Intimacy Matters
Real Relating with Nicola Foster
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- 2021
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About Intimacy Matters
Intimacy Matters is a podcast all about love, sex and relationships. Join qualified sex and relationship therapist Nicola Foster and her partner Jason Porthouse as they talk about all aspects of sexuality and relating. Featuring occasional guests who are also experts in the field of intimacy. Whatever your stage in life - whether single or dating or in a long-term partnership; whether a couple or a thruple or a moresome; friends-with-benefits to happily married, and all flavours in-between - you'll find enlightening discussions and plenty of thought-provoking ideas in our fortnightly show.
- Publisher
- Real Relating with Nicola Foster
- Category
- education · health & fitness · society & culture
- Language
- en
- Explicit
- No
- First episode
- 24 Mar 2021
- Latest episode
- 30 Sept 2024
Latest episodes
17 episodes in the feed.
30 Sept 2024
GUEST INTERVIEW with Betty Martin - The Art Of Receiving And Giving
Send us a textIntimacy Matters - Featuring Betty MartinTo celebrate International Podcast Day we are thrilled to release this exciting episode of Intimacy Matters. Nicola Foster and Jason Porthouse sit down with the wonderful human Betty Martin, creator of the Wheel of Consent and author of The Art of Receiving and Giving. Together, they dive into how understanding consent can transform (yes, really!) your relationships and intimacy.Key Highlights:The Wheel of Consent: Betty shares how her gr...
6 Jun 2024
Coping With Adversity In Relationship
Coping With Adversity In Relationship: Communication, Self-Care, and Support Episode Summary: This episode explores how partnerships are tested by life’s challenging events like illness, bereavement, miscarriage, and unemployment. We discuss how stress can take couples out of sync, and provide strategies for navigating tough times together. Key Topics Discussed: We start by examining the impact of significant life events on relationships, highlighting how stress disrupts daily life. Often, couples facing adversity become adversarial or disconnected. A major theme is the vulnerability involved in asking for help. We address the challenges of seeking and receiving support, offer some practical self-care tips, and discuss ways to navigate boundaries and consent. If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast) Connect with Us: Visit www.realrelating.com and follow Nicola on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/realrelatingwithnicola/ (https://www.instagram.com/realrelatingwithnicola/) Subscribe and Review: Subscribe on Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/intimacy-matters/id1560947607 (https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/intimacy-matters/id1560947607)and leave a review to help us create supportive content. Contact Us: Email us at info@nicola-foster.com with questions or topic suggestions. We'd love to hear from you!
21 May 2024
The Fantastic World of Fantasy
Prepare to dive into the wonderful world of sexual fantasy in this episode. We'll uncover the prevalence of fantasy in human sexuality and its vital role in exploring desires and boundaries. From understanding the functions of fantasy to exploring popular categories like multi-partner sex, taboo acts, and gender role exploration, we'll provide practical insights and tips for talking about fantasy without tears! Learn how open communication and shared exploration of fantasies can deepen intimacy and foster more trust and more fun. Join us for a lively discussion on embracing sexual fantasy. The research we talk about is from Justin Lehmiller https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/?hl=en (https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/?hl=en) He has a book all about fantasy here: https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Me-What-You-Want/dp/0738234966/ref=as_li_ss_tl?dchild=1&keywords=lehmiller&qid=1611166990&sr=8-1&linkCode=sl1&tag=lehmillercom-20&linkId=0c99986e1ae7823ed732345dff5bda7e&language=en_US (https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Me-What-You-Want/dp/0738234966/ref=as_li_ss_tl?dchild=1&keywords=lehmiller&qid=1611166990&sr=8-1&linkCode=sl1&tag=lehmillercom-20&linkId=0c99986e1ae7823ed732345dff5bda7e&language=en_US) If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
7 May 2024
Anna Sansom - Writing The Erotic
In this episode we welcome erotic author Anna Sansom. We chat to Anna about all things erotic - and how we can get in touch with our own desires through creativity, even when it might feel really challenging. We also discuss her book Desire Lines (https://amzn.eu/d/248PhUg) - part memoir, part guide to reclaiming our erotic nature. Anna is a queer cis woman (pronouns: she/her) who is endlessly curious about how we experience and express our unique sexual selves. She started writing erotica over two decades ago, has had a full-length erotic novel published and several short stories in anthologies and online. She has a PhD in occupational therapy and is the co-creator of In Touch with Yourself, a guided journey for women who want to reconnect with their pleasure, sensuality, and sexuality, using creative, playful, and empowering personal practices. She loves drinking tea, swimming in the sea, and talking to her cats. You can find her at annasansom.com (http://www.annasansom.com) and intouchwithyourself.co.uk (http://www.intouchwithyourself.co.uk), and on Facebook (@AnnaSansomWriter) and Instagram (@Anna_Sansom_Writer). Anna's Substack is at https://annasansom.substack.com/ (https://annasansom.substack.com/) If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
21 Apr 2024
Endings
Endings, though difficult, are an essential part of life. Whether it's a breakup, divorce, or the loss of a loved one, endings can be traumatic. In the podcast we talk about how society often downplays the significance of endings, offering clichés like "plenty more fish in the sea," which fails to acknowledge the pain and complexity of separation. Research shows that the pain of a breakup can trigger physical responses similar to those of physical injury. Heartbreak is real and can have a profound impact on our well-being. What can we do to support ourselves during these times? We also talk about conscious uncoupling, as popularized by Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin - what is it and how do you go about it? Recommended resources: Book: The Wisdom of a Broken Heart - Susan Piver (https://www.hive.co.uk/Product/Susan-Piver/The-Wisdom-of-a-Broken-Heart--How-to-Turn-the-Pain-of-a-B/28636073?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwuJ2xBhA3EiwAMVjkVKtr6OUnxx4qJ0xf1zH4gZX1wvdFYrjBBm4PNV4IXbqFRQ3M__dROxoC3BEQAvD_BwE) If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe to our podcast for more discussions on intimacy and relationships. If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
10 Apr 2024
Desire Discrepancy
Welcome to the latest episode of the Intimacy Mattters podcast where we dive into intimacy and relationships. Highlights of this episode include: Sex Frequency: How often is "normal"? Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire: Why knowing the difference makes ALL the difference. Navigating Differences: Contrary to popular belief, sex can improve with time through exploration, communication, and a shift away from performance-based attitudes. Initiation Strategies: We share some playful approaches to help initiate intimacy without pressure. Resources mentioned in the episode: NATSAL British Survey of Sexual Attitudes (https://www.natsal.ac.uk/about/) David Schnarch's book "Passionate Marriage" (https://www.wob.com/en-gb/books/david-schnarch-phd/passionate-marriage/9780393334272?cq_src=google_ads&cq_cmp=19553275652&cq_con=&cq_med=pla&cq_plac=&cq_net=x&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw8diwBhAbEiwA7i_sJSLtP_UeMiw-k85wgU_YkMVRsL8_WFnL_LaD3uWfKl2hwmLy4q1YKxoCOtsQAvD_BwE#GOR004085112) Good Times Planner (download (https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1pAqbp3vELTtc-PLkuGFx_6EXHiyotbl-qlHtJ2yMUqQ/copy)) If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
26 Mar 2024
C is for Consent
In this episode, hosts Nicola and Jason dive into the crucial topic of consent within established relationships. We explore the dynamics of consent using the "wheel of consent" framework, addressing common questions and concerns about ongoing consent. Emphasizing open communication and mutual respect, we reflect on our own experiences with non-consensual touch and discuss practical ways to ensure boundaries are respected. Consent isn't just a one-time conversation—it's an ongoing dialogue that fosters respect, trust, and mutual understanding within a long term relationship. We explore how consent impacts power dynamics and resentment within relationships. We also talk about the "three-minute game" as a practical tool for exploring different aspects of consent within relationships. If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
12 Mar 2024
Silva Neves - The Myth Of Sex Addiction
In this episode Nicola and Jason talk to author and psychotherapist Silva about the myths surrounding 'sex addiction'. It's become a buzzword of late, with celebrities caught in the 'Me Too' movement citing it as a reason for their behaviour. In his book 'Compulsive Sexual Behaviours', Silva challenges the notion that sex can be addictive at all, and provides a pathway towards healing for those who feel they do have a problem. In this wide ranging talk we'll bust some common misconceptions surrounding sex addiction, look at the limitations of conventional treatments, and explore the role of shame and societal norms in influencing how we see sexual behaviour. We'll also explore the importance of open communication and empathy if you're someone dealing with this in your relationship. If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
27 Feb 2024
The Power Of Both / And - Embracing Creative Tension
Are you tired of the never-ending battle over how to load the dishwasher? 🍽️ Do you and your partner feel like you're constantly at odds? 🤔 In our latest podcast episode, we explore the fascinating concept of polarity in relationships and how it impacts every aspect of our lives. Join us as we discuss: The two types of people who load dishwashers: the precision-driven Scandinavian architect 🏠 and the free-spirited raccoon on meth 🦝 How pushing each other into polarities can create unnecessary conflict and tension 🚫 Practical strategies for finding balance in your relationship 💑 Real-life walk through of how to do a BOTH / AND exercise Whether you're a newlywed, in a long-term relationship, or navigating the complexities of dating, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable tips that you can apply to your own relationship journey. Tune in now to learn a brilliant way to enjoy a more harmonious partnership! 🎧✨ Show notes: Book - Navigating Polarities: https://amzn.eu/d/e9jB6d9 (https://amzn.eu/d/e9jB6d9) Blog - https://www.realrelating.com/blog/both-and (https://www.realrelating.com/blog/both-and) If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
30 Jan 2024
A is for Appreciation
We're back! After a LONG hiatus (the longest in podcast history?) Intimacy Matters returns. In this episode we tell you some of what's been going on, what will be coming up, and begin with our A to Z of Relating with 'Appreciation'. (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) Show notes: Love Languages Quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language (https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language) If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
23 May 2021
Adam Wilder - Togetherness, Intimacy and Sovereignty.
In this episode we talk to Adam Wilder about all sorts of interesting stuff - how Togetherness, his school of connection and online community, started; safety versus authenticity (and how to navigate between them); the collective and the individual; 'us and them' and how we can use our common experiences to foster connection. We also touch on men's work, how we bring connection into our intimate relationships, saying no, how Dutch people break up with friends, notions of sovereignty and much, much more... Adam's website can be found here: https://www.wilderintimacy.com (https://www.wilderintimacy.com) Togetherness can be found here: https://www.togetherness.com (https://www.togetherness.com) And remember you can find us at https://www.realrelating.com/podcast (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast) If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
8 May 2021
Ruth Culver - From Surviving to Thriving
Ruth Culver talks to us about the fascinating world of Internal Family Systems therapy, and her work linking IFS with Polyvagal Theory. Sounds complex? You'll be an expert after this podcast, which is full of learning and warmth too. Ruth talks about how we process trauma and how IFS can help us to gently access this and ultimately heal ourselves and our relationships. Ruth's website can be found here: http://calmheart.co.uk (http://calmheart.co.uk) Her Survive/Thrive diagram can be dowloaded here (https://ec5e5565.sibforms.com/serve/MUIEAEG-yqFNEE_uynemrtpyEDQVEZC-91n4CojPquu5BmrGWorZ7vS9fCqCiNyaJerH9_yhuFgIebGRVVWn3-dBUOXeInY0hOGuNsm-QSXVHwJfirN3rSmXpi2wTw2H2fGBqOl8ScHGQzi96OyeuVZ5nOdq5peFCNfEBx2LZ7KP3BZB_OglqHegunCYulz226ljliVHGshSzZGr) (requires email). And remember you can find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast (https://www.wanting-more.com/podcast) If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
26 Apr 2021
Jan Day - The Art Of Conscious Relationships
We talk to acclaimed relationship and intimacy expert Jan Day. We discuss Living Tantra, her school of intimacy and relating, and her forthcoming book. We look at what constitutes a conscious relationship and how to cultivate one, and get some advice on practices that couples can use to help keep intimacy alive in long term relationships. For more information visit Jan's website: www.janday.com (http://www.janday.com) And you can find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast) If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
11 Apr 2021
Janet McGeever - Sex and the Menopause
Janet McGeever is an educator, speaker, psychotherapist and author, based in Australia. Together with Diana Richardson she wrote Tantric Sex and the Menopause, and regularly hosts women's and couples workshops in Australia. We chat to Janet about her background and path to becoming a teacher, menopause issues, how we change as we age, the differences between the sexual response of men and women, and much much more. Janet can be found here: www.janetmcgeever.com (https://www.janetmcgeever.com) If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
28 Mar 2021
Cate Mackenzie - Bridging, Flirting and being an Octopus
We chat to sex and relationship therapist Cate Mackenzie about being in lockdown with your partner, the importance of flirting and the difference between Turtles and Octopuses. Cate introduces us to the practice of Bridging as away of enhancing communication, and the importance of 'going slow'. We also find out how it was to do couples therapy 'live' on air with Denise Van Outen and fiancé Eddie! Cate's website is here: www.catemackenzie.com (https://catemackenzie.com) And you can find us at www.realrelating.com (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast) If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
28 Mar 2021
Introducing Intimacy Matters
In which our intrepid duo lay out their stall. Why a podcast? What is Intimacy Matters all about? What do we hope to achieve, and what can you, dear listener, expect? And finally, what does Alanis Morissette have to do with ANY of this? All will be revealed ... Contact us here: www.realrelating.com (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast) If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
24 Mar 2021
Kalindi Jordan: Shame, Healing and Sensuality
Kalindi Jordan is a teacher working with women and couples to help them reclaim their innate sensuality. We talk to her about the roots of shame, coming back to the body, giving and receiving, and the effects of trauma in blocking our pleasure. We look at the importance of working with others to help healing, and the power of group work. Kalindi can be found here: kalindijordan.com (https://www.kalindijordan.com) If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy (http://www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy) If you'd like to contact us - suggestions for topics, guests, brickbats or bouquets - find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast. (https://www.realrelating.com/podcast)
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