We're all struggling with the unbearable weight of issues that society just can't seem to solve—while paying endless bills, making infinity dinners, and replying to inane work emails. So how do we deal? With some colorful and transparent commentary from hosts Dara and Amber, and helpful insights from occasional guestsperts. Trump's second term has only made the theme more relevant since the podcast began.
Friends of different backgrounds from the same Boston suburb, Dara and Amber inevitably dive deep into meaningful conversation, whether they're shooting around on the basketball court or sipping Sauvignon Blanc. In each episode of "How Do We Deal: Coping with the Confounding," they attempt to make sense of simply existing in the world today, at the nexus of massive conundrums (from the rise of fascism, to deeply rooted racism to the mental health to climate change crises) and everyday responsibilities and challenges (maintaining faith in humanity while in rush hour traffic with kids, for example).
Sometimes talking it all through is enough to help find some hope, calm, and clarity. With honesty and openness about their own experiences with everything from race and neurodivergence to parenting and balling, they want to share the conversation with you. The goal is simply to make each day a little better.
It's back to school in September, so it's poignant that Amber and Dara are back to making episodes again! As parents, are we worrying about the right things, and does anyone care? Amber and Dara are talking about why they find themselves losing their minds over inconsequential things and not being concerned enough about the things that carry actual weight. Does anyone care if you are not dressed wicked nice at a restaurant? Or if you show up late to a meeting that probably doesn't matter at all in the long run? Join them to hear how they deal with useless stressors.
Music by the talented Amanda Zorzi. Find her on Spotify:
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25 Mar 2026
No one cares
What if most of the crap we worry about doesn't matter at all? What if our energy is directed in the wrong places? In this intro to season 4, Dara and Amber kick off a new theme: No one cares! (Or do they?) We're going to look at what matters, and what doesn't, and see if we can find some peace.
This season will cover a lot, with huge perspective coming from the national crises unfolding under unfathomable idiocy in leadership. Amber has realized that being ignored by toxic people is freedom, but still struggles with how others perceive and judge neurodivergent people. Dara wonders if maybe she's worrying too much about being a few minutes late to school, or grabbing food out on a busy weeknight once in a while. They both wonder why they care about how aging affects their appearance and realize there is simply no reason to buy new shoes for an event, because no one cares. And that's amazing!
Music by the talented Amanda Zorzi. Find her on Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/artist/4W7xuppzxE0ntRhDNncNtU
19 Dec 2025
Holiday Confessions and a Look Back at 2025
A new elf arrived in town (Dara caved), belief is on the line (is Santa real?), and there's a lot of decor that may not be necessary (why is Amber doing all this?). Join Dara and Amber as they reflect on holiday magic, madness, wonder, and consumerism, and look back at how we survived and even thrived in the insanity of 2025.
Side notes: Amber apologizes for talking too much in this episode and will calm down in 2026. Dara is still developing her "No Social Media Until 18" group and will update us as campaign progress unfolds.
Thanks so, so much to all our listeners (Dealers) for coming along for the ride this year!
Music by the talented Amanda Zorzi. Find her on Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/artist/4W7xuppzxE0ntRhDNncNtU
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