NOT THE NARRATIVE with Abi

About NOT THE NARRATIVE with Abi

Not the Narrative is a first-person podcast about living beyond the story told about you. Hosted by Abi, the show explores high-conflict family court proceedings and the lived experience of remaining grounded through scrutiny — while raising a child, sustaining a business, holding faith in imperfect systems, dating again after disruption, and practicing emotional regulation under pressure. This is not legal advice or commentary, but a record of integration and composure while everything is in motion.

Publisher

Abi

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

26 Jan 2026

Latest episode

29 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

27 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   29 Oct 2026

   Why Your Lawyer Is Not Your Therapist — And What Nobody Tells You About Family Court

   The Guide to Family Court | Not The Narrative with Abi Your lawyer is not your therapist, your psychologist, or your emotional punching bag. And confusing those roles could cost you thousands. When you're fighting to protect your children, struggling financially, and dealing with a high-conflict former spouse, it's easy to expect your lawyer to move mountains. But here's the uncomfortable truth: Your personal emergency isn't always a legal emergency. In this episode, I'm talking about the emotional and financial realities of family court, why lawyers don't always respond with the urgency we desperately need, and how to stop allowing frustration to become another expensive mistake. We're discussing billable hours, emotional boundaries, legal strategy, financial survival, and learning how to help your lawyer help you. And most importantly, we're talking about faith. Because what the enemy intended for evil, God can use for your good. — Genesis 50:20 Your lawyer may be fighting your legal battle, but YOU are responsible for building a life beyond that courtroom. 🎧 LISTEN. SUBSCRIBE. SHARE. If this episode resonates with you, follow Not The Narrative with Abi on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, and wherever you listen to podcasts. ⭐ Follow the podcast, leave a rating, and share this episode with someone navigating separation, divorce, or high-conflict co-parenting. 📲 LET'S CONNECT! Instagram: @notthenarrativewithabi TikTok: @notthenarrativewithabi 💌 Have a story to share or a topic you'd like me to discuss? Reach out through my social media. Your storm is not your story. #NotTheNarrativeWithAbi #GuideToFamilyCourt #FamilyCourt #DivorceRecovery #HighConflictCoparenting #FaithOverFear #WomenEmpowerment

2. 

   15 Oct 2026

   EP26: Why Your Narcissistic Ex Won't Leave You Alone

   Why does your ex continue creating conflict long after the relationship has ended? And why does it sometimes get worse when you finally move on? Different relationships. Different people. Different circumstances. Yet the same accusations, manipulation, controlling behaviours, and relentless conflict. In Episode 26 of Not The Narrative with Abi, I share a powerful realization that came from comparing experiences with other women: sometimes, what feels like a personal battle is actually part of a much larger pattern of narcissistic and controlling behaviour. And when children and family court are involved, the consequences can be financially and emotionally devastating. Family court can become the devil's playground. A place where narratives are twisted, accusations multiply, and the pursuit of resolution can leave you financially exhausted. Drawing from my own experiences, I discuss why recognizing these patterns matters, how moving on with a new partner can intensify conflict, and why choosing the right legal representation and knowing which battles to fight can save you thousands of dollars. Most importantly, we talk about faith, discernment, and remembering that God never promised we wouldn't walk through the valley. He promised He would walk with us. You cannot force someone else to move on. But you do not have to remain standing still because they haven't. 🎙️ Not The Narrative with Abi Connect with Abi Have a story to share, a question, or an experience you'd like to discuss? Whether you're reaching out personally or professionally, I'd love to hear from you. 📸 Instagram: @notthenarrativewithAbi 🎵 TikTok: @notthenarrativewithabi 🎧 Listen, Follow & Subscribe on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3rzl1PHreiR1Y6ThxlUQ8n (https://open.spotify.com/show/3rzl1PHreiR1Y6ThxlUQ8n) If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Your storm is not your story. #NotTheNarrativeWithAbi #FamilyCourtSurvivalGuide #NarcissisticAbuse #CoerciveControl #HighConflictCoparenting #FaithOverFear

3. 

   14 Sept 2026

   When Family Court Expects You to Be the Perfect Mother Motherhood Under a Microscope

   There is motherhood—and then there is motherhood when someone is waiting for you to fail. In Episode 25 of the Family Court Survival Guide, Abi gets real about the impossible standard mothers can face in high-conflict family court: where an ordinary parenting decision can become an email, an allegation, or another piece of “evidence.” And for Black mothers, there can be another layer—the pressure of navigating a system while carrying stereotypes about being “angry,” “aggressive,” “difficult,” or “controlling.” This episode asks some uncomfortable questions: Why are we examining a mother's strength more closely than the behaviour that required her to become this strong? How can there always be money to fight about a child, but suddenly not enough money to provide for the child? Are we financing our children—or financing our resentment? And while the adults are litigating, documenting and fighting, what does the child actually want? Often, it's much simpler: their school, friends, community, activities, routines—and the reassurance that although their family has changed, their entire world doesn't have to change with it. The world may be looking for your imperfections. Your child is looking for your arms. 🎙️ Not The Narrative with Abi Family Court Survival Guide — Episode 25 If this episode resonates with you, follow and subscribe to Not The Narrative with Abi on Spotify and wherever you listen to podcasts. Share this episode with another mother navigating separation, divorce, co-parenting or family court. She may need to hear that she isn't alone. Connect with Abi: Instagram: @notthenarrativewithabi TikTok: @notthenarrativewithabi Facebook: @notthenarrativewithabi 🎧 Follow • Subscribe • Share Your storm is part of your story—but it does not get to become your story.

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