We talk about grief, sorrow, hardship, and suffering, and we also talk about the hope, beauty, and joy we are finding along the way. Tristan's (and his wife's) daughter died suddenly and tragically at about 4 years old. Kayla's (and her husband's) son was born with serious disabilities two years ago. Both families continue to grow and love and face hardships. This podcast addresses some of the hardest things in life. We don't sugarcoat suffering. But we laugh and have joy too. We also interview other people going through their own difficult battles and sorrows.
A Lifetime of Suffering and Healing - Loren Fritze
Tristan interviews his good friend, counselor, and pastor, Loren Fritze. Loren shares about the great sufferings he has faced over many years and how God has brought healing and redemption in his life and work.
00:00 - Introduction
01:17 - Growing up and Chronic Illness
05:26 - Close to Death at 18
07:25 - Facing Death Again with Horrible Injury
12:34 - Never Going to Walk Again
15:22 - Long Rehab
17:07 - Keeping Perspective
17:50 - Miracle of Walking Again
19:44 - Returning Home
20:18 - More Suffering, Boils and Fevers
22:03 - A Month in Isolation, the Darkest Time
25:09 - The Year of Trials
25:37 - Beginning to Heal and College
28:02 - Two More Years of Great Sickness
31:00 - Becoming a Counselor
31:32 - God prepares us through suffering
32:27 - Dark Night of the Soul
34:16 - The Wounded Healer
37:25 - Counseling and Gettiing to the Root
39:56 - God Making Sense of our Suffering
43:24 - God Uses our Suffering
4 Jun 2024
Big News!
Tristan and Kayla return after a few weeks break to talk about some big news and finding hope and joy after suffering.
17 May 2024
Internet, Suffering, and Healing Communities
Tristan talks about the good and the bad of the internet and our need to find flesh-and-blood, healing relationships.
17 May 2024
Moving, Smile Again, and Season 2
Tristan and Kayla reconnect and talk about what's going on in their lives.
https://smileagaingriefministries.org
23 Apr 2024
Men and Grief
Tristan is flying solo this week, so he talks about the struggles that men often face going through grief and gives practical advice on how husbands and wives can learn to grieve and go through hard things together.
00:00 - Lonely Tristan
00:25 - Men and Women and Grief
01:11 - Scary Statistic on Divorce and Grief
03:44 - Generalizations and Stereotypes
05:49 - A Time Not to Grieve
08:46 - A Time for Grief Must Come
10:47 - Not Knowing How to Deal with Tragedy
12:37 - Avoiding our Inadequacies
14:16 - Push Through your feelings of Inadequacy
16:58 - When Tristan’s Life was Falling apart
20:12 - A Suggestion of Wives
16 Apr 2024
Having Faith Despite Suffering
Tristan and Kayla talk about how their faith in God has been strengthened and stretched during their times of hardship.
00:00 - Faith in God in a world of Suffering
03:27 - Don’t answer questions people aren’t asking
06:56 - Scriptures and suffering
11:39 - Unchanged aspect of faith
13:30 - Do I really trust God?
15:18 - The Scripture is full of examples
16:42 - Redemption and Suffering
19:38 - The Pieta
22:06 - Love is greater than Freedom
24:30 - Trusting the will of God
26:33 - How do you actually trust God in tragedy
28:16 - Tristan’s faith recently growing
31:17 - God actually cares for us
32:59 - He’s not safe, but He’s good
34:44 - God can and will use terrible things
35:36 - God understands
40:14 - It’s all mysterious and messy
42:58 - Beauty
47:39 - Think about these things ahead of time
49:00 - Sitting with people in Grief
9 Apr 2024
Planning a Wedding and a Funeral
Tristan and his wife Jill talk about meeting, planning their wedding, and then going through the unthinkable process of planning a funeral for their 3-year-old daughter. They recorded this over three months ago when preparing to start this podcast.
https://smileagaingriefministries.org/ (https://smileagaingriefministries.org/)
00:00 - Intro
00:57 - Our baby hates me
02:06 - Planning a Wedding and Funeral
03:03 - Jill meets Tristan
04:17 - Tristan’s perspective
06:11 - Asking permission to marry Jill
08:13 - Jill is cautious
10:05 - Making a plan
10:51 - Simple, Meaningful, and Enjoyable
15:53 - What would you do differently
17:12 - Losing our daughter
18:46 - Jill gives birth and funeral postponed
21:29 - How do you plan a funeral for your child?
24:26 - Planned Too Much
26:45 - The Power of Music
27:42 - The Graveside
30:24 - Jesus Loves Me
34:39 - What would you do differently
36:34 - You do the best you can
37:16 - Laughter even at a funeral
2 Apr 2024
Young Mom Facing Major Cancer
Melanie was a 26-year-old wife and mother of two young girls when she was diagnosed with life threatening cancer. She comes on the podcast today to share her story of faith, joy, and defiant hope in the midst of her diagnosis and eventual amputation.
http://smileagaingriefministries.org
26 Mar 2024
Finding Hope after the Tragic Loss of my Brother
My friend Dave came on to talk about walking with his brother through a very hard season and then through his brother's death by suicide. Dave and his wife have started Camp Christopher in after their loss, helping other families who have also been affected by suicide.
https://www.campchriscotton.com (https://www.campchriscotton.com/?fbclid=IwAR2Zb6jliLmWeRjnxkCnzGFUeBR3miSjSPHMeshk14Fwh9xaiBDsa36XiMw_aem_ATSY1iPbj3RdXUFZC-3ngLPdSZ0WUTpBjNepGS53m8QbpLt0PEpfsoc9mOrFO_wng-9Dtx44wGvzIg1Mjg_turgb)
https://smileagaingriefministries.org/ (https://smileagaingriefministries.org/)
19 Mar 2024
How to Walk with Hurting People
Tristan and Kayla discuss what was helpful and not helpful when they were going through their personal hardships. They tell their stories and give some practical tips on how to love and help people who are going through sorrow and crisis.
https://smileagaingriefministries.org
00:00 - Introduction
00:29 - Every Suffering is Unique
02:53 - Pity vs. Charity
06:35 - Loving us is knowing my son
12:46 - Hard to help with tragic death
14:54 - Don’t Intrude
18:56 - People want to do something but don’t know how
24:35 - Know your motives for helping
25:51 - Embrace being awkward
28:57 - Being present in crisis
31:11 - Loving over the long haul
36:51 - Keep asking questions and saying the name
40:38 - Others Loving our children
44:28 - Final Practical Advice
12 Mar 2024
Facing Serious Cancer
Our friend Denny was just diagnosed with a very serious cancer about a month before we recorded. He came on the podcast to tell us how he's facing it.
https://www.caringbridge.org/visit/dennypluimer
Kayla shares the story of her son, Nolan's birth, the many challenges Nolan has faced in his first two years of life, and the joys and difficulties Paul and her face as they love and parent their family.
26 Feb 2024
Grief, Hardship, and Hope - Episode 1
Tristan and Kayla talk about the hardships, grief, and tragedies they have experienced and their hopes for this podcast. They want to talk about hard and sorrowful things but also find joy and beauty in the middle of it all.
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