It Is What It Is

About It Is What It Is

The road to self-discovery is one with a lot of sharp stones and barking dogs. My book "It Is What It Is" is your sisterly guide and friend to keep you company on that journey, a journey we all need to take alone. The audiobook offers you a universal process for knowing ourselves better from a woman who has, after a great deal of therapy, managed to awaken her own inner guru and build incredible happiness on her own terms. The book was written in 2021 and published in by Znak Księgarnia in 2022. Translation from the Polish into English by Agata Sochalska. Read by Steve W.

Publisher

Nadia Werkowska

Category

education

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

5 Mar 2023

Latest episode

8 Mar 2023

Latest episodes

4 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   8 Mar 2023

   Be Willing To Be Uncomfortable

   An audiobook version of my memoir/self-help book: It Is What It Is. I I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk I fall in. I am lost … I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes me forever to find a way out. II I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in the same place but, it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out. III I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in … it’s a habit. my eyes are open I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately. IV I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it. V I walk down another street. (words: Portia Nelson) From: It Is What It Is, by Nadia Werkowska (translated by Agata Sochalska from the Polish - all material copyright Werkowska/Sochalska.)

2. 

   7 Mar 2023

   The Problems That Self-Knowledge Solves​​

   An audiobook version of my memoir/self-help book: It Is What It Is. "We equate happiness with high-intensity emotions—excitement, anticipation, ecstasy, orgasm. This may be collectively our biggest problem with feeling happier—that we conflate it with pleasure. But pleasure is not happiness, and high-intensity emotions burn us all out. Ideally what we want is to inhabit what motivational speaker Tony Robbins calls ‘a beautiful state.’ I’m paraphrasing, but a beautiful state, says Robbins, is when you feel love, joy, gratitude, awe, playfulness, ease, creativity, drive, caring, growth, curiosity and appreciation. This, he says, is how a person looks when they are ‘in harmony with essence’ (essence being your true nature). Contrast this with being in a suffering state: stressed out (the overachiever’s version of fear), worried, frustrated, angry, depressed, irritable, overwhelmed, resentful and fearful. Self-knowledge fosters this cooler, but ultimately more sustainable happiness. Even before we have lined life up perfectly, we enjoy the sense that we are making progress. And that feels incredibly satisfying." From: It Is What It Is MANTRAS: I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you and I am I; If by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful. If not, it can’t be helped. -Fritz Perls, "The Gestalt Prayer" If I just do my thing and you do yours, We stand in danger of losing each other And ourselves. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations; But I am in this world to confirm you As a unique human being, And to be confirmed by you. We are fully ourselves only in relation to each other; The I detached from a You Disintegrates. I do not find you by chance; I find You by an active life Of reaching out. Rather than passively letting things happen to me, I can act intentionally to make them happen. I must begin with myself, true; But I must not end with myself: The truth begins with two. -Walter Tubbs, "Beyond Perls"

3. 

   6 Mar 2023

   Self-Knowledge (Why Give A Damn?)

   An audiobook recording of my memoir/self-help book: It Is What It Is. "The power of inertia—the tendency to do nothing or to remain unchanged—fixes us all in place at times. Inertia is a powerful counterforce to pretty much anything good. It can often arise in relationships, which is why when we truly know ourselves, and what it is we need to be happy, it is best to end a relationship if certain form of inertia or stuckness has entered into your interactions. We can only grow by moving out of inertia into self-knowledge and self-development." - From: It Is What It Is

4. 

   5 Mar 2023

   Foreword

   "I have come to internalise the maxim that life happens for us rather than to us. In other words, if something is happening, then it isn’t wrong. We are all being constantly challenged to grow into a larger, more awesome version of who we are. Knowing yourself better really does bear remarkable fruits. For instance, now I know the true meaning of emotional self-reliance -not the kind where you’re avoiding people for fear of being hurt- I can create my own happiness and contentment on demand. I’ve basically reclaimed my power—the power I did not know I had given away. I have become my own guru, and I believe that anyone can, by changing the way they pay attention. I hope by now you have a clearer picture of the person writing to you. Now let’s have a closer look at this thing called self-knowledge and awareness to see if it’s for you." From: It Is What It Is

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