- 16
- Episodes
- 2026
- First episode
About How to Be a Couple
What if the goal of your relationship isn’t to stay together forever… but to actually enjoy it today? Welcome to a relationship podcast for couples who are done settling for “good enough.” If you’re married, engaged, or in a long-term relationship and you’re tired of the low-grade tension, petty arguments, and advice that says marriage is supposed to be hard work, this is for you. Most people aim for longevity. We aim for quality. On this show, we challenge the myths around “til death do us part,” break down why divorce is always an option (and why that’s not a threat), and teach you how to become your own favorite couple. You’ll learn practical relationship advice you can apply immediately, including: • How to stop constant micro-conflict • How to use love languages the right way (not the meme version) • How to separate hard moments from a “hard relationship” • How to improve communication without turning everything into a therapy session • How to create intimacy, connection, and emotional safety in real time This isn’t about surviving your marriage. It’s about enjoying it. Whether you’re looking for marriage advice, relationship coaching, communication tools for couples, or a better way to think about love and commitment, you’ll find grounded, direct conversations that help you show up as a better partner today. Because the success of a relationship isn’t measured by how long it lasts. It’s measured by how good it feels while you’re in it. Welcome :) Giuliano Grimaudo Get more at https://howtobeacouple.co/ (https://howtobeacouple.co/)
- Publisher
- Giuliano Grimaudo
- Category
- society & culture
- Language
- en
- Explicit
- No
- First episode
- 23 Feb 2026
- Latest episode
- 5 Apr 2026
Latest episodes
16 episodes in the feed.
5 Apr 2026
The Truth About Commitment in Relationships
Most people think commitment is the foundation of a strong relationship. I don’t. In this episode, I break down why putting commitment at the center of your relationship might actually be the thing holding it back. Because when you focus on staying no matter what, you start tolerating things you shouldn’t, ignoring what matters, and showing up in ways that don’t feel good. I share a different way to think about relationships. One where the goal isn’t just to last, but to actually feel good to be in. Where your focus shifts away from the relationship itself and back onto you… and how you show up inside of it. We talk about why commitment can come from fear, why “till death do us part” might not be the standard you think it is, and what happens when you stop trying to force a relationship to work and instead focus on being the best version of yourself. If you want personalized relationship coaching, I have a waitlist going to work with me 1:1. Send me a DM that says WAITLIST to @howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co) on Instagram, I'll add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
1 Apr 2026
Why You Keep Thinking Your Partner Is Cheating
This episode is about why you keep thinking your partner is cheating… even if you don’t have real proof. I break down what’s actually going on underneath that feeling, and why looking for “signs” is the worst thing you can do if you want a healthy relationship. Because once you start scanning for problems, you’ll find them. Not always because they’re real… but because your brain is wired to confirm what you’re already focused on. So now you’re stuck. Questioning things. Overanalyzing. Creating tension that might not have even been there before. We also get into where this fear is really coming from. Not just “I don’t trust them”… but what you’re actually trying to avoid feeling if it were true. And that changes everything. Because the goal isn’t to become better at catching your partner doing something wrong. It’s to understand yourself well enough that you’re not living in constant suspicion. If you’ve ever caught yourself overthinking your partner’s behavior, reading into small things, or feeling like something is off… this will hit. If you want personalized relationship coaching, I have a waitlist going to work with me 1:1. Send me a DM that says WAITLIST to @howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co) on Instagram, I'll add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
31 Mar 2026
Stop Letting Others Define Your Relationship
Stop letting other people define what your relationship should look like. This episode is about trusting yourself more than outside opinions when it comes to love, dating, and partnership. I got a comment recently that said people shouldn’t have premarital sex because it leads to choosing someone for the wrong reasons. And while I’m not here to argue that specific point, it made me realize how often we let outside voices shape what we think a “good” relationship is supposed to be. Whether it’s religion, culture, family, or social media, a lot of us are following rules we never actually chose for ourselves. In this episode, I break down why that happens and why it can quietly pull you away from the kind of relationship you actually want. I talk about the difference between doing what you think you should do versus what actually feels right to you, and why that gap is where a lot of frustration comes from. We also get into the idea that you already know more than you think you do. Not in a perfect, logical way… but in a deeper sense. The kind of knowing that shows up when something feels right, or when something clearly doesn’t. This isn’t about ignoring advice or pretending no one else has anything valuable to say. It’s about learning how to filter everything through yourself first, so you can build a relationship that actually fits you… not one you’re just trying to live up to. If you want personalized relationship coaching, I have a waitlist going to work with me 1:1. Send me a DM that says WAITLIST to @howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co) on Instagram, I'll add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
30 Mar 2026
The Missing Piece in Your Relationship Isn’t Romance
Most people think relationships are supposed to run on romance, but that’s not what actually carries things long term. In this episode, I talk about the missing piece that so many people overlook, and why focusing only on passion can leave your relationship feeling empty over time. I share what it really looks like to build a relationship that lasts, not just one that feels good in moments, but one that works in real life day to day. We get into the difference between treating your partner like a role versus actually building a real connection, why so many people end up “managing” their relationship instead of just being in it, and how shifting your mindset can completely change the way you experience your partner. If you’ve ever felt like something is off, even when things seem fine on the surface, this will help you understand why and what to do about it. If you want personalized relationship coaching, I have a waitlist going to work with me 1:1. Send me a DM that says WAITLIST to @howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co) on Instagram, I'll add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
27 Mar 2026
The Biggest Lie You Believe About Relationships
Most people believe relationships are supposed to be hard. I don’t. In this episode, I break down one of the most common ideas we hear about love and why I think it’s completely wrong. Somewhere along the way, struggle became a badge of honor in relationships. If it’s not hard, it’s not real. If it’s not work, it won’t last. And most people never stop to question that. I did. And what I found changed everything. Because once you stop accepting that relationships have to be hard, you start asking a different question… what would it look like if it was actually easy? That question alone will shift how you show up, what you tolerate, and what you expect from your relationship. It changes your standard. And your standard is what determines the kind of relationship you end up in. I’m not saying you need to leave your relationship. I’m saying you need to rethink what you’ve been told about them. Because the biggest lie about relationships isn’t just wrong… it’s keeping people stuck. If you want personalized relationship coaching, I have a waitlist going to work with me 1:1. Send me a DM that says WAITLIST to @howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co) on Instagram, I'll add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
26 Mar 2026
Stop Chasing the Honeymoon Phase
Most people think the goal is to get back to the honeymoon phase. It’s not. That version of your relationship is gone... and chasing it is actually what makes things worse. In this episode, I break down why looking backward creates frustration, pressure, and disappointment, even if it feels like you’re just trying to get something good back. The honeymoon phase wasn’t just about what you felt... it was about how you were showing up. And that’s the part most people miss. I talk about why you can’t recreate the past, what actually made that phase feel so good in the first place, and how to create that kind of connection again... but in a way that actually works long term. This is about shifting from trying to go back... to learning how to move forward the right way. If you want personalized relationship coaching, I have a waitlist going to work with me 1:1. Send me a DM that says WAITLIST to @howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co) on Instagram, I'll add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
23 Mar 2026
The Love Language Mistake Ruining Your Relationship
This episode breaks down the biggest mistake people make with love languages and how it slowly damages their relationship. If you’ve ever felt like your partner “should” be loving you a certain way, this will probably hit. I talk about how love languages were never meant to be used as a way to demand things from your partner or justify frustration when they don’t meet your expectations. That’s where things start to go sideways. What was supposed to be helpful turns into pressure, obligation, and resentment. The shift is a simple one. Your needs are your responsibility. Your partner’s needs are theirs. But in a healthy relationship, both people choose to care for each other anyway. Not because they have to, but because they want to. I also get into how to actually use love languages the right way… not as a way to get what you want, but as a tool to better understand your partner and make them feel loved in a way that actually lands. If you’ve been thinking about love languages as something you’re owed, this episode will challenge that… and probably improve your relationship because of it. If you want personalized relationship coaching, I have a waitlist going to work with me 1:1. Send me a DM that says WAITLIST to @howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co) on Instagram, I'll add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
21 Mar 2026
The Real Reason You Keep Judging Your Partner
Most relationship problems don’t start with your partner… they start with you. More specifically, they start with how you see yourself. In this episode, I break down why the way you judge yourself is the same way you end up judging your partner. And how that pattern quietly creates tension, frustration, and unnecessary conflict in your relationship. A lot of people think relationship issues come from communication, compatibility, or something the other person is doing wrong. But what I’ve seen over and over again is that it usually goes deeper than that. It’s not just about what’s happening between the two of you… it’s about what’s happening within you. We talk about the difference between real self-worth and the surface-level confidence people try to fake, why “hype yourself up” energy doesn’t actually fix anything, and how low self-worth shows up in ways you don’t always notice. I also share a simple exercise that completely changed the way I see myself (and as a result, the way I show up in relationships). It’s not complicated, but if you actually do it, it can shift a lot. If you’ve ever felt like you’re too critical of your partner, or like small things turn into bigger issues than they should… this episode will help you understand why. If you want personalized relationship coaching, I have a waitlist going to work with me 1:1. Send me a DM that says WAITLIST to @howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co) on Instagram, I'll add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
8 Mar 2026
The "Love Paradox" Nobody Talks About
For most of my life, I thought the goal was to find someone who would love me. In this episode, I talk about the strange paradox I’ve noticed about relationships. The more you feel like you need someone to love you, the harder it becomes to actually find the kind of love you’re looking for. After my first marriage ended, I spent years searching for someone who could fill that gap for me. Every person I met felt like a potential partner. I was constantly looking for the person who would make me feel loved, secure, and complete. Then something changed. I got to a point where I realized I didn’t actually need someone else to love me in order to feel loved. I started loving myself. And oddly enough, that’s when everything shifted. Within a couple of months, I met the woman who is now my wife, and eight months later we were married. In this episode, I break down the paradox behind that experience and why I believe one of the most important parts of a healthy relationship actually starts before the relationship even begins. We talk about why relying on a partner to fill your emotional needs puts pressure on the relationship, why the idea that someone should “complete you” sounds romantic but often causes problems, and how personal growth plays a huge role in the quality of your relationship. The goal of a relationship isn’t to find someone who fills the holes in you. It’s two whole people choosing to share their lives together. When you stop looking for someone to complete you, you create space for a relationship that simply makes your life better. If you want personalized relationship coaching, I have a waitlist going to work with me 1:1. Send me a DM that says WAITLIST to @howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co) on Instagram, I'll add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
7 Mar 2026
The Dangerous Lie About “Authenticity” in Relationships
In this episode, I talk about a comment someone left on one of my videos saying my relationship advice is “surface level” and that real love is messy, ugly, and requires accepting everything about your partner. I understand where that perspective comes from. A lot of people believe that deep love means accepting someone exactly as they are, no matter what. And to be clear, I actually agree with part of that. Accepting your partner for who they are is incredibly important. But there’s a big difference between accepting someone as a person and accepting their bad behavior. Somewhere along the way, people started confusing authenticity with permission. “That’s just who I am” becomes the justification for being impatient, careless, rude, or inconsiderate. And when someone pushes back, the response is often that real relationships are supposed to be messy and ugly. I don’t buy that. Authenticity doesn’t mean you stop trying to be a good partner. It doesn’t mean you stop growing. And it definitely doesn’t mean your partner should have to tolerate behavior that makes their life harder. In this episode, I unpack the difference between wearing a mask and simply choosing better behavior. I talk about why growth is a necessary part of love, why relationships are always either improving or declining, and why hiding behind the label of “authenticity” is often just an excuse to avoid becoming a better partner. Because the real goal of a relationship isn’t two people demanding acceptance from each other for their worst habits. It’s two people helping each other become the best versions of themselves. If you want personalized relationship coaching, I have a waitlist going to work with me 1:1. Send me a DM that says WAITLIST to @howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co) on Instagram, I'll add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
2 Mar 2026
The Hidden Language Hurting Your Relationship
The words you use when you talk about your relationship are shaping the relationship you end up with. Most couples don’t realize they’re constantly speaking in prevention language. We don’t want to fight. We don’t want to drift apart. We don’t want to get divorced. But your brain doesn’t steer based on preference. It steers based on focus. And if most of your focus is on what you’re trying to avoid, that’s the direction you slowly move toward. In this episode of How to Be a Couple, I break down the difference between prevention language and creation language, and why that shift alone can change the trajectory of your marriage. Avoiding fights is not the same thing as building connection. Not getting divorced is not the same thing as being deeply happy. I’ll walk you through a simple 48-hour language audit you can do starting today. You’ll see exactly how often you frame your relationship around what you don’t want versus what you’re actively trying to create. And once you see it, you can’t unsee it. If you want a relationship that feels intentional, connected, and alive, this is one of the simplest but most powerful shifts you can make. And if you want personalized help with this in your relationship, I have a waitlist going to work with me 1:1. Just send me a DM on Instagram (@howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co)) that says WAITLIST and I'll be sure to add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
28 Feb 2026
The Most Romantic Marriage Mindset
What if the most romantic thing you could believe about your marriage is that you don’t have to be there? In this episode, I talk about why knowing divorce is a real possibility can actually make your relationship stronger. Not because you threaten it. Not because you live in fear. But because perspective changes how you show up. So many couples say “divorce isn’t an option.” It sounds committed. It sounds noble. But when you remove the possibility of leaving, something subtle happens. You stop choosing each other. You start coasting. And over time, resentment creeps in. I share why my relationship with my wife is the best part of my life, and why I genuinely believe we’ll be together until we die. Not because we’re obligated to be. But because we keep choosing to be. We talk about how the reality of death changes how you live, and how the reality of divorce can change how you love. You don’t think about it every second. You don’t use it as a weapon. But when you truly internalize that your marriage is a choice every day, it shifts your energy, your accountability, your respect, and your attraction. If you’ve ever wondered how to create a marriage that feels peaceful, playful, deep, and alive, this episode will challenge the way you think about commitment and help you see what’s actually possible. And if you want personalized help with your relationship, I have a waitlist going to work with me 1:1. Just send me a DM on Instagram (@howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co)) that says WAITLIST and I'll be sure to add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
27 Feb 2026
Don’t Hit the Pole: Stop Steering Toward Divorce
Most couples say the same thing: “Divorce is not an option.” It sounds strong. It sounds committed. It even sounds romantic. But what if that mindset is actually steering you in the wrong direction? In this episode, I break down a psychological concept called target fixation, the idea that you move toward what you focus on. It’s why motorcyclists are taught to look where they want to go, not at the obstacle they’re trying to avoid. And it’s why so many couples who are obsessed with never getting divorced end up calibrating their entire relationship around fear. When your main goal is “don’t fail,” you optimize for survival. You tolerate. You endure. You manage. But you stop actively creating something great. I’ll walk you through why the brain responds to focus, not preference… how constantly thinking about divorce keeps it mentally active… and why shifting from “preventing divorce” to “building connection” changes everything. If you want a relationship that feels intentional, connected, and chosen (not just preserved), this episode will challenge the way you think about commitment. And if you want personalized help with your relationship, I have a waitlist going to work with me 1:1. Just send me a DM on Instagram (@howtobeacouple.co (http://howtobeacouple.co)) that says WAITLIST and I'll be sure to add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
26 Feb 2026
The Right Way to Use Love Languages
Love languages aren’t a joke. And they’re not just trivia you mention in passing. In this episode, I break down the right way to actually use love languages in your relationship so your partner consistently feels loved (not just randomly when you remember). A lot of couples know their love language. Very few actually apply it. And even fewer turn it into something intentional and repeatable. That’s the missing piece. In the last episode, we talked about how your experience defines the quality of your relationship. But your partner’s experience matters too. And if you want a great relationship, you can’t leave their experience up to chance. I explain why systemizing love languages doesn’t make your relationship less romantic. It protects it. I walk through how to create a simple baseline layer of daily habits that make sure your partner feels loved without killing spontaneity. And I give practical examples for all five love languages: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and gifts. If you’ve ever thought, “It should just come naturally,” this episode will challenge that idea in a productive way. Because knowing your partner’s love language means nothing if you don’t build it into your life. And if you want personalized relationship coaching to help with this, send me a DM on Instagram (@howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co)) that says WAITLIST. I'll add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
24 Feb 2026
What If Your Partner Never Changes?
What if your partner never changes? Seriously. What if this is who they are… and it’s 100% up to you to decide whether your relationship is great or not? In this episode, I talk about one of the most common default settings in relationships: blaming your partner for the quality of your experience. It feels good in the moment to believe the problem is “out there.” If they would just stop doing X, start doing Y, or finally understand Z… everything would be fine. But that mindset unintentionally hands over all your power. I break down why playing the victim feels comforting, why it keeps you stuck, and how it makes your happiness dependent on someone you don’t control. I also walk through a question that might feel uncomfortable at first, but it has the potential to completely change how you experience your relationship. We talk about responsibility (without self-blame), perception, control, and what it really means to have a great relationship. Not one that just lasts. Not one that looks good on the outside. But one that feels good to you. And no, this is not about tolerating toxic or abusive behavior. This is about shifting from “they need to change” to “what would I have to do to make this beautiful, even if they never do?” If you’ve ever thought, “My partner is the problem,” this episode will challenge you in the best way. And if you want personalized relationship coaching to help with this, send me a DM on Instagram (@howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co)) that says WAITLIST. I'll add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
23 Feb 2026
Three Questions to Test Your Relationship
Most people measure relationship success by one thing: how long it’s lasted. I think that’s the wrong metric. In this episode, I break down why duration is a terrible way to measure the health of your marriage and what actually matters instead. Just because you’ve been together 10, 20, or 40 years doesn’t automatically mean your relationship is good. It might be. It might not. Length isn’t proof of quality. We’ve been taught that “till death do us part” is the ultimate goal, so we optimize for staying instead of enjoying. We endure instead of evaluate. We focus on not getting divorced instead of building something we’re actually excited to wake up to. I share why shifting your goal from “forever” to “quality” changes everything. When you stop treating divorce as a moral failure and start treating unhappiness as information, you can finally have honest conversations. You can address tension early. You can move from obligation to choice. And I’ll walk you through the three diagnostic questions I use to test the real quality of a relationship. Not surface-level stuff. Questions that force clarity. Questions that reveal whether you’re aligned, growing, and genuinely happy… or just surviving. If you want a relationship that’s admired not just endured, this episode will challenge how you think about success in marriage. And if you want personalized relationship coaching, send me a DM on Instagram (@howtobeacouple.co (https://www.instagram.com/howtobeacouple.co)) that says WAITLIST. I'll add you to the list and let you know when a slot opens up.
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