Dean Croll talks about his life and overcoming same-sex domestic partner abuse. How he survived a narcissistic relationship and dating as a 50+ gay man. LGBTQ+ domestic partner abuse is not addressed enough in the gay community. Often you feel lost and left out. You feel alone and don't know what to do. This podcast wants to give you hope so you can be a survivor of abuse. You are not alone. There is help out there.
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In this episode, I talk about hypermasculinity, toxic masculinity, growing up in heteronormative homes, that masculine is good and anything less than is bad. How gay men function in society being someone else than who they are because of our culture saying masculine is good and anything else is bad. Living as two different presentations or what we think we should be is tiring and does no good.
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Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll.
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2 May 2024
Wild Boys
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Season two kicks off with me talking about being different, why I feel different what people have done to try to change me and how to be resilient in yourself. I talk about song lyrics because music is important to me. Wild Boys comes from the Duran Duran song and the book by William S. Burroughs. I hope you find connection in this episode knowing you are not alone. We are connected for many different reasons. Most importantly...Stay Wild!
Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll.
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8 Mar 2023
Hear Me Out - Me and Social Groups
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In this episode I talk about a recent visit to one social group and who I feel I am in those settings. I was invited to another social group for nudists. I talk through my feelings about this and try to decide if I'd attend and at what level. As always your input is appreciated.
Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll.
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5 Mar 2023
Hear Me Out - Making Amends Part 2
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In this episode, I tell a story of when I was in college. I'm not sure if I should make amends for this story. I pose several questions to myself and to the listener.
Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll.
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24 Feb 2023
Hear Me Out: Making Amends Part 1
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In this episode I talk about the idea of making amends to someone. What does it mean? How do you do it? Should you do it? Does the story in this episode deserve an amends?
Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll.
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16 Nov 2022
Hear Me Out: Wesley Toma
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In this episode, I talk with Wesley Toma.
The topics we cover are:
Sexuality is not sex, and sex is not sexuality.
The most important part of any relationship is consent.
Negotiation in kink, why you need to be better at it?
What the vanilla world can learn from the Kink community.
Wesley Toma is a Master Certified relationship and intimacy coach with over 10 years of experience coaching and advocating for the LGBTQIA+ and Kink communities, including Polyamory, Ethical non-monogamy, Kink, BDSM, and other non-traditional relationships. His goal in life is to help you navigate the sometimes scary world of relationships to become better partners, negotiators, and communicators.
As an androsexual, kinky male, Wesley fully connects with you to develop a safe space to support and help you improve all aspects of your relationships.
https://wesleytoma.com/ (https://wesleytoma.com/)
Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll.
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9 Oct 2022
Hear Me Out: My Best Friend
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In this episode I talk about someone who I thought of as my best friend. I was wrong. This is a story I've told no one before. It was pretty tough to get through. I'm sorry for the raw emotions in this one.
Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll.
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2 Oct 2022
Hear Me Out: First Times
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In this episode I talk about my first times. My first three times having sex and how each time was unique. What each one meant to me and how each one helped shape me and allow me to be me and to be free with my sexuality.
Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll.
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28 Aug 2022
Hear Me Out: Sexual Abuse
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This episode deals with the terrible issue or sexual abuse. Specifically, sexual abuse of a child. I tell everything I can remember. I talk about my process of coming to terms with being abused, how I have worked through some of it, and how I keep working on it. Please know I am here to listen should you wish to talk. Unfortunately, this issue is not unique to me.
Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll.
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19 Aug 2022
Hear Me Out: Mental Abuse and Neglect
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I had been putting this episode off. I apologize for the delay. This was a tough one to write for and to get through. Much harder than I thought it would be. This episode is about my mother and the mental abuse and neglect I suffered because of her.
Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll.
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10 Aug 2022
Hear Me Out: Dating Apps, Masculine Ideals and Mental Health
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This episode I talk about gay dating apps. The pros and cons, patterns I've observed and the idea of masculine for masculine. I think probably the most important thing to talk about regarding dating apps is mental health. Are they doing more harm than good and what are the outcomes? I quote from two research papers during this episode. Links are below should you wish to read them.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2902177/ (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2902177/?fbclid=IwAR1Sk-22zMQdqAzVZgtazup8JMk01VrIglDnZcmuwNsh8fcAV0kBdAGQNEQ)
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Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll.
https://hearmeoutmystory.buzzsprout.com/
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2 Aug 2022
Hear Me Out: Dating after 50
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This episode takes a lighthearted look at dating as a gay man after 50. Questions that come up are: what are red flags, green flags and deal breakers for you? In the end, we have a right to love and to be loved.
Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll.
https://hearmeoutmystory.buzzsprout.com/
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25 Jul 2022
My Story: My father abused me.
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In this episode, I talk about my dad and some of the abusive things that happened to me over the years. Families are complex organisms with lots of stuff going on. Try to remember that you were a child and your parents were supposed to protect you. Things that happened were not your fault. I felt a sense of relief when I learned I am not my parents and my parents are not me. I can be my own person and take care of myself. If you are a victim of abuse, I care and people care. Please seek someone you trust for help.
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Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll.
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19 Jul 2022
My Story: Leaving a Narcissistic Relationship
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This episode talks about my domestic partner abuse and leaving a narcistic relationship. You are not alone. Please know there is help for you.
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Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll.
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