Modern Couples

About Modern Couples

Modern Couples: What Your Therapist Never Told You Have you ever had questions about relationships? Do you wonder what therapists might know—that you don’t? Then join us! Whether you’re in the car, at the gym, or on a break at work, this is an opportunity to have all your couples’ questions answered by therapists who bring decades of experience to the podcast. Couples therapists Rick Miller, LICSW, and Lilian Borges, LPC, take on relationships’ trickier moments with experience and humor, in a mere 20 minutes presenting a case study and the theory behind it, then sharing their personal takes on the issue and providing some ideas for dealing with it. Richard C. Miller, LICSW, is a psychotherapist, public speaker, and author who has taught at The Harvard Couples Conference, the Milton Erickson Foundation Couples Conference, and on the faculty of well-known couples experts Esther Perel, Terry Real, and Stan Takin. He has been interviewed by the NY Times and writes for the Psychotherapy Networker and Psychology Today. He is a TEDx speaker, and founder and executive director of a nonprofit agency, Gay Sons And Mothers. Lilian Borges, LPC, is an experienced therapist, teacher, presenter, and podcaster who has been treating individuals and couples for more than thirty years. One of very few certified PACT (psychobiological approach to couples’ therapy) therapists in the US, she is additionally an expert in Ericksonian hypnosis. She currently has a private practice in Arizona where her own multinational background facilitates her work with a diverse clientèle. From whether or not it’s okay to share your bed with pets, how to deal with money, keeping secrets from your partner, or deciding where to live, Rick and Lilian have suggestions for making your life richer and bringing your relationships closer. It all starts here!

Publisher

Rick Miller, LICSW & Lilian Borges, LPC

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

28 Sept 2023

Latest episode

6 Jan 2026

Latest episodes

23 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   6 Jan 2026

   Are You Jealous? And Is It a Problem?

   Jealousy can show up in the smallest moments and suddenly take over your nervous system, your thoughts, and the way you relate to your partner. In this episode, Rick and Lilian help you get clear on what your jealousy is actually trying to tell you and how to respond without turning it into a fight, a spiral, or a “prove it” dynamic. You’ll leave with practical ways to calm yourself in the moment, start the conversation in a way your partner can actually hear, and make requests that build safety instead of control. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re overreacting, whether your partner is dismissing your feelings, or why certain situations hit you so hard, this episode gives you a grounded framework to understand what’s happening and what to do next.

2. 

   18 Dec 2025

   Thinking About an Open Relationship? Here's What to Discuss First

   Open relationships can work, and they can also create problems fast when couples rush in without clarity. In this episode of Modern Couples: What Your Therapist Never Told You, Rick and Lilian talk through what it really means to “open up” and the questions that matter before anything changes. They cover common motivations, what tends to go wrong when couples use non-monogamy as a fix for conflict, and how to set boundaries that protect the partnership. The conversation also explores practical realities like rules around emotional connection, privacy, home logistics, jealousy, and sexual health.

3. 

   2 Dec 2025

   Signs Your Partner Is Cheating: What Couples Need to Know

   Cheating is one of the most painful and confusing crises a couple can face. But suspicion and secrecy don’t always tell the whole story. In this episode of Modern Couples: What Your Therapist Never Told You, Rick and Lilian break down the real signs of cheating, why partners become suspicious even when no betrayal has happened, and how infidelity affects relationships far beyond the act itself. This conversation looks at cheating through a realistic clinical lens: what leads to it, how partners discover it, and what healing actually requires. Whether rebuilding trust or facing hard truths, couples have more options than they realize.

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Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

11 ratings

Spotify

5.0 / 5

6 ratings

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