Life by MJ

About Life by MJ

Mom Math breaks down the real cost of motherhood — financially, emotionally, and systemically — and how moms actually make money inside a broken system. Hosted by MJ. lifebymj.substack.com (https://lifebymj.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast)

Publisher

Making the math math for moms.

Category

business · education

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

30 Nov 2023

Latest episode

20 Mar 2026

Latest episodes

14 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   20 Mar 2026

   The Math Nobody Told You About: The Mom Wage Gap

   If you've ever felt like you're working twice as hard for half the recognition — this one's for you. In Episode 3, we're doing the math on the mom wage gap: what it is, why it happens, and how to start closing it on your own terms. In This Episode: What the "career pause penalty" is and how it compounds over time Why mothers are offered lower starting salaries than women without kids — with the same experience Why fathers often get a raise when they become dads (yes, really) What "mom capital" is and why you've been underselling it 3 actionable ways to reclaim your time, your value, and your income Referenced in This Episode: Ep. 01 — The Time Budget Ep. 02 — The Default Parent Tax Links: 🎥 Watch on YouTube (https://youtu.be/MXm85F-N-qk) 📝 Read the full essay on Substack (https://lifebymj.substack.com/) 🛍️ Democracy is a Group Project tee (https://needleandstitchstudio.com/blank_product/331005256/Democracy-is-a-Group-Project) 🌐 lifebymj.com (http://lifebymj.com) 📱 @lifebymj If this episode hit home, share it with a mama who needs to hear it. She's not imagining it — and neither were you. Want me to also format this for a specific podcast host like Spotify for Podcasters or Buzzsprout? They each have slight formatting quirks worth knowing. Sonnet 4.6 Get full access to Mom Math at lifebymj.substack.com/subscribe (https://lifebymj.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4)

2. 

   7 Jan 2026

   The Default Parent (Before I Ever Became One)

   The Default Parent Tax - Mom Math – Episode 2 Being the default parent is often treated like “just how things are,” but the reality is that it comes with real costs. Time. Energy. Mental load. And eventually, money. In this episode of Mom Math, MJ breaks down what it truly means to be the default parent, why invisible labor is still labor, and how carrying the mental hard drive of a household impacts mothers in ways we rarely talk about. This conversation explores not just what the default parent does, but how the role quietly affects burnout, creativity, patience, and long-term earning potential. In this episode, we talk about: - What it actually means to be the “default parent” - The invisible labor and cognitive load many mothers carry daily - How default parents lose hours each day managing unseen tasks - Why burnout often shows up as snapping over small things - Simple ways to start redistributing the load at home - Why communication is the key to reducing the Default Parent Tax This episode is about naming the labor, not assigning blame.Because recognizing the math is the first step to changing it. 👉 Next episode: Episode 3 dives into the financial impact of motherhood, including the mom wage gap and how invisible labor shows up on the balance sheet. Get full access to Mom Math at lifebymj.substack.com/subscribe (https://lifebymj.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4)

3. 

   30 Dec 2025

   Motherhood Is Expensive (And Not Just Financially)

   Episode 1 of Mom Math is about the hidden costs of motherhood: the time tax, the mental load, the invisible labor. But before we keep breaking down the numbers, I want to tell you why this series exists in the first place. I created Mom Math because I’m tired. Tired of watching mothers shrink themselves to fit a society that doesn’t nurture, promote, or truly care for them, yet still expects us to do everything. Tired of the constant adjusting. The constant reshaping. The quiet expectation that we will always be the ones to bend. We are forever being asked to shift toward what the world wants instead of what we need.In our careers.In our relationships with others—and with ourselves.In how we raise children.In how we build businesses or choose not to.In whether we dare to want more, or dare to want less. And too often, the choice is never us. Mom Math exists because I want mothers to choose themselves: not just today, but for the long term. Because I genuinely believe the world is better when women lead. And mothers? We’re already doing the work. We’re problem-solvers, strategists, caregivers, builders, and visionaries. We run households, manage logistics, carry emotional labor, and still show up creatively, professionally, and communally. Motherhood isn’t one thing.It isn’t one path.It isn’t one story. Mothers take shape in so many ways—through birth, by choice, as aunties, cousins, caregivers, community builders, even pet moms. It is a vast, layered experience. And it deserves systems that reflect that complexity instead of punishing it. And yes, I believe it’s past time we start making money while mothering. Mom Math is about naming the real costs we carry and then learning how to flip the equation. Not by hustling harder or sacrificing more, but by building lives, careers, and systems that actually support us. I’m not sharing this from a place of having it all figured out. I don’t. But I am somewhere I once only dreamed of. I own multiple businesses. I’ve worked with world-class brands. I’ve built community. And I’m actively creating a legacy for my family while still learning how to protect my peace, my time, and my energy. I know I’m not alone in wanting that. I know other women and mothers want more than survival. We want sustainability. We want abundance. We want options. We want lives that don’t require us to disappear in order to function. Mom Math is me navigating this in real time and inviting you to do it alongside me. Not perfectly.Not quietly.But intentionally. If this resonates, you’re in the right place. If you haven’t listened yet, Episode 1 of Mom Math is live now. I break down the hidden costs of motherhood: the time tax, the mental load, and the invisible labor we’ve been carrying without language for it. You can watch the full episode on YouTube (https://youtu.be/-078FEhtHG4) or listen right here . Get full access to Mom Math at lifebymj.substack.com/subscribe (https://lifebymj.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4)

4. 

   4 Dec 2024

   Holding Space For Misinformation

   Let's Figure This Out host MJ explores the parallels between Wicked's fight against fear-mongering and modern-day misinformation, offering insights on how to combat its consequences.

5. 

   11 Nov 2024

   Why We Lost

   In this episode, we’re diving into the hard truths about this election—the wins, the losses, and what it all really means for us. We’ll explore how, despite showing up in record numbers, Black women continue to face the same frustrating question: who’s truly fighting for us? We’ll break down the numbers, confront the narratives, and discuss why some voters made contradictory choices. And I’ll get personal about why I took a step back, what that rest taught me, and how I’m bringing a new kind of resilience to the fight. Plus, we’re going to look at how misinformation, comfort, and bias played a bigger role than we may want to admit. So join me for a candid conversation on what it’ll take to protect our progress and keep pushing forward. Rest is resistance—but so is refusing to let this setback define us. Get full access to LifebyMJ's Substack at lifebymj.substack.com/subscribe (https://lifebymj.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4)

6. 

   28 Oct 2024

   Welcome to Let's Figure This Out

   It’s a new dawn and a new platform, with a ton of perks. Tune in to hear why I've moved to Substack and what you can expect from this podcast moving forward. Get full access to LifebyMJ's Substack at lifebymj.substack.com/subscribe (https://lifebymj.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4)

7. 

   20 Feb 2024

   Naturally Fix Your Period and Life | How to Cycle Sync

   iscover the Power of Cycle Syncing to Transform Your Health and Life! Are you tired of dealing with the unpredictable mood swings, acne, and PMS that come with your menstrual cycle? It's time to embrace a natural solution that could change everything. In this empowering episode, we dive deep into the concept of cycle syncing, a revolutionary approach to aligning your lifestyle with the phases of your menstrual cycle for improved health, mood, and overall wellbeing. Learn how to naturally fix your period problems and enhance your life by understanding and leveraging the unique stages of your cycle. Whether you're struggling with menstrual irregularities, seeking to boost your energy levels, or simply curious about optimizing your health, this episode is a must-listen. Key Takeaways: What is Cycle Syncing? Uncover the basics of this transformative practice and how it can lead to significant improvements in your physical and emotional health. Personal Transformation Stories: Hear real-life experiences of overcoming common menstrual issues by adopting cycle syncing, including reduced acne, mood stabilization, and more. Easy Steps to Get Started: Learn actionable tips and strategies for integrating cycle syncing into your daily routine for noticeable results.

8. 

   13 Feb 2024

   Reinvent Your Life | 4 Steps to Become That Woman

   Unlock Your Transformation: 4 Steps to Reinvent Your Life and Embrace Your Dream Self Ready to step into the shoes of the woman you've always dreamt of being? This podcast episode is your guide to reinventing yourself, breaking free from self-doubt, and building the life you deserve. With our simple 4-step process, we'll show you how to rewire your mindset, radiate confidence, replace old habits, and establish routines that empower you to maintain your new self. What You'll Discover: The 4R System: A unique approach to self-transformation that's easy, effective, and empowering. Personal Transformation Journey: How embracing your true self can lead to a life filled with confidence and purpose. Actionable Tips: Practical steps to start your reinvention today, without being overwhelmed. Embrace the journey to becoming 'That Woman'—confident, empowered, and unstoppable. Like, share, and subscribe for more inspiring content that speaks directly to the heart of ambitious, millennial women looking for a meaningful change in their lives.

9. 

   16 Jan 2024

   I Lost My Job | In My Unemployment Era

   Hey everyone, it's MJ, and today's episode is one I've been contemplating for a while. I recently experienced a significant change in my life – I lost my job. In this candid and heartfelt video, I want to share my job loss journey, the emotions I've been navigating, and what I plan to do next. For over two years, I had the privilege of working at a startup in the Web3 Metaverse, a job I absolutely loved. I had the opportunity to collaborate with incredible brands, delve into the world of NFTs and cryptocurrencies, and enjoy a level of autonomy that allowed me to grow personally and professionally. Losing a job you're passionate about is never easy, but I firmly believe that every ending marks the beginning of a new chapter. In this video, I'll talk about my plan moving forward, which includes job hunting, experimenting with my social media business, and taking calculated risks. I'll also share my thoughts on the evolving job application process, the importance of saving, and how I'm making the most of this time to nurture my home and reconnect with loved ones. If you're facing unemployment or a major life shift, I want you to know that you're not alone. This journey doesn't define you, but it can be an opportunity for growth, reflection, and gratitude. Join me as I navigate this new chapter, and let's embrace the volumes of life together. Don't forget to subscribe and hit the notification bell to stay updated on my journey and future content. Thank you for being a part of this community. #Unemployment #JobLoss #WhatsNext

10. 

    10 Jan 2024

    Plan Your Best Year Ever: Vision Board with a Certified Project Manager

    Get ready to make 2024 your best year ever! In this episode, as a certified project manager I share actionable tips for yearly planning and goal setting to help you accomplish your dreams. Discover how to create a realistic strategy, break down big goals into achievable milestones, and adapt your plan throughout the year. With insights on vision boarding and effective time management, you'll be well-prepared to succeed in the new year. Listen now to kickstart your journey to a more productive and goal-oriented you!

11. 

    21 Dec 2023

    Become a Content Creator in 2024 | The Full Guide

    Welcome to the world of content creation! If you're a beginner looking to dive into the exciting realm of content creation, you're in the right place. In this video, I, MJ, a seasoned content creator with a decade of experience, will share valuable tips and insights to kickstart your journey. 🚀 Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to Content Creation 00:15 - Understanding Your Audience 01:18 - Choosing the Right Platforms 02:52 - Content Formats: Video, Written, Audio 04:21 - Consistency is Key 05:26 - Reviewing Your Results 06:56 - Embrace Experimentation Becoming a content creator is like curating art for the digital age. It's about connecting with your audience, building a brand, and maybe even making some money along the way. Whether you're passionate about makeup tutorials, recipes, or any other niche, this video has tips for you! Remember, understanding your audience's needs is paramount. Creating content that serves them will set you on the path to success. But which platforms should you choose? Longform or shortform content? MJ breaks it all down for you, ensuring you're well-equipped to make informed decisions. Consistency is the name of the game. Develop a content schedule your audience can rely on, and don't overwhelm yourself. The content creation journey should be enjoyable, not exhausting. Lastly, always review your results. Learn what works, double down on it, and keep experimenting. You'll be amazed at what you can achieve! Ready to dive in? Grab your freebie guide with all these tips to jumpstart your content creator career. You've got this! 🌟 FREEBIE Download Link: https://lifebymj.myflodesk.com/t5dqozfigv Don't forget to review, share, and subscribe for more valuable content creation insights. Let's make 2024 your year of content creation success!

12. 

    12 Dec 2023

    Boost Your Inspiration in the Lazy Girl Era! 🌟 | Creator Burnout & Content Creation Tips

    Are you in the "Lazy Girl Era" but still aiming to stay inspired and motivated? I've got you covered! 🙋♀️ In this video, we're diving into the secrets of becoming a motivation powerhouse and defeating the dreaded creator burnout. Discover the Lazy Girl Era's hidden gems for staying inspired and motivated: 🌼 Simple yet effective ways to kickstart your motivation journey. 🌼 How to stop being lazy and get more done, even in your comfiest PJs. 🌼 Proven motivation tips that work wonders for content creators. 🌼 Strategies to boost your motivation while working from home. 🌼 Insider insights to make more content without burning out. 🌼 Overcome creator burnout and stay inspired on your entrepreneurial path. Whether you're a seasoned content creator or just starting, these motivation hacks will elevate your game. Join the Inspired Girl Era and crush your goals with ease!

13. 

    7 Dec 2023

    Instagram Called Me - All About the Reels Algorithm

    I'm so excited to be dropping the exclusive tea Instagram shared with me about the Reels algorithm. 📈 If you've been curious about how to boost your Instagram Reels game, you're in the right place! 🤳 🔑 Key Points: The Call from Instagram The Reels Magic Number Leveraging Trends and Originality Editing Hacks within the App Mastering Hashtags Quantity vs. Quality: The Algorithm's Perspective Behind the Scenes Magic Quick Start: Capturing Attention The Power of Being Yourself 🎙️ Insights Shared: Instagram emphasized the importance of consistency! Trends and original content play well together, so ride the wave but stand out too. Editing within the app showcases commitment, and don't forget about the audio and captions game. 🌈 Why Watch? Whether you're a seasoned creator or just diving into content creation, these insights will elevate your Reels strategy. Expect tangible tips, behind-the-scenes revelations, and the occasional dose of MJ humor! 👇 Share Your Thoughts: Which tip are you excited to implement? Drop your thoughts in the reviews, and let's level up our Reels game together!

14. 

    30 Nov 2023

    Embarking on a Soulful Journey: Why I Started Soulful Social

    Guess what? After taking a well-deserved break from the whirlwind of social media strategies, I found myself at a bit of a crossroads. The hustle culture and comparison game were getting a bit too much, you know? Now, picture this: I've been in the content creation game for a little over a decade, creating branded content for big names like Coca-Cola, Walmart, and Target. But, here's the twist – burnout knocked on my door. Blame it on the coaching industry's demands and the non-stop pace of social media. It was high time for a change, a real one. And then, out of the blue, an unexpected opportunity popped up at a web3 metaverse startup. It was like a breath of fresh air, giving me the space to step back, rethink, and explore the incredible shifts happening online. I was able to work with incredible brands like NFLPA, Susan G Komen, UNICEF, and FIFA.  But even more impactful was learning the values of community, empowerment, and transparency in Web3, which sparked a desire to bring a whole new approach to business and social media. All of this ultimately sparked the birth (or rebirth) of Soulful Social. Now, here's the exciting part – Soulful Social is not just about my story; it's about yours too. It's your go-to spot for tools, strategies, and a sneak peek into the future of rocking social media authentically. I spill the beans on my vision for all platforms, sharing tips, tricks, and all the good stuff to turn social media into your secret weapon for growth and personal branding. Get set for a soulful journey, specially crafted for amazing Black millennial women like you, ready to conquer social media and build an authentic personal brand! 🚀✨ Connect with me: Instagram (https://instagram.com/lifebymj) YouTube (https://youtube.com/lifebymj) TikTok (https://tiktok.com/@lifebymj) Website (https://lifebymj.com)

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