The Mixed Race Belonging podcast explores the intersection of mixed identity and belonging through the lens of somatics and personal and collective liberation to help you heal your belonging wounds and reconnect with your innate wholeness through relationships, new experiences, and activism. Hosted by Raina LaGrand, a somatic coach for mixed race people with a background as a trauma therapist, yoga teacher, and health educator. Episodes released mostly weekly.
47. The Fantasies That Are Curbing Your Sense of Belonging
There are at least four fantasies people hold about friendship and belonging. The fantasies themself aren’t the problem — the problem is that when those fantasies aren’t met, it can leave you feeling like a complete failure. In this blog I talk about what those fantasies are, what the research actually says about friendships, and how you can find friendship fulfillment.
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Resources Used
Degges‐White, S., & Kepic, M. (2020). Friendships, subjective age, and life satisfaction of women in midlife. Adultspan Journal, 19(1), 39-53.
How many friends do you really need in adulthood?. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifetime-connections/201908/how-many-friends-do-you-really-need-in-adulthood (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifetime-connections/201908/how-many-friends-do-you-really-need-in-adulthood)
Evidence brief: How many friends do you need?: Social connection guidelines. Evidence Brief | How Many Friends Do You Need? | Social Connection Guidelines. (n.d.). https://www.socialconnectionguidelines.org/en/evidence-briefs/how-many-friends-do-you-need (https://www.socialconnectionguidelines.org/en/evidence-briefs/how-many-friends-do-you-need)
Russell, T. (2025, May 10). What is differentiation? meaning in therapy & relationships. Cascade Counseling Utah | Reconnect With What Matters. https://www.cascadecounselingutah.com/blog/understanding-differentiation-in-therapy-why-it-matters-for-your-mental-health/ (https://www.cascadecounselingutah.com/blog/understanding-differentiation-in-therapy-why-it-matters-for-your-mental-health/)
6 Oct 2026
46. Writers on Multiracial Identity & Both/And Belonging with Anne Liu Kellor
What role does writing and storytelling play in our healing as bi and multiracial individuals. In today's episode, I sit down with writer, editor, and teacher, Anne Liu Kellor to discuss her newest publication, Mixed Roots: Writers on Multiracial Identity & Both/And Belonging with Anne Liu Kellor. We talk about Anne's own writing process, the workshops she leads, and more.
Anne's Reading Raina-Bow Recommendations:
1) The Hyphenated Life by Dr. Han Ren
2) Good Woman: A Reckoning by Savala Nolan
You can learn more about Anne at www.anneliukellor.com (http://www.anneliukellor.com)
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29 Sept 2026
45. The Cost of Being "Low Maintenance" When You're Worried As A Mixed Race Person Who Learned to Avoid Being “Too Much” By Over-Accommodating Everyone Else
As a mixed kid, you might have had a lot of emotional needs go unmet – whether from family who didn’t know what to say, friends who couldn’t adequately mirror your reality back to you, or teachers who didn’t know how to handle monoracist comments from your classmates. All of this caused you to internalize thoughts that you were "too much," "needed too much," or were "not enough."
In today's episode, I'm talking about the cost of letting that mentality lead in your current relationships.
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