How Sebbie C's It

About How Sebbie C's It

'How Sebbie C’s It' is a personal podcast about navigating life as it unfolds. From living in Los Angeles and dating as a queer man, to writing songs, working in film, and unlearning the beliefs I grew up with — this is where I talk through it all. Each episode reflects on the movies I’m watching, the projects I’m building, the music I’m writing, and the healing that comes with rewriting your own story. No answers, just perspective — and how I see it :)

Publisher

sebastian cail

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

19 Dec 2025

Latest episode

28 Feb 2026

Latest episodes

11 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   28 Feb 2026

   fame, heartbreak & hyper independence with whitney uland

   this one felt really special. i brought on someone who has seen every version of me — my producer, mentor, and friend, whitney uland. this conversation is really honest. we talk about building a life from nothing, the weird psychology of having an audience, and why success doesn’t automatically fix the parts of you that still feel human. we get into hyper independence — how it protects you, but also how it can keep people at a distance. we talk about heartbreak, burnout, nervous system stuff, and that in-between season where your life is growing fast but you’re still emotionally catching up. it’s one of those conversations that feels more like a late night talk than a podcast episode. if you’ve ever been the strong one, if you’re learning how to slow down, or if you’re figuring out how to let people in without losing yourself… this one’s for you. season one has been really special. thank you for being here and growing with me. and as always — that’s how sebbie c sees it. 📲 socials tiktok + ig: @sebastiancail whitney tiktok + ig: @whitneyuland

2. 

   20 Feb 2026

   internet stalkers, creative chaos and being too online with rxrxbbit

   this week’s episode is chaotic in the best way. i sat down with my friend and fellow artist rxrxbbit.. singer, songwriter, producer and professional internet survivor.. and we went everywhere 😭 we talk about what it actually feels like to exist online as an artist right now… from weird parasocial moments to full blown internet stalker stories. like the kind that make you laugh and then immediately lock your doors after. we also get into: – the strange reality of building a platform in 2026 – when fan attention turns uncomfortable – unhinged internet lore we’ve personally lived through – navigating safety while still wanting real community – being artists in a world that feels a little too online it’s funny, uncomfortable, honest, and very “two creatives spiraling on a couch.” if you’ve ever tried to build something online and realized the internet is equal parts magic and menace… this one’s for you. follow us: instagram + tiktok @sebastiancail @rxrxbbit

3. 

   14 Feb 2026

   lover girls, lover boys & healing cycles with anna katori

   this week on how sebbie c’s it i’m joined by my sweet friend and artist anna katori for one of the most honest convos we’ve had yet to celebrate valentines day together! we talk about growing up queer, dating burnout, and what happens when you stop chasing love and start choosing yourself. from astrology and saturn returns to heartbreak, biphobia, and healing toxic patterns — this one goes deep in the best way. we get real about softness, being lover people in a chaotic dating culture, and learning that the love you’re looking for might actually start within you. if you’ve ever felt too much, too emotional, or too soft for this world… this one’s for you. follow us on socials: @sebastiancail @annakatori

4. 

   7 Feb 2026

   what women want? the gay boy epidemic, turning trauma into art + the films you have to see in 2026 with bella gallegos

   this week on how sebbie c’s it, i’m joined by returning guest, longtime friend, and forever creative co-conspirator bella gallegos. we get into everything from dating burnout, male validation, and why women are suddenly obsessed with emotionally available (read: gay-coded) men — to how trauma shapes our art, friendships, and sense of self. we talk honestly about growing up religious, unlearning survival patterns, the difference between the male gaze vs the female gaze, and why personality + empathy will always clear looks-maxing. plus: our must-see films for 2026, movie dates as friendship love language, and why going to the cinema every week might actually save your soul. it’s thoughtful, unfiltered, a little chaotic, and very much giving “best friends on a couch with coke zero.” listen if you’re questioning dating culture, healing loudly, or just want to feel less alone while figuring it all out. follow us: @sebastiancail @_bellagallegos

5. 

   30 Jan 2026

   sundance 2026: finding inspiration while battling imposter syndrome

   hello collective 🤍 this week’s episode of how sebbie c’s it is coming to you live from sundance film festival 2026… which is honestly surreal to even type out. i talk about what it feels like to be surrounded by filmmakers and directors i admire so deeply, and how inspiring it is to be in spaces that remind me why i create in the first place. we get into: being at sundance and feeling completely out of my element (in the best way) meeting directors + watching films that shift something in you why i feel such a deep connection to writers — songwriters, filmmakers, storytellers how my new music is coming along and why i see songwriting visually storyboarding a new music video project that might be the most sebastian cail thing i’ve ever made imposter syndrome, feeling like the odd man out, and learning that belonging comes from repetition the way self worth shows up in art, relationships, confidence, and everything else a really sweet dm that reminded me not to give up on love (even when men are… men) my biggest musical inspirations right now + what’s shaping this next era this episode is a check-in, a little stream of consciousness, and a reminder that if your heart keeps pulling you toward something… you’re probably meant to follow it. thank you for being here. i love you guys!!! follow me :0 tiktok + instagram: @sebastiancail

6. 

   24 Jan 2026

   surviving a cult upbringing: the bittersweet freedom of leaving everything you’ve ever known

   hello collective and welcome back to another episode of how sebbie c’s it. today’s episode is a heavy one, but it’s also one that’s been sitting on my heart for a long time. i wanted to talk openly about what it means to grow up as a jehovah’s witness… and what it feels like to leave a world that shaped you, hurt you, and still holds so many people you love. i’ve been thinking a lot lately about grief, the kind that comes after survival. because when you finally make it out of something toxic… when you finally build a life that feels free and real… there’s this strange, bittersweet weight that follows you. it’s like you’re living the dream your younger self prayed for, but you can’t stop thinking about the people who are still back there. still stuck. still afraid. and i’ve been carrying a lot of survivor’s guilt. i talk about what it does to your nervous system to be raised in a high-control religion. how you grow up too fast, how you’re taught fear instead of unconditional love, how it seeps into your relationships, your choices, your sense of self. but i also talk about hope. because i truly believe that freedom is possible. healing is possible. and love (real love) exists outside of the systems that tried to shrink us. if you’ve ever felt like you had to start over, or if you’ve ever left something that broke you, i hope this episode makes you feel less alone. thank you for being here. thank you for listening. and thank you for letting me tell the truth. that’s how sebbie c sees it. follow me on tiktok & instagram: @sebastiancail

7. 

   17 Jan 2026

   creative freedom, learning how to write from a place of truth instead of perfection and finding magic again — with jasper bickers on his single ‘missionary’

   this week on how sebbie c’s it, i’m sitting down with one of my favorite people and collaborators — jasper bickers. singer, songwriter, producer, internet lore king, and genuinely one of the greatest creatives i know. we talk about what it actually means to build a creative life in la — the good, the weird, the parasocial, the deeply human parts of it. from session culture and social media to writing songs that are emotionally true (even if they’re not literally factual), this conversation is about trusting your voice and letting your work evolve with you. we get into queer art and religion, vulnerability in songwriting, finding your people, and why making people feel safe in creative spaces matters more than chasing virality. jasper opens up about his journey as a producer and artist, his song “missionary,” and how independence can be both terrifying and powerful. we also talk about: building creative community (online and irl) why authenticity always wins in the long run being seen on the internet and still staying human posting, pivoting, experimenting, and letting yourself change inner child energy, healing eras, and bringing magic back this episode feels like a love letter to the process — not the finish line. ( wink wink ) if you’re an artist, a creative, or just someone trying to build something meaningful without losing yourself, this one’s for you. connect with us: @sebastiancail @jasperbickers for contacts & inquiries: jasperbickers.com

8. 

   9 Jan 2026

   addiction, emotional dependency & craving chalantness — with camilla gratton on her new single 'nicotine daze'

   this week on how sebbie c’s it, i’m joined by my dear friend camilla gratton - singer, songwriter, and emotional truth-teller, for a raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation about addiction, creativity, and being human in your 20s. we talk about camilla’s brand new single 'nicotine daze' (which is officially out now), a song that explores addiction in all its forms — not just substances, but patterns, people, dopamine, and the things we crave even when we know they aren’t good for us together, we unpack: how addiction sneaks in when something goes from “fun” to “oh shit” why art gets better when you stop being vague and start being specific the pressure of releasing music people already want love addiction, emotional dependency, and craving connection why nonchalant energy is officially cancelled being seen, being vulnerable, and regulating your nervous system online finding real queer friends and building aligned community this episode is equal parts heart-to-heart, creative therapy session, and chaotic bestie banter — and if you’ve ever loved something that loved you back a little too hard, this one’s for you. 🎧 listen to “nicotine daze” by camilla gratton — out now on all streaming platforms. 🗣️follow us: @sebastiancail @camillagratton 💭 if this episode hit you in the chest, screenshot it, share it, and tag us — we see you, we feel you, and you’re not alone.

9. 

   3 Jan 2026

   kisses to my exes, new friends in your 20s & becoming your best self in 2026

   welcome back to how sebbie c’s it 🤍 this solo episode is a new year reflection recorded on january 1st, 2026 - a calm, honest reset after a deeply transformative year. in this episode, i’m talking about: going through multiple breakups in 2025 and finally finding peace with my exes letting go of limerence, fantasy, and the need to be chosen what it actually feels like to be happy being single for the first time making real, meaningful friendships in your mid-20s (not just drinking buddies) releasing scarcity, old belief systems, and relationships that no longer serve you healing publicly after growing up with fear, control, and perfectionism reclaiming my creativity, writing music again, and committing to my album setting intentions for 2026 rooted in curiosity, expansion, and self-trust this episode is about choosing yourself, holding boundaries, staying curious, and trusting that what’s meant for you will find you — even if you have to walk alone for a while. no pressure. no forcing. just clarity, growth, and riding the wave dude!! thanks for being here. Follow me and connect! :) tiktok: @sebastiancail instagram: @sebastiancail

10. 

    26 Dec 2025

    ins & outs of 2026 with bella gallegos: first kisses, avengers doomsday trailer, biphobia & finding self-respect

    welcome to the first guest episode of how sebbie c’s it. this week i’m joined by one of my very first friends in la — bella gallegos — for a conversation that feels like a sleepover, a group chat, and a collective manifesto all rolled into one. we talk about the ins & outs of 2026 for the collective, but also get into the real stuff: first kisses, queer dating, biphobia, social media exposure, movies we love, and how pop culture (yes, including the avengers doomsday trailer) shapes the way we see ourselves and the world. this episode is about growth, grief, boundaries, self-respect, and letting go of what no longer fits — romantically, socially, creatively, and digitally. in this episode, we get into: our very first kisses (yes, those stories) the ins & outs of 2026 for the collective biphobia in queer spaces & why it still exists dating men in la and navigating queer identity social media exposure, trolls, and the “bean soup theory” talking movies, pop culture, and the avengers doomsday trailer how media impacts identity, masculinity, and connection building community instead of burning out why self-respect is the real trend going into the new year if you’re rethinking dating, online culture, or what you want your next chapter to look like — this one’s for you. follow us: tiktok & instagram: @sebastiancail @_bellagallegos

11. 

    19 Dec 2025

    pilot episode: unfiltered thoughts on art, identity, and finding community in la

    welcome to the pilot episode of how sebbie c’s it. this episode is basically a soft launch into my brain, my life, and why this podcast exists in the first place. i talk about moving to los angeles, what it’s actually like trying to find your footing here, and why i wanted to create a space that feels less performative and more honest. we get into pulling back the veil on “persona,” navigating loneliness while evolving into a new version of yourself, growing up in a strictly religious household, and what it means to build community when it feels like you’re starting from scratch. i also talk about songwriting vs podcasting, turning 25 (frontal lobe fully installed, unfortunately), seasonal depression, and why now felt like the right time to finally hit record. this podcast is for artists, creatives, and emotionally curious people who want real conversations about process, identity, relationships, and becoming who you’re meant to be—without pretending everything is aesthetic and easy all the time. this is just the beginning. more guests, more stories, more chaos (lovingly). thanks for being here 🤍 follow me on tiktok & instagram: @sebastiancail

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