Welcome to In By Nine Podcast! Hosted by Joyce Barrow-Henderson, Melissa Lenox, Shaya Bryant-Tabb, Sharia Washington, and Liz Sila, this is where women in their 40s spill the tea, swap the stories, and celebrate the friendships that keep us sane. Here we openly express the joy, humor, and challenges of midlife: career changes, raising teens (or letting them go), rediscovering passions, and learning to put ourselves first. Through it all, friendship is the glue that keeps us strong, reminding us that we don’t have to face any of it alone and that friendships just get better with age.
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Joyce B Henderson, Melissa Lenox, Shaya Bryant-Tabb, Sharia Washington, Liz Sila
The Words That Shaped Us (And We Still Carry) | Ep.7
In this episode of In By Nine, we’re talking about something powerful, personal, and unforgettable:Words.The compliments that built us. The criticism that stuck. The sentences we still hear decades later. Why do negative words last longer than praise? Why do so many women remember childhood insults more vividly than encouragement? And how do we rewrite the language we use with ourselves, our partners, and our children?In this conversation, we explore:• The psychology of words and negativity bias• How childhood language shapes adult confidence• Why harsh criticism activates the brain like physical pain• The power of affirmations and neuroplasticity• How women speak to themselves vs. how they speak to others• The phrases we’re retiring in 2025We also challenge ourselves to choose one word that defines who we’re becoming — and give life-giving words to each other at the table.If you’ve ever carried a sentence longer than you meant to… this episode is for you. Speak life. Choose carefully. Words build worlds.💬 Tell us in the comments: What’s one sentence you’ve never forgotten?
24 Feb 2026
Why Women Rarely Hear “I’m Proud of You” | EP.6
When was the last time someone told you, “I’m proud of you” — and meant it?In this episode of In By Nine, we talk about why so many women — especially Gen X women — struggle with praise, confidence, and emotional validation. We each made a private list of the people we’re proud of… and revealed it on air. The reactions were honest, funny, and unexpectedly emotional.In this conversation, we explore:🌸 Why 68% of women rarely hear “I’m proud of you”🌸 Why women downplay compliments and success🌸The psychology of praise and self-worth🌸How affirmation impacts confidence and relationships🌸 Why men respond deeply to encouragement🌸The difference between being strong and being celebratedIf you’re navigating midlife growth, marriage, motherhood, or rebuilding confidence — this episode is for you. This is about women empowerment, emotional health, sisterhood, and learning to give flowers while we’re still here.If nobody told you this week — we’re proud of you.💬 Tell us in the comments: Who are YOU proud of right now?Subscribe for more real conversations on confidence, relationships, and personal growth — In By Nine.
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17 Feb 2026
The Shows Women Actually Binge (We’re Not Judging) | EP.5
In this episode of In By Nine, we discuss what women across generations are watching in 2025 — from nostalgia comfort shows to trending dramas, true crime, and documentaries. We explore binge culture, generational viewing habits, streaming trends, and how TV has become both escape and connection.Topics include:📺 Gen X nostalgia TV📺 Millennials & prestige streaming📺 Gen Z micro-content culture📺 Comfort shows & guilty pleasures📺 Why women dominate binge watchingWhether you’re rewatching Scandal for the 10th time or falling asleep during a documentary you swore you'd finish — we support your journey.💬 Drop your current obsession in the comments. We need recommendations!————————————————————————————Follow us on our socials! ■ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inbyninepodcast/ ■ TikTok: http://www.tiktok.com/@inbynine
The lights are twinkling… and we’re exhausted.In this episode of In By Nine, we’re talking holiday survival: are you Blacking OUT (hiding), Crashing OUT (trying), or going All OUT (elf on espresso)? We get honest about holiday stress, family expectations, spending pressure, traditions we’re keeping (or killing), and why December hits women the hardest. From Black Friday chaos to Friendsgiving saves, this episode is your permission slip to choose peace over perfect.We cover:🎄 Holiday burnout & mental load🎄 Traditions: keep, kill, or create🎄 Black Friday & consumer pressure🎄 Supporting friends during a family-heavy season💬 Tell us in the comments: What’s your holiday vibe this year — Black OUT, Crash OUT, or All OUT?————————————————————————————Follow us on our socials! ■ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inbyninepodcast/ ■ TikTok: http://www.tiktok.com/@inbynine
3 Feb 2026
Ctrl + Alt + Del My Feelings | Tech, AI & Real Life
Remember when technology meant a Walkman and a landline? Same.In this episode of In By Nine, we take a nostalgic (and slightly skeptical) look at how tech evolved from beepers and dial-up to apps, algorithms, and AI that remembers way too much about us. We laugh, we reminisce, and we ask the real question: is tech still serving us — or are we serving it?In this episode we talk about:📟 Growing up analog in a digital world📱 App fatigue, screen time & social media burnout🤖 AI “friends,” dating bots & where things get creepy🧠 What tech is doing to our patience, relationships & mental health💬 Sound off in the comments: What piece of old tech do you secretly miss?————————————————————————————Follow us on our socials! ■ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inbyninepodcast/ ■ TikTok: http://www.tiktok.com/@inbynine ■ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5f8TbGtxm7bQrd8lVXwtw0?si=msUoTuy2TqiYtvtb66noPw
27 Jan 2026
Gen X Women on Friendship, Loneliness & Real Life in 2025 | EP.2
Tonight we laughed, cried, and absolutely debated group texts after 10 PM. In this episode of In By Nine, we dive into female friendship, Gen X womanhood, and the cultural chaos of being a grown woman in 2025. We talk situationships, perimenopause, finances, activism, and why our friendships seem to outlast everything else in our lives. Plus, we play “In or Out by Nine?” — because honestly, some things just don’t make the cut anymore.This episode is for women who are tired, wise, funny, and still figuring it out — preferably from bed by nine.💬 Comment below: What are YOU officially “out” on?————————————————————————————Follow us on my socials! ■ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inbyninepodcast/ ■ TikTok: http://www.tiktok.com/@inbynine
20 Jan 2026
The Podcast Glow-Up Nobody Warned Us About | In By Nine Is Back
New season. New energy. Same chaos. This season, we’re doing things differently — on purpose.In By Nine is officially back, and in this episode we open up about why we rebranded, how friendship has evolved for us, and what it means to show up as women in our grown era. We get honest about change, vulnerability, and the lessons we’ve learned from podcasting, motherhood, work, and life. Plus, we’re share life updates, laughs, and behind-the-scenes moments that prove we’re still figuring it out.This episode is for women who are reconnecting with themselves, redefining friendship, and learning that growth doesn’t always look pretty — but it’s always worth it.💬 Tell us: What made you realize it was time to evolve?
6 May 2025
Mother’s Day Special – “Daughters & Dialogues”
In this heartfelt and hilarious Mother’s Day episode of My Gym Friends, we’re switching things up! All five hosts are bringing on some very special guests—their daughters. 💖
From life lessons and funny stories to reflections on motherhood, legacy, and love, this episode is full of wisdom, laughter, and a few surprises. It’s a celebration of the women we’re raising and the women who raised us.
Whether you're a mom, daughter, or someone who loves one—you don’t want to miss this one. Tune in, laugh with us, and maybe grab a tissue too. 🥹🎧
#MothersDay #MyGymFriendsPodcast #GirlDad #MomLife #Legacy #MotherhoodUnfiltered #PodcastSpecial
29 Apr 2025
That's Just My Autism
This week, we open up about what it’s like to parent an autistic child—what our friends get right, what they often miss, and what we wish more people understood.
We answer the questions people are scared to ask, talk about DEI gaps in neurodivergent care, and share some surprising facts about autistic adults.
This one’s raw, honest, and full of heart. Don’t miss it.
22 Apr 2025
Goodbye City Life, It's Time for a Girls Trip!
Pack your bags and grab your besties—this week’s episode of My Gym Friends is all about the joy, the laughs, and the self-care that comes with a good girls' trip! Joined by special guest Jayna Lamb, the crew dives into why travel is more than just an escape—it’s a form of self-care. We’re talking about the mental and emotional benefits of getting away, the unforgettable memories created with your friends, and how those shared experiences can strengthen your bonds.
We also keep it real about the cost of traveling, sharing budget-friendly tips and advice on managing different spending styles among friends. Plus, we get into safety must-dos and how to meet amazing new people along the way. And of course, we’re already planning our next girls' trip—because why not?
Whether you’re reminiscing on your favorite getaway or itching to plan the next one, this episode will leave you inspired and ready to prioritize fun and self-care. Don’t miss out on the laughter, the stories, and the tips you’ll want to take with you on your next adventure!
15 Apr 2025
How Do You Know You're Getting Old?
We’re keeping it light and fun in this episode of My Gym Friends! The panel shares their absolute favorites — from music and movies to food and iconic movie lines. Get ready for a joyful trip down memory lane as we talk about the things that shape our personalities and bring us joy. This episode is all about connection and the little things that make life beautiful.🔑 Key Topics Covered:Our favorite music and the memories attached to itThe songs and movies that shaped usIconic movie lines that stuck with usFoods that bring comfort and connection💬 What are your favorite things? Share them in the comments — we want to know!🔔 Like, subscribe, and stay tuned for more laughter and connection.
8 Apr 2025
These Are My Faves
We’re keeping it light and fun in this episode of My Gym Friends! The panel shares their absolute favorites — from music and movies to food and iconic movie lines. Get ready for a joyful trip down memory lane as we talk about the things that shape our personalities and bring us joy. This episode is all about connection and the little things that make life beautiful.🔑 Key Topics Covered:Our favorite music and the memories attached to itThe songs and movies that shaped usIconic movie lines that stuck with usFoods that bring comfort and connection💬 What are your favorite things? Share them in the comments — we want to know!🔔 Like, subscribe, and stay tuned for more laughter and connection.
1 Apr 2025
Life and Legacy
What does legacy really mean? In this thought-provoking episode, My Gym Friends explores the idea of legacy — how we define it, how we feel about it, and the pressure that sometimes comes with it. Our panel gets deep about personal aspirations, family expectations, and the lasting impact we hope to leave on the world. If you’ve ever wondered about the mark you want to make, this conversation will inspire you.🔑 Key Topics Covered:Defining legacy in personal and professional lifeEmotional responses to the idea of leaving a legacyBalancing personal goals with external expectationsPractical steps to start building a meaningful legacy💬 What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind? Let’s talk about it in the comments!🔔 Subscribe for more real, relatable conversations every week.
25 Mar 2025
Where Did She Go
In this heartfelt episode of My Gym Friends, we dive into the powerful transformations women experience after marriage and children. From shifting daily routines to evolving friendships and rediscovering identity, we tackle it all with honesty and humor. Our panel opens up about the emotional, social, and physical changes that come with these major life shifts — and how they’re finding their way back to themselves. If you’ve ever felt like you lost a part of yourself along the journey, this one’s for you.🔑 Key Topics Covered:How priorities and relationships shift after marriage and kidsThe emotional and social evolution women go throughBody image, health, and mindset changesBalancing personal drive with family lifeSteps to reconnect with your passions and identity💬 Join the conversation! How have you rediscovered yourself through life’s changes? Drop a comment below and share your story.🔔 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell so you never miss an episode!
18 Mar 2025
Where Does the Time Go
In this heartfelt episode of the My Gym Friends podcast, we dive into the passage of time and the profound ways it impacts our lives. From the bittersweet moment when our kids start to become independent to the emotional challenges of caring for aging parents, we explore the transitions that shape our lives.
Join us as we reflect on:
Kids growing up and becoming more independent — how we cope with the changes and adjust to their newfound autonomy.
The shift in caring for our aging parents — navigating the emotional weight and responsibilities of becoming caregivers.
Relationships and marriage — balancing intimacy with busy family and work lives.
Finding time for ourselves — strategies for self-care and prioritizing personal well-being amidst a chaotic schedule.
Work-life balance — how we manage professional commitments while nurturing personal relationships.
Listen in for some insightful reflections and practical tips that can help you better navigate these significant life transitions.
Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with a friend who might need a little reminder about how valuable time really is!
11 Mar 2025
Friends! How Many of Us Have Them?!
In this heartfelt and relatable episode of My Gym Friends, we dive deep into the power and meaning of friendship. Join the hosts for laughter, reflection, and real talk as they explore what it truly means to be a friend and how those connections shape our lives.
4 Mar 2025
Sayings Be Sayin'
In this fun and nostalgic episode of My Gym Friends, we take a lively journey through the sayings that shaped our lives — from the wise words of our elders to the trendy phrases of today. Join the hosts for laughter, reflection, and cross-generational insight.
25 Feb 2025
Gym-Tastic Friendships: The Origin Story
Welcome to the very first episode of My Gym Friends! In this pilot, get to know the voices behind the mic — a dynamic group of women brought together by their shared passion for fitness, friendship, and real conversations.
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