How to Survive Divorce Podcast

About How to Survive Divorce Podcast

Divorce can feel like a complete life meltdown—but you don't have to navigate it alone. How to Survive Divorce Without a Rebound, Chocolate Coma or Complete Life Meltdown is for mothers facing separation and divorce who are carrying the weight of heartbreak, co-parenting, financial stress, and starting over. Each week, you'll hear honest conversations, practical advice, expert insights, and real stories to help you move through the chaos with more clarity, confidence, and support. Because surviving divorce isn't about having all the answers—it's about taking the next step, one day at a time. Contact details for people to reach me: me@thisismechrissy.com (mailto:me@thisismechrissy.com) or through my website www.thisismechrissy.com (http://www.thisismechrissy.com/)

Publisher

Chrissy Murphy

Category

education · society & culture · society & culture · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

21 Jun 2026

Latest episode

19 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

15 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   19 Oct 2026

   Episode 14: Dating After Divorce — Unfiltered Interview with Paul Harkins, Author of The Refrigerator Test

   Dating after divorce can bring up questions about confidence, identity and whether you’re ready to meet someone new. In this candid conversation, Chrissy Murphy and Paul Harkins challenge the idea that dating is a necessary next step. Paul encourages people to reconnect with themselves, get out into the world and find activities they enjoy, without making the search for a new partner the main goal. Paul explains the idea behind his book, The Refrigerator Test: small details and early observations can offer clues about how someone lives and what a relationship with them might be like. The pair also talk about how dating has changed, how texting can be misread, and why in-person conversations matter when you’re trying to understand another person. The discussion turns to speaking honestly, listening without immediately trying to solve someone’s problem, and creating enough emotional safety for both people to be themselves. Chrissy and Paul reflect on how silence, unspoken needs and assumptions can build distance, and why partners have to communicate what they want rather than expect each other to guess. They also share thoughts on intimacy, everyday care, dating apps and meeting people organically. Their advice is to take your time, invest energy back into yourself and pay attention to the ordinary moments. A relationship is built through consistent effort and mutual understanding, not just impressive dates or first impressions. For more information or further support head to www.thisismechrissy.com (https://studio.podcast.co/podcast-city/samantha-boardman-podcast-city-morning/www.thisismechrissy.com)

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   12 Oct 2026

   Episode 13: The NUMBER 1 thing I did first to reclaim my life after divorce

   Divorce can affect far more than a relationship. It may change family routines, finances, work, health, confidence and a person’s sense of identity—all at once. I n this personal episode of How to Survive Divorce, host Chrissy Murphy looks back on the period after her separation, when she tried to keep carrying the responsibilities she had always managed while also building a business, studying and finding a new financial footing. Chrissy describes a gradual decline in her wellbeing, followed by a period of severe distress. She shares how reaching a low point led her to make a decision: she wanted her life to change, and she would look for a way forward. She calls this a change in the narrative around divorce—not denying grief, anger or difficult behaviour, but choosing not to let those experiences define the rest of her life. Books, faith and other people’s stories helped her “borrow hope” when she could not yet feel it for herself. The episode then turns that idea into a simple practice. Chrissy encourages listeners to notice the thoughts that keep repeating, consider how those thoughts affect their feelings and actions, and ask questions inspired by Byron Katie’s work: “Is it true?”, “How do I react when I believe this thought?” and “Who would I be without it?” She also describes using gratitude to interrupt a spiral and return attention to what matters in the present. These are reflections from her own experience, not a promise that one technique will work for everyone. Chrissy closes by encouraging consistency and self-compassion: difficult days may still happen, and change takes time. The episode is an invitation to take one small step towards a life that feels more peaceful and self-directed, and to seek appropriate professional support when needed. More information about Chrissy’s coaching and support options is available at thisismechrissy.com (https://www.thisismechrissy.com/).

3. 

   6 Oct 2026

   Episode 12: Perimenopause & Divorce - The discussion every woman & mother needs to hear right now!

   Divorce can affect far more than a relationship. It can bring changes to family life, work, health, confidence and a person’s sense of identity. In this episode of How to Survive Divorce, Chrissy Murphy speaks with Gemma Bernard about how those changes can coincide with perimenopause, another significant period of transition for many women. Gemma shares her personal experience of unexpected symptoms, searching for answers and changing how she approached her wellbeing. She and Chrissy reflect on how difficult it can be to distinguish what is connected to a life event, what may be related to perimenopause, and what support might help. Their conversation encourages listeners to approach their own experience with curiosity and to seek qualified advice where they need it. The discussion also makes room for grief: grief for a relationship, a familiar life, or a former version of yourself. Chrissy and Gemma talk about why women may need more than well-meaning messages from a distance. Practical, caring support—such as company, a meal, help with the children or simply someone willing to listen—can make a difference. Gemma shares small ideas she uses in her own approach, including taking a few minutes to breathe, connecting with your body, spending time outdoors, eating a nourishing breakfast and going for a walk. These are personal perspectives from the conversation, not medical advice. The episode closes with a reminder that every person’s circumstances are different and that listeners should seek appropriate professional support for their own needs. For more information or further support head to www.thisismechrissy.com (https://studio.podcast.co/www.thisismechrissy.com)

4. 

   8 Sept 2026

   Episode 11: The Places We Go When Divorce (or our Ex) Makes Us Feel Wronged

   Divorce can leave us feeling that something important has been taken from us — our trust, our family, our future, our financial security or even the person we thought we were. When that happens, sadness isn’t always the emotion we experience first. Instead, we can find ourselves moving towards anger, contempt, disgust, hatred and an overwhelming need for the other person to understand exactly how badly they hurt us. In this episode of How to Survive Divorce, Chrissy Murphy explores six emotional places we can find ourselves when divorce makes us feel wronged: anger, contempt, disgust, dehumanisation, hate and self-righteousness. Drawing openly on her own divorce experience, Chrissy discusses how these emotions can initially protect us, give us energy or help us create boundaries — but can also keep our former partner at the centre of our emotional lives long after the relationship itself has ended. Chrissy also explores the importance of separating a person from their behaviour. Recognising someone’s humanity does not mean approving of what they did, trusting them again, reconciling or abandoning healthy boundaries. It means refusing to allow another person’s actions to turn bitterness into part of your own identity. Ultimately, this episode is about moving beyond the question, “How do I make them understand what they did to me?”and towards a more powerful one: “What kind of life do I want to build now?” Because healing doesn’t mean pretending the hurt didn’t matter. It means deciding that what happened will not be allowed to author the rest of your life. For more information or further support head to www.thisismechrissy.com

5. 

   31 Aug 2026

   Episode 10: The 3 Things You Need Most When Divorce Feels Too Much

   When you’re going through divorce, there can be an overwhelming number of things demanding your attention: legal decisions, finances, parenting arrangements, housing, work, administration, emotional upheaval and uncertainty about what comes next. In this episode of How to Survive Divorce, Chrissy Murphy asks listeners to temporarily cut through that noise and concentrate on what she considers the essentials. The first is support. Chrissy explains that genuine support isn’t about having dozens of people around you—it’s about having the right people around you. She discusses creating a deliberate support crew, understanding the different roles people can play and, importantly, learning to actually accept help when it is offered. As she points out, your lawyer isn’t your therapist, your therapist isn’t your financial adviser and your best friend shouldn’t have to carry every part of the journey. The second area is sleep and nourishment. Chrissy talks about the effect exhaustion can have on decision-making, emotional regulation and the ability to cope with an already stressful situation. She shares practical ideas that have helped her, including creating a wind-down routine, limiting late-night scrolling and divorce discussions, writing racing thoughts down, getting morning sunlight, eating in a way that supports her personally and choosing movement that feels supportive rather than punishing. Finally, Chrissy encourages listeners to simplify and slow down. Divorce is not the season for becoming Superwoman. Some commitments can wait. Dinner can be simple. The house does not need to be perfect. Store-bought cupcakes are allowed. By reducing unnecessary demands, Chrissy argues that women can preserve their emotional and physical resources and create space for clearer decisions. Her message is simple: you don’t have to do everything, know everything or fix everything today. Timestamped Chapters 00:51 – The Three Things That Actually Matter 03:29 – Non-Negotiable #1: Build Your Support Crew 04:35 – Learning to Actually Accept Help 06:03 – Non-Negotiable #2: Sleep and Nourish 07:45 – Nourishing and Moving Your Body 10:01 – How to Survive Divorce Support Programme 10:38 – Practical Ways to Support Better Sleep 12:30 – Non-Negotiable #3: Simplify and Slow Down 14:26 – Preservation, Not Perfection 15:27 – The Three Essentials to Remember 17:05 – One Step at a Time You can learn more at: https://www.thisismechrissy.com (https://www.thisismechrissy.com/) or contact Chrissy at: me@thisismechrissy.com (mailto:me@thisismechrissy.com)

6. 

   24 Aug 2026

   You’re Divorced… So Why Are You Still Arguing Like You’re Married?

   Divorce may officially end a marriage, but when children, finances and years of shared history remain, communication with an ex-partner can continue long afterwards. A simple disagreement about a late pick-up, an $80 school excursion or a parenting decision can suddenly become an argument about who did more, who cared more and who was the better partner or parent. In this episode, Chrissy introduces the Drama Triangle and its three positions: the victim, who feels powerless; the persecutor, who blames or attacks; and the rescuer, who steps in to fix things for everyone. Importantly, these aren't fixed personalities. The same person can move between all three roles during a single conversation. Using relatable examples involving school events, money, teenagers, Christmas arrangements and communication between separated parents, Chrissy demonstrates just how quickly people can be pulled into the triangle. She also discusses her own tendency to rescue others and the important distinction between supporting another adult and taking responsibility for their choices. Ultimately, this episode isn't about working out what role your ex is playing. It's about developing enough awareness to recognise what role you are being invited into. By asking what you can control, what the actual issue is and whether something is genuinely yours to fix, you can begin stepping away from the cycle and towards calmer, clearer and healthier communication. You can learn more at: https://www.thisismechrissy.com (https://www.thisismechrissy.com/) or contact Chrissy at: me@thisismechrissy.com (mailto:me@thisismechrissy.com)

7. 

   17 Aug 2026

   Episode 8: Finding Stillness in The Divorce

   Divorce can make life incredibly noisy. Even when the house is quiet, your mind might still be racing — replaying conversations, questioning decisions, worrying about money, thinking about the children or wondering what your future is going to look like. In this episode of How to Survive Divorce, Chrissy Murphy explores what it means to deliberately create moments of stillness during one of the most emotionally demanding periods of your life. Stillness doesn’t mean pretending everything is fine, ignoring your responsibilities or sitting perfectly peacefully while the world falls apart around you. It can simply mean allowing yourself a moment where you do not have to solve anything. Chrissy encourages listeners to recognise how easily we can fill every available space with noise, activity, phones, work and distraction — particularly when being alone with our thoughts feels uncomfortable. But sometimes slowing down gives us something that busyness cannot: the opportunity to understand what we are actually feeling and what we genuinely need. This episode is a reminder that you don't need to have your entire future mapped out today. Finding calm may begin with something incredibly small — a pause, a walk, a few quiet minutes, a cup of tea, a breath or simply allowing yourself to be where you are without demanding an immediate answer. You can learn more at: https://www.thisismechrissy.com (https://www.thisismechrissy.com/) or contact Chrissy at: me@thisismechrissy.com (mailto:me@thisismechrissy.com)

8. 

   10 Aug 2026

   Episode 7: The One Thing Children Need Most During Divorce (and it's not what you think!)

   If you're going through separation or divorce, there may be one question that keeps you awake at night: “Am I stuffing my kids up?” When you're barely holding yourself together, how are you supposed to help your children navigate what they're feeling too? The truth is, children experience divorce in their own way. They're grieving the family structure, routines and sense of home they once knew—even if that home wasn't perfect. And because they don't always have the words to explain what's happening inside them, their grief can show up as big emotions, changes in behaviour, shutting down, anxiety, frustration or difficulties settling. In this episode, Chrissy explores what children really need during this incredibly difficult season—and why it may be very different from what we instinctively try to give them. Drawing from her own experience as a mother navigating divorce and single parenting, Chrissy shares the three things she believes can make a profound difference to children during family separation. You'll hear why trying to make everything “normal” isn't necessarily the answer, why doing more for your children can sometimes actually be too much, and why slowing life down can give their nervous systems the space they desperately need. Chrissy also talks about the importance of looking after your own nervous system first. When you're living under prolonged stress, your patience, memory, focus and emotional capacity can all be affected. That doesn't mean you're broken or failing as a parent. It means you're human—and your children can feel the difference when you have enough capacity to be emotionally present with them. One of the most powerful parts of the episode explores bedtime and why those quiet moments at the end of the day can become an unexpected window into what's really going on for your children. Chrissy shares personal stories from her own family and the simple routines she created that allowed her children to talk, process, laugh, cry and simply feel safe. You'll also hear Chrissy speak honestly about one of the hardest realities of separation: you can't control what happens in the other household. But you can control what happens in yours. You don't have to create a perfect home. You don't have to prevent your children from feeling sad, angry or confused. And you certainly don't have to get everything right. What matters is creating a place where your child knows they can be completely themselves—and where they know they have somewhere safe to land. If you've ever worried that your divorce will cause your children lasting emotional damage, this episode is for you. Because your children don't need you to fix the divorce. They need something much more powerful. And it may be something you already have the ability to give them. Timestamps 00:04 — The fear many parents carry during divorce 02:00 — Children grieve too 03:46 — How family stress can affect children 06:02 — What children may need more than “things” 08:11 — The three things that can help 10:38 — Why you need to put your oxygen mask on first 13:05 — Why slowing everything down matters 15:27 — Giving children space to simply be 17:41 — Why bedtime can be so powerful 21:26 — Safety, independence and resilience 23:59 — Creating lifelong connection 26:14 — Helping children release what's inside 27:49 — What you can't control in the other household 29:11 — Focusing on what you can control 30:19 — Presence, not perfection You can learn more at: https://www.thisismechrissy.com (https://www.thisismechrissy.com) or contact Chrissy at: me@thisismechrissy.com (mailto:me@thisismechrissy.com)

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   3 Aug 2026

   Episode 6: From Panic to Peace: How EFT Can Calm Your Mind During Divorce

   Episode Summary Divorce doesn't just change your relationship status—it can leave your mind racing, your nervous system on high alert, and even the smallest decisions feeling impossible. In this deeply personal episode, Christy sits down with accredited EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) practitioner Nina Nyback to explore one of the tools that helped her navigate the most difficult season of her own divorce. Rather than simply talking about anxiety, overwhelm and survival mode, Chrissy shares why this technique became an important part of her healing journey and why she believes every woman navigating separation should know it exists. Together, they discuss what happens to the nervous system during divorce, why fear and overwhelm can feel so consuming, and how emotional regulation can become an essential part of moving from simply surviving toward healing. Nina also explains the science behind EFT, addresses the skepticism many people have when they first hear about tapping, and shares why it's now being used alongside more traditional approaches to emotional wellbeing. The episode also includes a live demonstration so listeners can see what an EFT session looks and feels like in real time, making this an incredibly practical and insightful conversation. Whether you're in the middle of separation, supporting someone who is, or simply looking for another way to better understand stress and emotional regulation, this episode offers hope, reassurance and a gentle reminder that you don't have to carry everything alone. In This Episode 00:00 – Welcome and introduction 00:51 – Why this conversation matters and Chrissy's personal experience with EFT 03:31 – Nina's journey from anxiety to becoming an EFT practitioner 05:21 – What EFT is and how it works 06:35 – Why tapping seems unusual—and why many people become believers 07:45 – The research supporting EFT 08:33 – EFT compared with traditional talk therapy 09:36 – Helping adults and children process emotions differently 11:06 – Measuring emotional intensity and tracking progress 12:45 – The biggest emotional challenges during divorce 16:25 – Common fears experienced after separation 17:34 – Why getting to the root cause matters 20:14 – A live EFT demonstration with Chrissy 27:49 – When self-help is enough—and when to seek professional support 30:07 – A simple way to use tapping during stressful moments 31:29 – When to work with an EFT practitioner 32:04 – Nina's rapid-fire advice for women starting over 33:31 – Chrissy's reflections and final encouragement About Today's Guest Nina Nyback is an accredited Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) practitioner, certified coach, qualified teacher, instructional designer and author. After overcoming debilitating anxiety herself, she now helps people regulate their nervous systems, build emotional resilience and navigate life's most challenging transitions with greater confidence and calm. Resources 🌐 Learn more about Nina Nyback: www.ninanyback.com 💛 Connect with Chrissy: www.thisismechrissy.com

10. 

    27 Jul 2026

    Episode 5: How to Support a Mother Going Through Divorce (Without Losing Yourself in the Process)

    Divorce doesn't just change the life of the mother going through it—it changes the lives of the people who love her too. If you're watching a friend, sister, daughter, colleague or loved one navigate divorce and thinking, "I don't know how to help anymore," this episode is for you. And if you're the mother walking through separation, you'll finally feel seen, understood and validated in ways you may never have experienced before. In this deeply personal episode, Chrissy shares what is really happening beneath the surface during the survival season of divorce. Why does she seem like a completely different person? Why do well-intentioned conversations sometimes make things worse? And how can the people around her offer genuine support without losing themselves in the process? Drawing on her own experience, Chrissy explores the emotional reality of divorce, the hidden grief many people never see, and the small acts of kindness that can have a lasting impact. Whether you're supporting someone through separation or living it yourself, this conversation offers a new perspective on connection, compassion and hope. If this episode reminds you of someone, please share it with them. It could be the conversation that helps them feel less alone. Chapters 00:00 Welcome & why this episode is different 02:00 A powerful exercise to understand divorce from the inside 08:15 What survival mode really looks like 16:30 Why trying to "fix" her often doesn't help 20:45 The kind of support that changes everything 28:00 Small acts that create lasting hope 31:45 A message for both supporters and separated mums Resources If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Together, we can create more understanding, compassion and support for mothers navigating one of life's hardest seasons. You can learn more at: https://www.thisismechrissy.com (https://www.thisismechrissy.com/) or contact Chrissy at me@thisismechrissy.com (mailto:me@thisismechrissy.com)

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    20 Jul 2026

    Episode 4: Think You’re Coping? Alcohol, Sex, Dating, Busyness & Other Divorce Traps

    Think you’re coping? If you've ever wondered why the pain keeps resurfacing despite doing everything you can to distract yourself, this episode is for you. Divorce can leave you reaching for anything that promises relief—chocolate, wine, dating apps, casual sex, endless work, intense workouts or simply staying busy enough not to think. The coping strategies that feel harmless today can quietly become the very things standing between you and the life you're trying to rebuild. Left unchecked, they don't just keep you stuck—they can affect your health, your future relationships and the emotional environment your children grow up in. In this honest and compassionate episode, Chrissy Murphy explores the coping strategies so many women turn to during separation and divorce. Without judgement or shame, she invites you to become curious about the habits that may be keeping you stuck, and how small, kinder choices can help you move towards genuine healing. Need More Support? Chrissy also offers one-on-one coaching and a four-week How to Survive Divorce programme. You can learn more at: https://www.thisismechrissy.com (https://www.thisismechrissy.com/) or contact Chrissy at me@thisismechrissy.com (mailto:me@thisismechrissy.com) Episode Highlights 00:00 – Welcome & why we avoid emotional pain 02:37 – What avoidance really looks like 03:24 – Chocolate, wine & emotional numbing 06:47 – When healthy habits become unhealthy 08:17 – Dating apps, validation & new relationships 10:13 – Overworking, cleaning & staying busy 12:02 – Why avoidance affects important decisions 19:22 – You can't outrun grief forever 21:30 – Chrissy's burnout & panic attack story 24:59 – Building healthier coping strategies 26:01 – Self-love before dating 28:29 – What to do when you slip backwards 29:02 – The biggest takeaway for your healing journey

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    13 Jul 2026

    Episode 3: Healthy Boundaries After Divorce: What to Do when Your Ex Won’t Cooperate

    Episode Summary Setting boundaries with an ex after divorce sounds simple—until you're the one trying to enforce them. In this episode, Chrissy explores why boundaries can feel so difficult, especially when you're dealing with a controlling, manipulative, emotionally immature, or high-conflict ex-partner. If you've ever found yourself over-explaining, defending every decision, or walking on eggshells just to keep the peace, this conversation will help you understand why those patterns are so hard to break. Chrissy unpacks one of the biggest myths about boundaries: they are not designed to change someone else's behaviour. Instead, healthy boundaries are about deciding what you will and won't participate in. Through honest stories from her own divorce journey, she explains how accepting that your ex may never become the co-parent you hoped for can actually become the beginning of your freedom. Acceptance isn't about approval or giving up—it's about stopping the exhausting fight against reality so you can focus on what you can control. The episode also explores the hidden role of people-pleasing after divorce. Many parents have spent years keeping everyone else comfortable, avoiding conflict, and carrying the emotional load for the family. That history can make healthy boundaries feel selfish, cold or even cruel. Chrissy explains why those feelings are completely normal and why the discomfort often means you're building healthier habits rather than doing something wrong. One of the most powerful discussions centres on parenting through disappointment. Chrissy shares the painful truth that we cannot protect our children from every hurt caused by another parent's choices. Instead of trying to rescue them from every difficult experience, she explains how we can become their safe place—helping them process emotions, build resilience and learn they can survive life's challenges with our love and support beside them. You'll also hear practical strategies you can begin using immediately, including why taking a pause before replying to difficult messages can completely change the outcome of a conversation, how to communicate with greater confidence instead of reacting emotionally, and why strengthening your own self-worth makes it easier to maintain boundaries without guilt. Chrissy also shares a simple exercise to help you identify where boundaries are needed and how to start putting them into practice. Whether you're newly separated or years into co-parenting, this episode offers compassionate guidance, practical tools and reassuring reminders that protecting your peace doesn't make you difficult—it makes healing possible. If you've ever wondered whether it's possible to be kind, compassionate and still stand your ground, you won't want to miss this conversation. Need More Support? Chrissy also offers one-on-one coaching and a four-week How to Survive Divorce programme. You can learn more at: https://www.thisismechrissy.com (https://www.thisismechrissy.com) Or contact Chrissy at: me@thisismechrissy.com Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome and why boundaries are so challenging after divorce. 02:00 – The biggest misconception about boundaries. 03:05 – Why acceptance is the first step toward protecting your peace. 05:30 – How people-pleasing makes boundaries feel uncomfortable. 07:45 – You're responsible for your behaviour, not your ex's reaction. 08:55 – Why you can't protect your children from every disappointment. 10:35 – Coaching programme and additional support. 11:00 – Letting go of control while supporting your children. 13:20 – What healthy boundaries actually look like. 14:18 – The power of pausing before responding. 16:25 – How self-worth strengthens your boundaries. 17:45 – A practical exercise to help you create healthier boundaries. 18:25 – Final takeaway: boundaries protect your peace—not your ex's behaviour.

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    6 Jul 2026

    Episode 2: The Invisible Load Every Divorced Mother Carries - Why separation can leave you exhausted, forgetful and emotionally overwhelmed.

    The Invisible Load Every Divorced Mother Carries Why separation can leave you exhausted, forgetful and emotionally overwhelmed. Have you ever stood in the supermarket and forgotten why you were there? Cried because someone asked what was for dinner? Walked into a room only to completely lose your train of thought? If you're going through separation or divorce and wondering, "What's wrong with me?"—this episode is for you. In this honest conversation, I unpack what divorce is really doing to your brain, body, and nervous system, and why so many mothers feel like they're barely holding it together. We'll explore why may feel exhausted, why simple decisions may suddenly feel impossible, and why the emotional load of divorce is so much heavier than most people realise. You'll also learn about the four survival responses with relevant examples directly related to separation and how they quietly shape the way you cope during one of life's biggest transitions. Most importantly, you'll discover why your reactions make sense and why you don't need to carry the shame that so many women do. If you've been telling yourself to "just get it together," this episode is your reminder that you're not weak—you've been carrying an invisible load for far too long. You'll walk away with a deeper understanding of what's happening inside your body, practical ways to begin calming your nervous system, and the reassurance that healing doesn't start with being stronger—it starts with understanding yourself. Take a breath, press play, and know you're not walking this road alone. Need More Support? Chrissy also offers one-on-one coaching and a four-week How to Survive Divorce programme. You can learn more at: https://www.thisismechrissy.com (https://www.thisismechrissy.com/) or contact Chrissy at me@thisismechrissy.com (mailto:me@thisismechrissy.com) 00:51 — Why Divorce Can Make You Feel Broken Chrissy begins the episode by exploring why divorce can leave women feeling overwhelmed, forgetful, emotional and as though they are losing their mind. 04:33 — Understanding the Nervous System Chrissy breaks down the nervous system in simple terms, describing it as the body’s internal safety system that constantly asks, “Am I safe right now?” 05:30 — When Emotional Danger Feels Like Physical Danger This chapter explores why the brain and body can respond to divorce stress as though they are under threat, creating symptoms such as panic, insomnia and brain fog. 06:50 — Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn Chrissy introduces the four main nervous system survival responses and explains that there is no “right” way to respond to trauma or stress. 07:48 — Fight: Anger, Control and Defensiveness 09:49 — Flight: Constant Busyness and Avoidance 10:51 — Freeze: Numbness, Shutdown and Disconnection 12:27 — Fawn: People-Pleasing and Over-Accommodating 14:00 — The Invisible Emotional Load of Divorce This chapter explores how women are often expected to keep parenting, working, managing school life and making major decisions while internally falling apart. 16:34 — Decision Fatigue and Chronic Overwhelm Chrissy shares how even simple choices, such as what to eat for dinner, can feel impossible when your system is overloaded. 17:57 — Why You Cannot Think Your Way Out of This Chrissy explains why overthinking, analysing and replaying the past cannot heal an overwhelmed nervous system on their own. 20:21 — Regulation techniques and tools Chrissy explores different ways to regulate and calm the body to help manage through this season. Podcast references (no affiliations) Book mentioned: Breath by James Nestor David Hawkins’ Map of Consciousness Book mentioned: Power vs Force by David Hawkins

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    29 Jun 2026

    Episode 1: Why you can’t just “move on” after divorce

    Why can divorce feel like one of the hardest losses to explain? In this opening episode Chrissy explores the hidden grief of divorce and why it often feels so confusing, overwhelming and isolating. Through personal stories, practical insights and gentle guidance, she offers a new way to understand what you're experiencing and why it's not so easy to just "move on." Drawing on her own lived experience, Chrissy shares the hidden side of divorce grief that few people talk about. She explores why this kind of loss can feel so different from other forms of grief, the surprising emotions that often catch women off guard, and one concept that helps explain why letting go can feel so difficult. You'll also hear practical, compassionate strategies to help you navigate the emotional ups and downs without feeling like you're doing it "wrong." Whether you're newly separated or years into your healing journey, this conversation is a reminder that understanding your grief is often the first step towards finding peace. If this episode resonates with you, please like, share and subscribe so you do not miss future episodes. And if you know another woman who is going through divorce, please send this episode to her. It may be exactly the reminder she needs today. Need More Support? Chrissy also offers one-on-one coaching and a four-week How to Survive Divorce programme. You can learn more at: https://www.thisismechrissy.com (https://www.thisismechrissy.com/) or contact Chrissy at me@thisismechrissy.com (mailto:me@thisismechrissy.com) Timestamped Chapters 02:10 – Why Divorce Grief Feels Different 03:30 – What You Are Really Grieving 05:30 – The Emotional Roller Coaster 07:10 – Understanding Ambiguous Grief 09:20 – Why Other People May Not Understand 11:56 – How Grief Can Show Up 15:55 – Strategy One: Name What You Are Experiencing 17:45 – Strategy Two: Stop Expecting Consistency 19:30 – Strategy Three: Create Small Daily Anchors 22:20 – Strategy Four: Interrupt the Meaning-Making Spiral 24:00 – Strategy Five: Allow Mixed Emotions 26:30 – Be Intentional About Your Inputs 28:15 – Stay Connected 29:45 – One Small Step at a Time 31:16 – Important Disclaimer

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    21 Jun 2026

    How to Survive Divorce

    Welcome to How to Survive Divorce Without a Rebound, Chocolate Coma or Complete Life Meltdown — a podcast for mothers navigating separation, divorce, heartbreak, co-parenting, financial stress, and the overwhelming reality of starting over. Divorce can feel like your whole life has been turned upside down. One moment you are trying to hold everything together for your children, and the next you are quietly falling apart behind closed doors. This podcast is for the mums who are exhausted from making decisions, managing emotions, dealing with conflict, carrying new responsibilities, and wondering whether anyone truly understands how hard this season of life can be. Hosted by Chrissy, this podcast offers honest conversations about what divorce is really like — the grief, fear, anger, overwhelm, uncertainty, and the daily strength it takes to keep going, even when your heart is breaking. The trailer introduces the heart of the show: support, understanding, practical advice, expert insights, real stories, and gentle reminders that you do not have to walk through this alone. This is not a podcast about pretending everything is fine. It is not about rushing your healing or having all the answers. It is about helping you get through the days that feel unbearable, finding support in the chaos, and taking the next step — one day, one decision, one breath at a time. Whether you are newly separated, deep in the divorce process, co-parenting through conflict, rebuilding your confidence, or simply trying to work out who you are now, this podcast is here to help you feel understood, supported, and a little less alone. Contact Chrissy: Email: me@thisismechrissy.com Website: www.thisismechrissy.com (http://www.thisismechrissy.com/)

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