Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction

About Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction

The Overcoming Betrayal and Addiction podcast, featuring Dr. Rob Weiss and Tami VerHelst, presents a conversational Q&A style discussion drawn from listener questions about sex and porn addictions, infidelity, cheating, and hard work required to heal relationship betrayal. Dr. Rob and Tami are very good at engaging people struggling with painful life issues in a useful, respectful way. They also invite you to join them on their live weekly webinar (Mondays, 5 p.m. Pacific at https://bit.ly/DrRobandTami), where they answer questions live Dr. Rob is Chief Clinical Officer for Seeking integrity Treatment Centers. He is a 30-year licensed therapist, a PhD sexologist, and author Sex Addiction 101, Prodependence, and Out of the Doghouse, among other books. Tami is Chief Relationships Officer for Seeking Integrity LLC. Tami brings over 40 years of personal addiction knowledge, helping supply struggling individuals and couples with the resources and direction they need to heal.

Publisher

Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst

Category

health & fitness · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

16 Jun 2020

Latest episode

17 Sept 2026

Latest episodes

54 of 252 episodes have a transcript.

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   17 Sept 2026TRANSCRIPT

   Engaging Your Brain in Repair and Recovery

   Host John Taylor and Tami explore how to re-engage executive functioning for relationship repair and recovery after betrayal, offering practical questions for rebuilding trust.

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   26 May 2026TRANSCRIPT

   Sex and Intimacy Q & A for Partners and Parents

   Dr. Rob and Tami address partner and parent questions about navigating betrayal, intimacy, and addiction recovery timelines in this insightful interview.

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   11 May 2026TRANSCRIPT

   Navigating Sexual Reintegration

   Dr. Rob and Tami answer participant questions about how to reintegrate sex, self-pleasure for partners, the pain of a sexless relationship and the role of "hopium". They offer perspective on demanding repair, seeking connection and the power of taking care of yourself no matter what your partner is or isn't doing. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] What can I do to reclaim my sexuality? [11:02] Should I insist on my partner moving out or do an in-house separation? [16:42] When sex addiction isn't the only problem. [19:32] How can I get my intimate needs met? [29:05] Questions you really don't want the answers to. [34:02] How can I build shame resiliency? [39:56] Where do we start with sexual reconnection? [42:51] Moving beyond objectification. [48:03] I feel he broke it, and he needs to fix it. [54:41] The power of community and connection. [58:20] Is masturbation sexual betrayal? RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss (https://prodependence.com/) Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. QUOTES "Your courage and willingness to talk about these issues will get you halfway there." "Do not threaten something that you're not willing to follow through on." "You have zero control over him. The only thing you can take care of is you."

Inside a recent episode

Engaging Your Brain in Repair and Recovery

Published 17 Sept 2026 · Transcript excerpt

[…] Questions engage the executive or I should say good engagement with questions, engage the executive because they require self-reflection. They require some future thinking. They require some intentionality. And if there's any kind of contradiction between your behaviors or your intention and your behavior, a good question is going to ferret that out. So here's some questions that kind of get at or sort of set the table of what healthy executive function looks like in a relationship. And like I said, even early on when things are really scary and it's hypervigilant, like these are good questions to start to consider. […]

Who has been a guest on Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction

Names identified in recent episode analyses. Showing up to five guests.

• Debbie McRae
• Dr Jessica Lamar
• Dr Eddie Capparucci
• Scott Brassart
• Dan Drake

Reach and audience

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Apple Podcasts (US)

4.6 / 5

42 ratings

Spotify

4.6 / 5

27 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 65 / 100

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Quality

93

Social presence

0

YouTube

0

Engagement

92

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