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About How's Your Gender?
How’s Your Gender? is a show where we talk about gender -- yours, mine, and ours. Host Wesley Flash (he/him) chats with special guests about their gender journeys & so much more.
- Publisher
- Wesley Flash
- Category
- society & culture
- Language
- en
- Explicit
- No
- First episode
- 29 Mar 2021
- Latest episode
- 31 Dec 2021
Latest episodes
12 episodes in the feed.
31 Dec 2021
Alyson & Buzz Slutzky - Family Matters
Buzz Slutzky (they/them) is an artist & educator. Alyson Slutzky (she/her) is a former social worker / therapist. She’s also Buzz’s mom. The Slutzky’s join Wesley (he/him) to talk about: + Bat Mitzvahs & revising our gender stories + Alyson’s former work as a therapist to families of trans people while also being a mom of two trans kids + Two examples of Buzz’s art, Clothes Feelings & My Surgery Story, as a way to process trans identity Watch: Clothes Feelings (2016) (https://vimeo.com/176901813) Watch: My Surgery Story (2019) (https://vimeo.com/337019859) For more info on Buzz & their work, visit their website (https://www.buzzslutzky.com/) or follow them on instagram @buzzslutzky (https://www.instagram.com/buzzslutzky/) For more info on Alyson, visit her website (https://alysonslutzky.com/)* or you can follow her @alyson_acts_positively_blue (https://www.instagram.com/alyson_acts_positively_blue/) *Please note, she is no longer in private practice. Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com (http://wesleyflash.com/) For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender (https://www.instagram.com/howsyourgender/) on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads (https://www.instagram.com/flashreads/) Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (https://www.oliverslategreene.com/) (he/him), Emily Bate (http://emilybate.com/) (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (http://www.charleyparden.com/) (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics. If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline (https://translifeline.org/) US (877) 565-8860 Canada (877) 330-6366
23 Dec 2021
Chris E. Vargas + Trans Representations
Chris E. Vargas (he/him) is a video maker, interdisciplinary artist, & the self appointed executive director of MOTHA, The Museum of Trans Hirstory and Art. He joins Wesley (he/him) to talk about: + Trans representation in popular culture + Trans icons & iconography + What makes a piece of artwork “trans” For more about Chris, visit his website (https://www.chrisevargas.com/ ) or follow him on instagram @chrisevargas (https://www.instagram.com/chrisevargas/) For more on MOTHA, visit the website (https://www.motha.net/) or follow them on instagram @m_o_t_h_a (https://www.instagram.com/M_O_T_H_A/) References: Riki Wilchins (https://www.advocate.com/commentary/2017/6/07/i-was-recently-informed-im-not-transsexual) & The Transexual Menace (https://zagria.blogspot.com/2014/03/riki-anne-wilchins-1952-computing.html#.YcMjvxPMI-Q) Works / Artists Cited: The Crying Game (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6N426QCQ-Y) Ma Vie En Rose (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8EfW77w9i9c) Desperate Living (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6cLVOOW7OFM) ORLAN (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vQgWYQBkNBk) Genesis Breyer P-Orridge & Lady Jaye (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d8BX2FDrogo) SOPHIE (https://youtu.be/m_S0qCeA-pc) Cut for time / Honorable Mentions: Disclosure (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ysbX6JUlaEc) Titane (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q5_w2W5G9OM) Border (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QMs28A1s1OA) Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list (http://tinyletter.com/flashreads) & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com (http://wesleyflash.com/) For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender (https://www.instagram.com/howsyourgender/) on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads (https://www.instagram.com/flashreads/) Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (https://www.oliverslategreene.com/) (he/him), Emily Bate (http://emilybate.com/) (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (http://www.charleyparden.com/) (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics. If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline (https://translifeline.org/) US (877) 565-8860 Canada (877) 330-6366
16 Dec 2021
Jessica Lanyadoo + Big Femme Energy
Jessica Lanyadoo (she/her) is a high femme astrologer, psychic medium & animal communicator who joins Wesley (he/him) to talk about: + The loudness of high femme energy + Why queer & trans people love astrology + Do animals have gender? + So! much! more! in our queerest episode to date For more on Jessica, check out her: Website: https://www.lovelanyadoo.com/ (https://www.lovelanyadoo.com/) Podcast: https://www.lovelanyadoo.com/ghost-of-a-podcast (https://www.lovelanyadoo.com/ghost-of-a-podcast) Book: https://www.lovelanyadoo.com/relationship-book (https://www.lovelanyadoo.com/relationship-book) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessica_lanyadoo/ (https://www.instagram.com/jessica_lanyadoo/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/jessicalanyadoo (https://twitter.com/jessicalanyadoo) Apps: Tiny Spark (https://apps.apple.com/us/app/tiny-spark/id1437934449?utm_campaign=%F0%9F%93%B1%20tiny%20spark%20for%20ios&utm_medium=social&utm_source=linktree) and Astrology for Days (https://astrologyfordays.com/) And for even more content, sign up for her Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/JessicaLanyadoo?utm_medium=social&utm_source=linktree&utm_campaign=%F0%9F%94%B4+patreon+benefits+%26+exclusive+content+) Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list (http://tinyletter.com/flashreads) & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com (http://wesleyflash.com/) For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (https://www.oliverslategreene.com/) (he/him), Emily Bate (http://emilybate.com/) (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (http://www.charleyparden.com/) (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics. If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline (https://translifeline.org/) US (877) 565-8860 Canada (877) 330-6366
9 Dec 2021
Sam Rise + Trans as in limitless
Musician, movement MC, & GRP co-director Sam Rise (http://samantharise.com/) (they/them) joins Wesley (he/him) to talk about: + GRP’s life-giving work creating liberatory futures through sound & joy + The careful year-long name change process at GRP – which feels a lot like a gender transition + Centering in community as a technology for connection & self understanding For more about GRP visit https://www.girlsrockphilly.org/ (https://www.girlsrockphilly.org/) To make a donation to support the work of GRP https://www.girlsrockphilly.org/donate (https://www.girlsrockphilly.org/donate) To learn more about Sam, check out their website http://samantharise.com/ (http://samantharise.com/) Stream their music on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/artist/3WSkD9PyqMw0Nwjz6fETge) And follow Sam on instagram @samantharise (https://www.instagram.com/samantharise/) To sit with Many Faces Sangha, a mindfulness community centering the voices & wisdom of BIPOC, women & gender minorities, TLGBQ+ folks, find out more @manyfacessangha (https://www.instagram.com/manyfacessangha/) In this episode, the concept of capital G "Gender" and lowercase g "gender" is borrowed from the text Trans Care by Hil Malatino. Trans Care, published in 2020, (and available to read *for free* right now online) https://manifold.umn.edu/projects/trans-care (https://manifold.umn.edu/projects/trans-care) For more, check out Season 1 Episode 5 of How's Your Gender? https://anchor.fm/howsyourgender/episodes/Hil-Malatino--Trans-Care-evr2lj (https://anchor.fm/howsyourgender/episodes/Hil-Malatino--Trans-Care-evr2lj) Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list (http://tinyletter.com/flashreads) & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com (http://wesleyflash.com/) For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (https://www.oliverslategreene.com/) (he/him), Emily Bate (http://emilybate.com/) (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (http://www.charleyparden.com/) (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics. If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline (https://translifeline.org/) US (877) 565-8860 Canada (877) 330-6366
2 Dec 2021
Wesley Flash + Back For Seconds
Producer & friend of the pod Oliver Slate-Greene (he/him) interviews Wesley (he/him) in an ep Oliver has titled: Back for Seconds! Yep, we’re kicking off Season 2 with a proper sit down with podcast host, Wesley Flash. They cover such topics as: + Trans representation on 90’s talk shows + Wesley’s choose your own adventure gender transition + Gender liberation as living your best house gender (& whatever other genders you wanna be!) You can find out more about Oliver at oliverslategreene.com (https://www.oliverslategreene.com/) and listen to his podcast, Digital Mystic (https://open.spotify.com/show/1xhpNSGKRl4ZFBnBT3qWo3?si=SMXBVcBSTB2migGTFk2VpA&nd=1) wherever you listen to podcasts. Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list (http://tinyletter.com/flashreads) & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com (http://wesleyflash.com/) For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (https://www.oliverslategreene.com/) (he/him), Emily Bate (http://emilybate.com/) (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (http://www.charleyparden.com/) (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics. If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline (https://translifeline.org/) US (877) 565-8860 Canada (877) 330-6366
6 May 2021
Ocean & Fischer + Queer Family
Welcome to the final episode of Hows Your Gender? Season 1! For the season finale, Wesley (he/him) talks to two trans people in a queer family. Ocean Ricardo (he/they) is an 18 year old trans queer witchy Puerto Rican and Black African American. Alex Fischer (they/them) is a white, queer, Sicilian and Ashkenazi Jewish, radical finance nerd, and parent. Together we talk about: + Fischer's path to becoming an adopted parent to a queer trans teen & embracing help along the way + Ocean's journey to gender fluidity and changing his name to align with their feelings + The joys, frustrations, & lessons learned being in Queer Family & so much more! For more information about Camp Outright Vermont, visit http://www.outrightvt.org/camp-outright/ (http://www.outrightvt.org/camp-outright/) To support queer and trans youth through the magic of Camp Outright, make a financial donation today! Thank you so much for taking this gender journey with us. We will be back this summer with new episodes for Season 2. In the meantime, help us spread the word about How’s Your Gender! You can tell your friends to listen wherever they get their podcasts, follow us on Spotify, subscribe on Apple podcasts, and leave a review to help boost our audience. Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list (http://tinyletter.com/flashreads) & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com (http://wesleyflash.com/) For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (https://www.oliverslategreene.com/) (he/him), Emily Bate (http://emilybate.com/) (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (http://www.charleyparden.com/) (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics. If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline (https://translifeline.org/) US (877) 565-8860 Canada (877) 330-6366
29 Apr 2021
Hil Malatino + Trans Care
Academic and author Dr. Hil Malatino (he/they) joins Wesley (he/him) in this episode to talk about: + Trans Care, Hil's latest book & a framework for thinking about how trans people care for one another + Applying a feminist body politic to back hair + Hil's experience going on testosterone as someone who is intersex & trans You can follow Hil @hilmalatino on Twitter or check out their books at your local bookstore. Trans Care, published in 2020, (and available to read *for free* right now online) https://manifold.umn.edu/projects/trans-care (https://manifold.umn.edu/projects/trans-care) Queer Embodiment: Monstrosity, Medical Violence, & Intersex Experience, published in 2019, & will come out in paperback later this year https://www.nebraskapress.unl.edu/university-of-nebraska-press/9780803295933/ (https://www.nebraskapress.unl.edu/university-of-nebraska-press/9780803295933/) Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list (http://tinyletter.com/flashreads) & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com (http://wesleyflash.com/) For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (https://www.oliverslategreene.com/) (he/him), Emily Bate (http://emilybate.com/) (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (http://www.charleyparden.com/) (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics. If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline (https://translifeline.org/) US (877) 565-8860 Canada (877) 330-6366
22 Apr 2021
Aqeel Yaseen + Existential Gender
Let's get metaphysical! Aqeel Yaseen (he/him) joins Wesley (he/him) to offer his special flavor of wisdom. Together they discuss: + Learning & unlearning versions of masculinity + Death metal as an emotional experience + Yoga as a practice of better understanding oneself If you want to explore the practices of yoga or energy healing with Aqeel, you can find more on his website, aqeelyaseen.com (https://www.aqeelyaseen.com/). You can also find him on instagram or facebook at @vivekaom. Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list (http://tinyletter.com/flashreads) & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com (http://wesleyflash.com/) For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (https://www.oliverslategreene.com/) (he/him), Emily Bate (http://emilybate.com/) (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (http://www.charleyparden.com/) (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics. If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline (https://translifeline.org/) US (877) 565-8860 Canada (877) 330-6366
15 Apr 2021
John Jarboe + Bearded Lady Gender
Artist, musician, & performer John Jarboe (she/her), the founder & artistic director of the Bearded Ladies Cabaret, joins Wesley (he/him) to talk about: + John's process of changing her pronouns + Problematic gender icons like James Bond + Cannibalism as Gender (wtf?!) & Wesley shares more of his gender journey, too You can find out more about The Bearded Ladies Cabaret at www.beardedladiescabaret.com (https://www.beardedladiescabaret.com/) You can follow John on instagram @johnjarbeard or @beardedladiescabaret To watch the music video for "Rose: a true story & song" commissioned by Works & Process at the Guggenheim: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bme6-PUkDaY (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bme6-PUkDaY) For more on Harry Hay, co-founder of the Mattachine Society and the Radical Faeries: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harry_Hay (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harry_Hay) Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list (http://tinyletter.com/flashreads) & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com (http://wesleyflash.com/) For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (https://www.oliverslategreene.com/) (he/him), Emily Bate (http://emilybate.com/) (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (http://www.charleyparden.com/) (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics. If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline (https://translifeline.org/) US (877) 565-8860 Canada (877) 330-6366
8 Apr 2021
Ayesha Ali + Black Femme Crone Wisdom
Black Femme Crone poet, writer, & teacher Ayesha Ali (she/her/Majesty) joins Wesley (he/him) to talk about: + Using your Majesty as a pronoun + Teaching the path of joy in mindfulness community + Femme gender as part of a spiritual practice & so much more!!! You can meet Ayesha for mindfulness meditation at imcw.org (https://imcw.org/). Just type her name in the search bar to find the Heart Refuge Mindfulness Community Sangha for BIPOC (https://imcw.org/Calendar/Event-Calendar/EventId/3593/e/black-indigenous-and-people-of-color-bipoc-sangha-online-24-apr-2021) or the Heartwidth Sangha (https://imcw.org/Calendar/Event-Calendar/EventId/3871/e/heartwidth-sangha-18-apr-2021), welcome to all. https://imcw.org/Teachers/Teacher/TeacherID/192 (https://imcw.org/Teachers/Teacher/TeacherID/192) If you found her insights helpful and you want to offer dāna, or monetary donations (please do!!!), her Venmo is @ayesha-ali-8 The full text of the Lucille Clifton poem, won't you celebrate with me (https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/50974/wont-you-celebrate-with-me), can be found here: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/50974/wont-you-celebrate-with-me (https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/50974/wont-you-celebrate-with-me) For more information about Stormé DeLarverie (https://www.nps.gov/people/storme-delarverie.htm), go to https://www.nps.gov/people/storme-delarverie.htm (https://www.nps.gov/people/storme-delarverie.htm) Also, do yourself a favor & watch some YouTube clips of Pearl Bailey or find an old Mae West movie ASAP. Sign up for Wesley's monthly mailing list (http://tinyletter.com/flashreads) & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com (http://wesleyflash.com/) For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads Special thanks to our producer, Oliver Slate-Greene (https://www.oliverslategreene.com/) (he/him), Emily Bate (http://emilybate.com/) (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (http://www.charleyparden.com/) (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics. If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline (https://translifeline.org/) US (877) 565-8860 Canada (877) 330-6366
31 Mar 2021
Oliver Slate-Greene + Firsts
Producer & friend of the pod Oliver Slate-Greene (he/him) joins Wesley (he/him) to talk Firsts! They cover such topics as: + The first time Oliver told someone he was a boy + Wesley remembers the first time he met Oliver + Pee Wee Herman, a shared first gender root and, arguably, a transgender icon You can find out more about Oliver at www.oliverslategreene.com (https://www.oliverslategreene.com/) and listen to his podcast, Digital Mystic (https://open.spotify.com/show/1xhpNSGKRl4ZFBnBT3qWo3?si=StZVgT-hT_2AAyOX1rge8A) wherever you listen to podcasts. Sign up (https://tinyletter.com/flashreads) for Wesley's monthly mailing list & learn more about his work at wesleyflash.com (https://wesleyflash.com/) For more podcast content, follow @howsyourgender on instagram & you can find Wesley @flashreads Special thanks to Emily Bate (http://emilybate.com/) (she/her) for the perfect theme song and Charley Parden (http://www.charleyparden.com/) (he/they) for writing the iconic lyrics If you or anyone you know is struggling with your gender, we encourage you to contact Trans Lifeline (https://translifeline.org/) US (877) 565-8860 Canada (877) 330-6366
29 Mar 2021
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How's Your Gender? is a new podcast where we talk about gender -- yours, mine, and ours. Season 1 starts in April !
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