Lead your wife.
Makes sense, right?
Want a different experience in your marriage?
Get your wife to give you different experiences.
Influence and motivate her to do that.
Not in a manipulative way, but rather in a way that ministers.
But to be true to this, you must be in a place where you can consistently give her different (increasingly better) experiences.
Here’s a secret brother. You are always leading her whether you know it or not.
And you have led her to a place where she gives you unhappy experiences.
And you have blamed her. You have shamed her. You have deflected responsibility for this unhappy marriage to her. You have defended yourself despite the fact that, you have led her to this reality.
Want to fix it?
Lead her on purpose, by getting there first and attracting her into the space of being able to provide increasingly better experiences for a spouse.
The sad thing is... most men get stuck in blaming, shaming, defending, and deflecting until they get on the phone with me or one of my coaches -- desperate for help to try to avoid a devastating divorce.
The get on the phone with me because I’ve helped thousands of men to turn their failing marriage around... to create the Have It All Marriage... a marriage that empowers them to achieve everything they want in life.... even if she is refusing to talk, has moved out, or is filing divorce papers when he gets on the phone with me.
And the way that I do this, is I teach them to lead their wife from a place of being a Real Man.
Real men take radical responsibility and extreme ownership over all the results in their life.
Any man who has achieved any level of success works hard to get better at the how every day.
Any man who has achieved any level of success works hard to get more clear on the why ever day.
But what men are not taught is the what and the how and the why will never get him the results he desires unless he becomes the ’who’ -- a man who gets real about where he is leading himself and his wife.
Until he understands that he, himself, is what is holding him back, he is a blamer... a shamer... a deflector... and a defender... and he is his own biggest obstacle.
And sadly, while he, himself, pays a steep price for this posing, ultimately it’s his wife and his kids who pay the most.
What is now necessary, is for strong men to rise up and refuse to pose, but instead take ownership of their own weakness, transcend it, and lead.
What is now necessary is a revolution of fake, posing men, one man at a time, from the inside out. Each man who has been taught to be fake and to pose from a very young age, by a society that is designed to keep men down on purpose... must rise. Each man must rise to become the man WHO can transcend the blame, the shame, the defense, and the deflection... and to deal with the real.
And this is impossible for a man operating alone. And because men are taught by this society to operate alone, they are being held down while believing they are a victim of their wife, their kids, their job, their business, the marketplace, or any number of things outside of their control.
Yet the man who joins a brotherhood, joins a revolution, a movement, where he is no longer operating alone; but rather, inside of a group of men who live differently... a group of men who hold themselves accountable to lead their wife, by first learning how to lead themself... that man begins to rise... and to deliver a consistent level of increasingly better experiences to his wife, his kids, his clients, and his Creator.
I’m Bob Gerace, and I call this brotherhood: The Real Man Revolution.
Join us, brother. We’re changing the world, one man at a time from the inside out.