“Man’s Search for Meaning” is a podcast exploring what healthy masculinity consists of, answering questions about what it means to be a man in the 2020s by hosting various guests.
Our guests are a variety of extraordinary people who have amazing stories to tell or expertise to share. They are leaders of their field, academians, or educational figures. They have a platform where they inspire and reach people — online and offline.
We explore topics around psychology, philosophy, modern-day dating, relationships and self development, as well as to physical and mental health.
S02E03: How to 'Get good' with women (It's not what you think)
Ari tears down the outdated idea of “getting good” with women through a just and honest path to genuine connection.
This episode is a guide to turning inward, understanding the roots of self-sabotage, and building a relationship life that’s rooted in values, not surface tricks.
Whether you’re frustrated with dating apps, tired of the ghosting and failed relationships, or simply want to stop overthinking about every text you send - this episode gives you the deeper framework to shift from shame and confusion to clarity and confidence.
Topics Discussed:
Why “getting good with women” is the wrong goal
What makes some men naturally magnetic (and why it’s not what you think)
The danger of manosphere content and the "high value man" narrative
Ari’s early journey in the dating world, the book that started it all and why was it different
The 3 essential steps to changing your dating life from the inside out:
1. How to find women who align with your values (and why this matters more than chemistry)
2. Breaking comfort-seeking dating loops that lead to pain
3. Healing inner shame and self-judgment so you can show up fully and freely
And then some.... for instance:
Why cold approaches and dating apps often reinforce your anxiety
The power of “creating a well” - places and communities where connection is natural
How to stop being self-conscious by becoming self-aware in a different way
🔗 Resources & Links:
Get the FREE training video & guided action plan video course : https://strengthinrelationships.com (https://strengthinrelationships.com)
Support the show: Buy Me a Coffee (https://buymeacoffee.com/arijcohen)] / Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/c/arijcohen/membership)
Contact Ari for a free consultation (https://tidycal.com/arijcohen/freeconsultation)
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18 Oct 2025
S02E02: Comfort Zones
To support the show:
Buy me a cup of coffee (https://buymeacoffee.com/arijcohen)
Support me on Patrion (https://www.patreon.com/c/arijcohen/membership)
About my Coaching:
Watch my Clients success stories and learn how they did it (https://strengthinrelationships.com/)
Get my eBook+Video Course about mastering the ethical dating world (https://strengthinrelationships.com/playbook)
Book a free consultation call (https://tidycal.com/arijcohen/freeconsultation)
5 Oct 2025
THE COMBACK: Where I've been, Why I stopped, and what's next for the show
The show is back after a long hiatus - hopefully for good this time.
I feel like I want to provide explanations to why I disappeared... I want to be honest about what happened because burnout, as I've come to see and experience, a real thing.
Apart from what has been going on with me personally and professionally, I have many different and exciting things planned for the show.
It's important for me to say that I want to do things differently from now on, firstly for myself, but also for my audience.
I believe I need to give my best, and I want you all to get it.
Here is how you can support the show:
Buy me a cup of coffee (https://buymeacoffee.com/arijcohen)
Support me on Patrion (https://www.patreon.com/c/arijcohen/membership)
About my coaching:
Watch my client's success stories (https://strengthinrelationships.com/)
Get my eBook + Video Course about conscious ethical dating (https://strengthinrelationships.com/playbook)
Book a free consultation call (https://tidycal.com/arijcohen/freeconsultation)
12 Dec 2024
Episode 7: Johannes Kwella — New Ways of Parenthood, Open Relationships, Alcoholism and Recovery
Ari converses with Johannes Kuella, a versatile athlete and coach, on transforming lives through open relationships, emotional safety, and psychedelics, unlocking personal growth and effective communication.
4 Dec 2024
Episode 6: The Inner Kingdom and the Three Kings
Ari explores the concept of the inner kingdom and the three archetypal kings, offering listeners new perspectives on their inner rhetoric and the importance of adopting a benevolent king archetype for a flourishing mental state.
28 Nov 2024
Episode 5: Karlijn Kouwenhoven
Ari reconnects with facilitator Karlijn Kouwenhoven to explore vulnerability, intuition, and the essence of Tantra, offering profound insights into balancing head, heart, and sexual energies.
20 Nov 2024
Episode 4: Max Planer - Marriage, Masculinity, Achievement, Purpose & Personal Transformation
Ari chats with Max Planer, a former Olympic rower, about marriage, masculinity, achievement, purpose, and personal transformation, offering insights on relationships and self-improvement.
13 Nov 2024
Episode 3: Cari Merriam — Sacred Partnership, Bliss, Masculine and Feminine Energies
In this episode, Ari engages in a conversation with his friend and transformational thought leader Cari Merriam. Cari shares her insights as a yoga and meditation teacher, breathwork healer, and coach with over 14 years of experience. The discussion delves into dating, spirituality, masculine and feminine energies, and personal development.
Ari and Cari explore the dynamics of empowered individuals in relationships, addressing the concepts of inner King and Queen energies, Cari’s path to empowerment, and the importance of clarity and communication in fostering meaningful connections. Listeners will gain valuable wisdom on navigating emotional landscapes and maintaining healthy, fulfilling relationships.
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Where to find Cari: https://www.instagram.com/cari_merriam/?hl=en (https://www.instagram.com/cari_merriam/?hl=en)
https://www.carimerriam.com/ (https://www.carimerriam.com/)
Where to find Ari:
https://www.instagram.com/strengthinrelationships/ (https://www.instagram.com/strengthinrelationships/)
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00:00 Introduction to Cari Merriam
01:26 Starting the Conversation
02:12 Balancing Personal and Professional Life
04:47 Masculine and Feminine Dynamics
14:43 Navigating Emotional Triggers
19:51 Cari's Journey to Coaching
28:00 Following the Breadcrumbs of Bliss
35:43 Empowered Women and Inner Archetypes
43:46 Breaking the Cycle: Starting with the Masculine
44:15 Intellectual Understanding and Awareness
46:25 Inner Prince vs. Inner King Behaviors
49:09 Dating Dynamics and Attachment Patterns
51:48 Clarity and Communication in Relationships
59:59 Providership and Masculine Leadership
01:05:33 Effective Communication in Dating
01:17:35 Advice for Men Feeling Lost
01:19:33 Connecting with Carrie
01:22:52 Final Thoughts and Farewell
6 Nov 2024
Episode 2: Emanuel Pescari - Humility, Faith, Family & Resilience
Ari engages in an insightful conversation with Emmanuel Pascari, a two-time strongman world champion. Emmanuel discusses various topics including religion, family, relationships, his strongman career, and coping with injuries. He emphasizes the importance of humility, kindness, and faith in his life and career. Emmanuel provides thoughtful perspectives on dealing with setbacks and maintaining a positive outlook.
This episode offers valuable lessons on balancing personal ambition with humility and finding meaning through service to others.
Where to find Ari:
https://www.instagram.com/strengthinrelationships (https://www.instagram.com/strengthinrelationships)
Where to find Emanuel:
https://www.instagram.com/emanuelpescari (https://www.instagram.com/emanuelpescari)
00:00 Introduction to Emmanuel Pascari
01:29 The Importance of Humility and Kindness
05:19 Balancing Kindness and Self-Respect
10:51 Finding Meaning Through Faith
27:05 Lessons from a Failed Marriage
43:59 Navigating Relationship Challenges
45:36 Christianity vs. Judaism: A Comparative Insight
46:36 The Complexity of Religious Dogma
47:37 Breaking Free from Dogma
50:52 Introduction to Strongman
52:12 Journey to Strength: Early Beginnings
59:18 Overcoming Health Challenges
01:01:05 The Importance of Mental Health
01:07:05 Returning to Competition
01:08:44 Dealing with Injuries and Setbacks
01:19:58 Finding Purpose and Moving Forward
01:23:15 Conclusion and Reflections
31 Oct 2024
Episode 1: About the Podcast, Guests, Consciousness & Psychology of the Sun
What does it mean to be a man in the 2020s?
Welcome to Man’s Search for Meaning, a podcast dedicated to exploring the true essence of healthy masculinity in the modern age. Join Ari as he sits down with extraordinary guests—leaders in their fields, educators, and inspiring voices who share their unique stories and insights.
In the first episode, Ari gives you a glimpse of the journey ahead and the topics he will dive into — from psychology, philosophy, relationships, and self-development to mental and physical health.
Today specifically will be a little “promo” to the rest of the podcast: what’s coming, who will be coming on, what to expect… and sprinkled with a little bit of wisdom from Ari’s latest learnings.
Join us if you're a person seeking inspiration, growth, a deeper understanding of self, better relationships or a deeper dating experience!
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00:00-03:20 - Introduction
3:20- 7:55 - Who is this podcast for?
7:55-9:35 - who will be on the podcast?
9:41 - consciousness and the course of the sun
19:17 - Problems, Trauma and neuroticism
21:38 - How to solve our problems
26:59 - Summary
24 Oct 2024
Coming Soon!
What does it mean to be a man in the 2020s?
Welcome to Man’s Search for Meaning, a podcast dedicated to exploring the true essence of healthy masculinity in the modern age. Join us Ari as he sits down with extraordinary guests—leaders in their fields, educators, and inspiring voices who share their unique stories and insights.
In this trailer, Ari gives you a glimpse of the journey ahead and the topics he will dive into — from psychology, philosophy, relationships, and self-development to mental and physical health.
If you're seeking inspiration, growth, and a deeper understanding of yourself, this podcast is for you.
Tune in and start your search for meaning with us!
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