Many people try to answer what makes relationships work. This podcast aims to answer how do we work relationships? I’m Brittani Procknow, a relationship therapist working with individuals and couples to deepen intimacy and live relationally. I’m taking insights from behind closed doors to you, a listener seeking to improve your relational wellbeing. I’m talking to people about everyday concepts including mental health, work, dating, families, friendships, and hobbies to give insights and actions towards living relationally. I’m grateful to have you here. Let’s dive in.
Purity Culture, Faith & Sexual Wholeness with Bridgett Blood
Bridgett is a sexual storywork coach, speaker, and cohost of the Dating and Desire Podcast. She helps Christian singles, dating, and engaged couples engage their sexual desire in a way that aligns with their values and cultivates deep self-trust—proving you can live a life that’s both hot and holy.
In this episode, we cover:
Bridgett's journey from a conservative Christian upbringing to becoming a pastor — and the cost her family paid for that decision
What "sexual story work" means and how past narratives shape adult relationship patterns
Why Bridgett calls purity culture a pendulum swing that overcorrected from the sexual revolution
How control and fear (not malice) drove purity culture's rules — and the harm that followed
The link between purity contracts, lost bodily autonomy, and later vulnerability to abusive relationships
Sexual joy vs. sexual loneliness — two forces that shape how we move toward connection
Why abstinence-minded couples still need to build sensual and emotional intimacy, not just avoid sex
The "art of sharing your skin": slowing down physical escalation to build real relational safety
How grief and rage are part of deconstructing purity culture's promises
Jay Stringer's framework: sex as designed to reveal, provoke, and heal
Connect with Bridgett: bridgettblood.com | Instagram | Dating and Desire Podcast (Tuesdays)
Guide to Value-Based Boundaries in Dating
Instagram @bridgetblood
Dating and Desire Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5ktRQ8WGSw5xXc6XFVjiw9?si=33c382fc67f04a1f
Bridgett's Website
Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc Sponsor: Larry's Coffee — https://larryscoffee.com/relate
8 Oct 2026
It’s Not About the Money: Shame, Fear & Your Money Story with Nathan Astle
Welcome to How to Relate! This episode is all about money with financial therapist Nathan Astle. Nathan Astle is based in Kansas City, with a background in couples and family therapy. He founded the Financial Therapy Clinical Institute, where financial therapists, counselors, and planners work together in a collaborative care model. Nathan has been featured in numerous outlets like The New York Times, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today, CNBC, USA Today, TD Ameritrade, Money Geek, and more.
In this episode, we talk about:
Why money is more like a language than a number, and how it shapes identity
Fear and shame, the two biggest emotions people bring to money
The money timeline exercise for uncovering your money story
Why couples fighting about money are often fighting about different things (freedom vs. safety)
Intergenerational money trauma, from Depression-era scarcity to Boomer collections to Millennial minimalism
Why money conflict doesn’t cause divorce, and what actually does
“Who’s at the controls?” and keeping fear from driving your financial decisions
Nathan's Website: financialtherapyclinicalinstitute.com Resources: https://www.financialtherapyclinicalinstitute.com/resource-library
Brittani's StuffWebsite: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknowIntimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dcSponsor: Larry’s Coffee — https://larryscoffee.com/relate
1 Oct 2026
Should I Stay or Should I Go? with Katherine Cullen, LCSW
Too good to stay, too bad to leave is a scenario many people find themselves in. When the relationship could be better, when do you know it's time to leave or love the one you're with? We're here to answer.
Katherine Cullen, LCSW, is a therapist in Nashville, Tennessee. Katherine co-authored The Truth About Exercise Addiction, and was an editor at Psychology Today before she became a therapist. Check out her Instagram for comedy, therapy, and relatable entertainment.
In this episode:- "Avoidance culture" in dating, and how getting fixated on the ick can protect us from intimacy- Mimetic desire: where our icks come from in the first place- Going back to your senses (an idea from inference-based CBT) to tell whether you're in the right relationship- Red flags that look pink, and spotting patterns over 6–12 months- Gottman's "dream within conflict," with the dishwasher fight as the example- The doughnut hole exercise for sorting out what you can and can't compromise on- How to find your relational needs- The Four Horsemen and their antidotes, plus making the scripts sound like you
Books mentioned: Fight Right by John and Julie Gottman, Should I Stay or Should I Go? by Lundy Bancroft, and Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum
Find Katherine:IG: https://www.instagram.com/kcullentherapy/ Website: https://integrateself.com
Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc Sponsor: Larry's Coffee — https://larryscoffee.com/relate
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