Life By Eight

About Life By Eight

Welcome to Life By Eight – your blueprint to mastering intentional living and designing your ultimate life. Hosted by Rebecca Grugan, this podcast dives into the Eight Pillars to Human Wellness framework, offering tools and insights to design a life filled with purpose and vitality. Each episode is crafted to help you live more intentionally, moving from the ordinary to the extraordinary. Whether you're looking to enhance personal wellness, foster better relationships, or ignite your career growth, Life By Eight equips you with the strategies to live a life by design.

Publisher

Life By Eight

Category

education

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

29 Nov 2022

Latest episode

21 May 2026

Latest episodes

1 of 107 episodes have a transcript.

1. 

   21 May 2026

   Why ADHD is quietly destroying your relationships

   What if ADHD isn’t the problem… but the way the world has misunderstood it is? In this raw, powerful episode, Rebecca dives deep into the truth about ADHD, relationships, shame, rejection sensitivity, emotional overwhelm, parenting, and why so many ADHD adults have spent years trying to fit into a neurotypical box that was never built for them. You’ll learn why ADHD can look like laziness, inconsistency, withdrawal, forgetfulness, or chaos on the surface, but underneath is often exhaustion, shame, nervous system overload, and a brain wired differently. This episode is for ADHD adults, partners of ADHD humans, parents, and anyone trying to understand why life has felt harder than it “should” because maybe you were never broken. Maybe you were trying to live in a box that was too small for your brain. If this resonates, share it with someone who needs to hear they’re not alone. TIMESTAMPS 00:00: Why the "neurotypical box" is becoming obsolete in a changing world. 01:05: Why an ADHD partner's brain may literally shut down during a fight. 02:33: Why your ADHD partner is exhausted from trying to act neurotypical, not lazy. 04:15: Three common behaviors: hyperfocus, forgetfulness, and pulling away that look like a lack of love but are actually ADHD. 05:22: How the ADHD experience of time as "now or not now" causes missed dates and forgotten promises. 06:50: Why pulling away during emotional intensity is a survival mechanism for an overwhelmed nervous system. 08:00: Advice for the non-ADHD partner who feels lonely and carries the cognitive load of the household. 10:01: Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) and how it can destroy connection. 11:11: How ADHD changes the way love is expressed and experienced compared to neurotypical standards. 13:48: The real problem in relationships is often the shame surrounding ADHD, which leads to hiding and defensiveness. 15:45: The "dopamine drop" after the honeymoon phase and how it affects motivation and connection. 17:48: Why ADHD brains may subconsciously seek the "chase" of emotionally unavailable people for stimulation. 20:18: Why many relationship issues are actually nervous system dysregulation problems rather than communication failures. 21:17: Why using "absolute language" is the worst thing to do in a fight with an ADHD partner. 23:36: The "ADHD Tax" and why experiencing time is different from managing it. 28:09: Why ADHD brains need "rhythms" they can feel rather than routines they can fail. 33:52: Seeking healthy stimulation to avoid the chaos of addiction or dramatic relationships. 36:59: The four stages of an adult ADHD diagnosis: Awareness, Acknowledgement, Acceptance, and Action. 38:50: First steps for parents of children newly diagnosed with ADHD: prioritising compassion over judgment and shame. 42:01: Adapting discipline to a child's specific needs rather than using a blanket approach. 43:58: Why ADHD brains are built for the uncertainty of the modern world and can see solutions others miss. 47:28: Final takeaway: A diagnosis is an explanation for behavior, not an excuse to avoid responsibility or hurt others. 👉 Ever wondered if you have ADHD? Or has someone suggested you might? You can check out our free ADHD Screening Tool here: https://attached-assets--lifebyeight.replit.app/ If you’re interested in ADHD Coaching for yourself, your relationship, or your family, reach out to explore the best support options for you. Learn more or take the next step below: 🔸 Discovery Call: https://bit.ly/Lifeby8DiscoveryCall 🔸 Work with Bec: https://bit.ly/Lifeby8DiscoveryCall 🔸 Learn more: https://lifebyeight.com/ 📲 Follow Rebecca: 🔸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebeccagrugan 🔸 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.grugan 🔸 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccagrugan/

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   7 May 2026

   Sound Is Shaping Your Nervous System (Whether You Realise It or Not)

   What if your anxiety, stress, overstimulation, exhaustion, or emotional state isn’t just about mindset… but about the sounds surrounding you every single day? In this episode of the Life by 8 Podcast, Rebecca is joined by Kylie Bell to explore one of the most overlooked influences on human behaviour, healing, and nervous system regulation: sound. This conversation is for anyone who feels constantly “on edge,” drained by modern life, sensitive to noise, overwhelmed in busy environments, or curious about healing beyond traditional methods. It’s also for parents, business owners, coaches, creatives, and anyone wanting to understand how their environment affects their state. Inside this episode, we unpack: ⚪ How sound impacts the body on a cellular and nervous system level ⚪ Why certain environments leave you anxious, overstimulated, or depleted ⚪ The hidden effect of music, media, alarms, salons, traffic, social media, and everyday noise ⚪ Why some sounds soothe you while others trigger stress instantly ⚪ How sound can be used as a healing modality to release stuck emotion and stagnant energy ⚪ Why silence can feel deeply restorative in a noisy world ⚪ How mothers, families, and children can use sound more intentionally at home ⚪ The future of sound healing and why it’s only just beginning If you’ve been doing “all the work” but still feel stuck in your body, this episode may open your eyes to a missing piece of healing because sometimes it’s not that something is wrong with you. It’s that your nervous system has been responding to an environment you haven’t noticed. TIMESTAMP: 00:00 - Intro: The Spectrum of Sound and Impact on the Soul 01:17 - Kylie's Background and Journey Into Sound Healing 02:30 - How Sound Will Serve Humanity Collectively 03:13 - How Sound Works on the Body on a Cellular Level 04:49 - The History and Weaponization of Sound 06:53 - Sound as an Underrated and Unconscious Influence 08:33 - The Impact of Frequencies on Animals and Humans 09:52 - Words, Lyrics, and Music as Programming Tools 11:00 - The Impact of Modern Music on Teenage Behavior 12:26 - Impact of Music and News on the Nervous System 13:57 - Conscious Consumption and the "Scroll Hole" 14:34 - Tonality and Voice as Vibrational Tools 15:00 - The Bridge Between Mind and Heart Through Senses 17:47 - Integrating Coaching with Sound and Song 19:30 - Sound in Daily Routines: Bells, Apps, and Credit Cards 20:56 - Creating Aesthetically Beautiful Aerial Sound Baths 22:18 - Representational Systems and Memory Anchoring 23:05 - Sound Healing Certification and Tools for Mothers 24:46 - Simple Habits 26:34 - Transitioning from Hairdressing to a Soul Mission 27:43 - Sensory Overload and Combining Irritating Sounds 29:19 - Lessons from a Silent Retreat: Suburbia vs. Silence 31:02 - Cultural and Environmental Frequency: The Sound of a Place 32:15 - Mainstream Awareness of Sound and Neurodiversity 35:00 - Encouragement to Become Consciously Aware of Sound 👉 Ever wondered if you have ADHD? Or has someone suggested you might? There are common traits and behaviours that can be related to ADHD. You can check out our free ADHD Screening Tool here:https://attached-assets--lifebyeight.replit.app/ (https://attached-assets--lifebyeight.replit.app/) Please note: this is not a diagnostic tool and is currently in BETA, it is not a substitute for professional assessment. To explore a formal diagnosis, we recommend booking an appointment with your GP, who can guide you on your journey. If you’re interested in ADHD Coaching for yourself, your relationship, or your family, reach out to explore the best support options for you. Learn more or take the next step below: 🔸 Discovery Call: https://bit.ly/Lifeby8DiscoveryCall (https://bit.ly/Lifeby8DiscoveryCall) 🔸 Work with Bec: https://bit.ly/Lifeby8DiscoveryCall (https://bit.ly/Lifeby8DiscoveryCall) 🔸 Learn more: https://lifebyeight.com/ (https://lifebyeight.com/) 📲 Follow Rebecca: 🔸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebeccagrugan (https://www.instagram.com/rebeccagrugan) 🔸 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.grugan (https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.grugan) 🔸 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccagrugan/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccagrugan/)

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   23 Apr 2026

   This is why you’re burnout

   Do you love your partner with ADHD… but feel like you’re carrying the relationship on your own? Do you feel exhausted from being the one who remembers everything, manages the house, keeps life moving, regulates everyone’s emotions, and still feels guilty for being frustrated? This episode is for the non-ADHD partner who feels burnt out, resentful, lonely, or emotionally checked out… and for the ADHD partner who knows something is wrong but doesn’t know how to fix the cycle. In this episode, Rebecca breaks down: Why ADHD relationship burnout happens slowly over time The invisible mental load many partners carry in silence Why anger, nagging, snapping, and resentment become common Why calm communication often stops working The guilt + shame cycle both partners get trapped in Why neither person is the problem How to shift from blame to building systems that actually work What couples need to understand if they want to reconnect If you’re stuck in the same arguments, feeling more like housemates than partners, or wondering if your relationship can survive ADHD dynamics, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface. Because the issue usually isn’t love. It’s the system you’re living inside. TIMESTAMPS 01:06 - Illustrating Isolation in ADHD Relationships 03:15 - Understanding ADHD Partner Burnout 04:35 - Signs and Statistics of Relationship Dissatisfaction 07:10 - The Invisible Mental Load 08:48 - Invisible Labor and Emotional Regulation 11:51 - The Impact of Shame and Comparison 14:52 - The Cycle of Urgency and Anger 17:37 - Changing the Relationship System 22:30 - Choosing to Work Together Without Blame 👉 Ever wondered if you have ADHD? Or has someone suggested you might? There are common traits and behaviours that can be related to ADHD. You can check out our free ADHD Screening Tool here: https://attached-assets--lifebyeight.replit.app/ Please note: this is not a diagnostic tool and is currently in BETA, it is not a substitute for professional assessment. To explore a formal diagnosis, we recommend booking an appointment with your GP, who can guide you on your journey. If you’re interested in ADHD Coaching for yourself, your relationship, or your family, reach out to explore the best support options for you. Learn more or take the next step below: 🔸 Discovery Call: https://bit.ly/Lifeby8DiscoveryCall 🔸 Work with Bec: https://bit.ly/Lifeby8DiscoveryCall 🔸 Learn more: https://lifebyeight.com/ 📲 Follow Rebecca: 🔸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebeccagrugan 🔸 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.grugan 🔸 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccagrugan/

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Episode #10 - Energetics, Self-Healing and Transformations with Inna Segal

Published 4 Jul 2023 · Transcript excerpt

[…] But this one issue, there wasn't a big issue, but it would be like just this little digestive thing that just kept coming back and coming back and coming back. And it was so interesting that I was like, well, how does it make sense, you know, that it's with these two people? And, you know, I would have thought that with the second one it would have been gone because it was really... I felt a lot of, I guess, desire and connection to be with the second man that I was with. But it just... The wisdom within my body was like, this doesn't feel good. It feels like somebody is taking advantage. Somebody is leaving off you in some ways. […]

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