Welcome to Just Shae & Friends—a podcast for the misunderstood, the neurospicy, the moms who do too much, and the quiet folks with a whole lot to say. I'm Shae: Navy vet, autism mom, psychology student, and content creator just trying to make sense of the chaos.
Here, I share real stories—from parenting my nonverbal-now-sassy son to finding my own voice through burnout, growth, and a little stubbornness. Sometimes it’s just me. Sometimes it’s a conversation. But it’s always honest, always human.
No fluff. Just real talk, straight from the frontlines of figuring it all out.
This episode is for parents who can’t relax.
If you’ve ever felt like you couldn’t turn your head for even a second without something going wrong, this chapter will feel familiar.
I talk about raising my autistic son during a season of constant movement and elopement. The fear underneath the running. The hypervigilance nobody took seriously. And what it does to your body when you’re always in protection mode.
This isn’t a how-to episode. It’s a lived experience.
For parents raising autistic or special needs children who feel like they’re always watching, always alert, and always tired.
16 Jan 2026
We Were Already Playing Catch-Up
This episode is the first chapter of my memoir, told out loud.
When my kids came back to live with me, my son Ste’ce was six, in pull-ups, nonverbal, and already diagnosed with autism and an intellectual disability. I didn’t understand what that meant yet. Not because nobody told me, but because I was overwhelmed, surviving, and didn’t have the language for what was happening in my own body.
In this episode, I talk about those early months. The accidents. The school calls. The memories that wouldn’t stop replaying. The shame I didn’t know how to name. And the moment I realized we were already playing catch-up without a map.
This isn’t advice or research. It’s lived experience.
If you’ve ever looked back and wondered what you missed while you were just trying to survive, this chapter is for you.
27 Dec 2025
Why Your Child Throws Things (And What Actually Helps)
Repetitive behaviors like throwing aren’t always random or defiant. Sometimes they serve a purpose, especially during moments that require focus or regulation. In this episode, I talk through why simply stopping a behavior can increase stress, how replacement behaviors can support safety and regulation, and what questions parents can bring to their BCBA or therapist to better understand the “why” behind what they’re seeing.
This is a real talk reflection grounded in lived experience, RBT work, and research that supports harm reduction, communication, and nervous system regulation. Because safety and regulation can coexist.
References mentioned:
SPARK for Autism. Repetitive behaviors in autism and their role in regulation
Autism Internet Modules. Differential reinforcement and alternative behaviors
Links ABA. Teaching functional replacement behaviors
ERIC. Differential reinforcement and behavior support research
13 Nov 2025
Autism Detox Talk: Hope, Hype, and What the Research Says
In this episode, I talk about the popular “autism detox” trends—what they are, where the idea came from, and why I chose a different path for my son. I break down the difference between social-media detox routines and medical chelation therapy, explain what the research actually says, and share what supported my son’s progress in a real, practical way.
I also explore the pressure parents feel to “fix” autism, the guilt that often comes with those conversations, and why shifting from blame to support has made all the difference in our journey.
Sources referenced:
NIH – “Chelation for autism spectrum disorder (ASD)” https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6457964/ (https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6457964/?utm_source=chatgpt.com)
Cochrane Review on Chelation and Autism https://www.cochrane.org/CD010766/BEHAV_chelation-autism-spectrum-disorder-asd (https://www.cochrane.org/CD010766/BEHAV_chelation-autism-spectrum-disorder-asd?utm_source=chatgpt.com)
FDA – “Potentially Dangerous Products and Therapies Claiming to Treat Autism” https://www.fda.gov/consumers/consumer-updates/be-aware-potentially-dangerous-products-and-therapies-claim-treat-autism (https://www.fda.gov/consumers/consumer-updates/be-aware-potentially-dangerous-products-and-therapies-claim-treat-autism?utm_source=chatgpt.com)
NHS – “Treatments Not Recommended for Autism” https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/autism/autism-and-everyday-life/treatments-that-are-not-recommended-for-autism/ (https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/autism/autism-and-everyday-life/treatments-that-are-not-recommended-for-autism/?utm_source=chatgpt.com)
PMC – “Dietary Patterns and Nutritional Status in Children with Autism” https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8234602/ (https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8234602/?utm_source=chatgpt.com)
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24 Oct 2025
When Your Autistic Child Won’t Eat (and How I Accidentally Raised a Foodie)
What do you do when your autistic child refuses to eat — or only eats the same three things? In this episode, I share how my son, Ste’ce, went from picky plates to loving food, without pressure or force. From babyhood dinners with our big cultural “village buffet” to the green bean trauma that taught me what not to do — this episode breaks down sensory challenges, real-life parenting lessons, and why gentle exposure works better than battles.
If you’ve ever cried at the dinner table or wondered how to help your child try new foods, this one’s for you. Pull up a chair, grab a snack, and let’s talk about building trust, not tension, around food.
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21 Sept 2025
How to Help Your Child Use Their Communication Device
Ever feel like you already know what your child is saying without words? That’s not magic — that’s mom intuition. In this episode, I share how I turned that gift into real communication practice with my son.
We’ll talk about:
• Different ways nonverbal kids communicate
• How to turn silent signals into device use
• The role of consistency and patience
• Why your child’s AAC device is more than a gadget — it’s their voice
If you’re working on getting your child to use their communication device, this one’s for you. You’ve already got the gift. Now it’s about helping them translate it.
6 Sept 2025
Meltdowns, Misunderstandings, and Moving Forward
When my autistic son had a meltdown on camera and later apologized, people assumed I didn’t discipline him. Let’s clear that up. In this episode, I break down what an autistic meltdown really is, why discipline has to wait until calm returns, and how to respond in ways that actually help.
Whether you’re a parent, caregiver, partner, or friend, you’ll walk away with a better understanding of what’s happening during a meltdown, what you can do in the moment, and how to move forward after the storm.
Because meltdowns don’t mean failure — they mean human.
20 Aug 2025
When Your Child Won’t Sleep in Their Own Bed (Or Destroys It)
Some kids won’t sleep in their own bed… others dismantle it like it’s their part-time job. In this episode of Just Shae and Friends, I share my experience with my son Ste’ce (yes, he took his bed apart too), along with strategies I’ve learned from ABA training and my RBT sister.
We’ll talk about:
Why kids resist their bed or destroy it (sensory, escape, attention, or comfort issues)
Safety-first solutions like floor beds and crash pads
The power of consistency in bedtime routines
Gradual independence: moving the bed step by step toward their own room
Reinforcing the good behaviors and working with your therapy team
Disclaimer: I am not a BCBA. Please work with your child’s therapy team for a plan tailored to your child.
9 Aug 2025
When Your Autistic Child Hits: Safety First
Hitting can be one of the toughest moments to handle as a parent—especially when your child is autistic and struggling to communicate.
In this episode, I share what I’ve learned from ABA training and from my sister, who’s an RBT, about keeping yourself safe and helping your child find safer ways to express themselves.
I haven’t experienced this personally with my son, but these tips can help you protect yourself, stay calm, and work with your child’s therapy team to address the behavior.
Disclaimer: I am not a BCBA. Please consult your child’s therapy team for a plan specific to them.
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