Parenting by THE Book - Biblical Behavior Change

About Parenting by THE Book - Biblical Behavior Change

Parenting by THE Book - Biblical Behavior Change is your go-to podcast for faith-based guidance and practical strategies to help transform challenging teen behavior. If you’re a Christian homeschool mom feeling overwhelmed by defiance, disrespect, laziness, or constant battles, this podcast teaches a root-focused approach to heart transformation instead of a symptom-focused behavior modification approach using a time-tested, proven manual: The Bible. If you're looking to permanently transform your teen's behavior and restore peace in your home, this Podcast is for you! Each episode is packed with Biblical insights, actionable habits, and encouragement to help you model godly character, guide your teen’s heart, and create a calmer, more respectful homeschool environment.

Publisher

Noel Gray

Category

education

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

30 Aug 2025

Latest episode

26 May 2026

Latest episodes

10 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   26 May 2026

   BBTHM: Episode 9 - A Look Inside My World - Stories from Raising My Own Children

   What happens when the child you love becomes the hardest battle of your life? In this raw and unfiltered episode, I pull back the curtain on one of the most difficult journeys of my parenting life, raising one of my oldest children. From early signs of abandonment wounds to explosive behaviors I had to physically manage, this episode doesn't sugarcoat anything. I walk through the specific behaviors that showed up, the ages they surfaced, and my theories on why they took root in the first place. But this isn't just a story of survival, it's a story of transformation. Today, my oldest is a happy, healthy, fully-functioning adult with genuine emotional awareness, self-control, and a firm grip on reality. We got there. And I'm going to tell you exactly what that road looked like. If you're parenting a child through trauma, behavioral challenges, or emotional dysregulation — this one's for you. Parenting by THE Book with Noel Gray | Biblical Behavior Coaching for Parents & Teens #ParentingByTHEBook #BiblicalParenting #ChristianParenting #TeenBackTalk #ParentingTeens #ChristianParentingCoach #BiblicalBehaviorCoach #NoelGray #ParentingPodcast #RaisingTeens

2. 

   26 May 2026

   Parenting by THE Book: Episode 10: Breaking Through the Back-Talk!

   Has your teenager ever sighed at you so hard you could feel it spiritually? You ask them to do ONE thing, and suddenly you're in a full emotional negotiation with someone who still needs you to do their laundry. In this episode, Biblical Behavior Coach Noel Gray breaks down one of the most exhausting parenting struggles out there: teenager back-talk and disrespect. And I promise, by the time you finish this, you're going to see that "whatever" completely differently. In this episode: Why back-talk is almost never actually about what you asked The translation model: what your teenager is really communicating What Ephesians 6 says to BOTH parents AND kids (you can't quote one verse and ignore the other) The parenting traps that accidentally make back-talk worse The 3-step Back-Talk Blueprint you can use THIS week Verses referenced: Proverbs 22:6 · Proverbs 15:1 · Proverbs 18:13 · Ephesians 6:1 · Ephesians 6:4 · Colossians 3:20 · Galatians 6:9 You were chosen for this child. You were equipped before you even knew what the challenge would be. The harvest is coming — don't quit in the middle of the season. 📲 DM, email, or comment "HELP"  and I'll send you the Back-Talk Blueprint personally, a 3-step conversation model you can use right now. Parenting by THE Book with Noel Gray | Biblical Behavior Coaching for Parents & Teens noel@noelgray.com #ParentingByTHEBook #BiblicalParenting #ChristianParenting #TeenBackTalk #ParentingTeens #ChristianParentingCoach #BiblicalBehaviorCoach #NoelGray #ParentingPodcast #RaisingTeens

3. 

   12 May 2026

   BBTHM Episode 8: Teaching Vs. Training

   Most parents are teaching their kids. But the Bible calls us to something deeper—training them. There’s a massive difference between teaching and training, and once you understand it, you’ll never approach parenting or homeschooling the same way again. In this episode, we break down what real biblical behavior transformation actually looks like — and why information alone will never get your child there. We’ll walk through: The classroom model (I Do / We Do / You Do) and why it falls short of lasting change What Scripture actually says about training — and the original Greek and Hebrew words that change everything Why training requires time, repetition, and someone walking alongside your child (not just talking at them) What employers, the Levitical priesthood, and Jesus himself have in common when it comes to developing someone How biblical discipline fits into training — and why correction is not punishment, it’s the process Whether your child struggles with defiance, laziness, attitude, or just isn’t retaining what you’re pouring into them — this episode will reframe how you see your role as a parent and give you a biblical foundation for what you’re actually called to do. The world teaches. YouTube teaches. But you — you’re called to train.

4. 

   4 Feb 2026

   BBTHM Episode 7 - The HEART is the ROOT.

   Episode 7, Behavior Starts in the Heart, teaches Christian parents how to address child behavior through biblical heart transformation, not surface-level obedience or punishment. Discover how Jesus-centered discipline, emotional self-control, and Scripture-based parenting help you reach your child’s heart, build connection, and create lasting spiritual change. This episode is essential for moms seeking Christian parenting guidance, effective discipline without shame, and true behavior change rooted in Christ.

5. 

   24 Sept 2025

   BBTHM Episode 6: Getting Your Mind Right

   In this episode of Biblical Behavior Transformation for Homeschooling Moms, we dive into the importance of renewing your mind daily as a Christian homeschooling mom. You’ll learn how your thoughts shape your words and actions, and how pausing to pray and realign with God’s Word can transform conflict with your children. This episode equips you with biblical wisdom and practical tools to model self-control, protect relationships, and disciple your kids’ hearts with grace.

6. 

   22 Sept 2025

   BBTHM Episode 5 - Who Is the Authority in Your Home?

   Who gets the final say in your home—culture, parents, or the Bible? 👀 In Episode 5, I’m sharing how making God’s Word the authority completely shifted my parenting.

7. 

   10 Sept 2025

   Episode 4 - Biblical Discipline vs. Behavior Modification | Parenting & Homeschooling Transformation for Moms

   Episode 4: From Discipline to Discipleship – True Biblical Behavior Transformation for Kids Welcome back to Biblical Behavior Transformation for Homeschooling Moms! In this episode, we dive deep into the difference between mainstream parenting discipline strategies—like behavior charts, time-outs, and reward systems—and the Biblical model of discipline that leads to lasting transformation. As moms, it’s easy to fall into the cycle of controlling outcomes and managing surface-level behaviors. But God calls us to something more. Instead of focusing on behavior modification, He invites us to disciple our children’s hearts, just as Jesus discipled His followers—with patience, teaching, and love. In this episode, I’ll unpack: ✨ The true meaning of the word discipline and how it’s rooted in teaching ✨ Why modern discipline methods often only manage symptoms instead of creating change ✨ The Biblical difference between change and transformation ✨ How scripture—Romans 12:12, Ezekiel 36:26, Psalm 51:10, 2 Corinthians 5:17—points us to heart-level transformation ✨ Practical ways to move from controlling your kids’ actions to shepherding their hearts toward Christ If you’re a Christian homeschooling mom who wants to raise children with more than just good manners—children with transformed hearts who reflect the character of Christ—this episode will give you the tools and encouragement to step into that calling. 👉 Tune in to discover how to move from managing behavior to fostering permanent, Christ-centered transformation in your home.

8. 

   9 Sept 2025

   BBTHM: Episode 3: Breaking Free from Control – Finding Peace in God’s Plan

   Episode 3: Breaking Free from Control – Finding Peace in God’s Plan Welcome back, moms! In today’s episode of Biblical Behavior Transformation for Homeschooling Moms, we’re tackling a big topic: control. From Martha bustling in the kitchen to Sarah rushing God’s promises, the Bible gives us powerful lessons on what happens when we try to take matters into our own hands. We’ll uncover how control often hides deeper struggles like fear, insecurity, comparison, pride, and perfectionism—and why letting go matters for us as homeschooling moms. Instead of striving to manage every outcome in our homes, God calls us to self-control, surrender, and trust in His sovereignty. I’ll share personal stories (yes, even my own struggles with trying to “fix” my family’s spiritual walk), biblical truth that reframes control as a root issue of insecurity, and practical steps you can use today to release control through prayer, reflection, and awareness. If you’ve ever felt exhausted from trying to hold it all together—or worried that if you don’t, everything will fall apart—this episode will remind you that God is in control, not you. And that’s good news! Join me as we dig into Scripture, uncover the root of control, and find freedom in standing on the Rock instead of striving with the world.

9. 

   31 Aug 2025

   Biblical Behavior Transformation for Homeschooling Moms - Episdode 2 - Mom First

   Episode 2 Summary – Biblical Behavior Transformation for Homeschooling Moms In this episode, Noel shares the first step to transforming your teen’s behavior: putting your oxygen mask on first by staying connected to God, your Source. She reflects on her exhausting season of life juggling six kids, long commutes, late nights, and language barriers—an example of how moms often deplete themselves for their families. But Scripture shows us that God’s plan is not for us to run on empty, but to live filled and overflowing (Philippians 4:19, 1 Corinthians 8:6, James 1:4, Psalm 23:1). Moms need to focus on being replenished in God’s presence so they can respond with peace, wisdom, and patience instead of reacting out of depletion. The process is simple—connect to the Source—but not always easy. This requires small, consistent steps: setting aside time with God, reading the Bible (starting with the Gospels), praying before reading, journaling thoughts, meditating, and listening for God’s voice. Over time, those small steps add up to lasting transformation. Noel reminds moms that this journey is not overnight, but God uses trials to build perseverance and character in us and our children (James 1:2-4). She closes with a prayer for moms to be filled with God’s strength, peace, and love, encouraging them to keep showing up for Him daily. Key takeaway: We can’t help our families if we’re running on empty. Connect to God daily, be filled, and pour into your family from the overflow.

10. 

    30 Aug 2025

    Biblical Behavior Transformation for Homeschooling Moms - Episode 1 - All About Me and BBTHM

    Welcome back to my podcast—created for Christian moms parenting children with trauma, defiance, disrespect, anxiety, or behavior challenges they don’t know how to handle. I’m a mom of six (adopted, biological, blended, and teens), an educator, and most importantly, His Daughter—learning to parent God’s way. Through my story of raising teens from hard places, navigating divorce, depression, blended family struggles, and secondary trauma, I share Biblical parenting strategies and trauma-informed methods that helped my children heal—and me, too. If you’re a homeschooling mom or Christian parent who feels overwhelmed by a defiant or “lazy” teen, desperate for solutions, and longing for encouragement, this podcast will give you real-life tools, hope from Scripture, and laughter along the way. I believe the Bible is the ultimate parenting manual for raising strong, Christ-centered kids in a world that’s against them. You don’t have to walk this journey alone—together, we’ll tackle tough behaviors, restore peace at home, and lean on God’s Word as our guide. This is your space for faith-based parenting tips, trauma-informed strategies, Biblical encouragement, and real talk for moms in the trenches of raising teens with big behaviors.

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