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Healing Myself

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by Scott and Shaté Hayes

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We're Scott and Shaté Hayes, and we're on a mission to help our community find freedom from the inside out. So we host conversations about God, therapy, and all the lessons we’ve learned about how to love, trust, forgive, and affirm ourselves first. We used to talk about the hard parts of life. Now, we talk about the healed parts because that’s where true freedom resides. Join us, and you’ll see that when you save yourself first, you transform your life, and you lead the way for those around you to save themselves, too. Get healing tips, tools, and more: ⁠https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword

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May 29, 2024

Ep. 83: How to observe (not absorb) other people's feelings.

In this episode, we dive into the art of observing other people's feelings without taking them on as our own. Join us as we explore practical strategies for maintaining emotional boundaries in close relationships with family, friends, and partners. Discover the role emotional regulation plays in this process, and get inspired by our hopes for finding real-life ways to practice this approach. Tune in for insightful conversations and tips on how to stay empathetic yet emotionally grounded. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: Observing not absorbing [1:36] <ul> <li>Being empathetic and supportive without taking on another person's emotions as your own</li> <li>Therapists suggest supporting loved ones without absorbing their distress, emphasizing that empathy should not involve taking on someone else's sadness or anxiety.</li> <li>It can be challenging to separate one's own feelings from those of others, especially in close relationships, and there's a tendency to feel responsible for making others feel better.</li> </ul> Relearning communication and trust in marriage [10:11] <ul> <li>Scott reflects on how life experiences have made him more guarded in his marriage, withdrawing emotional vulnerability and being more careful with his words.</li> <li>Recognizing the need to relearn how to support his wife, Shate Hayes, in a safe and non-absorbing manner.</li> <li>Acknowledging the importance of giving your spouse the space to solve their own problems and be a partner in their marriage.</li> </ul> Empathy and boundaries in therapy [17:45] <ul> <li>Discussion on emotion regulation and avoidance in men.</li> <li>Seeking to balance helping others with maintaining personal boundaries.</li> <li>The approach to empathy- hearing people's hearts without trying to control their emotions.</li> <li>The importance of empathy and self-determination in therapy.</li> </ul> Navigating personal relationships while maintaining professional boundaries [23:41] <ul> <li>The struggle with navigating close relationships without absorbing others' emotions.</li> <li>Scott Hayes emphasizes the importance of empathy and understanding in his work as a therapist, particularly when clients make decisions that go against his advice.</li> <li>The challenge of balancing the need to be productive with the need to be empathetic and supportive, even when clients are not ready for the work required.</li> </ul> Navigating emotions and conflicts in a relationship [24:08] <ul> <li>Setting boundaries and seeking help for recurring problems.</li> <li>Recognizing limitations in providing support and suggesting seeking help from others.</li> <li>Finding a way to support each other emotionally without judgment or expectations.</li> <li>The need for validation and redirection in relationships.</li> <li>Navigating conflicts in relationships, acknowledging the importance of allowing emotions to move through both parties.</li> <li>The need to navigate emotions without trying to run over them, just like navigating around obstacles on a bike or in a car.</li> </ul> THREE WAYS TO SUPPORT OUR MISSION: <ol> <li>Rate us on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healing-myself/id1533389290">⁠⁠Apple⁠⁠</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/53IiOcfD3vaoO8pCKP7kJ5?si=eeb6492f68bb4afa">⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠</a>, or follow and subscribe to our channel on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@healingmyself_first">⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠</a>.</li> <li>Attend an event in the Atlanta area or sponsor someone to attend.*</li> <li>Purchase our <a href="https://scott-a-hayes.squarespace.com/barz">⁠⁠merch⁠⁠</a>— there’s a great selection on our website.*</li> </ol> *A portion of our proceeds goes towards our therapy fund for Black adults. CHECK IN WITH SCOTT AND SHATÉ: <ul> <li>Subscribe to our Weekly Word. We’ll send you healing insights from our recent convos, book recommendations, resources, and more to help you heal yourself first: <a href="https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> </li> <li><a href="https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1niTmnBvUNB6zn6DS7kSuE?si=T-Q2CRYgQMWKtaurKvYcdQ">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify Playlist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> - Music for this moment. </li> <li>Follow Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠<a href="https://www.instagram.com/healingmyself_first">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠<a href="https://www.facebook.com/healingmyself.first">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> </li> <li>Follow @iamshate on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/iamshate/">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a>; Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/scotthayes_lcsw/">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> </li> </ul> If you or someone you know could find value in the Healing Myself community, please feel free to reach out! You can leave a comment or send us an email at <a href="mailto:connect@healingmyself.co">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠connect@healingmyself.co</a> --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support" rel="payment">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support</a>

May 15, 2024

Ep. 82: A practical guide to self-care with Dr. Cicely Brathwaite.

Join us for this insightful conversation with special guest, Dr. Cicely Brathwaite–psychologist, consultant, and author of <a href="https://a.co/d/08TMmFd" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Self-Care Activities for Women: 101 Practical Ways to Slow Down and Reconnect With Yourself</a>. THREE WAYS TO SUPPORT OUR MISSION: <ol> <li>Rate us on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healing-myself/id1533389290">⁠Apple⁠</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/53IiOcfD3vaoO8pCKP7kJ5?si=eeb6492f68bb4afa">⁠Spotify⁠</a>, or follow and subscribe to our channel on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@healingmyself_first">⁠YouTube⁠</a>.</li> <li>Attend an event in the Atlanta area or sponsor someone to attend.*</li> <li>Purchase our <a href="https://scott-a-hayes.squarespace.com/barz">⁠merch⁠</a>— there’s a great selection on our website.*</li> </ol> *A portion of our proceeds goes towards our therapy fund for Black adults. CHECK IN WITH SCOTT AND SHATÉ: <ul> <li>Subscribe to our Weekly Word. We’ll send you healing insights from our recent convos, book recommendations, resources, and more to help you heal yourself first: <a href="https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> </li> <li><a href="https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1niTmnBvUNB6zn6DS7kSuE?si=T-Q2CRYgQMWKtaurKvYcdQ">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify Playlist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> - Music for this moment. </li> <li>Follow Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠<a href="https://www.instagram.com/healingmyself_first">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠<a href="https://www.facebook.com/healingmyself.first">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> </li> <li>Follow @iamshate on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/iamshate/">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a>; Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/scotthayes_lcsw/">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> </li> </ul> If you or someone you know could find value in the Healing Myself community, please feel free to reach out! You can leave a comment or send us an email at <a href="mailto:connect@healingmyself.co">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠connect@healingmyself.co</a> --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support" rel="payment">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support</a>

May 1, 2024

Ep. 81: Healing and tequila with friends featuring Brandon Scott.

Join this special convo with Brandon Scott, CEO and Co-Founder of <a href="http://www.tequilawithfriends.com/" target="_blank">Tequila with Friends</a>, a Dallas-based tequila brand. After a surprising Type 1 diabetes diagnosis during his first semester of college, Brandon discovered that tequila was the only type of liquor that his body metabolized well. Now 15 years later, he ties some of his fondest moments to tequila and the people around him who’ve supported his journey. THREE WAYS TO SUPPORT OUR MISSION: <ol> <li>Rate us on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healing-myself/id1533389290" target="_blank">Apple</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/53IiOcfD3vaoO8pCKP7kJ5?si=eeb6492f68bb4afa" target="_blank">Spotify</a>, or follow and subscribe to our channel on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@healingmyself_first" target="_blank">YouTube</a>.</li> <li>Attend an event in the Atlanta area or sponsor someone to attend.*</li> <li>Purchase our <a href="https://scott-a-hayes.squarespace.com/barz">merch</a>— there’s a great selection on our website.*</li> </ol> *A portion of our proceeds goes towards our therapy fund for Black adults. CHECK IN WITH SCOTT AND SHATÉ: <ul> <li>Subscribe to our Weekly Word. We’ll send you healing insights from our recent convos, book recommendations, resources, and more to help you heal yourself first: <a href="https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> </li> <li><a href="https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1niTmnBvUNB6zn6DS7kSuE?si=T-Q2CRYgQMWKtaurKvYcdQ">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify Playlist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> - Music for this moment. </li> <li>Follow Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠<a href="https://www.instagram.com/healingmyself_first">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠<a href="https://www.facebook.com/healingmyself.first">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> </li> <li>Follow @iamshate on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/iamshate/">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a>; Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/scotthayes_lcsw/">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> </li> </ul> If you or someone you know could find value in the Healing Myself community, please feel free to reach out! You can leave a comment or send us an email at <a href="mailto:connect@healingmyself.co">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠connect@healingmyself.co</a> --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support" rel="payment">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support</a>

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What is Healing Myself?: We're Scott and Shaté Hayes, and we're on a mission to help our community find freedom from the inside out. So we host conversations about God, therapy, and all the lessons we’ve learned about how to love, trust, forgive, and affirm ourselves first.

We used to talk about the hard parts of life. Now, we talk about the healed parts because that’s where true freedom resides. Join us, and you’ll see that when you save yourself first, you transform your life, and you lead the way for those around you to save themselves, too.

Get healing tips, tools, and more: ⁠https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword
How often does this podcast release new episodes?: This podcast updates weekly.
Where can I listen to this podcast?: This podcast is available on 7 platforms including Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and more. You can also use the RSS feed directly.
Does this podcast accept guests?: Yes, this podcast regularly features guests.

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