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About LoveYourLifeAgain.com - Adult children of toxic and borderline parents

Adult children of toxic, emotionally unavailable, immature and borderline parents. raisedbyborderline.com raisedbyborderline.substack.com (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast)

Publisher

Raised By Borderline

Category

education · health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

31 Jul 2024

Latest episode

26 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

19 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   26 Oct 2026

   Death of Poli: My Very First Self-Tapping Using EFT – Part 2

   Part of EFTinUse.substack.com This episode is based on the second video (https://eftinuse.substack.com/p/death-of-poli-part2) I’ve made on how I use EFT to regulate myself. It’s about my first dog, her death and growing up with a borderline parent and an enabler parent. I tapped on my parents’ silence and lack of action, and on the guilt I had carried for years. For written version click here (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com/p/death-of-poli-part2). This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit raisedbyborderline.substack.com (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

2. 

   2 Oct 2026

   Death of Poli: My Very First Self-Tapping Using EFT – Part 1

   This episode is based on the very first video I’ve made on how I use EFT to regulate myself. It’s about my first dog and her death. The general idea is to show you what it looks like when you start tapping: which points you tap and what words or phrases you might use. What you find on the internet is, I would say, quite generic most of the time. I mean, the words there kind of fit everyone, right? But... the death of my dog is very personal to me. So the words I use differ from what someone else would use tapping about their grief. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit raisedbyborderline.substack.com (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

3. 

   26 Sept 2026

   Personal Peace Procedure

   When you get interested in EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), an EFT practitioner will ask you to make a list. A list of all the sins you’ve done in your life. No, I’m kidding 😂. They will ask you to make something called the #PersonalPeaceProcedure, a tool created by Gary Craig, the founder of EFT. I always wonder why it’s called “Procedure”. It sounds so surgeon clean. Unemotional, unhuman. How do you feel about Personal Peace List or Personal Peace With Myself and my Past? Maybe Gary Craig went for triple “P” 😉. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit raisedbyborderline.substack.com (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

4. 

   15 Sept 2026

   The "it's not about you", "they're just being themselves", and "they're not aware of what they're doing"

   Today I want to talk about a subject I think comes up constantly in therapy, and honestly not just in therapy — anywhere people are talking about healing your past. There are three sentences I keep coming back to. The first one is: it’s not about you. The second one is: they’re just being themselves. The third one is: they’re not aware of what they’re doing. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit raisedbyborderline.substack.com (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

5. 

   28 Aug 2026

   Never being able to relax.

   That sounds a lot like when my mum had her “dips” when I was a child. She would take pills and sleep all day. Everyone was tiptoeing around so that she could sleep as long as possible, as only then it was peaceful and quiet… No arguments. We could do what we wanted, but silently. That basically meant I was alone in my room not breathing, watching TV or doing homework in silence, or sneaking out of home. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit raisedbyborderline.substack.com (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

6. 

   15 Mar 2026

   I'm not what happened to me...

   For written version please check here (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com/publish/post/191011208?r=47j9x9&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true) “(…)My dad: “That’s the way it is.”My ex: “This is normal.”My dad: “I still love her” (even though she causes you pain and distress)My ex: “You want me to end the friendship with her?! We’ve known each other for 15 years!” (even though it’s putting stress on the current relationship). My dad controlled my feelings and reactions. I was easier to control than my mum. I was a child. I trusted he was my safe net, my security source. I trusted all he said and wanted me to do was for my good. Whenever he told me, “It’s normal, I love her anyway,” he asked me to stop listening to my feelings. He uncounsciously asked me to stop trusting what I saw, what I felt, what my body told me. And I did. I trusted him that it was good for me. It wasn’t… I shut down the connection between me and my feelings. I stopped trusting my instinct. I started seeing painful and dangerous situations as “normal”, accepting them and learning to live them… He subtly gaslighted me, whenever I said she was horrible to me. Whenever I was angry and crying. It was easier than to control her. The older I grew, the more anger I…” This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit raisedbyborderline.substack.com (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

7. 

   9 Nov 2025

   My first EFT session

   - Why do they get angry with me when I set the boundaries, why do they say I am stubborn and will always be alone/never meet a man if I don’t change and be more “do what I say” type? - Why do they try to break me - sometimes I feel that they’re with me and see me as a challenge: “let’s see if we can get her self-confidence down, break her, see her crying on her knees so that she depends on us and can’t leave us”? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit raisedbyborderline.substack.com (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

8. 

   3 Nov 2025

   Dropping bombs

   "I was 36 when I heard from a psychologist, “It sounds like your mum has Borderline Personality Disorder. Read this book: “Stop walking on eggshells.”” And that was it. It was our 10th and last session." This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit raisedbyborderline.substack.com (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

9. 

   11 Aug 2025

   Healing takes time... But it still can be fun 🤣

   Therapy is not just tears or fear of “What's there I don't know about myself”? “ It's also laughter and joking about your trauma 😁. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit raisedbyborderline.substack.com (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

10. 

    10 Mar 2025

    What is love?

    “We hope, one day, to have a loving romantic relationship with our partner. We hope, one day, they will have a change of heart and realise what kind of emotional and/or physical hurt they have caused us. We hope they will see how wonderful we are, worthy of their love and appreciation. This hope keeps us from seeing the painful reality, that our partner will not, and does not want to, change. They don't have our best interest at heart… Why? Because they are healing their own trauma using us. Just like we are using them to heal our trauma… So, that hope makes us believe that we can change our partner… — that’s a failure in itself.“ If you’d like to visit and read the post this podcast is based on, please click here (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com/p/what-is-love?r=47j9x9). This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit raisedbyborderline.substack.com (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

11. 

    20 Dec 2024

    Reality of my parents and family. Gaslighting. Traits of toxic relationships. Part 3.

    1. New name: Raised By Borderline I’ve changed the name of the blog/podcast from LoveYourLifeAgain to RaisedByBorderline as I think this reflects better what this blog/podcast is about, what I’ve been through, who I work with, and it’s easier to remember the name of the publications and my website. 2. Disappointment - my second skin. Was this how I picked my partners? 😳. I could pick the bad boy from a row of 100 men standing in front of me… “There you are! You’re my boy!” “You’re gonna disappoint me, and you’re gonna do it right.” 🤣. “And we’re gonna see how long it takes for you to disappoint me. Coz it will happen. You’re gonna do it.” 😂 And then I could say, “I knew it! I was right.” ☝️ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit raisedbyborderline.substack.com (https://raisedbyborderline.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

12. 

    8 Nov 2024

    Reality of my parents and family. Gaslighting. Traits of toxic relationships. Part 2.

    For written version, please click here (https://open.substack.com/pub/loveyourlifeagain/p/reality-of-my-parents-and-family-part-2?r=47j9x9&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true). “People talk about creating your own reality. But not as children. As a child, you come to other people’s reality, and your job is to survive, long enough to be able to create your own. We make decisions about ourselves, quite early, then we bury them, and they are there for so long, that we believe that that’s the way we are, that’s the way things are. You had to fight your mother. Stand up for yourself. And then everyone took her side.” Andy Bryce, EFT Master, my therapist. And that’s the thing. They took her side, but, at the same time, they were telling me that she was wrong. They were telling me that I was right, and that she was wrong, but I had to shut up and play along. Did what she wanted. Let her have her will. I was right feeling that something was not right, but it didn’t make any difference, because she was still right. Her righteousness was “righter” than mine. Thank you so much for reading. Please, visit my website loveyourlifeagain.com (http://loveyourlifeagain.com/), my Substack profile substack.com/@loveyourlifeagain (http://substack.com/@loveyourlifeagain). If you liked this post, please share it. If you know anyone who can benefit from it, please share it with them. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit loveyourlifeagain.substack.com (https://loveyourlifeagain.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

13. 

    2 Nov 2024

    Reality of my parents and family. Gaslighting. Traits of toxic relationships.

    I was born into a reality of my parents: my mum with Borderline Personality Disorder, and my dad, Master of Ignorance. I would yell, argue and fight back my mum, who was treating me like rubbish. I'd fight for myself since I was a 5-year-old… This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit loveyourlifeagain.substack.com (https://loveyourlifeagain.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

14. 

    13 Sept 2024

    How to help your friend who relives trauma?

    Audio version of a post under the same title (https://open.substack.com/pub/loveyourlifeagain/p/how-to-help-your-friend-who-relives?r=47j9x9&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true). “It doesn't matter what it is, they just want you to listen and just to be the ear. From my own experience, it's not even that you have to listen, it’s about you being there. You can just let it in through one ear and let out through the other. You can just let it go around you. If you talk on the phone, you can have it on speaker, and you can cook your dinner at the same time if you want to.” This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit loveyourlifeagain.substack.com (https://loveyourlifeagain.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

15. 

    8 Sept 2024

    How does it look like when you relive your trauma? part 2

    Audio version of the post under the same title, that you can read here (https://open.substack.com/pub/loveyourlifeagain/p/how-does-it-look-like-when-you-relive-d6e?r=47j9x9&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true). “I'm really sorry that it's like that. I really wish it was much easier, but it's not. And it's not your fault. If you grew up with a borderline parent or emotional, immature, unstable, unavailable, and narcissistic parent, you were born into a situation. And this situation did things to you on the inside. It shaped you on the inside in a certain way. But it might be a shape that you never really wanted to be. That maybe it’s nothing you want to be, but that situation has shaped you somehow. You had to survive that childhood and those teenage years and your twenties, and maybe you're still being there. But deep down in your heart, you know that it's not what you want to be. It's not how you want to live your life.” This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit loveyourlifeagain.substack.com (https://loveyourlifeagain.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

16. 

    30 Aug 2024

    How does it look like when you relive your trauma? part 1

    So, how does it look like when you relive your trauma? Especially that you’re not aware that anything traumatic happened to you early in your life. You don’t realise there is a pattern, but feel that certain situations and people keep coming back into your life, in different form. You might think, “Why is this keep happening to me? Why do I keep meeting this kind of people? People I can’t trust or people that disappoint me? Why all the good men/women are taken?” My website: LoveYourLifeAgain.com (http://LoveYourLifeAgain.com) This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit loveyourlifeagain.substack.com (https://loveyourlifeagain.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

17. 

    16 Aug 2024

    When I decided to wake up.

    Audio version of the post under the same title: Do you like my Substack? I publish my posts/podcast once a month, usually 🤭. A month is long enough to forget to check my blog for new posts. If you'd like to stay in touch, please leave your email. The subscription is for free. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit loveyourlifeagain.substack.com (https://loveyourlifeagain.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

18. 

    12 Aug 2024

    What if you didn't know that your parent had Borderline Personality Disorder?

    Audio version to my post series “Living with a borderline parent” on Substack, under the same title. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit loveyourlifeagain.substack.com (https://loveyourlifeagain.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

19. 

    31 Jul 2024

    Podcast: Adult children of borderline parents - our place here.

    Audio version of my first post on Substack, under the same title. For those of you, how prefer listening while doing their dishes, like me :). This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit loveyourlifeagain.substack.com (https://loveyourlifeagain.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1)

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