Jenny Says So Podcast

About Jenny Says So Podcast

Welcome to Jenny Says So—the podcast where modern etiquette meets real life. I’m Jenny, a modern-day etiquette expert, former wedding officiant & professional, and co-founder of the first registry platform for divorce support. With 20 years of studying religion and communities under my belt, and as the creator of the VASE Method of communication I have a lot of opinions about what etiquette is and what it should be. I’ve been featured in Time Magazine, The New York Times, Real Simple, and more talking about everything from the least worst way to cancel your wedding to gifting in awkward circumstances. My superpower? Knowing when to leave the party—and I’m here to answer all your questions about boundaries, manners, and navigating life as a human in this wild world. Each week, I’ll tackle one of your questions and break it down in a way that’s approachable, not stressful, because etiquette doesn’t have to be archaic or stuffy. Let’s leave the outdated rules behind and redefine how we connect. Follow Jenny Says So on your favorite podcast platform, and head to FreshStartsRegistry.com/JennySaysSo to send your questions (they can be anonymous!) —I can’t wait to hear from you!

Publisher

Fresh Starts Registry

Category

education · health & fitness · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

4 Dec 2024

Latest episode

19 Jun 2025

Latest episodes

11 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   19 Jun 2025

   Overloaded with Oversharing in Oregon: what happens when you become the unofficial office therapist?

   Host Jenny offers strategies for listeners to compassionately set boundaries at work, especially when colleagues treat them as an unofficial therapist, by becoming boring and reclaiming their energy.

2. 

   14 May 2025

   Feeling Steamrolled in Pennsylvania: how to respond when friends change your plans last minute

   In this episode of Jenny Says So, Jenny dives into the complexities of friendships—specifically how to navigate awkward moments and misunderstandings with grace and empathy. She emphasizes the importance of curiosity and open communication, suggesting that friends should approach conflicts with a mindset of understanding rather than judgment. Jenny shares her tips for creating safe spaces for vulnerability, addressing misunderstandings directly, and handling tense moments with compassion and clarity. Hey Jenny, I have a dilemma I need help with. So, two old friends and I have been getting together a few times a year for dinner. Since we are a little geographically dispersed, we all take turns being slightly inconvenienced, and we really try to pick a place that is convenient for everyone (as much as possible). For our recent outing, we picked a date, time and place that made sense for us all. However, at the last minute one friend wanted to change the time and place, and the demeanor was a little aggressive! Before you knew it, we had changed our plans to accommodate her. What would be the right thing to say to her to bring attention to the fact that she was inconsiderate? Is it wrong to read aggressiveness in a text? Thanks for the help. Signed, Feeling Steamrolled in Pennsylvania Jenny dives into this relatable friendship dilemma with her signature compassion and straightforward advice. She discusses how easy it is to misread tone through text and emphasizes the importance of face-to-face communication to clear up misunderstandings. Jenny shares practical tips on how to address inconsiderate behavior with kindness and honesty, suggesting that open-ended questions can help uncover intentions without placing blame. Her advice highlights the importance of curiosity, understanding, and direct communication in navigating friendships.

3. 

   7 May 2025

   Need Boundaries Advice in New York City: how to manage social obligations when out-of-town people visit you

   In this episode of Jenny Says So, Jenny dives into the complexities of social obligations when friends or acquaintances visit a city. She emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, being authentic in interactions, and managing expectations. Jenny also shares practical advice on how to prepare for visitors, including creating a recommendations list and practicing responses to maintain personal well-being. Hi Jenny, I have a question for you. I recently moved to Manhattan and am about to turn 40, which has me reflecting on how my friendships and social dynamics have evolved over time. I’m an extrovert and an entrepreneur, so I’ve built many connections over the years through work, school, and networking. But now that I’m in New York City, I’m finding that people from my past—some of whom I haven’t seen in years—reach out when they’re visiting the city. They often expect me to act as their tour guide, coordinate their plans, or be on-call for catch-ups, even if it’s not convenient for me. While I value these connections, it feels one-sided and draining, especially when there’s no reciprocity or deeper relationship involved. On top of that, I’ve had situations where people bring others along, making the dynamic even more complex, leaving me feeling like entertainment rather than a friend. As a people pleaser, I struggle with setting boundaries in these situations. How can I create clear criteria for myself to decide when to say yes or no? And are there ways to navigate these interactions so they don’t leave me feeling so depleted? I’d love your thoughts on how to protect my energy while maintaining authentic relationships. Signed, Need Boundaries Advice in New York City Jenny dives deep into this relatable situation, offering heartfelt advice on setting boundaries, honoring your own time, and not feeling obligated to play tour guide when it’s not genuinely aligned with your energy. She shares tips for gracefully saying no, offering curated recommendations instead of your time, and recognizing when a visit is more about convenience than connection. Jenny encourages listeners to listen to their instincts, practice direct communication, and prioritize their own well-being without guilt. Her practical advice is perfect for anyone feeling the weight of social obligations and looking for a way to protect their time while still maintaining meaningful connections.

4. 

   22 Apr 2025

   Confused about Caregiving in California: how do you set boundaries with your own parents?

   In this heartfelt episode, Jenny dives into the emotional complexities of setting boundaries—especially in adult relationships with parents. Prompted by a listener question about navigating caregiving concerns while protecting one’s emotional wellbeing, Jenny shares her perspective on how to honor both compassion and self-respect. She explains the difference between communicated boundaries (what we say) and internal boundaries (what we do or don't allow ourselves to absorb), reminding listeners that healthy relationships require both. Hi Jenny, Oh my goodness, I’m so glad I found your podcast—it’s been such a helpful resource! Here’s my question: As we start the new year, I’m thinking about setting clear boundaries, especially with family. What advice do you have for adult children dealing with parents who may be immature or who weren’t very supportive during childhood? Specifically, how can we help them stay independent for as long as possible while also protecting our own emotional and mental health, so we’re not taking on a caregiving role before it’s absolutely necessary? I hope this resonates with others, too—thank you so much for your insight! Sincerely, Confused about Caregiving in California Jenny gently affirms that we are not responsible for managing the lives or emotions of capable adults—even our parents. Holding back unsolicited advice, saying no without guilt, and recognizing when certain conversations may do more harm than good are all essential tools in maintaining emotional balance. She speaks candidly about the grief that can come with realizing some family members may never change—and how that realization can actually open the door to peace, clarity, and deeper healing. Therapy, Jenny emphasizes, can be a powerful companion on this journey. Finding a therapist who truly “gets you” can help unravel generational patterns and empower you to make loving yet firm decisions. Ultimately, Jenny reminds us that prioritizing our mental health isn't selfish—it’s necessary. This episode is a reassuring listen for anyone learning how to balance love, boundaries, and the difficult truths of family dynamics. Learn more about Jenny Says So Podcast: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/jenny-says-so-podcast

5. 

   5 Mar 2025

   Guilt-Stricken Wedding Guest in Wisconsin: do you REALLY have to give a wedding gift?

   In this episode of Jenny Says So, Jenny tackles the tricky topic of wedding gift expectations and whether guests should feel obligated to give one—especially when attending a wedding already comes with significant costs. Responding to a heartfelt listener question from Guilt-Stricken Wedding Guest in Wisconsin, Jenny breaks down the financial realities of being a wedding guest, the social pressures around gift-giving, and why celebrating love shouldn’t come with a price tag. She challenges the idea of quid pro quo in weddings, emphasizing that gifts should come from a place of joy, not obligation. Hello Jenny, As a wedding guest, what should you be expected to pay the couple as a gift? I am in a very tight place financially, so the past few weddings that I have attended that have required travel, hotels, new outfits, etc., I haven’t given any sort of gifts. Is that awful? I feel bad. What are my options if I can’t gift the couple what they deserve? Help! Thank you. From navigating tight budgets to finding thoughtful, affordable ways to show your support, Jenny shares practical advice for guests who may feel guilty about not giving a traditional gift. She also highlights the importance of self-care, setting financial boundaries, and shifting the focus back to what truly matters—celebrating the couple’s love. Whether you’re planning a wedding, attending one soon, or simply rethinking the way we approach gifting, this episode offers a refreshing, judgment-free take on modern wedding etiquette. Learn more about Jenny Says So Podcast: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/jenny-says-so-podcast (https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/jenny-says-so-podcast)

6. 

   25 Feb 2025

   Stuck on Small Talk in South Carolina: how do you move from small talk to deeper conversation?

   This week on Jenny Says So, Jenny tackles a question from a listener, Stuck on Small Talk in South Carolina, who wants to move beyond surface-level conversations but isn’t sure how. They find themselves lost when sports and weather come up, wondering how to transition to more meaningful discussions. Hi Jenny, I often find myself stuck during small talk because I don’t know much about sports and talking about the weather feels so repetitive. What are some good conversation starters that can lead to more meaningful discussions, and how can I smoothly transition from small talk to real talk when there’s time to connect on a deeper level? Thank you for the help! Love the show. Signed, Stuck on Small Talk in South Carolina Jenny breaks down the art of small talk, explaining that no conversation is truly small when approached with curiosity, openness, and intention. She offers practical tips for engaging in deeper conversations, including asking thoughtful questions, sharing personal stories, and embracing moments of vulnerability. Jenny emphasizes that every interaction is an opportunity to build connection and that light conversations can often lead to heartfelt moments if we’re willing to step outside our comfort zones. She shares strategies for making conversations more engaging, fostering authenticity, and creating space for deeper dialogue. Whether you're looking to improve social skills, build stronger relationships, or simply feel more confident in everyday interactions, this episode will give you the tools to transform small talk into something truly meaningful. Learn more about Jenny Says So Podcast: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/jenny-says-so-podcast

7. 

   18 Feb 2025

   Guilt About Gifts in Georgia: do you always need to bring a hostess gift?

   This week on Jenny Says So, Jenny tackles a question from a listener, Guilt About Gifts in Georgia, who’s unsure about the etiquette of bringing gifts when visiting someone’s home. From housewarming parties to casual get-togethers, they wonder when a gift is expected—or if it’s even necessary. Hi Jenny! I have a question about gifts for you. What’s your take on bringing “gifts” to someone’s house when you go over? Housewarming, hanging out, coming to visit, parties, etc. Do you bring a gift? If so, what do you bring? How do you determine when it’s appropriate or not? Is it different based on who it is? For example, Friends, family, neighbors, colleagues, acquaintances, strangers? I didn’t grow up in a house with much gift giving, so I always felt like I never learned the “rules” around that stuff. Any help would be appreciated! Signed, Guilt About Gifts in Georgia Jenny breaks down the nuances of guest gifts, reassuring listeners that while a small token of appreciation is always thoughtful, showing up empty-handed is perfectly fine, especially if the host insists. The key is understanding context, relationships, and cultural expectations rather than following rigid rules. Jenny shares practical insights on navigating gift-giving with confidence, emphasizing that a simple gesture—like bringing dessert, a bottle of wine, or even just asking if the host needs anything—can go a long way. She also explores how different cultures view guest gifts, the role of re-gifting, and why assuming the best intentions in social interactions helps create a more welcoming environment. If you’ve ever stressed about whether to bring a gift, this episode will help you approach it with ease and authenticity. Learn more about Jenny Says So: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/jenny-says-so-podcast

8. 

   13 Jan 2025

   Far away friend in Florida: How to support a friend after they lost everything in a fire

   In this heartfelt episode of Jenny Says So, Jenny tackles a listener’s question about how to support a close friend who lost everything in a devastating wildfire. Hi Jenny, I have a close friend who recently had to evacuate their home due to a fire and sadly lost everything. I live far away, so I’m not sure how to best support them from here. I also don’t want to say the wrong thing and accidentally add to their pain. What’s the most thoughtful way to help and show I care during such a devastating time? Signed, Far Away Friend in Florida From afar, it can be difficult to know what to say or do, but Jenny introduces the VASE method—Validate, Acknowledge, Support, and Express—as a thoughtful approach to providing comfort and care. She offers compassionate advice on validating the enormity of your loved one’s loss, acknowledging their pain, and offering practical and emotional support without overstepping boundaries. Listeners will come away with actionable tips for helping friends in crisis, such as offering financial assistance, coordinating logistical help, or simply reaching out with heartfelt words of love and connection. Jenny emphasizes that even small gestures can have a profound impact during times of overwhelming grief. Whether you’re near or far, this episode will inspire you to show up with kindness and care for the people who matter most. To support people who have lost their homes in the wildfire, please check out this link (https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1pK5omSsD4KGhjEHCVgcVw-rd4FZP9haoijEx1mSAm5c/htmlview?fbclid=PAY2xjawHtWQNleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABphZiw5T9kv6v0LkTTSlQ95jkZezcbd-iN1LlNY-oZ428BXyXY1ubOgarcA_aem_n7IdMQvnkIhIZ2Ce45ZrKA)! To create a free registry to help people start over again, check out the registry and essential items bundles here: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/registry (https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/registry)

9. 

   26 Dec 2024

   Don’t want to feel weird in Wyoming: how to handle greeting people in professional settings

   In this episode of Jenny Says So, modern-day etiquette expert Jenny tackles a relatable question from "Don't Want to Feel Weird in Wyoming" about navigating greetings and introductions in mixed social and professional settings. Should you go for a handshake, a hug, or something else entirely? Jenny breaks down how to read the room, establish comfort for everyone, and avoid awkward moments with a thoughtful approach to personal boundaries and cultural norms. We'd love to know what you think about this episode! Have a question for Jenny? Head to the link and let us know. All questions are totally anonymous. https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/jenny-says-so-podcast Thank you to Aunt Jane for providing the voice over work, and the theme song is provided by simonarmitage, Pond5.

10. 

    20 Dec 2024

    No Longer a Hugger in New York: how to navigate shifting personal boundaries

    In this episode of Jenny Says So, modern-day etiquette expert Jenny tackles a heartfelt question from "No Longer a Hugger in New York." Jenny explores how to navigate shifting personal boundaries, particularly when it comes to physical greetings like hugs. She shares practical advice on communicating changes with warmth and honesty, while also addressing the reactions of friends who might struggle to adapt. With empathy and curiosity, Jenny guides listeners on how to maintain meaningful relationships while honoring their own comfort and autonomy. We'd love to know what you think about this episode! Have a question for Jenny? Head to the link and let us know. All questions are totally anonymous. https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/jenny-says-so-podcast Thank you to Taylor for providing the voice over work, and the theme song is provided by simonarmitage, Pond5.

11. 

    4 Dec 2024

    Welcome to Jenny Says So Podcast

    Welcome to Jenny Says So—the podcast where modern etiquette meets real life. I’m Jenny, a modern-day etiquette expert, former wedding officiant & professional, and co-founder of the first registry platform for divorce support. With 20 years of studying religion and communities under my belt, and as the creator of the VASE Method of communication I have a lot of opinions about what etiquette is and what it should be. I’ve been featured in Time Magazine, The New York Times, Real Simple, and more talking about everything from the least worst way to cancel your wedding to gifting in awkward circumstances. My superpower? Knowing when to leave the party—and I’m here to answer all your questions about boundaries, manners, and navigating life as a human in this wild world. Each week, I’ll tackle one of your questions and break it down in a way that’s approachable, not stressful, because etiquette doesn’t have to be archaic or stuffy. Let’s leave the outdated rules behind and redefine how we connect. Follow Jenny Says So on your favorite podcast platform, and head to FreshStartsRegistry.com/JennySaysSo (https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/jenny-says-so-podcast) to send your questions (they can be anonymous!) —I can’t wait to hear from you!

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Apple Podcasts (US)

4.9 / 5

28 ratings

Spotify

5.0 / 5

12 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 22 / 100

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Quality

24

Social presence

0

YouTube

0

Engagement

51

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