Love, Dating & Relationship support, guidance, advice and tips with Lyn Smith – The Queen of HEARTS.
Lyn cares and personally understands what it’s like to have suffered sexual violence (in her teens) and how that negatively affected her personal relationships; she subsequently turned all that around and now has a lasting healthy relationship which is full of passion, intimacy and fulfilment.
If you’ve ever had:
*Unhealthy relationships full of drama and conflicts
*Unfulfilling relationships where there has been little or no passion or
*Real healthy passion in a relationship and want to know how you can you re-ignite the flame
Lyn’s been there and is here to help you heal past hurts, traumas and heartbreak and attract/ create the healthy deep loving relationship you truly want and deserve.
She’s on a mission to make a positive global impact in reducing divorce, domestic violence & suicide.
So if you want real, healthy passion, intimacy and fulfilment in your love life and are open to listening to the wisdom of some controversial truths about relationships delivered in Lyn’s easy to understand – makes a lot of sense – style, then we invite you to listen the 'HEARTS Entwined’ podcast….
Breaking the Pattern: How To Stop Choosing Familiar Pain and Align with Real Love
Lyn is joined by compatibility strategist Jena Jake to uncover why so many people find themselves repeatedly drawn to the wrong romantic partners. Diving deep into the psychology of attachment, Jena reveals how subconscious wiring leads individuals to mistake the familiarity of past trauma for genuine connection and explains why establishing clear personal boundaries—using her signature "velvet rope" and "PAWS" frameworks—is essential to reclaiming self-worth
KEY TAKEAWAYS
People repeatedly choose incompatible partners because the subconscious mind naturally seeks what is familiar rather than what is genuinely healthy.
Healthy boundaries serve as a self-protective "velvet rope" that prevents self-abandonment and teaches others how to treat you.
Romantic partners are not meant to heal past wounds or complete you; genuine fulfillment starts with self-love and internal wholeness.
Through neuroplasticity and mindful self-talk, you can rewire old behavioral patterns to align your energy with the type of relationship you truly deserve
BEST MOMENTS
"It's not about getting someone, it's about becoming someone or being someone."
"You are wired to choose what is familiar to you, what you are attached to, which a lot of the time is not what is good for you."
"No is a complete sentence and when you're more worried about hurting their feelings than you are self-abandoning, that's where the work is."
"You're only going to attract someone as healthy as you are."
ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert
Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace.
She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale.
Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
17 Sept 2026
What If Chemistry Hides Familiar Pain? with Dr. Maria-Elena Lukeides
Lyn is joined by psychologist Dr. Maria-Elena Lukeides to examine the psychological undercurrents of intense romantic attraction. Drawing on decades of developmental attachment research and clinical practice, Dr. Lukeides unpacks how early childhood caregiving dynamics shape adult partnership choices, often driving people to mistake the familiar friction of past emotional wounds for true romantic sparks. The discussion explores the push-and-pull between anxious and avoidant attachment styles, provides practical insight into breaking unconscious relationship cycles, and emphasises why identifying the exact dynamic you want day-to-day matters far more than obsessing over surface-level traits.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Attachment styles formed between infants and primary caregivers track longitudinally into adulthood, deeply shaping how individuals select and relate to romantic partners.
People with anxious attachment styles and avoidant attachment styles are routinely drawn to one another, sparking an intense cycle of mutual attraction followed by repulsion.
Intense "chemistry" is often an unconscious attempt to re-enact and resolve unmet emotional needs or unavailable dynamics experienced in childhood.
Choosing a healthy long-term partnership requires focusing on the daily operational dynamic of the relationship rather than relying solely on charismatic traits or reactive passions.
BEST MOMENTS
"It very much reminded me of what Freud would say about relationships, which is that we repeat to repair."
"If I think I'm the problem, then I'm the red flag—I'm just going to try and make myself green and work on myself, which means that I'm not actually constructing the boundaries."
"Even if you win... you're reinforcing that yes, it was your fault. So even mastery is a loss here."
"Love yourselves as if your life depends on it, because it does."
ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert
Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace.
She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale.
Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
3 Sept 2026
Rules of Engagement: Navigating Conflict, Infidelity, and Healthy Communication with Keith Jordan
Lyn sits down with licensed clinical social worker and couples therapist Keith Jordan to explore what it truly takes to mend and sustain romantic partnerships. Drawing on four decades of mental health experience, Keith breaks down common relationship pitfalls—from communication breakdowns and infidelity to escalating retaliations—and offers actionable strategies to diffuse tension before it destroys trust.
Together, they unpack why active listening must replace defensiveness, how setting personal boundaries differs from controlling your partner, and why shedding rigid "shoulds" opens the door to genuine emotional growth.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
True active listening requires giving your partner full, uninterrupted attention rather than formulating a mental rebuttal while they speak.
Establishing boundaries should focus on identifying and expressing your own core needs rather than attempting to dictate what your partner should or should not do.
Limiting speaking turns to 60 seconds prevents overwhelming monologues and allows partners to clarify meaning rather than making defensive assumptions.
Overcoming defensiveness begins when individuals realise that conflicts are not an attack on their character, opening the door for constructive problem-solving over blame.
BEST MOMENTS
"Listen to what they're saying from their point of view rather than preparing your rebuttal to what they're saying."
"A lot of argument... happens even though people are actually in agreement, but they don't realise that they are."
"Defensiveness often is... a reaction based on the person trying to assert that they're a good person, as if they're being accused of not being the right kind of person..."
"Concepts of what how things should be, you know, the world doesn't really operate according to should. It's a man-made construct, it's not really a spiritual concept at all."
ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert
Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace.
She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale.
Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com
This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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