Notes to Her: The Daily Peptalk is your ten-minute or less boost of confidence and clarity. Hosted by Yaya, a confidence and mindset coach for women ready to stop overthinking and start showing up boldly, each short episode gives you a mindset reset, a dose of encouragement, and one actionable tip to keep your momentum going, no fluff, just real talk and daily pep.
How to accept a compliment without deflecting it: I break down why you hand them back and the two-second fix in Note 81 of Notes to Her.
This one is for the woman who answers “I love your top” with where she bought it and how little it cost.
I walk through the lines we use to deflect, from “Oh, this old thing” to the compliment we fire right back, and why they leave our mouths before the kind words have a chance to land. A lot of it comes down to the opinion we hold of ourselves, and I share my own three-dollar habit from before I built my confidence.
I also cover the work version, where one compliment turns into pressure to never slip, the four costs of deflecting, and the quick check for when complimenting someone back is the real thing. You will leave with homework that takes two seconds.
ℹ️ In this video you’ll discover:
→ Why you answer a compliment with the price tag before it lands
→ Where the habit comes from and why taking credit can feel like bragging
→ The “why would they lie to you?” question that changes how a compliment sounds
→ How one compliment at work can turn into pressure to never slip
→ The four costs of handing compliments back
→ How to tell whether complimenting someone back is real or a deflection
→ The two-second shift: pause, say thank you, and stop talking
Ready to build the confidence underneath the reflex? Here’s the link to download the free Confidence Starter Kit: https://theconfidentlyher.com/confidence-kit (https://theconfidentlyher.com/confidence-kit)
Make sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss Note 82, You’ve Always Been Built for More, and follow @confidentlyherco for more reminders between episodes.
26 Oct 2026
Note 80: You Teach People How to Love You by How You Love Yourself
Have you ever told a friend you would never put up with what she puts up with, and then canceled on yourself for the fourth time that week? In Note 80, I talk about why the people around you follow your lead, and why the way you treat yourself is the first lesson anyone gets about how to treat you.
We get into where the habit of putting yourself last comes from, what the quiet tally of over-giving does to a relationship, and who owns what when someone treats you badly. I also give you three small moves to try this week, and they are small on purpose.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why people read how you treat yourself before they hear what you ask for
Where the habit of putting yourself last comes from
What the pattern costs you in love, friendship, and family
Who owns what when someone treats you poorly
Three small moves to start changing how people respond to you
If you have ever said “I don’t mind” when you did mind, this Note is for you. If you want help changing the pattern one-on-one, you can learn about The Confidently Her Method, my 16-week private coaching program, at https://theconfidentlyher.com/her-method (https://theconfidentlyher.com/her-method)
21 Oct 2026
Note 79: Your Brain Keeps Receipts on Every “I’ll Start Monday”
If you have ever bought the planner, set the 5AM alarm, and quit by Wednesday, this Note explains what was really going on. Yaya breaks down why your brain keeps receipts on every promise you make to yourself, and why a habit that takes 60 seconds or less rebuilds that trust faster than a perfect routine ever could. You will leave with a three-step loop you can start tomorrow morning.
Inside this Note:
why your pep talks fall flat when your brain does not trust your follow-through yet
how a ten-step morning routine quietly hands you ten chances to break a promise
the 60-second habit and the worst-morning test for choosing yours
Yaya's story of opening the blinds when a major life reset felt out of reach
the three-step loop: pick it, attach it to something you already do, and celebrate it out loud
what to do on the day you miss, and why coming back is the strongest proof of all
Want to build the habit alongside other women? Join the 7-Day Reset inside Slay Society. You pick your 60-second habit, keep it for seven days, and check in with a room full of women doing the same thing. Your first seven days are free. Here's the link to join: https://www.skool.com/theconfidentlyherco-4672/about
Save this Note for Sunday night, pick your habit, and send it to the friend who keeps buying planners.
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