Not So Ladylike is a rebellious podcast about rewriting the rules we never agreed to in the first place. Hosted by boudoir photographer Eleanor Elaine, the show weaves together personal storytelling, research-based episodes on trailblazing women who shaped history, and intimate guest conversations with people living authentically and taking up space without apology.
Host Eleanor Elaine explores pioneering journalist Nellie Bly's fearless pursuit of truth and her legacy of challenging societal limitations for women.
8 Jun 2026TRANSCRIPT
The Rules I Never Agreed To (feat. My Mom)
Host Eleanor Elaine and her mother explore the legacy of strong women and challenge societal expectations of femininity in this interview.
21 May 2026TRANSCRIPT
Welcome to Not So Ladylike
Boudoir photographer Eleanor Elaine hosts this rebellious podcast, exploring stories of women embracing their full selves and rewriting societal expectations.
5 Mar 2024
Where the Hell Have You Been, Loca?
It’s been about a year since the last episode of Not So Ladylike was released, so as I’m getting back into the swing of things, I wanted to start with some housekeeping and let you know what to expect from this new era of Not So Ladylike and offer a lil explanation of where I’ve been for the last year and why the podcast got put on the backburner.
We’ve been planning our wedding (and that shit is stressful!) – and why wedding planning has been a challenge for me in particular (2:00)
I do not have a soul mate wedding dress, and that idea makes me roll my eyes (5:12)
2023 was a really tough year for small businesses, mine included (7:04)
I’ve been feeling like I don’t have anything else to say and have zero original thoughts in my noggin (8:29)
However – things are better now and I’m excited to start recording again (9:29)
Thanks for listening to Not So Ladylike! If we aren’t already, I’d love to be friends on Instagram – you can find me @EleanorElainePhoto (https://www.instagram.com/eleanorelainephoto/). And before you go, I’d be so appreciative if you’d leave a five star review wherever you listen to podcasts and tell a friend about today’s episode! Any friend of yours is a friend of mine.
17 May 2023
Advocating for Yourself
When I was in my early 20’s, I was learning how to speak up for myself, and I was very bad at it. I would almost always prefer to just shove my feelings down and be a little uncomfy than speak up and potentially rock the boat and deal with an uncomfortable conversation. I learned how to do it though, and this is the story of the first time I remember standing up for myself as an adult.
-What Dylan’s life was like when we first started dating (00:50)
-How Gordon Ramsey taught me to ask for what I need (5:01)
-When I realized that this experience was the first time I really advocated for myself (7:17)
-How this whole experience affects my life now (9:15)
Thanks for listening to Not So Ladylike! You can find the shownotes for all episodes here (https://www.eleanorelainephoto.com/episodes). If we aren’t already, I’d love to be friends on Instagram – you can find me @EleanorElaineBoudoir (https://www.instagram.com/eleanorelaineboudoir/). And before you go, I’d be so appreciative if you’d leave a five star review wherever you listen to podcasts and tell a friend about today’s episode! Any friend of yours is a friend of mine.
18 Apr 2023
Q&A: Running a Small Business
Taxes are filed and paid, and I’m feeling good! I put up a question box on my Instagram story asking if you had any questions for me about the behind-the-scenes of running a small business because a lot of the time what we share on social media is the very pretty finished product or the polished parts of processes and we don't show the not-so-pretty stuff that's not very fun. So today I’m gonna answer all your questions about the behind-the-scenes parts of running a small business.
-When to make your side hustle official (00:57)
-The best way to gain traction and get your business out there (05:06)
-How to invest in yourself (07:07) and how to know what to invest in, plus what I invested in up until now and what’s on my list!
-What I had to teach myself about running a small business (16:17) spoiler alert: the biggest thing was BOUNDARIES
-My favorite apps to stay organized (23:04) – links down below!
-What I do to keep clients coming back (25:46)
Thanks for listening to Not So Ladylike! You can find the shownotes for all episodes here (https://www.eleanorelainephoto.com/episodes). If we aren’t already, I’d love to be friends on Instagram – you can find me @EleanorElaineBoudoir (https://www.instagram.com/eleanorelaineboudoir/). And before you go, I’d be so appreciative if you’d leave a five star review wherever you listen to podcasts and tell a friend about today’s episode! Any friend of yours is a friend of mine.
LINKS:
Kalli June Photo (https://www.kallijune.com/branding) – my branding images
Loudmouth Co (https://thisisloudmouth.com) – project copy
Shelby Moring (https://shelbymoring.com) – brand design
MY brand design!! (https://shelbymoring.com/eleanor-elaine-photography)
Katie Kurtz (https://katie-kurtz.com/cultivate) – Cultivate
Carrie Anne Kelly (https://www.carrieannekelly.com)
Karsen Murray (https://www.karsenmurray.com/email-marketing-101) – Email Marketing 101 course
Designed by Shyne (https://www.designedbyshyne.com)
Honeybook – 35% off your first year (http://share.honeybook.com/eleanorelaine)
Revenue/Expenses/Spending Tracker Spreadsheets – coming soon!
29 Mar 2023
Throwback: Misunderstood Millennials
Our very first Throwback Thursday!! On this episode of Not So Ladylike, we’re revisiting a convo that Katie and I had on the OG podcast about some of the misconceptions people have about millennials and how frustrating it can be to have to push back against them for our literal entire lives.
-How Katie always has to use GPS (1:40) and THANK GOD we don’t have to print MapQuest directions out anymore
-Why we actually would rather have a phone call than text back and forth (5:42)
-How participation trophies do kinda suck (8:54) and which generation really started that trend
-Why we might collectively feel that we have to always be productive in order to earn rest (17:30)
-The growing desire to switch back to a flip phone (36:47)
Thanks for listening to Not So Ladylike! You can find the shownotes for all episodes here (https://www.eleanorelainephoto.com/episodes). If we aren’t already, I’d love to be friends on Instagram – you can find me @EleanorElaineBoudoir (https://www.instagram.com/eleanorelaineboudoir/). And before you go, I’d be so appreciative if you’d leave a five star review wherever you listen to podcasts and tell a friend about today’s episode! Any friend of yours is a friend of mine.
13 Mar 2023
My Feminist Origin Story
This episode was recorded on International Women’s Day 2023, looking back at how I became a feminist and what my female friendships mean to me and have meant to me in my life.
-How I found one of my favorite books of all time (Text Me When You Get Home (https://www.amazon.com/Text-When-You-Get-Home/dp/1101986123)) (:52) and my absolute favorite quote from that book (1:56)
-How I fell into the trap of internalized misogyny in high school (2:35)
-The strong women who raised me (3:13) and how I saw female friendship prioritized in their lives growing up
-How my strong girl code translated into a passion for equity and equality as I grew up (5:06)
Thanks for listening to Not So Ladylike! You can find the shownotes for all episodes here (https://www.eleanorelainephoto.com/episodes). If we aren’t already, I’d love to be friends on Instagram – you can find me @EleanorElaineBoudoir (https://www.instagram.com/eleanorelaineboudoir/). And before you go, I’d be so appreciative if you’d leave a five star review wherever you listen to podcasts and tell a friend about today’s episode! Any friend of yours is a friend of mine.
24 Feb 2023
From Studying Education to Building a Boudoir Business
Welcome back to Not So Ladylike! Things have changed a bit around here since you last listened, so I have an update for you before getting into the episode today. Katie and I started Not So Ladylike in the beginning of 2022, and had so much fun together creating for it! We decided to pause for a while, and then since feeling more freedom in our schedules and less stress on us, have decided to pivot the podcast. So since Not So Ladylike is now part of my brand, I thought it would be fun for you to get to know me a little bit better, starting with my background and how I got into boudoir.
- I’ve always had an interest in art, and in high school was the president of the art club and the drama club (3:47)
- I went to school for art education, and loved being in the classroom (4:21) until I realized I was burnt out on my coursework
- I started taking portraits and did boudoir mini sessions with my friends in 2018 and LOVED it (10:05)
- I started my business in 2019, just a couple weeks after graduating college (15:22) and pulled spreadsheets from the first year of my business so you can get a sense for what the beginning was like – spoiler alert, it was hard AF
Thanks for listening to Not So Ladylike! You can find the shownotes for all episodes here (https://www.eleanorelainephoto.com/episodes). If we aren’t already, I’d love to be friends on Instagram – you can find me @EleanorElaineBoudoir (https://www.instagram.com/eleanorelaineboudoir/). And before you go, I’d be so appreciative if you’d leave a five star review wherever you listen to podcasts and tell a friend about today’s episode! Any friend of yours is a friend of mine.
Inside a recent episode
Refusing to Shrink Yourself: Nellie Bly
Published 6 Jul 2026 · Transcript excerpt
[…] We're talking about the late 1800s. When women were expected to remain within what was often called the women's sphere of domesticity, if you were a woman with ambitions outside the home, if you had opinions, wanted a career, didn't aspire to marriage or motherhood, society at large found that distasteful. […]
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