Is your sex life changing after 40? Wondering what's normal, what's not, and what to do about it? Oh, we're going THERE!
Join Renée Yvonne, Certified Sex Counselor and Chief Pleasure Officer of The Grown Folks Society, for honest, funny, shame-free conversations about sex, intimacy, pleasure, aging, and relationships.
Real questions. Grown-folks answers. No judgment.
New episodes every Thursday.
Want to keep SEXploring? Take the free E.V.O.L.V.E. Pleasure Assessment™ at https://tgfsevolve.scoreapp.com.
Pleasure never gets old. It evolves.
Can you love your partner, find them attractive, enjoy being together, and STILL not want to have sex with them?
Absolutely! But honey, try explaining that to a partner who's wondering why you haven't touched them in three weeks! 😂
Welcome to the very first episode of Is This Normal or Not?, where we answer the questions grown folks have about sex, intimacy, and relationships. Especially the ones we're sometimes afraid to ask!
In this episode, Certified Sex Counselor and Chief Pleasure Officer Renée Yvonne explores a question many couples face after years together:
"I love my partner, but I just don't want sex like I used to. Is something wrong with me or our relationship?"
We're talking about what happens when partners experience different levels of sexual desire, why affection can start feeling like an obligation, and how couples can reconnect without pressure or blame.
Here's what we're SEXploring:
Why loving your partner and wanting sex aren't always the same thing.
How mismatched desire can leave one partner feeling rejected and the other feeling pressured.
Why stress, aging, and changing bodies can affect sexual desire.
Three ways to rebuild intimacy without making intercourse the goal.
And don't miss our signature segment, Take This to Bed!, where you'll get one simple, playful assignment to help you and your partner reconnect.
Because sometimes the first step toward better sex has absolutely nothing to do with having sex.
💜 Keep SEXploring!
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19 Dec 2025
I need to kindly talk to my partner about softer erections. Is this normal or not?
Summary
In this conversation, Renée Yvonne addresses the sensitive topic of softer erections in relationships, emphasizing the importance of open communication and emotional safety. She discusses the fears and misconceptions surrounding this issue, encouraging couples to talk about their feelings and needs. Renée highlights that softness is not a failure but a signal for change, and that discussing these changes can deepen intimacy and trust between partners. She offers practical advice for initiating these conversations and fostering a supportive environment for both partners.
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15 Dec 2025
I want more foreplay since I've turned 40. Is this normal or not?
Summary
In this conversation, Renee Yvonne discusses the importance of foreplay for men over 40, emphasizing that it is not only normal but essential for enhancing sexual experiences. She explains the physiological changes that occur with age, the significance of emotional connection, and the exploration of various erogenous zones. The discussion highlights how foreplay can lead to better sexual satisfaction and deeper intimacy, encouraging a shift in perspective about its role in sexual encounters.
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13 Dec 2025
My erection is disappearing. Is that normal or not?
In this episode, Renee Yvonne addresses the common concern of men experiencing softer erections as they age.
She normalizes this change, explaining that it is a natural part of growing older and does not signify a loss of masculinity or desire. The conversation delves into the physiological changes that affect erections, including blood flow, hormonal shifts, and the importance of emotional safety in intimate relationships.
Renee encourages listeners to embrace these changes and explore new ways to connect with their partners, emphasizing that pleasure can evolve rather than diminish with age.
Don't forget to join The Grown Folks Society (https://www.skool.com/thegrownfolkssociety) on Skool. Use this space to ask questions, dive deeper into topics, and get real-time counseling sessions.
12 Dec 2025
My erections aren't as firm as they used to be. Is this normal or not?
In this episode, Renee Yvonne addresses the common concern of men experiencing softer erections as they age.
She normalizes this change, explaining that it is a natural part of growing older and does not signify a loss of masculinity or desire. The conversation delves into the physiological changes that affect erections, including blood flow, hormonal shifts, and the importance of emotional safety in intimate relationships. R
enee encourages listeners to embrace these changes and explore new ways to connect with their partners, emphasizing that pleasure can evolve rather than diminish with age.
Don't forget to join The Grown Folks Society (https://www.skool.com/thegrownfolkssociety) on Skool. Use this space to ask questions, dive deeper into topics, and get real-time counseling sessions.
10 Dec 2025
Is This Normal Or Not? Trailer
“Welcome to Is This Normal or Not?
The podcast where we talk about everything your body, your desire, and your bedroom start doing after 40… and why none of it means you're broken.
I’m your Chief Pleasure Officer, Renée Yvonne.
And if you’ve been quietly Googling things like ‘sex after 40,’ ‘low libido,’ ‘menopause dryness,’ ‘erectile dysfunction,’ or ‘why did our sex life fall asleep?’ Baby, you’re not alone… and you’re not crazy. You’re just grown.
Here’s what you get on this show.
• The real medical and scientific reasons your sex drive shifts
• What menopause, andropause, stress, and medications do to your desire
• How to talk to your partner without arguments or shutdowns
• What to ask your doctor when something feels off
• And simple ways to rebuild intimacy, connection, and pleasure at any age
Every episode blends truth, tenderness, and a little grown-folks humor.
Nothing is too awkward. Nothing is too weird. And everything you’re going through has a path forward.
So hit follow, press play, and get ready to learn your body in a whole new way.
And for deeper support, live workshops, and real conversations about sex after 40, join us inside The Grown Folks Society on Skool.
Remember Pleasure Never Gets Old!
This is Is This Normal or Not? Let’s get into it.”
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