Matt Bays & Matt Heincker do a deep dive into what it takes to find (& keep) a gay man. While compassionate and sincere, these two gay besties provide bitchy wisdom for the gay man looking for love.
This week on How to Find & Keep a Gay Man, the Matts are getting intimate—with the five love languages, that is. You know the ones: words, touch, quality time, gifts, and doing the damn dishes (aka acts of service). We break down how each style shows up in gay relationships—and yes, we spill the tea on our own, too.
But here’s the twist: it’s not just about your love language. We’re asking you to get curious about his—whether he’s a first date, a long-term love, or your husband who still thinks “words of affirmation” means moaning during sex.
So if you want to love harder, smarter, and with fewer hurt feelings over an unacknowledged text or a missed cuddle, press play. Your gay man will thank you.
28 Feb 2025
The Art of Conversation
In a world dominated by DMs, double taps, and endless scrolling, meaningful face-to-face conversations can feel like a lost art—especially in dating. Inspired by a chat with one of our listeners, this episode dives into the challenges and nuances of real-life connection.
From first dates to long-term relationships, we explore how to move beyond texting and social media exchanges to engage in deeper, more authentic conversations. Whether it’s battling nerves, knowing what to say, or simply being present, we’re sharing practical tips to help you put your best self forward.
With face-to-face socializing down by 45% over the last two decades, this discussion couldn’t be more timely. If you grew up on screens, if you've lost the ability to look someone in the eye and share openly, if you're looking for a better way to connect, this episode is for you!
31 Jan 2025
Is Your Algorithm Keeping You Single?
In this episode of How to Find and Keep a Gay Man, we’re tackling the “checklist syndrome” that might be keeping you from finding love. Do you have a laundry list of must-haves for your perfect partner—hot, rich, smart, fit, kind, and dog-loving (but not too obsessed)? Have your “non-negotiables” become armor to keep you safe from vulnerability and rejection?
Join us as we dissect how unrealistic expectations and the gay beauty standard can block genuine connection. Through humor, sharp insights, and some hard truths, we’ll help you reframe your dating approach by focusing on what really matters.
Stop waiting for perfection and start seeing the beauty in what’s real. Because love isn’t about algorithms—it’s about connection.
Let’s rewrite your list together. Tune in, open up, and take one step closer to finding your person.
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