Two people who've stopped pretending everything's fine, having the kind of raw conversation you'd have at 2am when you're both finally being honest. Each week, a different cohost joins me to explore a shared struggle with self-abandonment, boundaries, and choosing yourself. We talk about the turning point, the cost, and the parts that are still hard. No scripts, no performance, no toxic positivity. Just real people discussing the messy reality of going from living on autopilot to designing life on your own terms. Hosted by Haley Ryan, a Values Alignment Specialist and Authenticity Advocate.
On Your Terms
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Two people who've stopped pretending everything's fine, having the kind of raw conversation you'd have at 2am when you're both finally being honest. Each week, a different cohost joins me to explore a shared struggle with self-abandonment, boundaries, and choosing yourself. We talk about the turning point, the cost, and the parts that are still hard. No scripts, no performance, no toxic positivity. Just real people discussing the messy reality of going from living on autopilot to designing life on your own terms. Hosted by Haley Ryan, a Values Alignment Specialist and Authenticity Advocate.
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June 18, 2026
She Was Groomed from Birth to Be Someone's Property. She Became Her Own | Rohne
<p>She had no word for what was happening to her. She only knew, standing in front of a camera at 18, that nobody had asked.</p><p>In today's episode, Haley sits down with Rohne, silent emotional crisis expert, courage coach, and author, to talk about what it means to grow up inside a culture where you are not a person but a possession in transit. What starts as a story about an arranged marriage photoshoot becomes a conversation about identity, survival, spiritual awakening, and what unconditional self-acceptance actually feels like when it finally arrives.</p><ul><li>Growing up in India with no sense of self to speak of: a daughter is not raised, she is groomed, trained in cooking and cleaning from the age of 13, and reminded constantly that her real home is her husband's house</li><li>The photoshoot she thought was just for fun, and the moment halfway through when she realised her father had already decided her future without telling her</li><li>Battling the caste system to marry for love, only to watch her husband switch back into arranged-marriage mode the moment his parents said yes</li><li>Divorcing in secret in America with no family, no Indian friends who understood, and a father who told her never to come home when he found out</li><li>The spiral that followed: alone in a foreign country, facing an unexpected pregnancy, believing she had failed at every role a woman was supposed to fill, and reaching the edge</li><li>The moment of grace that changed everything: a wave of unconditional self-acceptance so overwhelming she thought she was having a psychotic break, and the stranger who called her back an hour later and said: "no, sweetheart, you're having an awakening"</li></ul><p>This one isn't just about cultural expectations or survival. It's about what happens when you have spent your entire life being told you are not yours to keep, and the split second when you finally disagree.</p><p><br></p><p><b>About Rohne: </b></p><p>Rohne is a silent emotional crisis expert, courage coach, and author of Realized: From Rock Bottom to Unconditional Love. Her memoir chronicles the first 33 years of her life and the silent war she was fighting inside one she did not have a name for until she was on the other side of it. She left India, left a marriage, and rebuilt her life from scratch in America, alone. Now she does the work she needed someone to do for her.</p><p><br></p><p><b>Connect with Rohne: </b></p><p>Instagram: <a href='https://www.instagram.com/rohne.official/'>@rohne.official</a> </p><p>TikTok: @<a href='https://www.tiktok.com/@rohne.official'>rohne.official </a></p><p>Realized on Amazon: <a href='https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GYQ4CN4N'>amazon.com/dp/B0GYQ4CN4N </a></p><p>Book website: <a href='https://realizedbook.com/'>realizedbook.com</a> </p><p>Coaching website: <a href='roanofficial.com'>rohneofficial.com</a></p><p><br></p><p><b>Subscribe & Share: </b></p><p>If this resonated, share it and don't forget to subscribe. </p><p>Follow me on YouTube<a href='https://www.youtube.com/@haleyryan.unfiltered'> @haleyryan.unfiltered</a> or visit<a href='https://www.haleyryan.co.uk/'> www.haleyryan.co.uk</a> to find out how you can stop abandoning yourself for acceptance and finally be fully and unapologetically yourself.</p><p><br></p><p><b>Please note: </b>The show will be taking a mid season break and will be back in 6 weeks.</p>
June 11, 2026
She Gave 30 Years to Everyone Else. Then She Tried Being Herself | JaHana Holloway
<p>She spent decades doing everything to be needed. The one thing she never tried was being herself.</p><p>In today's episode, Haley sits down with JaHana Holloway, author, speaker, and healing-centred creative, to talk about what people-pleasing really looks like from the inside, and what it actually costs over a lifetime. </p><p>What starts as a story about growing up as the middle child in a single-parent home becomes a conversation about narcissism, self-abandonment, divorce, and the quiet courage it takes to hold your own healing when the people you were doing it for have all left.</p><ul><li>Growing up people-pleasing to manage a mother who was emotionally unavailable and a father who was absent, and carrying that straight into having her first child at 19 before she even knew those patterns had a name</li><li>Why narcissists find people-pleasers the way sharks find blood, and how JaHana has gone from a 7-year marriage to spotting the red flags and cutting it off in 30 days</li><li>The funeral she held for her marriage: not a divorce party, but an actual goodbye to the life she thought she was going to have</li><li>Going from 30 years of people-pleasing to choosing herself, and watching people fall away left and right because they preferred the version of her that did everything for everyone</li><li>Still sitting in the loneliness of that, still in her hometown where people see her as who she was rather than who she is becoming, and being honest about how hard that is</li><li>Publishing two books from inside that loneliness, including a children's book called Birds of a Different Feather: Too Bright to Fit In, which is her own story told through a bird who never quite belonged</li></ul><p>This one isn't just about people-pleasing or recovering from a toxic marriage. It's about what it means to have always been enough and never been able to see it, and what happens when you finally stop trying to make everyone else see it first.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>About JaHana:</strong> </p><p>JaHana Holloway is an author, speaker, and healing-centered creative whose work is rooted in transformation, self-reflection, and emotional healing. Her poetry collection Metamorphosis uses her lived experiences as a bridge for others to feel seen, and her children's book Birds of a Different Feather: Too Bright to Fit In is her own story in disguise. She creates spaces for honest conversations about the parts of life we usually avoid, and invites people into the process of shedding, healing, and returning to who they truly are.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Connect with JaHana:</strong> </p><p>Website: <a href="https://linktr.ee/jahanaholloway" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">linktr.ee/jahanaholloway</a></p><p>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jahana.holloway" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">JaHana Holloway </a></p><p>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/vibewithjahana/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">@vibewithjahanna </a></p><p>TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@taurusgoddess333" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">@vibewithjahanna </a></p><p>Threads: <a href="https://www.threads.com/@vibewithjahana" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">@vibewithjahanna</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Subscribe & Share:</strong> </p><p>If this resonated, share it and don't forget to subscribe. Follow me on YouTube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@haleyryan.unfiltered" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">@haleyryan.unfiltered</a> or visit <a href="https://www.haleyryan.co.uk/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">www.haleyryan.co.uk</a> to find out how you can stop abandoning yourself for acceptance and finally be fully and unapologetically yourself.</p>
June 4, 2026
She Walked Out of Her Final Exam Two Classes from Graduating. It Was the Best Thing She Ever Did | Lisa Gornall
<p>She had a B in the class, two classes left to finish, and a family expecting her to graduate. She failed the final on purpose without realising it.</p><p>In today's episode, Haley sits down with Lisa Gornall, spiritual medium, energy coach, author, and healer, to talk about what happens when your intuition is louder than your logic, and you finally stop arguing with it. </p><p>What starts as a story about leaving nursing school becomes a conversation about energy, burnout, boundaries, and learning to trust the inner knowing that has been guiding you all along.</p><ul><li>How a vision Lisa saw in sixth grade sent her down a nursing path for years, and why it turned out she had been watching a past life, not a future</li><li>Sitting on a patient's bed, asking him what was really going on with his heart, realising she could never do the work she was called to do inside a hospital system</li><li>Moving across the country pregnant, with no social media, no Zoom, and no clients, and building her business anyway in a city where nobody knew what coaching was</li><li>Burning out twice, the second time tearing her Achilles, and what it finally took for her to stop running on empty and build a schedule that actually protects her energy</li><li>Why she is never off, what it costs to be permanently reading energy in every room, and the boundaries she had to learn to keep her gifts from depleting her</li><li>What she is still working through: watching her daughters date the wrong people and learning, finally, to say it once and then step back</li></ul><p>This one isn't just about career pivots or spiritual gifts. It's about what it costs to keep ignoring your own knowing, and what becomes possible the moment you stop.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>About Lisa:</strong> </p><p>Lisa Gornall is a spiritual medium, author, healer, and energy coach who has supported over a thousand women to transform their energy, relationships, and lives over the past two decades. Born with intuitive abilities that allow her to align and balance energy, she takes successful women from struggling to get through each day to genuinely thriving. Her books are available on Amazon, and her meditations are on YouTube. She believes you already have everything you need inside you.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Connect with Lisa:</strong> </p><p>Website:<a href="https://www.lisagornall.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer"> lisagornall.com</a></p><p>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/energycoachlisa/ " target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">@energycoachlisa</a></p><p>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/lisa.goodgornall " target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Lisa Gornall </a></p><p>LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-gornall/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Lisa Gornall </a></p><p>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCd_d2DS5fNDNemgJE3lLjFw" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Lisa Gornall</a> </p><p>Books: <a href="https://amazon.com/author/lisagornall " target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">amazon.com/author/lisagornall</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Subscribe & Share:</strong> </p><p>If this resonated, share it and don't forget to subscribe. Follow me on Linked In: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/haleyryanunfiltered/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">@haleyryan.unfiltered </a>for more real conversations about self-abandonment, boundaries, and designing life on your own terms.</p>
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