I Don’t Give Advice (But If I Did…) is a podcast about noticing.
Noticing patterns.
Noticing energy.
Noticing life.
Noticing the different aspects of self that come alive.
Created by CHARLiiE — shared from lived experience, not authority.
Caution to the "If I Was You..." "It Couldn't Be Me" Type Advice
I am sure they mean well when they attempt to put themselves in our shoes and share their lens, but the reality is they are not you, and no amount of "if" will change that. Here is my lens on why that kind of advice tends to be projections from people's inner world, and some things to think about before accepting any advice as truth or prescription for you.
1 Feb 2026
It's Not that Big of A Deal!
What's not that big of a deal? NONE of it... not the identities we claim, emotions we experience, the challenges, the mistakes, the missteps... or the stories we tell ourselves about how things should be. So many of us spend so much energy trying to defend the ego - these mental constructs. But we are all so much more than the moment we are expressing in. This episode was inspired by a conversation with a friend that was being hard on themselves. I was encouraging them to not worry about being behind, or rushing to some place of healing... none of it truly mattered; it's all made up. So whatever this episode offers you... thank you for being here with me.
25 Jan 2026
There Is No Perfect Way to Express
There may be someone, maybe you - who has an issue with what was said, or how it was said... and I am here to say: SO BE IT. This episode exist as a reminder that, Yes, things could have been different, but it was not... So, now what?! This idea that "you should have," "could have," won't change what was.
We can always see how else something could have been handled, after the fact , but what is the actual issue? Is it that the person said or did something you did not like? Or did they do or say something you don't want to hear or deal with? What's the actual "issue" at hand. Would the way they said it or handled it, change the outcome of where it was headed?
18 Jan 2026
Lean Into Your Emotions
Emotions have purpose... they provide us with information! This episode is PRO EMOTIONS. Pro being Human. Pro embracing your human experience and that includes EMOTIONS.
12 Jan 2026
Most Men Always Put Themselves First
One thing I learned from men is the importance of putting yourself first. Most men I've been in proximity with have shown me that selfishness is how they maintain a life that they WANT. They won't prioritize the child, wife, job, or other people feelings. If it does not benefits them in the way they desire, it is NOT A PRIORITY. Pay attention.
If you don't already... learn from men, and honor your needs. You are the only guaranteed consistent thing in your life, please take care of you!
12 Jan 2026
Be Where You Are. Be Where Your Feet Are Planted.
So often we are focused on some possible future, but no amount of worrying is going to stop what will happen. This episode is for those in a state of worry. A reminder to come and be in the present moment. To not emotionally spend to a future that may or may not happen. The reality is, whatever you are concerned about is not happening now; so be where you have the ability to create change... IN THE NOW.
12 Jan 2026
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Cheers to the beginning! This podcast is grounded in what I notice...
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