I Forgot to Tell You Something

About I Forgot to Tell You Something

No two experiences of adult ADHD are the same, and life won’t stop while we figure this ADHD thing out. “I Forgot to Tell You Something” is the ADHD podcast for real life, hosted by ADHD coaches Ron Capalbo and Liz Welshman. In this series, they invite you into their world of ADHD, where life’s ups, downs, and half-finished ideas are celebrated. As two ADHDers, they share their own experiences in real-time, offering a unique perspective on the rollercoaster ride that is life with ADHD. We overshare about everything, from the challenges of ADHD parenting, to navigating the emotional regulation challenges of ADHD, and the ins and outs of ADHD coaching. In “I Forgot to Tell You Something,” you’ll find a refreshing departure from one-size-fits-all advice. Eavesdrop on our conversations, and get a genuine behind the scenes look into living with ADHD. Expect laughter, tears, and the kind of cringe factor that keeps the hosts awake at night. Whether you’re someone with ADHD or love someone who does, this podcast is a source of support and understanding. So, if you want to join Ron and Liz on their journey through the world of ADHD, subscribe to their podcast on your favorite platform. And don’t be afraid to spread the word to everyone you know – from friends and family to your drunk uncle and, of course, your mom. They’d love it! To stay updated, visit their website at iforgottotellyou.com and follow us on Instagram @iforgotpod. “I Forgot to Tell You Something” is your safe space to embrace the beautiful chaos of life and ADHD.

Publisher

Liz Welshman and Ron Capalbo

Category

health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

8 Nov 2023

Latest episode

17 Apr 2025

Latest episodes

15 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   17 Apr 2025

   We had ADHD systems... then we had a baby

   Just when you think you’ve figured out how to manage your ADHD... life throws you a baby, and suddenly none of it works anymore. The routines? Gone. The sleep? Ha. The coping strategies? LOL. In this episode, Ron shares what happened when parenthood bulldozed the systems he and his partner had spent years building—and how they’re starting to put things back together. In this episode, Liz asks what’s changed, what’s fallen apart, and how Ron and his partner Gwen (who also has ADHD) are trying to put things back together. They talk about memory blackouts, motivation crashes, relationship friction, and why every baby task seems to come with its own moral panic and spreadsheet. They also break down what happens when both people in a relationship are running on empty, and how they’re slowly finding their way back with messy routines, flexible expectations, and the return of the "team meeting." For ADHD listeners: What do you do when all your usual supports (like sleep, exercise, structure) disappear overnight? How do you stop arguments that are actually just two people with different values and no bandwidth? Why is motivation so much harder when something feels illogical or pointless—and what can you try instead? What kind of low-effort “reset” routines can help you feel more human again, even in the chaos? Like what you're hearing? Hooray! ~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron (https://www.instagram.com/adhd_ron/), adhdcoachron (https://www.adhdcoachron.com/) ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd (https://www.instagram.com/lizwelshman_adhd/), lizwelshman.com (http://www.lizwelshman.com) ~ ~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod (https://www.instagram.com/iforgotpod/), iforgottotellyou (https://iforgottotellyou.com/)~

2. 

   13 Aug 2024

   We forgot to tell you that Ron's a rad dad

   We're back after a little hiatus after a not so little event: Ron became a Dad! We're talking today about how Ron's adjusting to his new life, new family, new role, new everything! Those early newborn days are a whirlwind for any new parent. But add ADHD in the mix and the experience can be truly disorienting. Sleepless nights, upside down routines, and a fresh array of intense emotions leave ADHD mums and dads wondering: "Who am I? And tf just happened to me?!" In today's episode, Ron (our new rad dad) and Liz talk: Ron's new role as a father and the impact it has on his ADHD symptoms the struggle of finding time for self-care coping with the uncertainty and anxiety that comes with parenting (hint: it doesn't go away!) the overwhelming nature of parenting, the fear of making mistakes, and the pressure to do everything right the need to develop new ADHD coping strategies to adapt to a new life as a parent. how to create open communication and support between partners - crucial to navigating the difficulties of parenting Congratulations Ron and Gwen! And to all ADHD parents, new and not so new, we thing you're bloody awesome. Like what you're hearing? Hooray! ~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron (https://www.instagram.com/adhd_ron/), adhdcoachron (https://www.adhdcoachron.com/) ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd (https://www.instagram.com/lizwelshman_adhd/), lizwelshman.com (http://www.lizwelshman.com) ~ ~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod (https://www.instagram.com/iforgotpod/), iforgottotellyou (https://iforgottotellyou.com/)~

3. 

   17 Jul 2024

   Don’t tell Ron ADHD is a superpower

   Ron’s fired up, people. In this episode of "I Forgot to Tell You Something," we’re hashing out the seemingly innocuous trend of framing ADHD as a "superpower." What are the complexities and potential consequences of this perspective? And why would ADHD -  a lifelong neurodevelopmental disorder - ever be called a superpower in the first place? We cover: How the superpower narrative can affect people with ADHD The difference between toxic positivity and genuine optimism The importance of validating real struggles faced by individuals with ADHD The role of privilege and access resources in the superpower narrative The need for nuance and balanced reframing when discussing ADHD We want to strike a balance between empowering individuals with ADHD and acknowledging the very real challenges they face. How can we sit with uncomfortable emotions and acknowledge the genuine impairments of ADHD, while also creating a spirit of optimism and hope for the amazing life that’s possible when you understand and work with ADHD? Like what you're hearing? Hooray! ~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron (https://www.instagram.com/adhd_ron/), adhdcoachron (https://www.adhdcoachron.com/) ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd (https://www.instagram.com/lizwelshman_adhd/), lizwelshman.com (http://www.lizwelshman.com) ~ ~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod (https://www.instagram.com/iforgotpod/), iforgottotellyou (https://iforgottotellyou.com/)~

4. 

   16 May 2024

   How to talk to kids about ADHD (it doesn't have to be scary)

   It's the question that has well-intended ADHD parents shaking in their boots: what's the right way to tell my kid about their ADHD? When our kids are newly diagnosed with ADHD and we're navigating our own feelings around what it means for them, it's no wonder having these conversations feel scary. In this episode of I Forgot, Ron and Liz dive into the often anxiety-inducing topic and offer some hope for reassurance for parents who are desperately just trying to do the right thing. We're addressing head-on the common (and understandable!) fears we hear from parents: I don't want to burden my kid with an unhelpful label! How can I help them feel empowered and hopeful? I don't want them to feel different or broken How much information is too much information? I don't want my kid to use their ADHD as an excuse! An ADHD diagnosis might feel scary at first, but it doesn't have to be a big, bad monster. In fact, having open, supportive conversations can help your child feel empowered, understood and validated. You don't have to have all the answers right away, and there's a ton of resources and support to help you along the way. Remember, an ADHD diagnosis is just one part of your child's story – and with your love and support, it can be a pretty awesome one. Here are some resources for talking to your kids about ADHD at different stages: Ned Hallowell's "ADHD Brain is a Ferrari" ADDitude article  (https://www.additudemag.com/how-to-explain-adhd-to-a-child-and-build-confidence/) RaceCar Brain YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UmEpGaEUOqE&t=1s) Love Me Love My ADHD by Chrissie Davies (https://www.chaostocalmconsultancy.com/product/love-me-love-my-adhd)(book aimed for kids 5-12) Explaining Brains conversation template (https://explainingbrains.com/explaining-a-diagnosis/) If this episode struck a chord with you, why not share the love. It would mean a lot to us. *See more about this episode* (https://iforgottotellyou.com/episode-12-how-to-talk-to-kids-about-adhd-it-doesnt-have-to-be-scary/) Like what you're hearing? Hooray! ~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron (https://www.instagram.com/adhd_ron/), adhdcoachron (https://www.adhdcoachron.com/) ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd (https://www.instagram.com/lizwelshman_adhd/), lizwelshman.com (http://www.lizwelshman.com) ~ ~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod (https://www.instagram.com/iforgotpod/), iforgottotellyou (https://iforgottotellyou.com/)~

5. 

   3 May 2024

   ADHD storytelling & making sense of the tragic

   Full disclosure: today’s episode is a bit of a bummer. Or you could say that we have emotional range..? This episode was recorded days after a tragic attack on women in Liz’s home town, in a place where women normally feel very safe. And it put Liz right on her arse. We unpack Liz’s big emotional response to the event, and the very human drive to make sense of the senseless. The ADHD brain is wired to create narratives around our big emotional experiences. There’s no pretty way to say this: the Bondi attack put Liz on her arse. You’ll hear in real time the unhelpful judgment she heaped on her already shitty emotional experience. Our hope is that by listening to Liz and Ron process the feeling fallout that you’ll be kinder to yourself when big emotions are at the wheel. Sending lots of love to all of you, wherever you are in the world, as we all try to make sense of a world that can shake our sense of hope and fairness. If this episode struck a chord with you, why not share the love. It would mean a lot to us. *See more about this episode* (https://iforgottotellyou.com/episode-11-adhd-storytelling-making-sense-of-the-tragic/) Like what you're hearing? Hooray! ~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron (https://www.instagram.com/adhd_ron/), adhdcoachron (https://www.adhdcoachron.com/) ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd (https://www.instagram.com/lizwelshman_adhd/), lizwelshman.com (http://www.lizwelshman.com) ~ ~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod (https://www.instagram.com/iforgotpod/), iforgottotellyou (https://iforgottotellyou.com/)~

6. 

   16 Apr 2024

   Big life stuff with ADHD

   Big changes can be scary, especially with ADHD. It's easy to put things off and feel overwhelmed. But there are ways to get excited and prepared without all the stress. Ron is getting ready to welcome his new baby - the ultimate deadline. Everyone's got an opinion,  and there's so much stuff to do. Liz and Ron talk about how to: Find the fun in getting ready Make space for rest so you don't burn out Let go of worry and celebrate the wins Stay in the moment and soak it in The big message? Shift your mindset. Get proactive and flexible. Find joy in the journey, even when things feel uncertain. You've got this! If this episode struck a chord with you, why not share the love? It would mean a lot to us if you shared with a friend or left us a review. *See more about this episode* (https://iforgottotellyou.com/episode-10-big-life-stuff-with-adhd/) Like what you're hearing? Hooray! ~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron (https://www.instagram.com/adhd_ron/), adhdcoachron (https://www.adhdcoachron.com/) ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd (https://www.instagram.com/lizwelshman_adhd/), lizwelshman.com (http://www.lizwelshman.com) ~ ~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod (https://www.instagram.com/iforgotpod/), iforgottotellyou (https://iforgottotellyou.com/)~

7. 

   18 Mar 2024

   Is ADHD really an entrepreneureal superpower?

   Join us for an engaging conversation as Ron and Liz delve into the unique challenges and rewards of being an entrepreneur with ADHD. This episode offers a raw and honest look at the struggles with time management, organization, and delegation. They also emphasize the importance of having a supportive community and being open about their weaknesses. Despite the challenges, they find joy in the fun parts of running a business. They even dream of having a podcast producer to handle the behind-the-scenes work. In this conversation, Liz and Ron discuss various topics related to entrepreneurship and starting a business. They talk about the challenges of setting up the necessary technology, the partnership between Liz and Jaylin, and the Monoceros Initiative. They also discuss the importance of tenacity, bravery, and belief in oneself, as well as the fear of rejection and the need to tolerate discomfort. They touch on the perfectionism and the fear of negative criticism that often come with putting oneself and one's work out there. They also announce the upcoming launch of the ADHD Noodle Network, a community for ADHD entrepreneurs. Keep updated Follow us on Instagram (http://instagram.com/iforgotpod) or Youtube (https://iforgottotellyou.com/#)

8. 

   26 Feb 2024

   All parents & coaches need a neurodiversity eye with Diane McLean

   Diane McLean is a bonafide legend of the ADHD coaching world. She's a pioneer of kid coaching and a champion of focusing on strengths rather than deficits. Now she's got that ADHD itch for the next challenge: to help coaches, leaders and parents understand why a neurodiversity lens matters. Diane breaks down the fears parents face when raising ADHD kids and why believing them and meeting kids where they're at is so powerful. No two brains are alike, and we all benefit from understanding our unique brain wiring. Diane's on a mission to spread the word about strengths-based approaches, and how we can empowering ourselves to own and navigate our challenges. She believes all coaches have something to learn from the ADHD coaching world and the fine art of meeting individuals where they are. Diane shares tips on how to truly listen and wraps up with a discussion on being 'twice exceptional'. Takeaways Coaches should adopt a neurodiversity lens and integrate strengths-based approaches when working with neurodivergent clients. Parents of children with ADHD can navigate their fear by preserving the relationship, being honest with their kids, and empowering them to figure things out. Empowering kids to figure things out fosters independence, self-confidence, and a sense of capability. It's important for everyone, including teachers and parents, to understand and appreciate neurodiversity and the unique strengths and challenges of individuals with ADHD. Scaffold tasks and provide support for individuals with ADHD to help them take on responsibilities. Practice self-parenting and empower individuals to take control of their lives. Meet individuals where they are and avoid judging them for their pace of learning. Be a good listener by being non-judgmental, setting aside your own agenda, and being present. Recognize the challenges faced by individuals who are twice exceptional and support their individual interests and goals. Avoid putting excessive pressure on individuals with ADHD to achieve academically or in other areas. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 02:29 Diane's Transition and Focus on Coaching 04:01 The Importance of Neurodiversity Lens 05:47 The Spark for Coaching Neurodivergent Clients 06:26 The Tension Between Coaching and ICF Competencies 08:36 Navigating Fear as a Parent of a Child with ADHD 24:43 The Importance of Strengths-Based Coaching 35:46 Navigating Fear as a Parent of a Child with ADHD (continued) 40:16 Empowering Kids to Figure Things Out 41:57 Responsibility and Support 43:23 Self-Parenting and Empowerment 44:48 Meeting People Where They Are 45:36 The Importance of Listening 50:23 Being Twice Exceptional 51:20 Pressure and Achievement

9. 

   13 Feb 2024

   Rena Martine Helps Us Be Less Weird About Sex

   Happy Valentine’s Day, lovers! As a special treat, women’s intimacy expert Rena Martine joins us to unpack how ADHD impacts our relationships and our ability to foster intimacy. Rena Martine shares her journey from being a sex crimes deputy district attorney to becoming a certified coach and speaker. Rena emphasizes the importance of overcoming shame and shoulds in sexuality and encourages individuals to explore their desires and communicate their needs. We also touch on the role of porn in a healthy approach to sex and the fear of rejection and its impact on initiating intimacy. In this conversation, Rena Martine discusses various topics related to sex and relationships, with a focus on ADHD and trauma. The conversation covers the impact of rejection on initiating sex, the importance of handling rejection appropriately, understanding responsive desire, dealing with low sex drive or libido, addressing the impact of trauma on sex, the need for external validation and self-validation, and connecting self-image with feeling sexy. Takeaways: ADHD can have a significant impact on relationships, making it more difficult to foster and sustain intimacy. Overcoming shame and shoulds is crucial in developing a healthy approach to sexuality. Individuals with ADHD can benefit from exploring their desires and communicating their needs in relationships. Porn can be a valuable tool if used ethically and as a means of exploration and discovery. Rejection in a sexual relationship can lead to a decrease in effort and initiation from the rejected partner. Handling rejection appropriately is crucial to avoid resentment and maintain a healthy sexual relationship. Understanding responsive desire can help partners navigate differences in sexual desire and find alternative ways to connect physically. Trauma can have a significant impact on a person's view of sex and intimacy, and it is important to approach healing with a personalized and gradual approach. Both external validation and self-validation are important for feeling sexy and confident in one's own body and sexuality. Chapters: 00:00 The Impact of ADHD on Relationships 03:30 Rena Martin's Journey to Becoming a Women's Intimacy Expert 08:34 Discovering What You Want in Sex and Relationships 16:09 Overcoming Shame and Shoulds in Sexuality 23:09 Navigating Rejection and Fear of Intimacy 30:40 The Role of Porn in a Healthy Approach to Sex 41:12 The Impact of Rejection on Initiating Sex 42:07 The Importance of Handling Rejection Appropriately 43:00 Understanding Responsive Desire 46:11 Dealing with Low Sex Drive or Libido 49:32 Addressing the Impact of Trauma on Sex 57:51 The Need for External Validation and Self-Validation 01:06:11 Connecting Self-Image with Feeling Sexy 01:07:16 Where to Find More Information about Rena Martine Loving the show? Follow us on instagram: @iforgotpod Follow Rena on instagram: @_rena.martine_ Rena's new book "The Sex You Want" is available at all good book stores. Follow Ron: @adhd_ron Follow Liz: @lizwelshman_adhd

10. 

    22 Jan 2024

    Creating the wins only we care about is a tricky minx with ADHD

    Ever wonder why you'll do anything for anyone else, but sticking to those goals that only matter to you is so bloody hard? In this episode of I Forgot To Tell You Something, Ron and Liz unpack the ADHD tendency to be externally focused and prioritise the demands of the outside world over what we really, really want. Ron and Liz cover: Why people with ADHD often find themselves swept up in the praise and validation from others, neglecting goals that truly matter. How to cultivate loops of self-approval and stamps of validation for personal progress How to loosen your grasp on outcomes and unlock your feel-good chemistry by discovering novel means to savor the journey, not just the destination How to slice ambitions into crystal clear, uncomplicated chunks that you directly assign yourself, much like others portion directives for our plates Why leaning on being a bit weird when modeling motivational self-talk and strategies can lighten the sting of everyday struggles How to focus presence and prevent setbacks from dampening your spirit for too long Why culpability isn't a sustainable motivator long-term. Identify healthier incentives to replace guilt's ineffective grip. Like what you're hearing? Hooray! Visit iforgottotellyou.com follow @iforgotpod on Instagram and subscribe to "I Forgot to Tell You Something" wherever you listen to podcasts If this episode struck a chord with you, why not share the love? It would mean a lot to us! Follow Ron @adhd_ron Follow Liz @lizwelshman_adhd

11. 

    22 Dec 2023

    When Aunt Susan says "everyone has ADHD these days"

    And what is going on with ADHD meds shortages? It's holidays, and Ron and Liz are cranky. Prepare to arm yourself for unsolicited advice from friends and family, and those off hand comments that can really sting: "everyone is a bit ADHD these days" "why don't you get a planner" "have you tried setting reminders?" "adhd stimulants are just legalised mth!"

12. 

    13 Dec 2023

    Who Am I To Have Imposter Syndrome?!

    Ever wondered "Who am I to......" start a business? Write that book? Apply for a big promotion? Imposter syndrome is something everyone experiences every now and then, but particularly plagues ADHDers. Liz and Ron share their experiences with imposter syndrome, fear of failure and what they notice in their amazing ADHD coaching clients. Discover how for some, especially those with ADHD, feelings of self-doubt and inadequacy may serve as a maladaptive coping strategy, activating hyperfocus to avoid failure. But hear how over time, this strategy can lose effectiveness and hold you back from new opportunities. Learn tangible tips used by the hosts to overcome imposter voices - reframing mistakes as lessons learned, separating unhelpful thoughts from feelings, and calming jittery nerves. Walk away feeling seen and with strategies to trust in your abilities and push past fears. Hear examples of how even minor successes build confidence over months and years. Gain inspiration from Ron's ongoing quest to take risks outside his comfort zone. Proof that with the right mindset, you can grow to accept discomfort as part of the process.

13. 

    8 Dec 2023

    The Grief, Relief & Beef of a Late ADHD Diagnosis

    A diagnosis of ADHD in adulthood brings an avalanche of different emotions – grief of lost opportunities, relief to have found answers, and flat out anger. In this conversation, Ron and Liz explore the emotional ups and downs of a late ADHD diagnosis. Getting an ADHD diagnosis as an adult can be a validating experience and the start of a journey of self-discovery and growth. It’s important to practice self-compassion and challenge negative self-talk, recognizing that ADHD is not a personal failing but a neurological difference. Leveraging strengths and focusing on what you are good at can help you navigate challenges and achieve success. Letting go of the need for perfection and reframing the narrative around ADHD can lead to greater self-acceptance and a more positive outlook on life. Visit iforgottotellyou.com for show notes. Like what you’re hearing? Hooray! Visit @iforgotpod on Instagram Visit iforgottotellyou.com for additional show notes and resources. Subscribe to “I Forgot To Tell you Something” wherever you listen to podcasts If this episode struck a chord with you, why not share the love? It would mean a lot to us if you shared with a friend or left us a review.

14. 

    16 Nov 2023

    ADHD Self Care That Doesn't Suck

    Self-care when you have ADHD can feel like another job on a long list of "shoulds". In this episode of "I Forgot to Tell You Something," Ron and Liz explore some of the challenges with getting supportive self care practices off the ground when ADHD overwhelm is running the show. Dive into the nuanced aspects of self-care beyond the surface: understanding what you need and what works for you fostering self-compassion establishing boundaries getting ok with disappointing people - yikes! knowing when you're at breaking point and intervening seeking out those moments of relaxation, and tolerating the guilt monster If you struggle with straddling that tricky balance between consistency and persistence in ADHD self-care practices, this episode is for you. Like what you're hearing? Hooray! Visit iforgottotellyou.com follow @iforgotpod on Instagram and subscribe to "I Forgot to Tell You Something" wherever you listen to podcasts If this episode struck a chord with you, why not share the love? It would mean a lot to us! Follow Ron @adhd_ron Follow Liz @lizwelshman_adhd

15. 

    8 Nov 2023

    Welcome to I Forgot to Tell You Something

    Welcome to “I forgot to tell you something”, the podcast here to give you hugs and sometimes help when life and ADHD collide. Join ADHD coaches Ron Capalbo and Liz Welshman as they unpack the real life challenges of ADHD. Ron and Liz are both ADHDers buzzing real time through their own ups, downs and half finished ideas. So when it comes to life with ADHD, they’ve almost seen, heard or overreacted to it all. They're unshockable, mostly unstoppable and they want you to know that - whatever ADHD is throwing at you right now - you’re not alone. Follow Ron and Liz on Instagram @iforgotpod Keep up to date and subscribe at lizwelshman.com

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