Antonia and Kaitlyn are just two women that are trying to navigate the trenches...ope we mean navigate dating in your twenties. Friends since 2010 - they have watched as all of their friends have found true love, gotten married, and started to have babies. For Tones and Kaitlyn, they have continued to be the life of the party and entertain their friends and family with their stories of finding love...that is, if it's real.
Episode 17: Even Cinderella Was Bamboozled by Love
In this episode, Toni and Kaitlyn talk about more reasons why love is not enough. Falling in love is the easy part, but did you know that all the romance movies we watched growing up failed to tell us that love really doesn't mean anything...? Dive in and hear how losing yourself in a relationship sucks, but happens, and that learning how to see your worth before you seek your worth is really important. But most importantly, remember that as you navigate these trenches, even Cinderella fell in love with someone who couldn't even remember what her face looked like.
16 Jun 2023
Episode 16 - I'm An Independent Woman, So Shit or Get Off the Pot
Navigating dating in your twenties is hard enough as it is, but when you are someone who is pursuing a career, balancing friendships, and trying to make your soul happy it gets that much harder. This week Toni & Kaitlyn discuss the difficulties of dating when balancing what seems to be the equivalent of the weight of the world on their shoulders. Trying to show up authentically, while respecting peoples time can be really difficult and not everyone is ready for those conversations. The patriarchy has no place here...but maybe it'll keep us in these trenches longer than we were hoping.
9 Jun 2023
Sometimes They Aren't Everyones Cup of Tea...but you don't need to remind me.
The gals are still in these trenches and take a brief timeout from beach vacations and bar exam studying to dive into some hot topics requested by our users. Are we crazy to not want our partners liking, subscribing, and retweeting photos of random hot women? Maybe, but hey at least we communicate our boundaries. These two also take some time to talk about a topic that is quite personal for them - What to do when your friends and family don't like your partner? Relationships are hard enough as is, and sometimes we share a little bit too much of the bad with our loved ones. What this does can sometimes ruin the relationship, create moments of isolation, and make it hard for couples to grow...so how do we get through it? Tune in to find out.
2 Jun 2023
If They Were The Love of Your Life, Would You Let Them Poop on You?
Episode 14 takes a wild ride that neither Kaitlyn nor Toni could have expected. Diving into exes over-stepping boundaries, or wait - they weren't even an ex so even worse. Turning to first dates dos and don'ts and a question about how we express our kinks in the bedroom on a first time with our new boo. The gals are deep in these trenches, and maybe are starting to figure out why they will never leave the trenches. But who could be too sure.
26 May 2023
Reasons Why You Shouldn't Text Your Ex
The trenches stay exciting when the two girls that stay in them continue to repeat past behaviors. Although Kaitlyn encourages her gals not to reach out to her ex, she shares the story of how not once...but twice...she reached out to two different exes in hopes of...who could be too sure. The girls also talk about the stigma surrounding why we block our exes, and how to pursue moving forward even when these people used to be apart of our lives.
19 May 2023
These Trenches Are Dryer Than the Sahara Desert...
In this episode, Kaitlyn and Toni get a bit more serious as they discuss how to navigate mental health in relationships. Spilling your juicy stories about losing your virginity and realizing just how long they both have basically been born again virgins, these two try to bring a real perspective on more nuances found in relationships.
12 May 2023
It's Okay to Cry When You Lose Your Virginity...
Welcome back to Season 2 of In the Trenches. Antonia and Kaitlyn have been busy these last three weeks as they have travelled to Mexico, Colorado, California and all the states in between to get another one of the gals married. What the girls didn't realize is that a lot of mixed emotions pop up when you are the only single ones at yet another wedding. But with all the weird emotions, we want to make space for what is this season of singleness...and while we are at it, maybe we can share a bit about how we lost our virginities. Shower talks with our moms or crying to our boyfriends about going to hell...welcome to the trenches folks.
14 Apr 2023
Why Do I Need Bitcoin to Sell My Panties?
Listen, it's 2023 and it's almost as though we are living in the millenials version of the Great Depression. Which means we can do network marketing, shake our tatas on video camera, or sell some used panties. Being single in your twenties isn't all that bad I guess...This week join Toni and Kaitlyn as they discuss their part time gigs, talk about the value of trust in relationships, and hear how Toni's life became a real life version of "John Tucker Must Die."
7 Apr 2023
Episode 9 | Celebrity Hookups Aren't Always Great... & Do We Tip for Happy Endings?
Toni and Kait start this episode exploring what a happy ending looks like for women. Do we ask the masseuse for one? Do they simply do their magic and expect a tip? Should we be turned on or concerned...who could be too sure. And we've all heard an R&B track that has made us just guess that intimacy with that artist would be phenomenal. But what happens when he hits you up and then fails to perform?
31 Mar 2023
Episode 8 | Grow Up, Wax the Cooch & Get Strapped Up for Battle
On this weeks episode, Toni & Kaitlyn dive into expectations around landscaping the areas that usually enjoy the trenches. Waxing, shaving, or just letting it all grow out. You do you, and while you're at it, maybe tell your partner to grow up. They also end the conversation talking about why it's important to know what you will and will not tolerate in relationships. As we navigate dating, let's maybe try to get strapped up before we dive in.
24 Mar 2023
Episode 7 | Hailey v. Selena...I Mean We've All Been Both
As the tiktokers unite to fight for Selena...or wait, Hailey...who knows - Toni and Kait discuss where they stand and their personal take on when mean girls played games with their love lives. And to give them the benefit of the doubt, most of us have been a little crazy at least once while navigating these trenches. Whether it be looking through their phone, chasing them down in the Walmart or punching them in the face - your toxicity is welcome here. Join us and let us know your craziest time.
The title says it all, or does it not say enough. Join Toni & Kait as they discuss the weekly update about dating people on apps - but not dating apps, the -icks that we get from men and how maybe a one night stand should stick to a one night stand when his mom wakes you up with a shower and coffee in the morning.
10 Mar 2023
Born Again Virgins, TikTok Porn & Walmart Cannoli's.
On this weeks episode, Toni and Kaitlyn start us off with some helpful advice on the TikTok male trends. Whether it be smacking that chicken breast or chopping the wood, these men really do belong on the streets. The girls also dig into some of your thoughts on things like cheating, soulmates, and the worst ways we've been dumped. And if you didn't think Walmart could get more exciting just wait until you hear how God, cannoli's, and a born-again virgin all found a way to break a heart. After that fun we take a more serious turn to discuss girl code and how to best have other gals backs while also minding your own business.
3 Mar 2023
Episode 4 | Navigating Situation...ohp I Mean Imaginationships
In Episode 4, Toni & Kaitlyn are getting down and dirty with some questions from a viewer. Navigating a situationship is never easy, but what if the situationship is more like an imaginationship...? And if you aren't sure what that means, tune in to find out. Also hear the pros and cons of dating apps, dating app safety & how to not stay on a date with a guy who uses a fake name.
24 Feb 2023
Episode 3 - Drowning in the Trenches...but with a floatie?
Toni & Kait dive into how these trenches have been following the holiday of love. We also dive in about faking it to please your partner, and what to do when the poonani literally causes your partner to black out (*yikes*).
17 Feb 2023
Episode 2 | Getting (Love) Bombed
Love Bombing...per the google, love bombing is: the action or practice of lavishing someone with attention or affection, especially in order to influence or manipulate them. Fortunately for y'all, we have the tips and tricks of how to spot this and avoid it. And before we provide the tools to avoid this red flag, hear about what led us to starting this podcast. Heartbreak sucks, but actually can be quite nice.
16 Feb 2023
Pilot | Getting In The Trenches
Antonia and Kaitlyn are two best friends that are the last two remaining in the trenches...and what are these trenches? The streets, the dating world, the most awful thing to experience in your twenties (...okay we may be being a bit dramatic). But really, come join us as we talk about our experiences and maybe take some helpful tips and tricks with you.
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