How Did We Get Here?

About How Did We Get Here?

Marriage isn’t boring—and we’re here to prove it. We talk love, sex, kinks, connection, and what it really takes to keep a relationship alive while raising kids and building a life together. Inspired by spicy books, real experiences, and honest conversations, this podcast blends romance, reality, and self-empowerment. From the spark to the struggles, from passion to purpose—we’re exploring what it means to build a relationship that actually feels good to live in.

Publisher

The Unfiltered Conversations That Keep Love Real - With Aaron and Brittani

Category

education

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

10 Jan 2022

Latest episode

18 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

22 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   18 Oct 2026

   Aftercare and Why It's So Important.

   Brittani and Aaron break down what aftercare means, why it matters, and how it can completely change the emotional tone of a sexual experience. They frame aftercare as a normal part of intimacy, not a bonus, and explain how it builds safety, connection, and trust between partners.They also talk candidly about their own relationship dynamic, including how aftercare shows up in real life, what it looks like for different couples, and how to start the conversation if you have never discussed it before.* In this episode, Brittani and Aaron explain aftercare as the care that happens after sex or intimacy, from cleanup to cuddling to checking in emotionally.* They describe practical aftercare examples like wet wipes, washcloths, toy cleaning, water, Gatorade, food, cozy clothes, and post-intimacy snacking.* They emphasize that aftercare helps the nervous system settle, making the experience feel complete instead of abruptly over.* Brittani shares how aftercare makes her feel safe, seen, and less vulnerable, especially because women are often taught that sex ends when the man is done.* Aaron explains that aftercare strengthens connection by preventing the emotional distance that can happen when a partner checks out right after sex.* They discuss how aftercare should evolve over time because people, needs, and bodies change within long-term relationships.* They distinguish between physical aftercare and verbal check-ins like asking what felt good, what did not, and what someone needs next.* They address the question of whether aftercare goes both ways, noting that it depends on the relationship dynamic and sexual roles.* Brittani and Aaron talk about dominance, submission, and how intentionality and care are especially important in dominant dynamics.* They encourage couples to have an explicit conversation about aftercare before sex, especially if it has never been discussed.Connect With Us:*Intimacy & Relationship LIVE's Wednesdays and Fridays at 7PM PST- https://www.tiktok.com/@brittanis.booked *Aaron's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mr.__morton*BrittNoel.com

2. 

   1 Oct 2026

   How To Talk About Sex & Have Hard Conversations Successfully In Your Relationship

   The sex talk your relationship has been avoiding could be the one that changes everything. Brittani and Aaron break down how to bring up orgasms, kinks, libido shifts, and sexual curiosity without triggering shame, defensiveness, or a total shutdown. For couples stuck in the roommate phase, anyone afraid to ask for more in bed, or partners who want a better sex life but do not know how to start the conversation, this episode gives you the language and the mindset to do it safely. Brittani opens up about the moment she stopped faking orgasms and what it took to tell her husband the truth, while Aaron shares what it feels like on the receiving end and why timing, tone, and emotional safety matter so much. You’ll discover: How to start a hard conversation without making it feel like an attack Why clarity about your end goal changes everything What defensiveness usually means underneath the surface How to introduce sexual curiosities or kinks without spiraling into shame Why “right now” does not mean “all the time” How to check your partner’s headspace before dropping something heavy Simple ways to keep both people regulated during sensitive talks Brittani and Aaron also unpack the difference between hearing and actually listening, why couples get stuck in catastrophic thinking, and how to use reassurance, physical touch, and repeat-backs to keep a conversation grounded instead of reactive. They show how the same tools that help in sex talks also strengthen trust in marriage, conflict, and any conversation where feelings are on the line. If you want more honesty, more connection, and better sex without turning every vulnerable moment into a fight, this is essential listening. Perfect for couples who are ready to stop guessing and start talking like they’re on the same team. Connect With Us: *Intimacy & Relationship LIVE's Wednesdays and Fridays at 7PM PST- (https://www.tiktok.com/@brittanis.booked ) *Aaron's Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/mr.__morton) *BrittNoel.com (BrittNoel.com)

3. 

   19 Sept 2026

   Arousal Types; Understanding How You Get Aroused Or Why It Feels So Difficult

   The reason your sex life feels mismatched might not be low libido—it might be that you and your partner turn on in completely different ways. Brittani and Aaron break down responsive arousal vs. spontaneous arousal and explain why understanding the difference can instantly change the pressure, expectations, and way you connect. If you have ever felt like you’re “never in the mood,” wondered why one partner wants sex out of nowhere while the other needs time to build, or felt awkward initiating when it doesn’t come naturally, this conversation is for you. Brittani explains the nonlinear model of arousal, how it applies far beyond women, and why it matters especially in long-term relationships where communication can make or break intimacy. You’ll discover: What responsive arousal looks like in real life, from mental fatigue to the infamous “switch flips” moment How spontaneous arousal shows up and why some people seem ready instantly Why asking a responsive partner to always initiate can create performance anxiety instead of desire How non-sexual touch can keep intimacy alive without turning every touch into pressure Why emotional safety matters when sex is inconsistent due to pregnancy, postpartum recovery, stress, or everyday life Brittani and Aaron also share how learning your arousal type can remove shame, reduce frustration, and help couples stop misreading each other as uninterested, lazy, or disconnected. Instead of forcing a one-size-fits-all script, they show how to build a language of desire that actually fits your relationship. Essential listening if you want better sex, better communication, and a more connected relationship without the guesswork. If you’ve ever wanted to understand your partner—or finally feel understood yourself—this episode gives you the framework to start. Arousal Type Questionnaire (https://www.brittnoel.com/product-page/discover-your-arousal-type) ⁠Intimacy & Relationship Q&A LIVE Wed & Fri @ 7PM PST⁠ (https://www.tiktok.com/@brittanis.booked) ⁠Aaron's Instagram⁠ (https://www.instagram.com/mr.__morton) ⁠Brittani's Coaching Website; work with me 1:1⁠ (Brittnoel.com)

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