a good listener when they need to talk. Let them know their diagnosis is just part of them, not all of them. However, if their behavior becomes violent, or too much of a roller coaster for you, you must choose to care for yourself by setting necessary boundaries. OR if they threaten to harm themselves or you, call 911 or 855 274- 7471 - for Mobile Crisis. It can truly be a challenging journey that includes lots of grief when walking with a person on a mental health journey. Getting the right diagnosis and the right medication and help takes a process. When those things are in place people can also experience real joy. Adjusting to the news that someone you are close to has a mental illness can be hard. Here are a few tools to help with that journey. <ul> <li>Talk to a therapist</li> <li>Journal about your own experience</li> <li>Talk to a friend to find support</li> <li>Allow yourself to grieve, this is a different reality than you expected</li> <li>Set boundaries that you need in the relationship</li> <li>Consider joining a support group <a href="https://www.nami.org/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.nami.org/</a></li> </ul> What helped Donna? <ul> <li>People who were brave enough to let me know they could see my mom wasn't “typical”</li> <li>Friends who listened with compassion</li> <li>Friends that didn't say, “You shouldn't talk about your mother that way”</li> </ul>

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What is Healing Her?: Life comes at us fast and keeping our balance can take real work. What would it look like to be emotionally and spiritually strong? Welcome to the Healing Her podcast. Listen in as best friends Christi and Donna share stories of God's healing work in their lives.

Donna Durham is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in Nashville, TN. and Christi Vander Voort is a seasoned communicator. They want to offer valuable tools and stories to listeners to help navigate the ups and downs of everyday life.
How often does this podcast release new episodes?: This podcast updates weekly.
Where can I listen to this podcast?: This podcast is available on 6 platforms including Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and more. You can also use the RSS feed directly.
Does this podcast accept guests?: Yes, this podcast regularly features guests.

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