Lies My Ego Told Me is a bold and deeply human podcast about mental health hosted by Cathyrine “Lilo” Armandie—a military veteran, leader, and mother who knows firsthand how the ego can be both a fierce protector and a persistent saboteur.
In each episode, Lilo sits down with guests from all walks of life to explore the pivotal moments when ego-driven stories began to unravel—and the deeper truths that emerged in their place. With raw honesty, vulnerability, and occasional humor, these conversations dive into the personal lies we tell ourselves to feel safe, strong, or worthy—and the courage it takes to outgrow them. If you’re on a journey of self-discovery, healing, or personal growth, this podcast will inspire you to challenge your own narrative and reclaim your truth.
Ep. 20: If I Make Enough Money, I’ll Finally Be Safe, with Aamina Saddiqui
Lilo sits down with Aamina Siddiqui, a wealth manager who spent her life chasing financial security, only to discover that money was never the real source of safety. After enduring childhood instability, post-9/11 discrimination and her father’s repeated job losses, Aamina rose to the top of her industry. But even as she advised multi-millionaire clients on managing their wealth, her own relationship with money spiraled—and she had to fix it. This episode explores the psychological roots of our beliefs about money, the illusion that income equals security, and how true financial freedom begins internally, not externally.
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Who is Aamina Saddiqi and why is her story important?
Aamina Siddiqui is a financial advisor, wealth strategist and educator who specializes in helping people—especially women—develop a healthier relationship with money. Her story is important because she had financial expertise but still struggled with money, and her behaviors were driven by past trauma, not lack of knowledge. This is a common experience for many high achievers.
Instead of chasing income as the solution, she rebuilt her financial foundation and separated self-worth from net worth. Her transformation shows that financial literacy without emotional literacy isn’t enough.
What does this episode say about money and feeling safety, security or happiness?
This episode makes several bold assertions to reframe the narrative around money and security. Aamina Saddiqi says money does not automatically create safety; money can buy comfort but not peace; security comes from systems, not status; and happiness is tied to “enough,” not “excess.”
What does this episode say about having a healthy relationship with money?
This episode suggests that a healthy relationship with money starts with separating self-worth from net worth. People should start by trying to live below their means. Starting small—even saving just $10–$50 a month—can rewire your brain toward discipline and long-term thinking. Then, automate those good habits by creating systems that remove willpower from the equation.
Resources & Links
Aamina Saddiqi on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aaminasiddiqui/
(https://www.linkedin.com/in/aaminasiddiqui/)
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Ep. 19: There is No Time for Fear, with Sharon “Betty” Preszler
Lilo sits down with trailblazing fighter pilot Sharon “Betty” Preszler, one of the first women to fly the F-16 after the 1993 combat exclusion law change. From ejecting out of an F-16 in a five-second life-or-death emergency, to working inside Cheyenne Mountain on 9/11 while six months pregnant, to navigating her young son’s leukemia diagnosis, Preszler shares the “lie” her ego told her for decades: There’s no time for fear.
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What is this episode of Lies My Ego Told Me about?
This episode of Lies My Ego Told Me explores the dynamic between courage and fear. The discussion reveals that courage does not mean the absence of fear; it means acting despite fear. The episode explains that fear is natural and often unavoidable but it does not have to dictate decisions. True courage is acknowledging fear and moving forward anyway.
Who is Sharon Preszler and why is her story important?
Sharon “Betty” Preszler is a history-making fighter pilot, one of the first women to fly an F-16 after the law was changed in 1993. Besides her military credentials and experience, she overcame personal challenges including her young son’s cancer diagnosis. Having stepped away from aviation to become a keynote speaker and life coach, she now helps others conquer their fear and move forward.
What does this episode say about suppressing fear?
This episode reveals that fear doesn’t disappear, it takes root and grows. Preszler says that while compartmentalizing helped her function in high-stakes roles, unprocessed stress eventually manifested physically. Healing only began when she stopped flying, reflected deeply, and allowed herself to revisit buried experiences.
What does this episode say about having a healthy relationship with fear?
This episode reveals that fear is neither enemy nor weakness—it’s information. It’s a survival response. The key is to recognize it, accept it without shame, evaluate whether it’s rational and choose a response intentionally.
Resources & Links
Learn more about Betty and her causes
Check out her Substack https://substack.com/@thebettypreszler (https://substack.com/@thebettypreszler)
For Coaching or Keynote Speaking https://sharonpreszler.com/ (https://sharonpreszler.com/)
To support families navigating childhood cancer, please support Camp KEMO https://prismahealthchildrens.org/programs-and-services/camps/camp-kemo (https://prismahealthchildrens.org/programs-and-services/camps/camp-kemo)
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3 Feb 2026
Ep. 18: Perfectionism is Excellence, with Dr. Anne Harrington
Lilo sits down with Dr. Anne Harrington, a leading nuclear policy scholar and trailblazer, to unpack the lie that perfectionism equals excellence. From global security systems that fail despite flawless execution to the intensely personal grief of infertility and motherhood, Anne shares how doing everything “right” still doesn’t guarantee the outcome we want. This conversation explores control, vulnerability, and what it means to be good enough—in our work, our bodies, our relationships, and our lives.
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What is this episode of Lies My Ego Told Me about?
This episode of Lies My Ego Told Me explores how perfectionism can masquerade as excellence—and the emotional cost of believing that doing everything right guarantees the right outcome. Through personal storytelling and systems-level insight, the episode connects global nuclear policy failures with deeply human experiences of grief, control, and motherhood.
Who is Anne Harrington and why is her story significant?
Anne Harrington is a professor of international relations and an expert on nuclear weapons and nonproliferation. Her story is significant because she bridges high-stakes global systems—where small failures can lead to catastrophe—with personal experiences of infertility, loss, and becoming a mother, revealing how limits of control exist in both policy and life.
What does this episode say about infertility and loss?
The episode reframes infertility and miscarriage as experiences that are not caused by personal failure. Anne emphasizes that no amount of effort, discipline, or “doing everything right” can guarantee biological outcomes—and that self-blame only deepens grief.
What does “good enough” mean in this episode?
“Good enough” means showing up with honesty, humility, and emotional presence rather than striving for flawlessness. Anne explains that children—and adults—don’t need perfect caregivers or perfect systems; they need relationships that allow for mistakes, repair, and resilience.
Resources & Links
Show: Lies My Ego Told Me
Episode page, resources, and links: liesmyego.com (https://liesmyego.com/)
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Ep. 20: If I Make Enough Money, I’ll Finally Be Safe, with Aamina Saddiqui
Published 5 Mar 2026 · Transcript excerpt
[…] So where were you emotionally in those teenage years? I decided that I had to earn I had to bring in money and support myself and my family and really go after my goals. I was 16, 17. And I would apply for jobs, you know, as a cashier at Subway or anything that I would come across working at Forever 21. That was the big story back then. So I was quite determined. Then eventually when I graduated... High school, I got an opportunity to work at a local bank as a teller. And that's when I finally got a little bit of independence and confidence that I can earn money and I don't have to rely on someone else for everything or not rely on someone else. […]
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