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Next Of Kin Podcast
Claim This Podcastby Casey Beros
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A conversation about taking better care of ourselves and the people we love most š¤ <br/><br/><a href="https://headlinestoliveby.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast">headlinestoliveby.substack.com</a>
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September 23, 2024
No Will Power? This Is For You...
<p>If I had a dollar for every time I wished I had more will power, Iād be a Jenner-Kardashian. I start strong, but lob any curveball in my direction and Iām reaching for whatever I committed to abstain from as fast as you can say āpass the muffinā. <em>If only I had more will power</em>, I think. Iām so <em>weak</em>. If this sounds familiar, leading habit-change expert Dr Gina Cleo says thatās you, me and everyone we know. </p><p>āI feel like as a society weāve been disillusioned with this idea, almost this paradigm, that will power is the answer. And if weāve fallen off the wagon, we just need more will power, more self control - making us the problem.ā <strong>Dr Gina Cleo</strong></p><p>If will power <em>isnāt </em>the answer as weāve been led to believe, instead, Cleo says itās habits that hold the key to our future freedom. She says we should instead think of will power as a bank account, and lifeās demands are debits aplenty. </p><p>āThings like making decisions, feeling hungry, not having a very good sleep, feeling any sort of negative emotion, being time poor or stuck between a deadline and other responsibilities, self regulation, all these things deplete your willpower,ā Cleo tells me. </p><p>āNow, you've only got so many credits in your account before it runs out. It's not an infinite resource. Which is why when you start a goal, initially you feel motivated and pumped and you've got all this energy and then eventually we tend to fall off the wagon. So we start something else like a new diet or a new fitness plan when really we're just repeating the cycle of starting, dropping off the wagon, starting, dropping off the wagon with a new strategy. </p><p>āHabits on the other hand don't need willpower. I always say to people, no matter how tired or stressed or hungry you are, you will always put your seatbelt on in the car. You will always tie your shoelace the same way. You'll always brush your teeth. These things happen because they're habits. They're automatic. They don't need energy or cognitive resources. That's like the juiciest part of, you know, building a life by design rather than just living by default.ā</p><p>In this quick learning Cleo spells out just how we top the account up, plus exactly how to break those bad habits, featuring a little smart strategy and a pinch of kitchen cupboard magic. </p><p>Got bad habits youāre trying to break? Reply to this or drop your goals in the comments so Dr Cleo and I can cheer you on. And if you want to pretend weāre all gas-bagging in a cafĆ© together, get in the fold and watch us on YouTube here:</p><p>If you love this moment, check out our <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/change-your-life-one-habit-at-a-time">full chat here</a> and the <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/podcast">rest of the Next Of Kin episodes here</a>. Want to follow us? Not in the street, that would be weird, but on Instagram? You can follow Gina <a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/drginacleo">here</a> and <a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/caseyberos/">me right here</a>. </p><p><p>Next Of Kin is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.</p></p> <br/><br/>Get full access to Next Of Kin at <a href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4">nextofkin.substack.com/subscribe</a>
September 12, 2024
WHO'S IN YOUR CORNER? with SAMANTHA JADE
<p>I can only imagine how excited the producers of <em>X Factor</em> were when Samantha Jade came across their desk back in 2012. Sheās a reality TV producerās dream:</p><p>āļø Supremely talentedāļø Camera-friendly (read: gorgeous)āļø Heartwarming backstory with requisite āhighs and lowsā storyline āļø So sweet itād be easy to think you could push her around </p><p>What I suspect they didnāt see coming was just how much grit and perseverance was packed into the little girl with the big voice. If you look at her body of work, one thing stands out: she is nothing if not a fighter. And boy, has she had to fight for her art. </p><p>Plucked from Perth obscurity and signed with a big US music label at the tender age of 16, Sammi battled hard to āmake itā over on the biggest of stages before returning to Aus and entering - then winning - <em>X Factor</em>. Since then, youāll often see and hear her throughout Aussie media, sitting on the couch of the <em>Today </em>show or our biggest radio stations when she has a single or important cause to promote, and singing her heart out every year on things like <em>Carols in the Domain. </em>But sheās probably not the global superstar her fans (myself included) believe she could and should be, and I wanted to know if that pi$$es her off. </p><p>I think you sometimes give attention to the people who donāt [follow], too much attention to them, and it shouldnāt be about those people - it should be about the people who <em>are</em> in your corner. Like, why am I always caring about people who donāt care and trying to win over the people who donāt necessarily like you - thatās fine, they donāt need to, not everyone needs to - focus on the people who do. </p><p>In this deep and at times emotional chat, we go deep on whoās in Samanthaās corner both personally and professionally and what itās like living without her biggest champion - her beautiful Mum Jacquie. </p><p>Hereās the cheat sheet:</p><p>* <strong>[02:00]</strong> How are you, really? Samantha answers the question she says we donāt ask genuinely enough. </p><p>* <strong>[04:20]</strong> Samantha talks Love.Sick Vol.2, her latest musical offering all about l.o.v.e. </p><p>* <strong>[05:45]</strong> āI didnāt get paid for a show until I was 26'!ā Samantha peels the curtain back on the shiny, glossy music industry. </p><p>* <strong>[10:25] </strong>What I wanted to ask was ādoes the fact youāre not yet on Taylor-or-at-least-Kylie-level make you a tiny bit furious?āā¦ but I was heaps/a bit more tactful </p><p>* <strong>[16:45] </strong>āI think weāve stepped into a new era.ā Celebrating women in midlife and the incredible bodies of work we create. </p><p>* <strong>[19:10] </strong>Samantha talks about losing her biggest champion, her beautiful Mum Jacquie. āYou donāt meet people like that very often. She would find what your special superpower was and then she would completely build you up.ā </p><p>* <strong>[21:20] ā</strong>I realised no one else was meant for that box.ā Who do you turn to when you lose your most important person? </p><p>* <strong>[29:55] </strong>āShe went in with a cold and never came out.ā<strong> </strong>Sammi takes us back to her Mumās diagnosis. āThatās the day my life changed.ā</p><p>* <strong>[38:45] </strong>āSadness is not the worst feeling, helplessness is.ā The wild world of prognoses and loving someone who is dying. </p><p>* <strong>[41.40]</strong> The silver lining of a terminal diagnosis: time to say goodbye. How Sammiās Mum ācame backā to make sure her kids knew how much she loved them. </p><p>* <strong>[44.00] </strong>āYou learn to let things roll off.ā How the context of Sammiās worst experience gives context to the other hard days. </p><p>I often joke about Sammi that god was in a really good mood on the day he (she/they) made her. Watch our chat on YouTube here: </p><p>Lastly, a reminder that Australiaās Griefline - free and confidential counselling and support to people experiencing grief and loss across Australia, inclusive of remote, regional, rural and metropolitan regions - is there for you on 1300 845 745 or <a target="_blank" href="https://griefline.org.au/">here</a> 24/7.</p><p><strong>Connect with us:</strong></p><p>ā”ļø Follow <strong>Samantha</strong> on IG here: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/samanthajade/">www.instagram.com/samanthajade/</a></p><p>ā”ļø Listen to <strong>Love.Sick Vol.2</strong> here: </p><p>ā”ļø Follow <strong>Casey</strong> on Instagram: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/caseyberos/">www.instagram.com/caseyberos/</a></p><p>ā”ļø Find out more about <strong>Caseyās work</strong>: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.caseyberos.com/">www.caseyberos.com</a></p><p>ā”ļø Want more of <strong>Caseyās words</strong>? There are limited copies of <em>The āBadā Girlās Guide To Better</em> out in the wild as well as Amazon and Audible, or <a target="_blank" href="https://www.caseyberos.com/book-shop">hit this link</a> for a signed copy sent straight to your door</p><p>ā”ļø <strong>Missed an episode? Catch up here!</strong></p><p>š§ EP 1: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/change-your-life-one-habit-at-a-time">CHANGE YOUR LIFE ONE HABIT AT A TIME</a> with DR GINA CLEOš§ EP 2: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/what-you-probably-dont-know-about">WHAT YOU DONāT KNOW ABOUT TRAUMA</a> with NIKKI HEYDER</p><p>š§ EP 3: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/health-advice-to-save-your-life-with">HEALTH ADVICE TO SAVE YOUR LIFE</a> with DR MICHELA SORENSEN</p><p>š§ EP 4: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/the-power-of-perspective-with-michael">THE POWER OF PERSPECTIVE</a> with MICHAEL CROSSLAND</p><p>š§ EP 5: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/life-after-loss-with-amy-molloy">LIFE AFTER LOSS</a> with AMY MOLLOY</p><p>š§ EP 6: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/building-a-life-beyond-booze-with">BUILDING A LIFE BEYOND BOOZE</a> with SARAH RUSBATCH</p><p>š§ EP 7: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/biohack-your-way-to-better-health">BIOHACK YOUR WAY TO BETTER HEALTH</a> with NICK ENGERER</p><p>š§ EP 8: <a target="_blank" href="https://open.substack.com/pub/nextofkin/p/the-secret-life-of-money-with-molly">THE SECRET LIFE OF MONEY</a> with MOLLY BENJAMIN</p><p>š§ EP 9: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/feeling-lost-this-is-for-you-with">FEELING LOST? THIS IS FOR YOU</a> with DR TIM SHARP </p> <br/><br/>Get full access to Next Of Kin at <a href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4">nextofkin.substack.com/subscribe</a>
August 26, 2024
FEELING LOST? THIS IS FOR YOU with DR TIM SHARP
<p>Iāve spent much of my career interviewing experts. Doctors, dietitians, psychologists - Iāve picked hundreds of big brains on almost any topic you can think of when it comes to living a happy, healthy life. Great experts have a couple of things in common that make any journoās job easy. First, they know their stuff. Not at a shallow, Instagram level, but deeply - spending much of their time absorbing themselves in the latest research. Second, theyāve taught themselves to communicate that knowledge in ways lay people can not just understand, but in ways that light us up, make us feel something or make us want to take some sort of action. </p><p>Dr Tim Sharp is one such (great) expert. In fact, he might be up there with the greatest Iāve had the pleasure of interviewing. Iāve gone āon the recordā with Tim a number of times over the years, but this interview was different. He was more open, more vulnerable and in some ways I suspect more himself than the āDr Happyā the public has come to love and trust via Timās extensive work in the media. In this interview, and his new book <a target="_blank" href="https://amzn.asia/d/3HQVklc"><em>Lost & Found</em></a>, he shares what itās like to lose yourself and find yourself again - literally, figuratively and mentally. </p><p>I grew up feeling not worthy, not good enough, not intelligent enough. And my strategy to beat that was to achieve. So, I'll go and get a university degree. Oh, that's not enough. I'll get a Master's degree. Oh, that's not enough. I'll get a PhD. Oh, that's not enough.ā I'll write a book. That's not enough. I'll write seven books. It doesn't work. And this is a common, common mistake we make trying to fill up a hole with achievements where the holeās not <em>from</em> lack of achievement. </p><p><strong>Dr Tim Sharp </strong></p><p>Before you tuck into this one, a couple of warnings for you. The first is a trigger warning, we discuss mental ill-health and suicidality or risk of suicide. I also need to drop a language warning here, weāre adults discussing adulty things and occasionally we get passionate on the language front. So why should you invest your precious time in this chat? Donāt take it from me, hereās a sneak peekā¦ </p><p>And hereās the cheat sheet: </p><p>* <strong>[03:30]</strong> The power of midlife and how Tim feels about aging, personally and professionally. </p><p>* <strong>[05:45]</strong> āI didnāt even expect to be alive at this stage of my life.ā - Tim lifts the lid on suicidality. </p><p>* <strong>[08:50]</strong> From a clinical psychās perspective, what should we be focusing on in midlife for a long, happy, healthy future? </p><p>* <strong>[11:00]</strong> Do I stay or do I go? What kept Tim alive in his darkest moments and why we still have work to do when it comes to stigma around suicide and self harm. </p><p>* <strong>[13:10]</strong> What if my children inherit my depression or anxiety? How fear almost stopped Tim from becoming a parent. </p><p>* <strong>[14:45]</strong> āIāve thought about harming myself, is that suicidality?ā Tim breaks down the difference between strange/intrusive thoughts, passive and active suicidality. </p><p>* <strong>[19:05]</strong> Pack away the cotton wool, how overprotecting kids causes more harm than good, and distraction and avoidance in the short term = problems long term. </p><p>* <strong>[24:45]</strong> Learning to tolerate, embrace and even seek out failure because it sits alongside (and mixed in with) success. </p><p>* <strong>[30:57]</strong> A dance between grace and gumption. Tim unpacks self compassion and reminds us that simple doesnāt mean easy. </p><p>* <strong>[34:30]</strong> Three degrees and seven books later, Tim learns the hard way that the āholeā canāt be filled with achievements (and we already have the antidote). </p><p>* <strong>[41:03]</strong> I know family is most important, but I still have big dreams and only one life in which to go after them. How do I balance those competing objectives? </p><p>* <strong>[47:00]</strong> Why, when Tim āshould be at the peak of his careerā does he feel like he knows less than ever? </p><p>* <strong>[53:15]</strong> Is our pursuit of excessive comfort to blame for our unhappiness? Asking for a friendā¦ </p><p>Prefer to watch us chat? You can do that here šš¾</p><p>Loved this episode of Next Of Kin?! Share it with your favourite people as a tiny hug straight to their inbox. </p><p>If you need support, Lifeline is there 24/7 on 13 11 14 or you can call 13 YARN (13 92 76). Beyond BlueĀ is available on 1300 224 636 and you can also access their online counselling service <a target="_blank" href="https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/urgent-help">here</a>.</p><p>Lastly, a reminder that Australiaās Griefline - free and confidential counselling and support to people experiencing grief and loss across Australia, inclusive of remote, regional, rural and metropolitan regions - is there for you on 1300 845 745 or <a target="_blank" href="https://griefline.org.au/">here</a> 24/7.</p><p><strong>Connect with us:</strong></p><p>ā”ļø Follow <strong>Tim</strong> on IG here: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/thehappinessinstitute/">https://www.instagram.com/thehappinessinstitute/</a></p><p>ā”ļø Get <strong>Timās book</strong> Lost & Found here: <a target="_blank" href="https://amzn.asia/d/izqSPBE">https://amzn.asia/d/izqSPBE</a></p><p>ā”ļø Follow <strong>Casey</strong> on Instagram: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/caseyberos/">www.instagram.com/caseyberos/</a></p><p>ā”ļø Find out more about <strong>Caseyās work</strong>: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.caseyberos.com/">www.caseyberos.com</a></p><p>ā”ļø Want more of <strong>Caseyās words</strong>? There are limited copies of <em>The āBadā Girlās Guide To Better</em> out in the wild as well as Amazon and Audible, or <a target="_blank" href="https://www.caseyberos.com/book-shop">hit this link</a> for a signed copy sent straight to your door</p><p>ā”ļø <strong>Missed an episode? Catch up here!</strong></p><p>š§ EP 1: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/change-your-life-one-habit-at-a-time">CHANGE YOUR LIFE ONE HABIT AT A TIME</a> with DR GINA CLEOš§ EP 2: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/what-you-probably-dont-know-about">WHAT YOU DONāT KNOW ABOUT TRAUMA</a> with NIKKI HEYDER</p><p>š§ EP 3: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/health-advice-to-save-your-life-with">HEALTH ADVICE TO SAVE YOUR LIFE</a> with DR MICHELA SORENSEN</p><p>š§ EP 4: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/the-power-of-perspective-with-michael">THE POWER OF PERSPECTIVE</a> with MICHAEL CROSSLAND</p><p>š§ EP 5: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/life-after-loss-with-amy-molloy">LIFE AFTER LOSS</a> with AMY MOLLOY</p><p>š§ EP 6: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/building-a-life-beyond-booze-with">BUILDING A LIFE BEYOND BOOZE</a> with SARAH RUSBATCH</p><p>š§ EP 7: <a target="_blank" href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/p/biohack-your-way-to-better-health">BIOHACK YOUR WAY TO BETTER HEALTH</a> with NICK ENGERER</p><p>š§ EP 8: <a target="_blank" href="https://open.substack.com/pub/nextofkin/p/the-secret-life-of-money-with-molly">THE SECRET LIFE OF MONEY</a> with MOLLY BENJAMIN</p> <br/><br/>Get full access to Next Of Kin at <a href="https://nextofkin.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4">nextofkin.substack.com/subscribe</a>
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