Hey, I'm Nathan. Each week, I grab a coffee and we talk about what it really means to become the husband and the man god created you to be - inside and outside the bedroom.
There aren't many places where Catholic men can have honest conversations about sex. This is one of them. We'll tackle the hard stuff: the struggles, the frustrations, the questions you don't know who to ask. We'll ditch the shame and awkwardness. We'll also get real about how sex is one of the fruits of a healthy marriage; you don't get a sweet and tasty apple from a diseased tree, and you don't get a passionate sex life from a marriage that has been on the back burner for years. There's a lot to talk about!
Grab a coffee, pull up a chair, let's get started.
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Nathan Bartel
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kids & family · religion & spirituality · society & culture
Your Marriage Is a Vineyard - are you a good tenant?
God has entrusted you with a little corner of the world to cultivate: your marriage and your family. What kind of fruit is growing there? The vineyard readings from Isaiah and Matthew got me thinking about that question, and about how easily I can expect good fruit without doing the daily work of love (I'm preaching to myself here, too).
In this conversation, I'll share why the garden is such a helpful image for marriage, what tending it looks like through forgiveness, humility, and affection, and how that care connects to a mutually fulfilling life of intimacy. I'll also return to the wedding feast at Cana and the hope that God's grace can make more of your marriage than you could produce on your own, even through the struggles.
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29 Sept 2026
Should Catholics Talk So Openly About Sex?
Should Catholics talk openly about sex? I’ve been doing this long enough that I’ve heard some of the same objections come up over and over again. In this episode, I address four of them directly.
1) Some men worry that public conversations cheapen something sacred and private. 2) Others believe solid theology should be enough and that discussions about the practical aspects of sex aren’t needed. 3) Some have a hidden or acknowledged doubt that anything in their marriage can change, so it’s not worth trying. 4) Finally, a surprising number of men assume they have nothing to learn and no need to improve and that their wife is the only one who needs to change.
I share my thoughts on each one of these: We’ll talk about how respectful discretion can coexist with honest conversation, why theology still needs prudential application to live it our in the concrete realities of our lives, where hope comes from when your circumstances feel stuck, and why humility always begins with the man in the mirror. (I’m preaching to myself here too.)
Everything I teach in Holy Desires serves a deeper purpose: helping husbands love their wives, grow in holiness, and cultivate the joyful, connected marriage God designed for them. Enrollment for the Fall 2026 Holy Desires formation is open through Saturday, October 3. Learn more and join us. (https://www.canafeast.com/holydesires)
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Get one of my free resources for Catholic Husbands who want to improve their intimacy:
🔥 3 Secrets to Becoming the Lover of Her Dreams (https://canafeast.com/holydesires-3secrets?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=HD%20Podcast%20Links)
>>> Get the free PDF guide here: https://canafeast.com/holydesires-3secrets (https://canafeast.com/holydesires-3secrets?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=HD%20Podcast%20Links)
⚔️ REWIRE: The Science of Porn Addiction (https://canafeast.com/rewire)
>>> Access the free 3-part video series here: https://canafeast.com/rewire (https://canafeast.com/rewire)
21 Sept 2026
Want your marriage to change? Start with yourself.
Most of us are quick to notice what our wife could do differently when marriage feels stuck. The harder but more effective question is the one we ask the man in the mirror: How am I showing up, and how is God asking me to grow?
In this conversation, I’ll share several insights from men who completed Holy Desires this spring, including why marriage is never 50/50, how changing your own steps changes the whole dance, and why taking responsibility for your heart, habits, and perspective is empowering rather than discouraging. We’ll also talk about your vocation as a husband, the call to love your wife all the way to heaven, and the tools that can help you cultivate a more vibrant, passionate, and faithful marriage.
Holy Desires, my program for Catholic husbands to to help them grow in intimacy with their wives, is designed specifically to give you the tools you need and the brotherhood to support you.
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Get one of my free resources for Catholic Husbands who want to improve their intimacy:
🔥 3 Secrets to Becoming the Lover of Her Dreams (https://canafeast.com/holydesires-3secrets?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=HD%20Podcast%20Links)
>>> Get the free PDF guide here: https://canafeast.com/holydesires-3secrets (https://canafeast.com/holydesires-3secrets?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=HD%20Podcast%20Links)
⚔️ REWIRE: The Science of Porn Addiction (https://canafeast.com/rewire)
>>> Access the free 3-part video series here: https://canafeast.com/rewire (https://canafeast.com/rewire)
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