If This Is It

About If This Is It

If This Is It is a podcast about faith, identity, and becoming who God created you to be. Hosted by Tosin Asan, the show explores modern-day challenges through Scripture—helping believers move from functioning on empty to living fruitfully. Honest conversations, biblical clarity, and practical steps for real transformation.

Publisher

Tosin Assan

Category

religion & spirituality

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

12 Jan 2026

Latest episode

28 Sept 2026

Latest episodes

19 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   28 Sept 2026

   Why Good Advice Doesn't Produce The Outcomes We Expect

   You took the advice. It came from people you trust, it sounded right, and you actually did it and nothing changed. Now someone is hinting that maybe you're the problem. But what if the issue isn't the information at all, but what happens between hearing it and living it?In this solo episode, Tosin looks at why good advice so often fails to produce good outcomes. Most advice arrives as someone's conclusion without the conditions that made it true and it lands in the middle of your story, already shaped by your family, culture, church, wins, and disappointments.Through Moses and the Israelites, who saw the same miracles through completely different lenses, and Joshua, who didn't need Moses' story to carry what Moses learned about God, she offers a better way to receive information: not blindly accepting it, not reflexively rejecting it, but bringing it before Christ and finding the principle underneath. CHAPTERS 00:00 – Why Good Advice Isn't Producing Results02:04 – You Followed The Advice. Are You The Problem?05:15 – What If You Don't Need More Information?08:01 – Great Advice You Don't Know How To Apply11:39 – Advice Arrives In The Middle Of Your Story14:30 – Same Words, Different Lives17:54 – When You Want Relief More Than Truth19:48 – Moses vs. Israel: Same Miracles, Different Lenses24:45 – Why Jesus Didn't Just Give Us Another List30:23 – Don't Copy It, Find The Principle Underneath33:01 – How Am I Hearing This? You're Not Neutral33:56 – Joshua Didn't Need Moses' Story💬 What's one piece of advice you tried to apply exactly as it was given and what was the principle underneath it that you actually needed? Share it in the comments.📱 CONNECTInstagram: @ifthisisitpodTikTok: ifthisisitpodEmail: hello@ifthisisitpod.comIf This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful, this week, on why good advice doesn't always land, and how to find the truth underneath it so it can actually produce something in your life. Hosted by Tosin Assan, each episode brings biblical clarity to the questions believers are actually wrestling with.#ifthisisit #information #goodadvice #christianpodcast #christianliving

2. 

   21 Sept 2026

   Your Therapist Can’t Heal You, Here’s What Actually Can

   You can know your triggers, name your patterns, and have every word for what you’re feeling and still be stuck in the same place a year later. Sometimes the problem isn’t a lack of insight, or a lack of prayer. Sometimes awareness was never the same thing as change.Tosin sits down with Dr. Donnata Ibe, a licensed clinical social worker and founder of Ruach Christian Counseling, who left her first therapy session with nothing to hold on to and built what was missing. Together they unpack what therapy can and can’t do why it’s a real tool for finally understanding yourself, why understanding was never the same thing as being changed, and how self-awareness can become self-protection.From there she and Tosin work through how faith and therapy actually fit together instead of competing: where the practical tools do their job, and why real healing so often feels worse before it feels better. If you’ve ever wondered whether tools and language alone are enough to heal you, this is the conversation.Chapters 00:00 – The Depression Sign Everyone Calls "Just Tired"01:16 – The Therapist Who Walked Out of Her Own Therapy03:03 – Doing the Work But Still Stuck04:31 – Can Faith and Therapy Actually Work Together?10:56 – Why Awareness Alone Never Changes You13:42 – The Familiar Discomfort We Refuse to Leave23:07 – Faith as Avoidance & "Father's House" Prayers35:17 – When Self-Awareness Becomes Armor42:33 – Can You Really Heal Without Christ?44:18 – Stuck on Monday: Prayer, Thought, Action54:41 – Cultivate, Keep, Resist: Making Change Stick60:52 – Years in Therapy and Only Maintaining68:24 – Her Practice & the Therapy Journals💬 What’s one thing therapy has helped you understand about yourself but that you still haven’t managed to change? Be honest in the comments.📱 CONNECTInstagram: @ifthisisitpod · TikTok: ifthisisitpod · Email: hello@ifthisisitpod.comGUEST — Dr. Donnata Ibe, LCSW (Houston); doctorate in social work; founder of Ruach Christian Counseling.Instagram: @don_atta_Counselling: @ruachcc_If This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful, this week, on the gap between understanding yourself and actually being changed. Hosted by Tosin Assan.#ifthisisit #therapy #christianmentalhealth #faithandtherapy #depression #healing

3. 

   7 Sept 2026

   The Uncertainty Trap: How To Stop Overthinking

   I didn't figure this out in a study, I figured it out in a car, arguing with myself the whole drive home. I went to someone I respect looking for wisdom, and what I actually wanted was proof that the last few years of my life haven't been a waste. I'd been calling it "trust." It was really a search for certainty.In this Season 2 return of If This Is It, Tosin Assan breaks down the quiet trap so many of us live in: treating certainty as the requirement before we obey what God already made clear. We walk through Gideon in the winepress, four confirmations for one assignment, and an ephod that became a snare right after his biggest win, then Jesus in Gethsemane, who had total certainty about the cross and still didn't lean on it. The difference? Certainty depends on information. Trust depends on relationship.If you're an overthinker who confuses mental motion for progress, or you've been waiting on one more sign before you send the application, have the conversation, or start the thing, this one's for you.⏱️ TIMESTAMPS0:00 – "Certainty Can Move Your Feet, Never Your Heart"1:43 – Welcome Back: Confusing Wisdom for Certainty2:26 – The Couch Conversation That Started It3:26 – When "Trusting God" Really Means "Prove It"4:43 – Overthinking Is Just Delay in a Nicer Outfit6:44 – Does God Actually Give Certainty?7:53 – Gideon in the Winepress: When 2+2 Won't Add Up9:56 – Four Confirmations for One Assignment13:50 – The Ephod: When Proof Becomes a Snare19:47 – Jesus Had Certainty and Still Didn't Lean On It22:17 – Certainty Runs on Information, Trust Runs on Relationship26:03 – Borrowed Worth Only Refinances the Debt28:54 – The Test: Is It a Goal or a Modern Ephod?29:29 – Cultivate, Keep, Resist — and the Final Word💬 Be honest, what have you been calling "waiting on God" that's really just waiting for proof? Drop it in the comments; I read every one.📱 Connect with the podcast:Instagram: @ifthisisitpodTiktok: ifthisisitpodEmail: hello@ifthisisitpod.comIf This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful, exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Tosin, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life. Whether it's marriage, fatherhood, identity, or cultivating your inner life, this show brings biblical truth to everyday realities.#ifthisisit #christianpodcast #faithandtrust #overthinking #obedience #purposedriven

4. 

   2 Jul 2026

   Why Your Hard Work Isn't Producing Financial Peace w/ Kunle Olatunji

   You can be hardworking, responsible, and deeply committed to doing the right thing and still feel like money keeps slipping through your hands. If that tension feels familiar, this conversation will meet you there. Because sometimes the issue isn’t laziness, lack of discipline, or even a lack of desire. Sometimes the deeper problem is that we were never taught how to bring order to what we already have. Tosin sits down with Kunle Olatunji, author of Money Ordered, to explore the deeper roots of financial instability, generosity, boundaries, and stewardship. This conversation helps listeners move from money chaos toward clarity, structure, and peace. Be sure to use this link for his book https://themoneyordered.com/product/money-ordered-the-10-step-system-to-turn-financial-chaos-into-lasting-stability/ #IfThisIsIt #ChristianPodcast #FunctionalToFruitful #FinancialStewardship #MoneyOrdered #BiblicalFinance #Boundaries

5. 

   16 Jun 2026

   Why Does Love Feel Hard?

   If love has felt harder than it should, this conversation is for you. You can pray, be intentional, follow the “right” advice, and still find yourself feeling frustrated, tired, and stuck. At some point, you have to ask a deeper question: what if the issue isn’t that love is impossible, but that the system we’ve been taught to use is broken? In this episode of If This Is It, Tosin unpacks why so many people are trying to build connection from a place of self-protection instead of wholeness in Christ. She explores the transactional mindset that quietly shapes the way many of us think about dating, marriage, and partnership, and she offers a better framework — one rooted in faith, hope, love, peace, and real capacity. This is a conversation about more than relationships. It’s about who you are becoming while you wait, what it means to stop bracing for impact, and how to build a life that is actually ready to receive the kind of love you say you want. In this episode, we talk about: - why self-protection can become a barrier to real connection - the danger of turning people into transactions - how to move from bracing for impact to building from peace - the order of faith, hope, and love in emotional and spiritual maturity - why your capacity to receive love matters just as much as your ability to give it ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 0:00 – Why Does Love Feel So Hard? 1:03 – The False Comfort of Relationship Rules 1:42 – Can You Pray Away the Desire for Marriage? 2:41 – When the “Right” Things Lead to No Results 4:49 – Love vs. Self-Protection 5:40 – We Were Never Taught How to Partner 7:37 – What Love Is Actually Supposed to Look Like 9:30 – Why We Turn People into Transactions 10:32 – The Danger of Conditional Blueprints 12:10 – Receiving Capacity Matters 12:44 – Fruitfulness is a State of Being 14:48 – The Problem with Marrying Out of Alignment 15:23 – The Order: Faith, Hope, Love 16:16 – Avoiding the Transactional Faith Trap 17:16 – Why You Need Hope in the Middle Space 18:09 – Discernment vs. Shutting Down 19:16 – The Law of Capacity 20:30 – The “What Do You Bring to the Table” Myth 21:21 – Rooted in Christ, Not the Outcome 25:31 – Closing Encouragement 💬 When you think about your approach to relationships, are you living from trust, or are you still bracing for impact? Be honest in the comments. 📱 Connect with the podcast: Instagram: @ifthisisitpod Tiktok: ifthisisitpod Email: hello@ifthisisitpod.com If This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful — exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Tosin, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life. Whether it's marriage, fatherhood, identity, or cultivating your inner life, this show brings biblical truth to everyday realities. #IfThisIsIt #ChristianPodcast #FunctionalToFruitful #DatingWithPurpose #FaithAndRelationships #IdentityInChrist #HealthyBoundaries

6. 

   25 May 2026

   Waiting Seasons

   You've been praying. You've been showing up. You've been doing everything the way you know how to and nothing is moving. So you reach for an explanation: maybe something's blocking it, maybe you need to try harder, maybe God isn't listening. But underneath all of those is a question almost nobody asks: are you ready for what you're asking for? In this solo episode, Tosin opens up the framework she calls "the Economy of Trust" why access and readiness aren't the same thing, and why what you call "delay" is often a mismatch between who you've been formed to be and what you're believing for. Using the story of Bezalel and Aholiab (Exodus 31 & 36), she pulls out five principles that lead to one final gut-check: *if you got it today, would it hold?* If you're tired of being told to just pray more and wait, press play. TIMESTAMPS: [TBD] - The Question Nobody Asks: Are You Ready For What You're Asking For? [TBD] - It's Not Delay — It's a Systemic Mismatch [TBD] - Introducing The Economy of Trust [TBD] - The Story of Bezalel & Aholiab (Exodus 31 & 36) [TBD] - Principle 1: God Builds a System (And You Have to Function In It) [TBD] - Principle 2: More Will Test You (And Reveal What's In You) [TBD] - Principle 3: Helper Is Not Lesser [TBD] - Principle 4: Identity Stabilizes You [TBD] - Principle 5: Faithfulness Is What Builds Trust [TBD] - Cultivate, Keep, Resist — And "Would It Hold?" 💬 What is one thing you currently have in your hands, a relationship, a season, a small responsibility that you know you could be stewarding better? Share it in the comments. 📱 Connect with the podcast: Instagram: @ifthisisitpod TikTok: ifthisisitpod Email: hello@ifthisisitpod.com If This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful, exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Tosin, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life. #IfThisIsIt #ChristianPodcast #WaitingSeason #TheEconomyOfTrust #FunctionalToFruitful #FaithAndPatience #ChristianLiving #Formation #Stewardship #ChristianGrowth #BezalelAndAholiab #FaithfulnessOverHustle #SingleChristians #ChristianSingles #PrayerLife #SpiritualMaturity #FaithJourney #ChristianWomen #BiblicalTeaching #SoloEpisode

7. 

   24 Apr 2026

   Excellence Or Hustle /w Sanmi

   You think your job is just a means to a paycheck, but what if it’s the primary place where God is refining your character? If you've been working hard but feeling like you're still missing the mark, you might be confusing activity with alignment. In this episode of If This Is It, Tosin sits down with Sanmi, a leader in the medtech space, to break down what it actually looks like to move from functional to fruitful in a secular environment. They discuss the critical difference between the world’s definition of 'hustle' and the biblical standard of excellence found in the book of Daniel. Tosin and Sanmi explore how to navigate career setbacks, the power of integrity when the stakes are high, and why your home life and your workplace are both fields that require intentional cultivation. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 0:00 – From Functional to Fruitful 0:30 – Meet Sanmi: Leadership in Medtech 2:06 – Roots: Growing Up, Finding Direction 5:31 – Why Healthcare? 8:38 – God's Helpers in Your Life 12:50 – Where Faith Meets the 9-to-5 16:24 – Creating Your Own Culture 18:04 – Excellence vs. Just Hustling 23:01 – Building the Muscle of Excellence 27:51 – The I-Can't-Fail Mindset 32:38 – When Compromise Costs Big 35:14 – Walking Away from Respectable Sin 39:55 – Partner with Like-Minded Believers 43:17 – The Resentment of Failure 49:53 – Why Leaders Fail to Invest in People 54:30 – Defining Fruitfulness for You 59:48 – The 'Why' Behind the Work 1:03:05 – Integrity & Managing Time 1:07:08 – Overwhelmed? Prioritize the Essentials 1:12:14 – Resisting the World's Distractions 💬 What is one 'seed' of excellence you are choosing to cultivate in your workplace this week, even when no one else is watching? 📱 Connect with the podcast: Instagram: @ifthisisitpod Tiktok: ifthisisitpod Email: hello@ifthisisitpod.com If This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful, exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Tosin, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life.

8. 

   13 Apr 2026

   Escape The Broke Mindset /w Dumebi Oti

   You're working harder than ever, yet your bank account feels stuck and your peace of mind is nowhere to be found. What if the problem isn't your lack of effort, but the template for success you've been following your entire life? In this episode of If This Is It, Tosin sits down with Dumebi Oti, a tech professional, multi-business owner, and mother, to unpack the real difference between just making money and actually building wealth. Together, they break down the common lies Christians believe about money, why fear keeps you from taking the risks God might be calling you to, and how to transition from a survivalist mindset to true, fruitful stewardship. This conversation explores why your career is only a tool, not your source, and how to start building a life that honors God while providing freedom for your family. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 0:00 – Introduction to the Wealth Journey 4:00 – Meet Dumebi Oti 6:53 – Lessons from Last-Born Energy 8:27 – Entrepreneurship as a Second Nature 13:24 – The Contentment vs. Ambition Balance 17:18 – Stewardship is Not Just Tithing 20:44 – Bounce Houses and Bible Flashcards 27:56 – Why You Are Afraid to Take Risks 33:37 – Finding Your Way Into Tech 40:04 – Why Women Feel Overwhelmed by Wealth 44:33 – Building Wealth vs. Just Making Money 48:50 – Does Marriage Accelerate Wealth? 52:16 – God is Your Source: The Only Mindset Shift 54:48 – The Lie of 'Holy Poverty' 1:03:06 – Your Step-One Guide to Building Wealth 1:14:03 – How to Start from Zero 1:20:19 – The Value of Male Perspective 💬 What is the biggest lie you've had to unlearn about money in your own faith journey? Share your thoughts in the comments. 📱 Connect with the podcast: Instagram: @ifthisisitpod Tiktok: ifthisisitpod Email: hello@ifthisisitpod.com If This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful, exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Tosin, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life.

9. 

   31 Mar 2026

   The Very Success I Was Grateful For Was A Prison /w Tade Bolarin

   What happens when you check every box, the degrees, the career, the title, the family and still feel like you're drowning? In this episode of If This Is It, host Tosin sits down with Tade Bolarin, a former Big Four professional turned leadership coach, for one of the most honest conversations about career, identity, and alignment we've had on this show. Tade opens up about what it's really like to be "winning" on the outside while falling apart on the inside and what finally pushed him to walk away from a career path that looked perfect to everyone but him. This conversation gets into the immigrant conditioning that keeps so many of us from speaking up at work, the fear-based mindset we inherited, and what it actually takes to stop letting a company define your worth. You'll also hear about the role of community, marriage, and faith in the process of transition and why the answer for most people isn't to quit their job, but to go deeper into themselves and ask questions they've been avoiding. If you've ever felt the tension between what looks right and what feels right, this is for you. 🔗 CONNECT WITH US Subscribe to If This Is It on YouTube, Spotify & Apple Podcasts Follow us on Instagram: @ifthisisitpodcast ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 0:00 – Pre-show: Millennials, Gen Z & Why We're Livid 15:07 – Welcome & Meet Tade Buller 19:04 – "You're Valued By What You Produce" 21:23 – The Big Four Trap: Utilization vs. Real Impact 24:52 – The Lie: Get the Good Job, Get the Good Life 31:05 – His Wife Saw the Tears Between Meetings 34:02 – "Laziness Is Not Your Issue — Go Deeper" 36:06 – The Valentine's Day Conversation That Changed Everything 43:57 – "The Performance Felt Good — But Something Was Always Missing" 45:30 – A Word of Caution: This Isn't Anti-Corporate 48:57 – What His Dad Modeled About Work and Alignment 57:32 – Redefining Grit for This Generation 1:01:44 – The System Is Built to Get You to Work, Not to Think 1:03:49 – When Did Faith Enter the Picture? 1:07:01 – The Framework: How to Rewire the Way You Think About Work 1:17:30 – What's Coming Next — and Why People Need to Be Ready

10. 

    16 Mar 2026

    I Failed Twice & Had No Plan, Now God Has Me Doing 5 Things At Once

    What happens when God doesn't call you to just one thing but five? In this episode of If This Is It, host Tosin sits down with a Pastor Tolu Labeodan who is simultaneously a doctor, a businessman, a pastor, a husband, and a father. And somehow… he's not burned out. He's not bitter. He's grateful. This conversation gets into the real questions: How do you juggle that many responsibilities without losing your mind? What do you do on the days you don't feel like showing up? How do you prioritize when everything feels urgent? And what do you say to someone who's been knocked down so hard by life that they can't even see their own potential anymore? You'll hear about unexpected doors God opened, the role upbringing plays in shaping your capacity, why asking for help is harder than it should be (especially in our culture), and a perspective on faith and motivation that might challenge how you think about both. Whether you're feeling pulled in multiple directions, stuck in a season that doesn't make sense, or wondering how to build structure without losing peace, this one's for you. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 0:00 – Intro & Pre-show Banter 5:58 – Purpose vs. Unanswered Questions 8:47 – Welcome & Meet Our Guest 10:04 – When God Calls You to Multiple Things 11:02 – Passion vs. Calling — Is There a Difference? 13:06 – Stewarding Yourself Toward the Goal 17:02 – Recognizing God's Hand at Every Step 19:05 – How Upbringing Shapes Your Capacity 21:10 – "Did You Ever Feel Like This Isn't Me?" 24:46 – A Day in the Life 27:55 – How to Do It All Without Losing Your Mind 30:26 – Powering Through When You Don't Feel Like It 33:13 – Advice for Someone Who Feels Stuck 41:09 – When Life Deals a Serious Blow 43:01 – Why Asking for Help Is So Hard 48:57 – Finding Your Circle 53:23 – The Price of Multiple Callings 55:52 – The First Thing You Should Do If You Feel Called in Multiple Directions 🔗 CONNECT WITH US Subscribe to If This Is It on YouTube, Spotify & Apple Podcasts Follow us on Instagram: @ifthisisitpodcast

11. 

    10 Mar 2026

    What 13 Years Of Marriage Taught Us About Faithfulness

    He got laid off during paternity leave. She couldn't legally work. Their green card was hanging by a thread. And somehow, Dayo and Yemi Jegede came out the other side, not just intact, but stronger. In this episode of If This Is It, Tosin sits down with a couple whose marriage has been tested by layoffs, immigration crises, role reversals, and the kind of pressure that quietly destroys most relationships. But this isn't a survival story. It's a blueprint. From the moment Dayo saw Yemi on a university campus in Lagos and told his friend "that's my wife" to the season where both of them were out of work with three kids and had to trust God with decisions they couldn't logic their way through, this conversation reveals what faithfulness actually costs when the test isn't dramatic, it's daily. If you've ever wondered whether the work you're putting into your marriage, your faith, or your future is actually paying off this one is for you. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 - Meet Dayo & Yemi Jegede 01:30 - Laid Off During Paternity Leave: The Microsoft Story 03:30 - Green Card Crisis: When Your Status Hangs in the Balance 06:00 - Role Reversal: She Worked While He Searched 08:00 - The Upbringing That Shaped Their Marriage 14:00 - "Plan A or Plan A" — No Backup for This Marriage 18:00 - Why Your Home Has to Be Peaceful (And How to Build That) 22:00 - Putting the Marriage Before the Children 26:00 - Advice for Young Men Navigating Relationships 28:00 - Overcoming a Stammer: Dayo's Identity Journey 33:00 - 2023: Laid Off Again — And Both of Them This Time 37:00 - Going Back to Corporate After Entrepreneurship 40:00 - The Power of Friendship (And How It Raised Millions) 45:00 - How Their Social Media Journey Started (Mr. and Mrs. Jegz) 53:00 - "I Saw a Vision" — How Dayo Knew She Was the One 01:00:00 - She Went to His Hostel: Yemi's Side of the Love Story 01:05:00 - Your Fruitfulness Is Your Responsibility 01:11:00 - The Framework: Cultivate, Keep, Resist 01:17:00 - Cultivating Faithfulness in Work, Marriage, and Friendship 01:20:00 - Guarding What You've Built: Discernment and Boundaries 01:24:00 - Resisting Your Own Understanding When Life Makes No Sense 01:30:00 - Where to Find the Jegedes 💬 Dayo said "it's me and you against the problem, not me against you." What's the one principle that keeps your relationship grounded when things get hard? Share it in the comments. 📧 CONTACT US: - Email: [ifthisisitpodcast@gmail.com](mailto:ifthisisitpodcast@gmail.com) - Website: ifthisisit.com 🎙️ GUESTS IN THIS EPISODE: - Dayo & Yemi Jegede — Married 13+ years, parents to three, entrepreneurs, and content creators - YouTube: Mr. and Mrs. Jegz - Instagram: @diogz (Dayo) If This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful, exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Tosin, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life.

12. 

    2 Mar 2026

    God Doesn't Require Perfection. He Requires This

    You signed something you didn't fully understand. You made a decision too fast. You didn't check with God first. And now you're wondering, did I disqualify myself? In this episode of If This Is It, Tosin breaks down one of the most overlooked stories in the Bible: the day Joshua made a covenant he was never supposed to make, and what God did next. But this episode goes deeper than you'd expect. Hidden inside this ancient battle are five kings whose names reveal five internal enemies that most believers are fighting right now without even realizing it. They don't look like rebellion. They look like confidence, comfort, and common sense. And they might be the real reason your breakthrough feels stuck. If you've been carrying guilt over a bad decision, or if something inside keeps holding you back and you can't name it, press play. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 - You Signed It. Now What? 01:25 - Introduction: From Functional to Fruitful 01:30 - The Gibeonite Deception: What Actually Happened (Joshua 9) 04:30 - God Shows Up Anyway: Hailstones and the Sun Standing Still 05:00 - Lesson 1: God Covers Alignment, Not Perfection 06:30 - Consequences vs. Condemnation — They're Not the Same 07:00 - Lesson 2: The Five Kings and What Their Names Reveal 07:00 - King 1: Self-Righteousness (Adonai Zedek) 08:00 - King 2: Old Identity (Hebron) 08:45 - King 3: Self-Exaltation (Jarmuth) 09:45 - King 4: Self-Protection (Lachish) 10:45 - King 5: Self-Comfort (Eglon) 12:00 - These Aren't Ancient Rulers — They're Internal Voices 12:50 - The Gibeonites and Christ: Old Covenant vs. New Covenant 14:15 - The Framework: Cultivate, Keep, Resist 14:25 - Cultivate: Practice the Pause (But Don't Let It Become an Excuse) 16:00 - Keep: Learn to Recognize God's Voice 16:45 - Resist: Grace Isn't Passivity 17:30 - Fear Is Behind All Five Kings 18:25 - Closing: The Goal Was Never Perfection 💬 Which of the five kings is loudest in your life right now? Self-righteousness, old identity, self-exaltation, self-protection, or self-comfort? Be honest in the comments. 📧 CONTACT US: - Email: ifthisisitpodcast@gmail.com - Website: ifthisisit.com If This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful, exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Tosin, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life.

13. 

    23 Feb 2026

    Partial Obedience: Who Told You That Was Enough

    You're praying. You're fasting. You're serving. You're doing everything you've been told to do, so why does the breakthrough still feel stuck? What if the problem isn't that God hasn't heard you, but that you've been editing His instructions to fit what makes sense to you? In this episode of If This Is It, Tosin unpacks one of the most overlooked traps believers fall into partial obedience and why it might be costing you more than you realize. Using Abraham's original call and the choices he made before he ever reached the promised land, this episode reveals a pattern that most of us are living in right now without even knowing it. If you've been feeling exhausted, stuck in a loop, or quietly wondering why the doors aren't opening, this one might be the answer you didn't expect. 00:00 - The Frustration You're Not Talking About 02:30 - Introduction: From Functional to Fruitful 03:00 - Abraham's Triple Command — And the Move He Edited 06:00 - What Is Your Haran? The "Almost There" Trap 08:00 - Partial Obedience vs. Full Rebellion — There's a Difference 10:00 - The Cost of Comfort: A Real Story of Delayed Obedience 14:00 - This Pattern Shows Up Everywhere (Jobs, Character, Forgiveness) 17:00 - Jesus: The Contrast of Full Alignment 19:00 - The Three Modern Barriers: Security, Character, and Mindset 23:00 - The Daily Cost You're Already Paying (Peace, Momentum, Fruitfulness) 25:00 - The Framework: Cultivate, Keep, Resist 29:00 - Your Three-Part Challenge This Week 31:00 - Closing: It Wasn't That I Earned It. I Finally Fully Obeyed. 💬 What's the one thing you know God has asked you to do that you've been editing or delaying? Be honest in the comments, this is a safe space. 📧 CONTACT US: • Email: ifthisisitpodcast@gmail.com • Website: ifthisisit.com If This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Tosin, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life.

14. 

    17 Feb 2026

    From Legalism to Grace: A Pastor's Journey to Alignment

    He did everything he was taught to do. Fasted. Prayed. Served. And God went silent. In this episode of If This Is It, host Tosin sits down with Pastor Femi Omotayo, a pastor of nearly 30 years, host of the PF Unfiltered podcast, and leader of New Covenant House in Dallas for one of the most honest conversations about faith you'll hear this year.PF's journey didn't follow a straight line. He grew up in Nigeria, got saved through his father, and eventually found a church environment that looked like everything he wanted. But somewhere along the way, the system he trusted led him to a crisis he didn't see coming. What he discovered on the other side changed how he pastors, how he reads the Bible, and how he relates to God entirely.If you've ever felt like you're doing all the "right" things and still coming up empty or if you've ever quietly wondered whether the template you were given actually works this conversation is for you.Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Journey02:44 The Path to Authenticity05:28 Crisis of Faith and Understanding God08:05 The Flawed Template of Faith10:47 The Old Covenant vs. New Covenant13:27 The Role of Results in Faith16:30 Understanding Grace and Righteousness19:00 The Importance of Context in Scripture21:45 Navigating Church Dynamics24:07 Spiritual Abuse and Accountability26:44 The Role of Personal Responsibility29:18 Cultivating Alignment with God32:12 Overcoming Fear and Doubt34:37 The Process of Trusting God37:19 The Distortion of Faith39:50 Final Thoughts on AlignmentIf This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Toss, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life. Whether it's marriage, fatherhood, identity, or cultivating your inner life, this show brings biblical truth to everyday realities.📱 Connect with the podcast:Instagram: @ifthisisitpodTiktok: ifthisisitpod Email: hello@ifthisisitpod.com

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    9 Feb 2026

    What Nobody Tells Young Men About Fatherhood w/ Dami & Lolade Akibola

    What does it really look like to be a present, intentional father — especially when you didn't grow up seeing it modeled? In this deeply honest and faith-filled episode of If This Is It, host Tosin sits down with married couple Dami and Lolade Akibola to unpack what fatherhood actually requires — and why it's one of the most important callings a man can answer. If you're a young man wondering whether you're ready, this conversation might change how you think about it.Dami and Lolade have been married for 19 years and together for 21. They're raising two kids — Noah and Sophia — and they've built a family rooted in faith, intentionality, and a willingness to keep learning. But their journey didn't start with a perfect blueprint. Dami's parents divorced when he was 13, and that experience shaped his entire approach to marriage and parenting. He made a decision early: Plan A or Plan A. No backup. No exit strategy. Just commitment. They also tackle the bigger cultural questions: Why are so many young men afraid of fatherhood? Why do some want kids but not marriage? And what does faith have to do with any of it? Dami's answer is direct — you cannot be an effective father without partnership, and you can't have lasting partnership without grounding it in Christ. The episode closes with practical advice for young men and women navigating these decisions. 💬 What does intentional fatherhood look like in your life? Whether you're a father, want to be one someday, or you're reflecting on your own dad — we want to hear from you. Drop your thoughts in the comments. 📱 Connect with the podcast: Instagram: @ifthisisitpod Tiktok: ifthisisitpod Email: hello@ifthisisitpod.com If This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful — exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Tosin, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life. Whether it's marriage, fatherhood, identity, or cultivating your inner life, this show brings biblical truth to everyday realities.

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    2 Feb 2026

    Why Christians Are Starving for Affirmation (And How to Fix It)

    When was the last time someone told you that you're doing well? Not a passing compliment—but someone who actually SAW your quiet, consistent effort and said, "I see what you're doing, and it matters"?For most of us, it's been a while. And the silence is starving us.In this episode, Tosin explores:Why affirmation is so rare (and the lies we tell ourselves)Why people can't see their own progressHow to cultivate a culture that feeds, not starvesThe difference between living FOR affirmation vs. FROM your identity in ChristChapters00:00 The Power of Affirmation02:43 Understanding the Scarcity of Affirmation05:54 The Impact of Being Seen09:04 The Role of Community in Affirmation11:58 Biblical Foundations of Affirmation14:53 Practical Steps to Cultivate Affirmation18:06 Closing Thoughts on EncouragementThe truth is simple: starving people don't thrive. Fed people do.If This Is It is a podcast for Christians who are tired of surface-level faith and ready to move from functional to fruitful living. Hosted by Tosin Assan, each episode tackles the real questions believers wrestle with but don't always hear addressed in church—questions about identity, purpose, relationships, work, and what it really means to live aligned with God's plan.If This Is It – Real life. Real faith. Real questions. From functional to fruitful.📧 Got a topic you want us to address?📱 Connect with the podcast:Instagram: @ifthisisitpodTiktok: ifthisisitpod Email: hello@ifthisisitpod.com🎙️ Listen on Spotify & Apple Podcasts

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    26 Jan 2026

    Faith That Grows - Why Prayers Work Differently for Different People

    Ever wondered why some people pray and see immediate results while others wait years with seemingly no answer? In this episode, we tackle the question many believers are afraid to ask out loud.Host Tosin explores the often-misunderstood nature of faith—not as a one-time event, but as a living seed meant to grow through stages. From justification (the faith that saves) to sanctification (the faith that transforms), we break down why your faith journey might look different from someone else's, and why that's exactly how it should be.**In this episode, you'll discover:**- Why Jesus compared faith to a mustard seed, not a mountain- The difference between seed faith and mature faith- How to create the right conditions for your faith to grow- Why waiting isn't failure—it's the actual work of faith- The Cultivate, Keep, and Resist framework for growing your faith**Key Topics:**Faith stages | Spiritual growth | Patience in waiting | Active vs. passive faith | Obedience | Alignment with God | Biblical faith | Christian living | Moving from functional to fruitfulIf you've ever felt stuck in your faith journey, questioning why things aren't working the way you expected, or wondering if there's something wrong with you—this episode is for you. You're not alone, and your faith isn't broken. It might just be growing.---**Subscribe to If This Is It** for honest conversations about faith, identity, relationships, and living fruitfully in alignment with God's purpose.📧 Have questions or topics you'd like us to cover? Send us a message!#FaithJourney #ChristianPodcast #SpiritualGrowth #BiblicalFaith #IfThisIsIt #FaithThatGrows #ChristianLiving #PrayerLife

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    19 Jan 2026

    The Pivot: When God Closes the Door You Prayed For (with Rhoda Falaye)

    What happens when the career you worked so hard for isn't the life God called you to? In this powerful conversation, Rhoda Falaye shares her journey from nursing at Johns Hopkins to entrepreneurship, depression, and discovering her true identity in Christ.In this episode, we discuss:- The identity crisis that comes when your career doesn't work out- What it really means to cultivate your God-given identity- How to resist the "tree of knowledge of good and evil" mentality- The difference between performing for God and abiding in Christ- Practical holistic health wisdom and preventive care- Why yielding daily is the key to keeping what God gives you**If This Is It Podcast**Real life. Real faith. Real questions.Helping Christians move from functional to fruitful.📧 Have questions or topics you want us to discuss? Email us at ifthisisitpodcast@gmail.com

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    12 Jan 2026

    The Performance Trap: What Christians Get Wrong About Identity

    You don't have to perform for God's love but if you grew up in church, you probably believe you do. In this first episode, Tosin exposes the exhausting cycle of spiritual striving and introduces a different way: living from your identity in Christ, not for it. Through personal stories and biblical truth, discover what it means to move from functional to fruitful and why that shift changes everything. 📱 Connect with the podcast:Instagram: @ifthisisitpod Tiktok: ifthisisitpodEmail: hello@ifthisisitpod.com 💬 Got questions or want to share your story?DM us on Instagram or use #IfThisIsIt—we'd love to hear from you. 🎧 New here?Subscribe so you don't miss the next episode, and if this resonated, share it with someone who needs to hear it.

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