Wondering how to be a terrible daughter? Listen as Elizabeth Malamed and Megan Caper, mental health professionals who also happen to be cousins, discuss growing up in toxic families, surviving narcissistic abuse, and moving forward after trauma. The How To Be a Terrible Daughter podcast is a place to find community, put words to your experience, and laugh at the dark stuff. We'll share our stories from our own childhoods, make mental health concepts easy to understand, and interview intriguing guests along the way. Oh, and you can also let Megan and Elizabeth hate your parents for you if you're having mixed feelings. We don't mind, we've got plenty of pent up anger for everyone. If your parents have ever called you terrible, horrible or something even worse, come join us!
How To Be a Terrible Daughter
Claim This Podcastby Elizabeth Malamed and Megan Caper
Podcast Overview
Wondering how to be a terrible daughter? Listen as Elizabeth Malamed and Megan Caper, mental health professionals who also happen to be cousins, discuss growing up in toxic families, surviving narcissistic abuse, and moving forward after trauma. The How To Be a Terrible Daughter podcast is a place to find community, put words to your experience, and laugh at the dark stuff. We'll share our stories from our own childhoods, make mental health concepts easy to understand, and interview intriguing guests along the way. Oh, and you can also let Megan and Elizabeth hate your parents for you if you're having mixed feelings. We don't mind, we've got plenty of pent up anger for everyone. If your parents have ever called you terrible, horrible or something even worse, come join us!
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March 3, 2026
030: Narcissistic Systems 2: The Return
<p dir="ltr">In this episode, we take the blueprint of the narcissistic family and lay it over the systems we're living inside.</p> <p dir="ltr">And unfortunately, the overlay lines up.</p> <p dir="ltr">We talk about how the tactics you survived as a child didn't disappear. They just scaled. The gaslighting got institutional. The blame got bureaucratic. The punishment became policy. Same dynamics, now with a PR team.</p> <p dir="ltr">If you grew up being told your pain was an overreaction, your needs were excuses, and your limits were character flaws, you might feel an unsettling familiarity in the way our current systems operate. The messaging is almost identical, just delivered through HR departments and press conferences.</p> <p dir="ltr">We unpack structural gaslighting and how "personal responsibility" often functions as a marketing strategy. When healthcare collapses, wages stagnate, childcare is unaffordable, and public services are gutted, the narrative somehow lands back on you. If you just budgeted better. If you just worked harder. If you just optimized your morning routine.</p> <p dir="ltr">We look at how the system rewards people who were effectively born near the finish line and then holds them up as proof the marathon is fair. Success stories become evidence that the structure works, while everyone struggling is framed as defective.</p> <p dir="ltr">We talk about how the word "excuse" has been weaponized. A lot of what gets labeled an excuse is actually a nervous system limit. A disability. A lack of access. A biological need. Food, shelter, rest, safety, healthcare. These are not indulgences. They are baseline requirements for being human.</p> <p dir="ltr">And yet, the system trains us to override our own pain to keep performing. To disconnect from burnout. To ignore chronic stress. To treat exhaustion as weakness instead of information.</p> <p dir="ltr">We also get into how narcissistic systems create trauma bonds at scale. You are harmed by the system and told it's your only source of stability. You are exploited and told to be grateful. You are surveilled and told it's for your safety.</p> <p dir="ltr">Dependency plus harm equals confusion. Confusion plus hope equals loyalty. And that's how it sustains itself.</p> <p dir="ltr">Once you see the pattern, it stops feeling personal. It starts feeling systemic. And that shift changes everything.</p> <p dir="ltr">And with that, we're closing out Season 3 of How to Be a Terrible Daughter. As always, thank you for joining us here on the podcast and please do keep in touch while we take this short break! If you haven't already, don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or your favorite podcast app to make sure you get new episodes as soon as they drop. Unlike the narcissist in your life, we'd love to hear your stories and how they affected you. Email us or DM us on Instagram, @terribledaughterpod or at H2Bterrible@gmail.com! </p> <p dir="ltr">Want to know more about Megan's trauma informed healing work? Find out here: <a href="http://www.megancaper.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener">www.megancaper.com</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Want to get your very own How to Be a Terrible Daughter stickers (along with more cool merch that we talked about)? Click <a href= "https://www.etsy.com/shop/heinousoffspring/?etsrc=sdt§ion_id=55778492" target="_blank" rel="noopener">HERE</a>! </p> <p dir="ltr">Before you go, did you know we're also on YouTube? You can watch what we're up to <a href= "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4aUTE1zfK9A" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">HERE</a>, or if <a href= "https://www.tiktok.com/@h2bterrible" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">TikTok</a> or <a href= "https://www.instagram.com/terribledaughterpod/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Instagram</a> is your jam, we're there as well and would love for you to join us! </p> <p dir="ltr"><strong> What We Cover In This Episode: </strong></p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">How narcissistic parent tactics scale up into the systems we live in today. [1:40]</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Structural gaslighting and the reasons "personal responsibility" is often just a fancy marketing term for shifting the blame of systemic failures [13:49]</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why "excuses" are actually valid needs, and how the system trains us to ignore our own pain [29:57]</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">The ways in which systemic narcissism rewards those people who were born on "Mile 24" of this marathon we're running [29:08]</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">How systemic narcissism results trauma bonding at scale and the terrifying costs associated with it [41:39]</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why narcissistic and sociopathic traits are ultimately rewarded and reinforced in the C-suite [46:02] </p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">How financial freedom and the "Rich Auntie" aspirational pivot threaten patriarchal control [48:49]</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">A "live triggering" moment as we share experiences of us accepting help and being proud of ourselves [54:06]</p> </li> </ul> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">An update on what's next for this podcast as we shift into break mode and how you can still stay involved with the show during this time [59:39]</p> </li> </ul> <p> </p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>Links & Resources: </strong></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/systemic-narcissism-part-1/id1743605850?i=1000750103949" target="_blank" rel="noopener">029: Systemic Narcissism Part 1 </a></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/how-to-be-a-terrible-daughter/id1743605850?i=1000745865608" target="_blank" rel="noopener">027: Brother, Sister, Soldier, Spy</a></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href= "https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stanford_prison_experiment" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">Stanford Prison Experiment</a></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.youtube.com/shorts/tq4odaGyXA4" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Therapy Jeff's Video on Pam Bondi </a></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://katebornstein.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Kate Bornstein</a></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://thenapministry.wordpress.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Rest As Resistance (The Nap Ministry)</a></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://heinousoffspring.etsy.com/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">Check Out Our New Etsy Shop</a> (and Get Your Very Own "Former Scapegoat" and "Former Golden Child" Merch!)</p> <p>Follow Us on <a href= "https://www.youtube.com/@terribledaughterpod" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">YouTube</a> & <a href= "https://www.tiktok.com/@h2bterrible" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">TikTok</a> <strong id= "docs-internal-guid-d873b842-7fff-4e22-eb79-90a6bd10b607"> </strong></p>
February 17, 2026
029: Systemic Narcissism Part 1
<p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> In this episode, we zoom out.<br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> Way out.<br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> We take everything we've learned about narcissistic family systems and scale it up. Because once you see it, you can't unsee it. The same patterns that shaped your childhood might also be shaping your workplace, your healthcare system, your government, your church, your economy.<br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> Fun!</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> We talk about how narcissistic abuse doesn't just live in individual homes. It thrives in systems. It institutionalizes itself. It gets rebranded as "policy," "tradition," "meritocracy," "family values," "the free market," "God's will," and occasionally "corporate culture."<br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> And for those of us who grew up in it, there's a particular kind of vertigo in realizing the larger world feels… eerily familiar.<br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> We break down what defines a narcissistic system: constant extraction, rigid hierarchy, zero accountability, and an intense hostility toward anyone who names reality. These systems cannot tolerate dissent. They punish whistleblowers. They reframe harm as strength. They protect power at all costs.<br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> Sound familiar?<br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> We explore how societal structures replicate the Golden Child and Scapegoat dynamic. The Golden Child success story becomes propaganda. The exceptional one who "made it" is held up as proof the system works. Meanwhile, marginalized communities are forced into the Scapegoat role, absorbing blame for structural failures they did not create.<br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> We talk about how the "Productive vs. Lazy" binary functions as moral control. You are only valuable if you produce. If you rest, if you get sick, if you burn out, if you need support, you have committed the biological crime of having limits. The system would prefer you not have those.</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> We look at how people are treated as disposable units of labor rather than human beings with dignity, nervous systems, and actual needs. You are replaceable. You are measurable. You are profitable. But you are not meant to be whole.<br /> <br /></span><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"><!-- [if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><!--[endif]--></span><span style="font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">We unpack the underfunding-and-blame cycle, where institutions are deliberately weakened and then individuals are shamed for not thriving inside broken structures. It's the societal version of breaking your legs and asking why you're not winning marathons.<br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> We also talk about facades. The "corporate family." The "God loves you" messaging. The patriotic speeches about freedom and opportunity. Narcissistic systems are masters of branding. The rhetoric says care. The behavior says control.<br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> And underneath it all is rage. The same kind of rage you saw in your parent when you challenged them. The rage that comes when power is questioned.<br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> We close by talking about what we jokingly call Anarchist Calisthenics. Tiny acts of agency. Micro-rebellions. Strengthening the muscle that says, "Actually, no." Reclaiming independent thought. Reclaiming discernment. Reclaiming your right to reality.<br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> Because when you grew up in narcissistic systems, spotting them in the wild is not paranoia.<br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> It's pattern recognition.<br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> And if you're feeling angry listening to this one, good.<br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> That might just be your nervous system remembering what dignity feels like.<br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> As always, thank you for joining us here on the podcast! If you haven't already, don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or your favorite podcast app to make sure you get new episodes as soon as they drop. Unlike the narcissist in your life, we'd love to hear your stories and how they affected you. Email us or DM us on Instagram, @terribledaughterpod or at </span> <u><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: blue; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> <a href= "mailto:H2Bterrible@gmail.com">H2Bterrible@gmail.com</a></span></u><span style="font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">! <br /> <br /></span> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> <!-- [if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--> <!--[endif]--></span><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Want to know more about Megan's trauma informed healing work? Find out here: <span style="color: #1155cc;"><a href= "https://www.megancaper.com" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">www.megancaper.com</a></span><br /> <br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!-- [if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--> <!--[endif]--></span><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Want to get your very own How to Be a Terrible Daughter stickers (along with more cool merch that we talked about)? Click <a href= "https://www.etsy.com/shop/heinousoffspring/?etsrc=sdt§ion_id=55778492"> <span style= "color: #467886;">HERE</span></a>! <br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> Before you go, did you know we're also on YouTube? You can watch what we're up to <a href= "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4aUTE1zfK9A" target="_blank" rel= "noopener"><span style="color: blue;">HERE</span></a>, or if <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@h2bterrible" target="_blank" rel= "noopener"><span style="color: blue;">TikTok</span></a> or <a href= "https://www.instagram.com/terribledaughterpod/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><span style="color: #1155cc;">Instagram</span></a> is your jam, we're there as well and would love for you to join us! </span> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <strong><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> What We Cover In This Episode:<span style= "background: yellow;"><br /></span></span></strong><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span></p> <ul style="margin-top: 0cm;" type="disc"> <li class="MsoNormal" style= "color: black; margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> The ways in which narcissistic patterns have scaled up from our childhood homes into our societal, cultural, and economic systems [2:03]<br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!-- [if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></li> <li class="MsoNormal" style= "color: black; margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> How to identify a narcissistic system by looking for constant extraction, zero accountability, and the punishment of anyone who names reality [7:48]<br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!-- [if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></li> <li class="MsoNormal" style= "color: black; margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> Why the system props up "Golden Child" success stories as propaganda while forcing marginalized scapegoats to absorb all the blame [12:40]<br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!-- [if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></li> <li class="MsoNormal" style= "color: black; margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> How the "Productive vs. Lazy" binary is used to make you feel worthless for the biological "crime" of just existing and breathing [21:42]<br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!-- [if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></li> <li class="MsoNormal" style= "color: black; margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> What the current system does to treat individuals as a "disposable unit of labor" rather than a human being with dignity and needs [26:03]<br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!-- [if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></li> <li class="MsoNormal" style= "color: black; margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> Why it also "breaks your legs" through underfunding and then blames your personal character when you can't run the marathon [33:41] <br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!-- [if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></li> <li class="MsoNormal" style= "color: black; margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> How to look beyond the "God loves you" or "Corporate family" facade to see the underlying narcissistic rage and control [49:52]<br /> <br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></li> <li class="MsoNormal" style= "color: black; margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> The real reason we are skipping the "Crazy Mom Off" this week to dive into the enraging and absurd reality of systemic failures [51:55]<br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!-- [if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br style= "mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <!--[endif]--></span></li> <li class="MsoNormal" style= "color: black; margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> A final reminder to flex your rebellion muscle using "Anarchist Calisthenics" to reclaim your agency and independent action [52:27] <br /></span></li> </ul> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <strong><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> Links & Resources: </span></strong> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> <a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/how-to-be-a-terrible-daughter/id1743605850?i=1000745865608" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><span style= "color: #1155cc; background: white;">027: Brother, Sister, Soldier, Spy</span></a><br /> <br /></span><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"><a href="https://medium.com/@leila.jamison.ipo/anarchist-calisthenics-flexing-the-muscles-of-critical-thought-63c891d81533" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Anarchist Calisthenics: Flexing the Muscles of Critical Thought (Medium)</a></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; background: white;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> <a href="https://heinousoffspring.etsy.com/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener"><span style="color: blue;">Check Out Our New Etsy Shop</span></a></span> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; color: black; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> (and Get Your Very Own "Former Scapegoat" and "Former Golden Child" Merch!)</span></p> <p style= "color: black; margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal; vertical-align: baseline;"> <span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; 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February 3, 2026
028: The Field Guide to Common Neighborhood Narcissists
<p dir="ltr">Not all narcissists look the same. Some are loud, shiny, and aggressively self-impressed, others are quiet, aggrieved, and somehow still manage to make every situation about themselves. In this episode, we break down both the obvious and the sneakier versions, from the classic grandiose type to the subtler subtypes that operate under the radar while quietly running the entire emotional economy of the family.</p> <p dir="ltr">We also move into the darker end of the pool, including family dynamics where cruelty isn't a side effect but a feature. We talk about what happens when narcissism overlaps with traits like paranoia and sadism, and why some parents seem to genuinely enjoy watching their child squirm. We unpack the subtype that renders a child effectively invisible unless they are actively serving the parent's immediate needs, and how growing up that way trains you to disappear with impressive efficiency.</p> <p dir="ltr">Along the way, we share more unhinged "Crazy Mom Offs," including a no-win gift situation and Megan's deeply uncomfortable lunch from hell, which somehow managed to be both polite and emotionally violent. We also talk about what it really takes to close loopholes in boundaries when you're done negotiating with people who treat rules like a fun intellectual challenge, and what finding real community can look like after years of being told you were unlikeable. Dark, validating, and a little too familiar, this episode connects a lot of uncomfortable dots you were probably trained not to look at too closely.</p> <p dir="ltr">Thank you for joining us here for another season of the podcast! If you haven't already, don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or your favorite podcast app to make sure you get new episodes as soon as they drop. Unlike the narcissist in your life, we'd love to hear your stories and how they affected you. Email us or DM us on Instagram, @terribledaughterpod or at H2Bterrible@gmail.com! </p> <p dir="ltr">Want to get your very own How to Be a Terrible Daughter stickers (along with more cool merch that we talked about)? Click <a href= "https://www.etsy.com/shop/heinousoffspring/?etsrc=sdt§ion_id=55778492" target="_blank" rel="noopener">HERE</a>! </p> <p dir="ltr">Before you go, did you know we're also on YouTube? You can watch what we're up to <a href= "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4aUTE1zfK9A">HERE</a>, or if <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@h2bterrible" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">TikTok</a> or <a href= "https://www.instagram.com/terribledaughterpod/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Instagram</a> is your jam, we're there as well and would love for you to join us! </p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>What We Cover In This Episode:</strong></p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why it's vital to discuss the "flavors" of narcissism that aren't as obvious as the typical aggrandizing version [1:46]</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">We defining the "Grandiose Narcissist", and how this person is the "vanilla" type of narcissist [5:09]</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Introducing the "Covert/Professional Victim" subtype that uses hypersensitivity and victimhood as a way to remain the center of attention [8:15]</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">How the "Dark Triad" combination of psychopathy, sadism, and paranoia creates a truly dangerous family dynamic [14:11]</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">The specific subtype that renders the child "invisible" unless they are actively serving the parent's immediate needs [29:11]</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">More unbelievable "Crazy Mom Offs": A no-win gift giving situation and Megan's incredibly uncomfortable "lunch from hell" [32:47]</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Elizabeth's incredibly powerful tool of closing loopholes on boundaries and what Megan has done in her new home city to find true community while overcoming years of being told she was unlikeable by her mother [43:45] </p> </li> </ul> <p> </p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>Links & Resources: </strong></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="mailto:H2Bterrible@gmail.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Amsterdam Society of Feral Women - Email Megan for an Invite! </a></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href= "https://traffic.libsyn.com/d2bedf32-b236-4eaa-88cc-d0a7dd560b76/027_Brother_Sister_Soldier_Spy.mp3" target="_blank" rel="noopener">027: Brother, Sister, Soldier, Spy</a></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://heinousoffspring.etsy.com/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">Check Out Our New Etsy Shop</a> (and Get Your Very Own ""Stay Sane, Stay Terrible" Merch!)</p> <p>Follow Us on <a href= "https://www.youtube.com/@terribledaughterpod" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">YouTube</a> & <a href= "https://www.tiktok.com/@h2bterrible" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">TikTok</a></p> <p> </p>
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