Hot Mom Sh!t

About Hot Mom Sh!t

Hot Mom Sh!t is the podcast that lives in the AND — because you can look good and be a good mom. You can love your kids fiercely and still need to be more than just their mom. Hosted by Leah Van Dale, this is the show for the mom who is done pretending to have it all together, all of the time. Hear the real stories, honest conversations, and the moments Leah probably should have kept to herself but didn't. This isn’t a show about doing it perfectly. It’s about the raw side of motherhood exactly as it is — hot and messy.

Publisher

Leah Van Dale

Category

health & fitness · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

6 May 2026

Latest episode

6 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

24 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   6 Oct 2026

   Feel It to Heal It: Infertility, Pregnancy Loss & the Angel Baby Who Got Her Here with Abbe Feder

   October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, and I could not think of anyone I would rather spend it with than Abbe Feder. Abbe trained as an actress, moved to LA, married a filmmaker, and then spent the better part of six years trying to become a mom. IUIs, four egg retrievals, eight transfers, a miscarriage, an ectopic pregnancy, and a lot of doctors telling her it was probably not going to happen. Now she runs InCircle Fertility, where she holds the hands of women going through exactly what she went through. We got into the part nobody warns you about: that your partner might handle a loss completely differently than you do. Abbe's husband was going to leave town while she was waiting to miscarry, because in his head, she was so strong and did he really need to sit there and watch it happen? I told her about my ectopic, when I was being transported by ambulance and my husband had to leave because his son had a haircut. Neither of our husbands are the bad guys here. They just did not know what they did not know, and both of them grew from it. Then Abbe told me about her Hail Mary round. Three embryos in, all three implanted, all three had heartbeats, and at 39 her doctors told her she could not safely carry triplets. She reduced from three to two. She still calls the third her angel baby, because that baby got her to her twins. I could have talked to her all day. In this episode we get real about: How an actress with a behavioral science degree ended up running a fertility coaching practice Why infertility takes over your entire brain, and why it is a grief nobody lets you talk about When your partner handles pregnancy loss completely differently than you do (and the growth on the other side of it) Feel it to heal it: take the help, ask for what you need, and give yourself permission to not be fine What to say when people keep saying the wrong thing, including Abbe's genius "don't check on me until May" move Three embryos, a reduction, and the angel baby who got her to her twins Why remembering your first due date is normal, and why you should book the trip Momma, you can be grateful for the family you have AND still remember the one you lost. Both are true. Thank god it's not just us. Listen to new episodes of Hot Mom Sh!t dropping every Tuesday. Follow along wherever you listen to podcasts. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale Follow Abbe on Instagram: @abbefeder Learn more about InCircle Fertility: https://www.incirclefertility.com/ Join the Snatch community: snatch.co Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN

2. 

   29 Sept 2026

   REPLAY: Mental Load, Mom Guilt & Quitting Breastfeeding Without the Shame with Dr. Sanam Shamtobi

   We have had Dr. S on twice in a row now, and every single time my DMs fill up with the same thing — where do I start with her, what was the first one, send me that episode. So this week I am bringing it back. This is the very first conversation I ever had with Dr. Sanam Shamtobi, before she was a regular around here, and it still holds up. Here is the thing about this one: I came in with a breastfeeding question. That was it. I was six months postpartum, exclusively pumping with a toddler and a newborn, completely over it, and feeling guilty for being over it. And I left with a completely different way of thinking about mom guilt, identity, and why the mental load feels so invisible to the people we live with. She also said the three words I could not say to myself. I asked if I was allowed to stop breastfeeding just because I wanted to, and she looked at me and said that wanting to stop is exactly the reason to stop. I have thought about that a hundred times since. If you are new here, start with this one. If you were here in May, it hits different now that you know her. In this episode we get real about: Why partners are not clueless, they just need a different kind of direction (Dr. S literally makes handouts for husbands in therapy) The mental load, and why it is so hard to explain to someone who is not carrying it The "just a mom" identity crisis, and why the mom hat is less of a hat and more of a tattoo on your brain Whether dads love their kids the same way we do, and the biology underneath it Wanting to quit pumping at six months, and the permission I did not know I needed Matrescence, the word somebody should have taught all of us Why mom guilt will always find a new target no matter what you do Momma, you can be completely done with something and still love your kid more than anything on earth. Both are true. Neither one cancels the other out. Thank god it's not just us. Listen to new episodes of Hot Mom Sh!t dropping every Tuesday. Follow along wherever you listen to podcasts. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale Join the Snatch community: snatch.co Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN

3. 

   22 Sept 2026

   Postpartum Rage Is Real: Mom Rage, DMER & Postpartum Anxiety with Dr. Sanam Shamtobi

   Dr. S is back, and this time we actually made it to the questions — which, if you heard the last one, is a genuine achievement for the two of us. I feel lighter every single time I talk to her, and I needed this one. We started with the question I had been sitting on for ages without knowing I was sitting on it: is it normal to feel rage toward your partner after having a baby, even when he is actually a good partner? Her answer was yes, 100%, and it has almost nothing to do with him. So I told her the thing I have never really told anybody. After my first, I would come downstairs after bedtime — my husband had cleaned the entire kitchen, put every dish away, done everything — and there would be one dirty bottle on the counter. And I would see red. I wouldn't yell at him. I would just stand there unscrewing it, washing it, slamming the dishwasher, quietly hating a man who had done nothing wrong. I carried that guilt for a long time. Dr. S listened to the whole story and said: that's it. That's postpartum rage, exactly. And by the way, you are still postpartum at eight and nine months, which is another thing nobody bothers to mention. Then we got into DMER — dysphoric milk ejection reflex — which we both had, and which neither of us knew had a name until we went looking. For me it felt like homesickness every single time I nursed. Dr. S saw three or four lactation consultants and not one of them asked; it is the reason she opened her practice. And when I asked what she would say to a mom who is postpartum right now, she said the thing that has been rattling around my head since: women will cry to their friends all day long and still never sit down and actually process any of it. We push it down with a fury. In this episode we get real about: Whether it is normal to rage at a genuinely good partner, and why the 3AM math has nothing to do with him How to have the unequal-load conversation — and why the middle of the rage is the worst possible time to have it The rage that shows up because parenting looks easy for him and hard for you How much rage is normal, and the line where Dr. S says go get help The dirty bottle on the counter, and all the guilt I carried before anyone gave it a name DMER, the homesick feeling during letdown that nobody warned either of us about Why women will tell a friend everything and still not book the one hour a week for themselves Momma, if you have ever loved your husband and wanted to break a bottle over his head in the same five minutes, both of those are true. Neither one cancels the other out. Thank god it's not just us. Listen to new episodes of Hot Mom Sh!t dropping every Tuesday. Follow along wherever you listen to podcasts. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale Join the Snatch community: snatch.co Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN

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