9 Oct 2026
How Do We Find Ourselves In Every Stage Of Life? | EP 4
What does it mean to keep becoming yourself?
In this episode of Our Garden, Samone sits down with Sundra for a conversation about the many lives we live within one lifetime, and the versions of ourselves we meet along the way.
Together, they move through motherhood, movement, music, loneliness, curiosity, and the quiet work of learning to truly see ourselves and one another. Sundra reflects on the teachers, rhythms, cultures, and younger versions of herself that shaped the woman she is today, from her Jamaican roots and life as a dancer to becoming a mother, actor, yoga teacher, and cycle breaker.
They talk about the words that stay with us from childhood, what happens when we reclaim the parts of ourselves we once put down, and why being understood sometimes requires the courage to let ourselves be known.
And when finding our way back to ourselves feels complicated, Sundra offers a beautifully simple place to begin:
Go outside.
Touch the grass.
Move your body.
Get quiet enough to remember that you belong here too.
Because maybe becoming isn't about arriving at some final version of ourselves. Maybe, as Sundra reminds us, we are constantly birthing ourselves.
Welcome back to the Garden.
Chapters
00:24 How Yoga Teacher Training Changed Sundra’s Life
01:48 Discovering the Joy of Teaching and Mentorship
02:48 The Power of Making People Feel Seen
03:27 What It Really Means to Show Up for Someone
04:10 Social Media, Capitalism & the Pressure to Appear Okay
06:12 Asking “How Are You?” and Making Room for Vulnerability
07:05 Loneliness in a World That’s Always Connected
07:47 The Highlight Reel & the Pressure to Keep Up
08:42 Reclaiming Human Connection in a Digital World
10:20 Dancing Without Waiting for Permission
11:36 Passing Down Music, Culture & Nostalgia
12:53 Imposter Syndrome & Finding Freedom Through Movement
13:19 Dance as Expression, Processing & Therapy
14:10 Why Our Bodies Are Made to Move
15:38 Healing the Insecurities We Carry From Childhood
17:23 How One Comment Can Shape a Lifetime
18:11 Motherhood, Identity & Finding a Reason to Keep Going
20:04 Breaking Generational Patterns Through Parenting
20:22 The Importance of Apologizing to Your Children
21:12 Normalizing Emotions & Therapy at Home
22:33 Unlearning What We Inherit From Our Parents
23:40 The Ongoing Journey of Birthing Yourself
24:18 Learning to Give Grace Without Abandoning Yourself
25:30 When Forgiveness Becomes a Boundary
26:38 Inner Child Work & Healing the Versions of Ourselves We Left Behind
27:06 Forgiving the Lonely Child You Once Were
28:28 Trust, Loneliness & the Fear of Opening Up
29:04 Is Being Understood a Two-Way Street?
30:17 Learning to Communicate Instead of Expecting Others to Know
31:35 When You Feel Like You Have Nobody to Talk To
32:24 The Stories We Tell Ourselves Before Asking for Help
33:26 Acting, Presence & Letting Go of Expectations
34:09 Why Movement Training Matters for Actors
35:22 Finding Different Kinds of Fulfillment Through Art
37:20 Reconnecting With Yourself Through Nature
38:33 Grounding Yourself in the Present Moment
39:48 Growth Is a Lifelong Process
40:25 Mental Health, Therapy & Cultural Stigma
41:05 Choosing to Break Generational Cycles
42:25 Bob Marley, Self-Acceptance & Giving Yourself Grace
43:36 You Are Exactly Where You Need to Be
44:00 Learning to Treat Yourself With Compassion
44:37 Garden Notes: How Sundra Changed the Direction of the Series
45:04 Carrying Home, Culture & Community With You
46:05 Taking the Lessons of Our Garden Into Everyday Life
46:43 Our Garden Credits & Closing Thoughts
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