Modern Marriage with Monica

About Modern Marriage with Monica

A couple of years ago, when I went searching for specific tips, tools and tricks to help me level up my marriage. I read books, I searched the internet, I watch YouTube...But the information I found was...shall I say...lacking! The information also was not particularly relevant to the unique challenges of today’s modern marriages with both people juggling the pressures of working outside the home, living up to societal pressures of those ”perfect” homes, bodies, and all other kinds of expectations that comes from social media. And speaking of social media, what about all the ”temptations”, instant access and just overall problems that come along with it. What was out there tended to be fluffy statements like ”be more loving” or ”communicate more”, or the God-awful advice of ”Never go to bed angry”-like anybody can solve anything when they are exhausted... No wonder the divorce rate is where it’s at! I’m the kind of person who needs specifics. Tell me exactly what to do! but there was nothing out there, so I created my own tips, tools and tricks. But the question I’m sure you are all wondering is...Did it work? And to that, I would say. YES! Not only did my techniques work... they also worked fast! Now I am taking my journey, those lessons, and am here to help marriages and relationships, not only survive, but to thrive. If you are married, ever wanted to be, or just want the absolutely best relationship possible. This is the podcast for you!

Publisher

Monica Almaguer

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

10 Jul 2024

Latest episode

6 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

1 of 114 episodes have a transcript.

1. 

   6 Oct 2026

   What Does a Wife ”Owe” Her Husband When It Comes to Sex?

   🔥 What does a wife owe her husband in marriage when it comes to sex? Everyone can list a husband's obligations: provide, protect, lead. Ask about a wife's obligations and the room goes quiet. In this video I answer it directly, and I talk to both husbands and wives.💬 This started with an exchange I had on X with Giff Lasta about Christian men, initiation, and who gets the deciding vote on sex in marriage. Teaching men to initiate better is good advice, but it leaves out her side of the deal. If she has no sexual obligations at all, he's just a dancing monkey learning to dance better.📌 In this video:📖 What 1 Corinthians 7:3–5 actually says about marital duty and sex, for both husband and wife⚖️ Why "Paul said it as a concession" gets the passage backwards🚦 The difference between not being in the mood and not consenting🎯 Expectations vs. pressure, and what men do that creates pressure🧀 "Mac and cheese sex," and why showing up when she's not in the mood is a loving act🙅♂️ Why men turn down sex they could have had🧠 The story she tells herself about sex, and how it builds or kills a marriage🛑 When a "no" here and there is normal, and when it becomes a marriage problem📅 What a reasonable frequency looks like for a healthy marriage💔 If you're in a sexless or low-sex marriage, if your wife keeps saying no, or if you're a wife who's wondered whether sex is really part of the deal, this one's for you.🔗 WORK WITH ME🔥 The Smoking Hot Marriage Method https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/grabit📅 Book a 1-on-1 coaching call: https://calendly.com/monicaalmaguer👥 Join the Modern Marriage community on Skool: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica📧 Business inquiries: ChilatMedia@gmail.com📲 FOLLOW ME📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica👍 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MonicaAlmaguerPodcast🐦 X: https://x.com/MonicaMAlmaguer🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3U91DRFsdIsReiou3hMA26🌐 All links: https://linktr.ee/Monica.Almaguer#SexlessMarriage #ChristianMarriage #MarriageAdvice

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   30 Sept 2026

   6 Controversial Ways I Do Marriage That Would Put Most Women in a Coma

   Most wives stop trying once they have the ring. Men get judged every day on whether they provide enough, parent well enough, and earn enough respect, and the goalposts keep moving. Almost nobody measures the wife's effort. I will. I used to be a low-effort wife myself, and about five years ago I decided to become a radically better one. I don't mean perfect. I mean an outlier compared to almost every other wife out there.In this video I share the 6 marriage habits I use now that most women would call crazy, and that most husbands would love to see at home. If you're a man in a sexless or disconnected marriage, this shows you what's possible when a wife takes her role seriously. If you're a wife and your marriage is struggling, this is the honest feedback your friends, your mom, and your therapist won't give you.What I cover:Making his highest priority my highest priority: sex as his primary love language, why I track our sex life, and why I cook even though I hate itGiving up the need to be right: no fact-checking, no correcting him in public, and why nobody has ever won an argument in a marriageHolding myself to a higher standard as a wife than my husband ever asked of me, so that he'd be ruined for anyone elseWhen he says something was disrespectful, it was: dropping the "validity filter" and learning humilityWhy it's not my job to hold my husband accountable: mothering him kills attraction, including how women handle the adult content conversationBeing intentional with my thoughts: same husband, same marriage, different focus, and why your brain finds evidence for whatever story you tell yourself about himThis is for husbands who want to understand what a high-effort wife looks like, and for wives ready to stop getting a pass. We talk about respect, attraction, sex in marriage, biblical order in the home, and how to be a better wife starting today. None of this takes a perfect husband or a perfect marriage. It takes one person deciding to show up.Guys, which one of these would you most want in your marriage? Tell me in the comments.Join the CommunityGet early access to videos, twice-monthly group coaching calls, direct Q&A with me, and podcast notes.https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonicaWork With MeInterested in coaching? Book a call: https://calendly.com/monicaalmaguerWant to fast-track your results? Check out my course: https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46cHave a question? Email ChilatMedia@gmail.comSocialsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonicaFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/MonicaAlmaguerPodcastX: https://x.com/MonicaMAlmaguerSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3U91DRFsdIsReiou3hMA26Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Monica.Almaguer#MarriageAdvice #SexlessMarriage #HowToBeABetterWife #RespectInMarriage #MarriageTips #ModernMarriage #WifeGoals #ChristianMarriage

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   22 Sept 2026

   5 Things Men Do That Turn Women On

   Level up your belt game here with Anson Belt & Buckle: http://ansonbelt.com/monicaturnonWant to know what turns a woman on? Here's the good news: it has nothing to do with hitting the gym, spending money, or changing who you are. There are things you do just by existing as a man that pour gasoline on the spark your wife already has for you. Most men have no idea how powerful these moves are, which means they only use them by accident. In this video I'm breaking down the 5 things men do that turn women on, so you can use them on purpose.Here's what we cover:1. The Backwards Hat. Some men think a backwards hat looks childish. Women do not agree. It's not just how it looks, it's the move of flipping it from front to back. I'll also tell you the two rules for making it work, including the one direction you should never wear it.2. Everything To Do With Your Belt. Your belt isn't just there to hold up your pants. The sound of the buckle unclicking, the one-handed release, pulling it through the loops, all of it builds anticipation. Plus why jeans, a belt, and no shirt is basically a woman's version of lingerie.3. Doing Man Stuff With Tools. That honey-do list is secretly one of your best tools for turning your wife on. When you're fixing things, building things, or working with power tools, she's not just checking that the picture is level. She's checking you out. Want to activate her primal side? Skip the flowers and take her to Home Depot.4. The Bicep Factor. Forget sending her the pictures you think she wants. If you're going to show off anything, make it your arms. Strong arms are a physical sign of masculinity, and women are wired to respond to it. And yes, we're talking about the veins too.5. Handling Vehicles and Equipment With Skill. Parallel parking, backing a trailer, driving a mower or a backhoe, anything that looks easy for you and would end in property damage for us is a turn-on. And there's one move involving your arm over the back of the seat that you probably never noticed, but women definitely do.The best part? None of these cost a dime, and you can combine them for maximum effect. Backwards hat, belt, no shirt, power tool in hand... she won't stand a chance.If your wife's desire for you has faded, small moves like these can remind her exactly why she was attracted to you in the first place and help bring more sex back into your marriage.🔥 Want to go deeper? Watch my free Sexless Marriage Rapid Reboot masterclass: Join my Skool Community here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/aboutBook a call with me: calendly.com/monicaalmaguer💬 Tell me in the comments: did I miss any big turn-ons? Ladies, feel free to weigh in too.👉 Subscribe for honest, straight talk about marriage, sex, attraction, and desire. New videos every week.#WhatTurnsWomenOn #HowToAttractYourWife #MarriageAdvice #SexlessMarriage #Attraction #MarriageTips #RelationshipAdvice #SmokingHotMarriage

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How to Rebuild Your Life After Divorce or Crisis: Starting Over as a Man with DSO Ralph Brewer

Published 29 Dec 2025 · Transcript excerpt

[…] The only losers stop. And we got a lot of guys that are burnt out from that. And they end up losing themselves in work. Workaholism is a very real thing, especially to a lot of men. That's not good. There's extremes to everything. But there's always a process of, it's not necessarily work, work, work. It's a process of staying true to yourself, figuring out who you are. And life's going to throw you, as you know, a whole bunch of moments, little crossroad moments in life. And you always have to sit and go, what am I doing here? Time out. I'm not going to jump and be impulsive and compulsive like I've always been. […]

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