I have been bored on vacation. I have been bored on a seven day cruise to the Bahamas. I have been bored at parties, at bars, and in the middle of things I paid real money for and actually wanted to do. I have been bored while I was busy. So if being bored just means not enough is happening, why does it keep finding me when plenty is happening? I went looking for an answer and found out that boredom is not one feeling. There are two completely separate things that both come out of your mouth as "I'm bored," and most of us spend our entire lives only ever treating one of them. That's why your phone kills the feeling for about fifteen minutes and then intensifies it once you set your phone down. This episode is about what your boredom is actually trying to tell you, and why you have probably written off activities you genuinely like without ever understanding why.
14 Oct 2026
a quick update, i'm sick
I'm sick this week so there's no full episode. This is about a minute of me saying that out loud instead of just going quiet for seven days. if you haven't heard last week's episode yet, start there instead: "you're not actually being honest about how you feel." It's about the four things we do instead of saying the thing we actually want to say, plus the research on what happens to people who finally say it.
i'll be back next wednesday. come find me on Instagram in the meantime: @livewithkare
7 Oct 2026
you’re not actually being honest about how you feel
there's a conversation you're not having right now. you already know which one it is. and you've already decided exactly how it would go. this week we get into the four things we do instead of just saying the thing. telling four people and never the one person. saying a smaller version and then getting hurt when they don't do the math. apologizing for it before they've even heard it. holding it for three weeks until it comes out at eleven at night about something completely unrelated. none of those are honesty. but when they go badly, we file the results under honesty anyway, and then we stop trying. then there's a study from 2018 where researchers had people write down a criticism of somebody close to them, predict exactly how it would land, and then say it out loud to that person's face. same words, before and after. what people predicted and what actually happened were not close. i also get into emotional granularity, why bad is a useless word, and why handing somebody a vague feeling is so much safer than handing them an actual request. plus hip surgery has turned me into a person who genuinely cannot ask for help, so we get into that too. live with care!
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